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Ex Files: Rebounding necessary?

According to entertainment reports, singer Rihanna has become a moth to Chris Brown’s flame. Apparently, the two collaborated on two songs and he was even spotted at her birthday bash.

Reading about their reunion made me think about those exes that we can’t get out of our system. It is tough when we should be moving on but are too hung up on someone. Maybe the only way to nudge you along is to find a new person right away.

People often take time after break ups to heal or to regroup, but maybe some of us could actually benefit from a love-life palate cleanser. Someone to distract us from dwelling on the recent break up and prevent us from sliding back to a bad habit or toxic relationship.

I think I have had some of my best dates with guys who were the rebounders – because I welcomed the attention and just appreciated the company. There was no pressure to move things along to the next level, so the only goal was to laugh and have fun.

When you are dating someone new, do you ever ask when their latest relationship ended?

Do you want to know if you are the first post-break up/divorce date? Would it change how you perceived their potential?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

417 comments Add your comment

HST

February 24th, 2012
3:56 pm

My whole post just went away…

Purple

February 24th, 2012
3:56 pm

See you all!

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
3:57 pm

For Real: Where’d you get those super-fly shoes with the goldfish in the soles??? :lol:

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
3:57 pm

Have a good weekend, Purp!

HST

February 24th, 2012
3:58 pm

I’m out also, everyone have a great weekend.

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:00 pm

I guess I’m out of here also. Have a lovely weekend!

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:00 pm

Got my bellbottoms and platforms and ‘fro…ready

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
4:05 pm

Bluz – you’re not gonna stay for the disco party?? Cely is all dressed out, and I’m about to put on my satin wrap dress and wedge heels…. :)

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:06 pm

I’ll probably still have this up until 4:45 or so… :-)

I did have a dream that I bought some hair extensions that were bleach blond and bright pink. Would those be good for the disco party? LOL

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:06 pm

Well got one hour (I do), we’ve done the topic, cooking and recipes and cars (Lambos….all not of us on Lambos), now what?

And on back on topic someone saying it’s nosey to ask about the past girlfriend/ex…the issue is not asking “what happened, when, why or how. The point was making sure all is on the same page and understand moving foward.

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:07 pm

ITL – What are you wearing?

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:08 pm

Sorry ITL – I see you and your funky duds! :)

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:10 pm

Bluzgirl – You sound like you’re looking cute and all disco-fied :)

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
4:11 pm

@Bluz ~ those hair extensions will fit right in with your blue hot pants….go for it.

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
4:14 pm

@Celiseas ~ you must ask. You never know if you have a Drew Peterson on your hands.

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:16 pm

Exactly Leggs…exactly. Folks loooove to twist stuff and you know the “something” in me didn’t want to let it ride. I just didn’t want to go back and forth when it was posted. You know folks peek back and read…lol

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:19 pm

And really we’re all adults, it’s clear when asking where you’ve been versus where you’re going. Hell if where you’ve been ain’t really where your going then I need to know.

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:23 pm

Annnnnd in walks Donna Summers :) Toot toot heeeeeey beep beep

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:33 pm

LOL! Maybe I should put on a hot pink halter top to match the hair!

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
4:34 pm

Leggs, what are you wearing to the party???

@Bluz – sounds perfect!!!

Now where is For Real and his vanilla smoke and lighted disco floor???

Double Mint Twins

February 24th, 2012
4:38 pm

Did I read double today?

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:40 pm

These platforms are hard to dance in…

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
4:41 pm

Oh, see, Bluz…you gotta kinda lean back on your heels a little. Kinda re-centers your gravity. LOL

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
4:43 pm

Good one Celisea (Donna Summers).

I’m wearing my three color toned boxed jeans with a midriff blouse and my Fred Bauns….

Into the Light

February 24th, 2012
4:43 pm

And with that, I’m outta here….

(ITL now sashaying out the door to Stayin’ Alive…..)

Y’all have a great weekend.

i'm swiss

February 24th, 2012
4:43 pm

Well, well, well… I see it’s Ladies Night up in this joint. How you all doin’? Can I interest you ladies in a drink?

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:46 pm

ITL…I just realized that you may know my recent ex because he used to play with Mudcat…he was the bass player up until about 6-7 years ago…depends on how long you’ve known Mudcat…

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
4:47 pm

Leggs – Only she would do for For Real and his disco stroll.

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:47 pm

I’d love a beer!!! No liquor for me for a while! :-)

i'm swiss

February 24th, 2012
4:54 pm

Bluz — Here you go, a nice robust stout with the thick head. :D :lol:

Bluzgirl

February 24th, 2012
4:56 pm

MMMMMMMM!!!! Thanks! I guess it’s time to call it a night! Have a great weekend!

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
4:58 pm

I am rolling over here with the stout with the thick head!

@swiss ~ women don’t like head on their beer (roflmao).

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:01 pm

Off drink topic…sorta – The cute white guy here is telling me he’s giving up likka for Lent..bummer Funny I was completing an agenda for Tuesday’s meeting and for “planning” he put in “Tequila Shots”….lol

I didn’t see it until I started loading the information into the agenda…lol

i'm swiss

February 24th, 2012
5:02 pm

Leggs — I don’t know, Bluz seemed to enjoy some head. As well she should! :lol:

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:02 pm

We have dinner Tuesday night with a client….they’re gonna be tossing it back.

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:02 pm

Leggs – Did I read ya’ll are doing body shots? Or was that me

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
5:04 pm

You make sure you toss back H2O…(well, you’re not much of a drinker anyway).

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
5:04 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: that was your alter ego, Celisea.

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:04 pm

H2O? Nuh uh, I’m having a drink…or two :)

i'm swiss

February 24th, 2012
5:04 pm

C — If you’ve got the body, I’ve got some shots…. :lol:

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:05 pm

We have czBrat to thank for breaking my 15 year run. I had a bit of sippy for New Years.

Yeah, that was my alter ego

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:06 pm

Swiss – As long as they aren’t gunshots….lol Let’s do it.

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
5:07 pm

15 Year run, then BAM!

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:07 pm

Leggs – You got it :)

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
5:08 pm

Well, leave the Long Island Iced Teas alone (they’re deadly).

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:12 pm

It’s been years, I’d probably get drunk off the first one

Leggs

February 24th, 2012
5:14 pm

You wouldn’t walk off the first one…

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:15 pm

If my memory serves me correctly….you’re right :)

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:15 pm

It’s time I loosen up a bit…I’ve been waiting on these years. I’ve been on reserved (not that I wasn’t before…just not uptight) for years. I need a break :)

Celisea

February 24th, 2012
5:16 pm