How supportive are you?
One of our readers has a relationship problem that I think some of us can relate to. Tara has been seeing a guy for over a year and things are pretty serious. She feels that he is taking the relationship seriously, but she wants to know if the thing that is bothering her about him is a deal breaker. Her guy is not very supportive of her at all, in fact he is critical of her a lot.
I know exactly what she is going through because I have met the type before – some men feel as if they have to “tear you down and build you back up” and mold you into the woman they want you to be. It’s interesting because they disguise it behind good intentions and helpful feedback, when really…they are just being a butthead.
My advice is to speak up now and see if that can be dealt with amicably. I think having someone who supports you is an absolute must. I am all for challenging me and helping me grow, but some people don’t know how to do it with love.
Have you ever dated someone who was overly critical of you?
Do you consider yourself to be supportive when you are in a relationship?
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433 comments Add your comment
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
4:51 pm
Swiss – Don’t you know that as we were going through the buffet line at the reception the server asked if I preferred “white meat or dark meat.” All the other groomsmen shouted out in unison, “DARK MEAT!”
That was fuuuunnneeee….glad the doors are closed up here cause I let out another big laugh. You are crazy.
Exiled!
February 22nd, 2012
4:52 pm
Leggs so Tiger actually said that..fiorm
Of submission thing..
Really?
WD 4:48 yea u spoke like the OG wise men there!
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
4:53 pm
Well I’m raising my hand in admission. I ain’t bowing or singing into to every mike. No can do.
Leggs
February 22nd, 2012
4:54 pm
@Ex ~ I read somewhere he said that, how he treated his conquests were less than pleasant, but he sure was shelling out big $$ to be treated like crap.
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
4:55 pm
I think this is the perfect time to ask the question again.
HOW SUPPORTIVE ARE YOU (UNCLE SAM FINGER POINTING)??
Night folks
Bluzgirl
February 22nd, 2012
4:57 pm
Good night ya’ll! Gotta get out of this place for the day. Thanks for all the laughs this afternoon!!!
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
4:58 pm
Good job today Bluzgirl
Exiled!
February 22nd, 2012
4:58 pm
Celisea..reading ur 4:53 I guess I was in debauchery mode
Thought u were gon say,’I'm raising my hand..then going to explain what a brother done u good in the cut
U dissappointed me a lil
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
4:59 pm
MMeello – You know me well enough to know by now I’ll NEVER put that kind of stuff on a blog. Nuh uh. That’s private.
Bluzgirl
February 22nd, 2012
5:00 pm
Thanks C! Going to try to keep it up. You know I’ll have some bad days, but trying to make them good…
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
5:01 pm
MMeello – Put your tongue back in.
Bluzgirl – Come back tomorrow. This place is theraputic. I was feeling sort of bad/funky myself this morning. It can be a great distraction.
Leggs
February 22nd, 2012
5:03 pm
Good night, Celisea.
Yeah, Bluz, you did real good.
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:03 pm
Um, C, you might want to rephrase that to Me.lo…
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:05 pm
Oh, wait, I forgot, he doesn’t do that. Nevermind. Now, tell me to put my tongue back in….
Purple
February 22nd, 2012
5:05 pm
I am glad this blog is not in charge of race relations. Lot’s of stereotypes. I will say women are all women they get pissed of the same, freak you the same love you the same regardless of race. LOL
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
5:06 pm
LOLOL…you’re right Swiss…he said that’s “yucky”
Purple – You’re right too
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
5:07 pm
Swiss – Put your tongue back in…lol
Night for real folks
Celisea
February 22nd, 2012
5:08 pm
Night Leggs
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:10 pm
C — [slurp] Yes, ma’am.
Willie Dynamite
February 22nd, 2012
5:12 pm
Purp – I agree somewhat but pissed off is a relative term. Freak is a relative term but love may be universal.
IJS
Time Out Versus azz whooping. Get yo isht out right now versus I’ll give you to Monday just leave the key under the mat. Freak comparison i’ll wait until friday. Love is Love.
Leggs
February 22nd, 2012
5:14 pm
Good night WLBs and MLBs!
Willie Dynamite
February 22nd, 2012
5:16 pm
Nite Leggs, stay out of trouble.
Exiled!
February 22nd, 2012
5:17 pm
I don’t know about all that from Swiss was my best laugh!
Good nite!
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:18 pm
Had to come back because I forgot to tell you, Swiss, that I thought of you the other day. Was finishing “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” and there was a reference to Nick Cave. Cool, n’est pas?
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:28 pm
Anything related to Nick Cave is cool in my book, ITL. On the subject of cool music, do you like Tindersticks?
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:33 pm
I do indeed, Swiss. Now you’re making me wanna go home and watch The Sopranos.
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:35 pm
Tindersticks had a song on The Sopranos?
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:37 pm
Or Tindersticks + Nick Cave got you thinking about Leonard Cohen?
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:38 pm
Two. “Tiny Tears” and “Running Wild.”
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:39 pm
Running Wild is featured in the episode where Bobby gets killed and Silvio ends up in a coma. Remember that one?
i'm swiss
February 22nd, 2012
5:39 pm
Huh, I must have missed those episodes. Good songs, too.
You know, ITL, if I were single & you were a hot black chick, you’d be my dream girl.
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:43 pm
LOL @ Swiss. If I ever get a magic lamp, I’m wishing to be a hot black chick.
Into the Light
February 22nd, 2012
5:44 pm
I’m really leaving this time. Good talking to you, Swiss.