Do you only date smart people?
One of my guy friends decided that he is done dating smart women. His last three girlfriends were very intelligent and according to him, “too complicated” to date. So now he is dabbling in the less intelligent dating pool. I have no idea how he finds dumb women, but he seems to be on a mission.
It made me think about the arguments I have had with him about “dumbing yourself down” in order to attract a certain type. I am against playing to a stereotype to get a guy that wants someone with no brain. At some point, the truth will come out so what is the point, right?
I don’t know why some people believe that dating someone less intelligent then you are is “easier” though, am I missing something?
Although I have a thing for nerdy guys and men who are smart, I don’t know if I have always dated smart men. I have dated some idiots, though.
Do you only date smart people?
Guys, do you ever think that some women are too smart to date?
Ladies, do you think that you get more attention when you downplay your intelligence?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
February 20th, 2012
3:19 pm
leggs – you said it. when hard times hit you see who the real troopers/survivors are.
I say some words wrong, not because I don’t know better but because its comforting. my grandparents could butcher some words and I often find myself mimicking their vernacular.
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:21 pm
Mmello – The smartest and best of them can handle any level. Whether it’s a conversation, conducting business whatever. The ability to communicate and warm up to anybody no matter their station in life IMO speaks volumes to intelligence, character……all of it.
I like what Blackfoote said.
The judge presiding when I had jury duty was a gem to me. She spent 2-3 hours talking to us once released of the different programs where she was involved. Aside from being a judge, she talked of her biggest joy being that of working with wayward teens. How helping them get on the right track, finding jobs, finishing high school was so rewarding for her. I don’t believe she thought less or felt she couldn’t communicate because of the difference in education and where she is in life versus those she helps. She even told me personally that she would let my kid do six weeks working with her as long as I consented.
disco
February 20th, 2012
3:28 pm
celisea – sho’ you right. can’t teach people skills. sort of like you can teach your kid to play a sport but you can’t teach them to run fast. they are either fast or their not.
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:33 pm
disco - Those that “have it” just seems so much more well rounded.
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
3:34 pm
well rounded is where its at
stilllearning2b
February 20th, 2012
3:38 pm
My ex-husband fit the typical description of smart, and I am the stereotypical book-smart geek. When I entered the dating scene, I developed an appreciation for different types of intelligence. By being open to different types of people, I have enriched my life beyond what I can learn in a book.
http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:39 pm
WillieD – Yessiree
disco
February 20th, 2012
3:43 pm
well rounded has me thinking “you can take the girl out of the hood but not the hood out of the girl”. my son and brother tease me all the time about my “ghetto” friends. I do the professional thing all day and I’ve got friends in all walks of life but for some reason I am most comfortable around my “street level/ghetto type” friends where I can check all that professional mess at the door. i can hang and kick it with the more polished types in smaller doses but I always feel like it’s a performance. my hood friends are accustomed to my “professional” persona but my professional friends are always a bit taken aback by my hood persona.
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:48 pm
One of my best friends’ mom calls him a corporate thug. She peggged it too…lo”
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:49 pm
I hate blogging from my phone….ugh
Exiled!
February 20th, 2012
3:50 pm
Celisea?
I dont know bout that coz Mitt Romney for example ain’t connecting with popo folks.
Do u folks watch political punters on tele..
his recent attempt to connect with his home state and he talks about how the trees have good height in Michigan and he luvs cars and the little lakes and rivers in Michigan…
and asks if there are any old girlfriends in the house..
See that’ ur best’ trying to connect to my/your level but failing short…
Ignant people try to act UP and talk loud with bad vocabulary = Turn off
Knowledgeable folks act standoffish and talk Loud = Turn off
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
3:53 pm
@Celisea ~ probably just me, but I don’t necessarily see the innocence in WillieD’s 3:34 (lol).
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:54 pm
Mmeelo – Mitt Romey can’t connect. He’s not what had in mind…lol
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
3:55 pm
Leggs – LOL Did I miss that?
Exiled!
February 20th, 2012
3:58 pm
Leggs,I saw that but thought WD was giving a subliminal compliment based on weekend sighting and activities
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
4:02 pm
Mmeelo – How was your birthday? Did you get a new wallet? When will you know about your new gig?
Exiled!
February 20th, 2012
4:07 pm
Dinner was good Friday,birthday
My bro texts me promising to take me out and corrupt me the next day..I said cool.
Saturday eve rolls and he calls to see if I’m ready..I said no,I’m tired,I’m staying.
I tell u,my body feels my age even tho mentally I refuse to act that age
Gig….? I am tempted to tell u something but I wanna bite a little bit and wait for stuff to come full circle.
U be the first to know
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
4:13 pm
Cool…sounds like it was nice.
Old man now eh? LOL
Well I love good news
I understand being hushed mouth and not talking too much or too soon. Let me know when.
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:24 pm
Leggs/Cel – What are yall trying to say? I’m innocent this time, please dumb it down for me I’m just a country bumpkin.
Ex – So you had your cake but didn’t eat it too.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:25 pm
@Ex/Celisea ~ yeah somewhere in that ball park (lol).
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:26 pm
You may be country, but bumpkin you’re not.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:27 pm
If any of you are watching the Amazing Race this season, there are two male friends, white and black, and they are the EPITOME of country bumpkin….I mean “slap some grease on me and let me fry in the sun” type of country words coming out of their mouths.
Exiled!
February 20th, 2012
4:30 pm
WD..nah no cake..getting to that stage where holding hands with yr lady gets u off(like Raqi said once)
Leggs/Cel I am real lucky(depending on how u look at it) coz my daughter eldest is 17 and at my age some folks with kids same age are grand dads..
KizzyCool
February 20th, 2012
4:30 pm
Leggs – that is the countriest sounding black dude in creation…(lol)
TheDude and I were looking at each other like “whatdahell?!?!?”
Oh…and those two sisters being RIGHT there at the checkpoint and not seeing it….just CRAZY….but the one sister that was driving was too weak anyway. So, if they hadn’t gone first, they would have gone second.
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:32 pm
ok who stole Ex’s moniker? Give it back right now and stop posting that mushy isht using his name. Soooo out of character. hahaha
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:34 pm
@kizzy ~ I sat there last night befuddled myself wondering WTH are they saying. When they made it to the pit stop, the host was smiling from ear to ear not that they made, but that they are hysterical when they talk.
Yep, she blamed it on tunnel vision, but how the hell you don’t see that pit stop right in FRONT OF YOU! The clowns aren’t going far either. The husband is weak.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:35 pm
@WillieD ~ esp. the part of getting off while holding hands. I almost fell out of my chair reading that.
SlimUno
February 20th, 2012
4:36 pm
WD –
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
4:36 pm
WillieD -Just you stop it now….lol Naw you ain’t no bumpkin
disco
February 20th, 2012
4:37 pm
leggs/WD – is the years. he just had a bday. you reach a certain age and holding hands is about all you are good for. (I kid, ex, I kid).
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:37 pm
Leggs – what are you really trying to say about me? Ok maybe not bumpkin but how bout Country in in an aww geez kind of way?
Kizzy – umm (taking a step back while I ask this question). Would the Kizzy part have anything to do with the new haircut? just asking just asking
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:38 pm
@WillieD ~ I’ve only given you a compliment. You aren’t bumpkinish. You have a country twang when you talk, that’s about it.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:39 pm
Put it this way, you’re NOT country in a Gomer Pyle way…..is that better?
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
4:42 pm
Mmeelo – Holding hands? Sounds like you’re ready to gracefully embrace middle agedom…lol Glad our essential part ain’t external. The brain that is
Almost like hearing “feet don’t fail me now”…….not feet of course. lol
KizzyCool
February 20th, 2012
4:42 pm
WD – I’ma fight you when I see you. (lol)
No…it’s because I’ve been slaving lately. (ya’ nut)
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:42 pm
Leggs – ok, thanks I guess. j/k j/k I know exactly what you mean.
Exiled!
February 20th, 2012
4:42 pm
Disco… Its kinda creeping in.
My primary care physician is a white lady and one day on a visit i tell her something I noticed when I perform some lavatory function and she goes to town explaining(coz I ask many questions) how that starts to happens when folks reach my age…(TMI)
but still mentally Im not too happy bout that
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:44 pm
@disco ~ I understand that, but that coming from Ex is a language I don’t think he’s ever spoken before (lolol). Holding hands, and that’s it and all’s well in his pants….something fishy going on there.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:46 pm
Whenever anyone uses the name “Kizzy,” I thought it was well known what it meant…I’m cracking up over here….Kizzy means only one thing, WD!!!!!
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:48 pm
KC – oh ok my bad. Also, belated congrats.
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
4:52 pm
Ex – C’mon man snap out of it.
Dayummit man somebody get my Meeeelo back.
Leggs – I’m sorry for not dumbing it down for the masses but the Kizzy reference goes a few layers deep.
SlimUno
February 20th, 2012
4:56 pm
Maybe he got a bit sentimental after watching Whitney’s funeral…ya think?
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
4:59 pm
but the Kizzy reference goes a few layers deep.
It also cuts to the white meat too…
FCM
February 20th, 2012
5:00 pm
Don’t hate me because I am smart.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
5:00 pm
Just like if I say “Im going to do a Jane Pittman” on your behind, it’s understood…
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
5:00 pm
We love smart…
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
5:01 pm
Just don’t care for that type of smart where you’re talking so much spitting so many words, that one now needs to ask “who’s on first?”
Celisea
February 20th, 2012
5:04 pm
Mmeello’s admission of his softer side is a nice read
Willie Dynamite
February 20th, 2012
5:06 pm
Leggs – true, my apologies as I didn’t mean to turn it into a history lesson. It was a dumb joke on my part that she got but tasteless all the same.
Leggs
February 20th, 2012
5:08 pm
@WillieD ~ Please we all got the joke…I just ran with it.