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Dating single parents: The good, bad, and ugly

Whenever kids are involved, dating takes even more careful consideration about who you let in your life and why. It’s one thing to date wholly inappropriate people and have a casual fling when it’s just two consenting adults. When one or both of you have children, you should probably know with some degree of certainty – that the person you are seeing is a viable romantic partner. It also helps when they aren’t clinically insane.

I know of two friends that are dating single parents right now. They are going through vastly different experiences trying to navigate new romances with people who have children. It makes it pretty clear that the way you handle challenges makes a world of difference.

While one relationship seems to be solid, the other is rocky and full of drama. I can only speculate, but it seems that it’s a maturity thing – or lack thereof.

Dating a single parent can be a really rewarding experience, especially when everyone agrees the kids come first. A lot of people actually struggle with this and I think it ends up being a deal breaker a lot of times.

Have you found ways to successfully date while single parenting? What advice would you give someone who is trying to juggle work, parenting, and a love life?

What pitfalls should you avoid to give the romance a chance of working out?

Are you childless and dating someone with kids? What was the good, bad, and ugly? How do you make it work?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

323 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:40 pm

Jake – We’ll have to agree to disagree. I was here when New Edition got off the ground. Matter of fact they did a show at my high school and maybe I’m not good at tracking numbers and sales but I don’t ever remember NE being on the scale as Whitney. Remember Whitney’s cross over into pop is what propelled her. Big in the R&B world is not the same as crossing over into pop….that’s just me. They were just saying yesterday at one time she was one of the richest people in the world. I don’t think NE ever reached that point.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:40 pm

i hope bobby continues the tour I selfishly want to see him perform in May here and plus he has a new 8 month old baby so he still has to work buddy!

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:40 pm

C we on the same page honey! LOL

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
2:43 pm

Jake – I didn’t forget BB’s career! I tell people all the time if Bobby had just concentrated on his career and Whitney on hers, that might would have cut back on time for all the wildness with the two. That greatest hits cd of his I still wear out from time to time!

Lady – I know bout the Eddie suspectness, but I still think they would have been better together. He is just classier and lower key, seems to almost fly under the radar. They both were freaky, but he might would have tamed her a little but let her shine.

I know I’m crazy guys! :cool:

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:44 pm

kobe and vanessa back kissing y’all smh! i love kobe but he is getting on my nerves with his personal life i will remain objective though and keep it on the court! smh lol

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:44 pm

And selling out Phillips versus the Fox is a telltale sign of fanbase and followers

SlimNu

February 16th, 2012
2:44 pm

And the way Bobby’s mouth turns when he talks looks like Wack Crack to me.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:44 pm

kimmie I am with you on Eddie honey! he is a winner!

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:46 pm

LOL…me too Slim…

Eddie seems gay. All I can remember is getting caught with the tranny

disco

February 16th, 2012
2:46 pm

eddie Murphy seems soft. not even soft as in his “suspectedness” – just soft in general. like he’s an old buster type punk. hardcore chicks will eat up and spit up old punk A busters like that. whitney might’ve hung eddie out to dry.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:46 pm

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 16th, 2012
2:47 pm

Lady…as for NE, Johnny Gill was a nice 6th man, but we all know that NE with BBrown is the real New Edition. His personality was just to big for the group…think Cube, NWA…R.Kelly, P.Announcement, Justin Timberlake, NSync, Eddie Kang, 5 Heartbeats…even though NE kept going, they always needed Bobby.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:47 pm

did y’all watch freddie jackson unsung?!? my fb friends went in so hard on him and his sexual orientation I love freddie unconditionally lol

Willie Dynamite

February 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

Eddie Kang- nice…..

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

Celisea – I agree, NE/Bobby B is nowhere near what Whitney’s reach was. It was/is respectable though. He should have concentrated on that and maybe it would have kept him out of a little of the trouble.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

Jake I agree its a Eddie Cane (kane) in every group!

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:48 pm

WD you beat me to it!

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
2:50 pm

disco – you right, she probably would have run over him. But BB has always been unattractive to me, just saying.

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:51 pm

Kimmie – I agree. I think he had the potential to be much bigger. I think he was young and preoccupied with all the trappings that comes with that lifestyle and youth.

I think though he had the potential to be much bigger.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:51 pm

I like BB boston swag yep I do dealing with him you know what you getting a bad boi! lol

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:52 pm

jake I agree they do need bobby!!!!!!!!!!!!! but I love Johnny too! I am so bias! LOL

disco

February 16th, 2012
2:52 pm

jake – eddie kang? that’s what’s up.

OR bobby could have stayed with the group and brought all those brothers down. I loves me some new edition – all the way back to when they were wearing shags. they might not have maintained the staying power with bobby.

okay blog ladies. who was your favorite new edition member back in the day? I remember most of my peeps like Ronnie and Ralph but I always liked ricky for some reason in the beginning. after they grew up some I thought mike was the sexiest.

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:52 pm

BOBBY! I like solo Bobby too! BOBBY! smh lol

Lady~

February 16th, 2012
2:53 pm

OK good people! have a fantastic weekend! its been a great blog week! I am out! ~peace~ ;)

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:54 pm

EVERYTIME I see Bobby Brown, I think about the 227 episode where Brenda was dancing to “every lil’ step I take, you will be there, every lil’ step I take, we’ll be together.” I think he was on that episode. EVERYTIME I see him that pops in my head.

NE could dance though. I’ll give them that.

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:55 pm

‘Cuse me if I typed the words incorrectly.

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:56 pm

disco – All of BBD

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
2:56 pm

Bell, Biv, Devoe
Now ya know!!

Disco – I didn’t think any of New Edition was fine or anything, but I liked Ralph I guess. I love Johnny Gill’s singing, I just love New Edition, THE GROUP! I have always loved them more than Boys To Men – BTM’s songs are depressing to me, except Motown Philly!

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 16th, 2012
2:57 pm

I hate to be Team Bobby Brown, but folks….think back to Bobby when he went solo, he was R.Kelly b4 R.Kelly…..Don’t Be Cruel is one of the best R&B/Pop albums of all time (Kanye voice). I cannot believe the way ya’ll dissing the King of R&B, aint that what Whitney used to call him….lol

cba

February 16th, 2012
2:57 pm

Lady~2:44 I saw a rear pic of Vannesa waiting on Kobe in the Lakers’ locker room. All I could see were hair and her “8″ heels. Maybe they are negoiating on her giving one of the mansions back. ;-)

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
2:58 pm

Mr. Telephone Man, there’s something wrong with my line….

Honestly when they first came out I thought Ralph was the cutest. But when I started to understand “sexy” and all that kind of stuff, I thought BBD

Exiled!

February 16th, 2012
2:58 pm

Cba?

funny,I’m the opposite.

I was a Larry King fan and didn’t take to Piers that quickly but he’s growing on me.

You hate him for bringing out the truth? :lol:

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
2:59 pm

Celisea – When I see Bobby I think of him in Two Can Play That Game, where he started out as an auto mechanic with jacked up teeth and a jeri curl. He looked at Shante’s friend and said “You make a brotha wanna SANG to you!” LOL!!

disco

February 16th, 2012
3:00 pm

celisea – I never liked Ronnie. he was the pretty boy and I wasn’t feeling him. I also think he might have had light eyes. I think the rapper d-nice was the only one I liked who had funny colored eyes.

jake – i dig bobby brown to. i’m just not going to overly hype him up. i mean he had folks that were nearly illiterate talking about “prerogative” like the really knew what it meant.

Exiled!

February 16th, 2012
3:01 pm

Slim.

the way Bobby’s mouth turns twists the lips= liqor addict

the way WH wouldn’t be still,and talking in stutter fashion and restlessness(see Diane Sawyer interview) = crackhead

Lol

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 16th, 2012
3:03 pm

@Ex…same here, didnt really like Piers in the beginning, but his interview style has grown on me. He actually does an excellent job of probing for real answers, doesn’t overtalk the guest like Larry.

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
3:05 pm

Kimmie – OMG, I forgot about Two Can Play That Game…lol Man did I play that movie over and over when it first came out. He cleaned up pretty well in that move. Yeah after she got his teeth fixed he was good to go

Bobby got cig/wee/crack soup coolers

Willie Dynamite

February 16th, 2012
3:06 pm

Ex – I’m more of a Piers fan now as i see his style on a nightly basis. i was never a LK fan as I always thought he interjected himself into the interview.

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
3:07 pm

Cause if it isn’t love
Why do I feel this way?
Why does he stay on
My mind?

Cause if it isn’t love
Why does it hurt so bad
Make me feel so sad
Inside?

If it isn’t looovvve!

Lori

February 16th, 2012
3:08 pm

Just be careful out there, ladies. Ever watch the news….if kids are hurt…seems like it’s always the boyfriend who did it. I’m not sure I’d trust another man with my kids!

cba

February 16th, 2012
3:08 pm

Ex, I had gotten tired of Larry old azz especially when his son’s baseball coach was “doing” his wife in Larry own bed and he just swept that under the rug. Any other celeb, we would have talked about it for 3 months.

To be honest, I don’t know if it’s Pier’s accent or he just doesn’t seem comfortable with some of his guests.
I did like his interview with Chacha Khan or I just like Chacha. Man, that was a fine, fine, fine woman when she was with Rufus.

disco

February 16th, 2012
3:09 pm

celisea – how can you forget about two can play that game? you know morris chestnut was at the top of everybody’s “he’s so fine” list for a minute.

stop kimmie – you’ll make me get up and do that little dance step. I know I’m not the only one who memorized those steps.

lori – boyfriends do it a lot but close friends and family members probably do it even more. just watch your kids and try to make sure your kids aren’t scared to run it back.

Exiled!

February 16th, 2012
3:10 pm

Jake, I wanted to be a journalist growing up

And I see flaws with talk show folks(political) most of the time

No follow ups on the questions no pressing

It irks me sometimes
That’s why I like Oreilly sometimes altho he beats his own chest to much,deceiving his repub base

George stephanopulous is my worst

Can’t interview too soft

Rachel Maddow is smart and good but like most lesbo and gays..confrontational. That defected neuron rears it’s head

Like Rosie! Lol

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 16th, 2012
3:10 pm

Well stated WIllie, guest we posted the tomato/tomata today.

disco

February 16th, 2012
3:11 pm

kimmie – “I really love her – you love her? what?” – love those boyz.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 16th, 2012
3:15 pm

@Ex….I 100% agree with that stereotype you just slung out there….they are confrontational in their interviewing.

Celisea

February 16th, 2012
3:18 pm

Kimmie – You’re going to make me move the sofa back in the living room..lol

disco – I don’t know…what WAS I thinking. Mmm mmm mmm, he was do dang fine in that movie…whew. Might have to blow the dust off and pop it in tonight.

It’s so funny…before Vivica’s defacing, my brother use to call me (insert the first two letter of my first name here)vica because he said my personality reminds me of her…I’d say 5 or 6 years ago. But it’s funny because when I’d be talking with my dramatics and he’d call me that, I’d fall straight into her role from that movie and start quoting the lines. All he could do was laugh

kimmie - the original :)

February 16th, 2012
3:19 pm

Exiled – I lost all respect for George Step a long time ago, but one was the last straw. He was interviewing the Prez, who had just made some decisions concerning Alghanistan & Iraq. He asked the President what he felt about what Palin had to say on the decisions! Prez said he didn’t think anything about what Palin said, he has military and other advisors if he needs input on such decisions.

George felt like a fool and tried to defend it, saying she was a “potential” presidential rival so it was a legit question! Not even McCain, he asked about Palin!

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disco

February 16th, 2012
3:22 pm

don’t know why celisea but your post about vivica reminded me of a comedian cracking jokes on regina king. he said Hollywood gives her no props and then went on to say they wouldn’t let regina king play regina king in the regina king movie. I’ve always liked regina king but he’s right. she doesn’t get a lot of hype.