Dating single parents: The good, bad, and ugly
Whenever kids are involved, dating takes even more careful consideration about who you let in your life and why. It’s one thing to date wholly inappropriate people and have a casual fling when it’s just two consenting adults. When one or both of you have children, you should probably know with some degree of certainty – that the person you are seeing is a viable romantic partner. It also helps when they aren’t clinically insane.
I know of two friends that are dating single parents right now. They are going through vastly different experiences trying to navigate new romances with people who have children. It makes it pretty clear that the way you handle challenges makes a world of difference.
While one relationship seems to be solid, the other is rocky and full of drama. I can only speculate, but it seems that it’s a maturity thing – or lack thereof.
Dating a single parent can be a really rewarding experience, especially when everyone agrees the kids come first. A lot of people actually struggle with this and I think it ends up being a deal breaker a lot of times.
Have you found ways to successfully date while single parenting? What advice would you give someone who is trying to juggle work, parenting, and a love life?
What pitfalls should you avoid to give the romance a chance of working out?
Are you childless and dating someone with kids? What was the good, bad, and ugly? How do you make it work?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:03 pm
Exiled I agree. I don’t care for Bobby Brown either and really think that was the beginning of her downward spiral. IMO, I believe when all say no to him being a good spouse/mate for her she was determined to prove otherwise and really you can’t change folks.
I agree though it’s her father and Whitney’s ex and should at least attend the funeral.
I personally don’t think he should get squat but if she willed anything to him it was her choice.
If he wasn’t there…and I don’t believe he was, him like all deadbeat dads will live (I believe) to regret it somewhere in their lives.
kimmie - the original :)
February 16th, 2012
2:04 pm
Lady – Nikki needs to get her own identity. One minute she’s copying Lady Gaga, Madonna, Lil Kim – find out who you are and do you already!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:05 pm
the Queen of Soul is on program! I will be watching it via online! I am glad they gave the fans that option!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:06 pm
Kimmie she irks my nerves like no other! her mouth is whew lawd! lol
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:07 pm
I wonder if anyone saw the segment this morning on GMA where Robin mentioned to Nancy how infuriated the public was with her comments saying something to the effect of she just wondering who pushed Whitney. She NEVER apologized that, you know what I misspoke. Never would take it back or apologize.
Sassy Me..Lotus flower bomb..butterfly ;-)
February 16th, 2012
2:08 pm
I was on team Lil Kim BEFORE the plastic surgery…now she looks umm well y’all know..
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:08 pm
C I don’t know WH personally but I am certainly offended by NG as a WH fan that bish can kick rocks left on fire she makes me sick.com
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
February 16th, 2012
2:09 pm
O/T, as for Whitney…yes the death is being sensationalized; but I think the bigger good that comes from this is the light that is being shined on prescription drug abuse…I work in an environment in which I see lots of addicts….actually had a guy say to me that he was not addicted to a medication, and that he had been on this this one medication for 26years….the U.S. is ran by drug companies, which is the real reason that the healthcare bill had so much opposition, it would change the environment and profit margins for said drug companies because a government backed system would control pricing to make healthcare affordable…but thats a different discussion.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:09 pm
Sassy I am always team lil kim in the 90s! that is all LOL
Sassy Me..Lotus flower bomb..butterfly ;-)
February 16th, 2012
2:10 pm
If he wasn’t there…and I don’t believe he was, him like all deadbeat dads will live (I believe) to regret it somewhere in their lives
Yes he surely will…Unjust doesn’t prosper..
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:11 pm
you see Millie jackson is behind the scene touring and lil kim needs to find her place she don’t need to compete with at heffa nikki m LOLOL
Exiled!
February 16th, 2012
2:11 pm
Cel!
Whitney was a fab singer But she was no Angel.
Problem is folks look at her and Bobby abd anything bad had to be because of Bobby and good is because of Whitney.
Whitney was an adult grown woman. She chose Him,bad boy and All.
And even if we were to say Bobby introduced drugs to her,which apparently tho,is not true,it would still be up to her to say yes or no. She’s an adult!
Folks project on Whitney what they dream of not the reality.
She made her bed(bad as it may be) she’s gonna have to lie on it.
We All do,celebrity or no celebrity.
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:13 pm
For sure Sassy…for sure
Lady – Nancy Grace makes me itch
Sassy Me..Lotus flower bomb..butterfly ;-)
February 16th, 2012
2:13 pm
I hear ya Lady. I mean she has a potty mouth (which I like but sometimes it’s too much) but I think she needs to get serious and try to make a come back..
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:14 pm
yep!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:14 pm
C!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she so simple!
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
February 16th, 2012
2:15 pm
Whitney was cokehead before Bobby showed up…Jennifer Holiday was on Piers Morgan the other night and spoke candidly about WH’s usage prior to meeting Bobby….Now the world knows that PimpC (world class cokestar himself) was telling the truth…”I got Bobby by the Pound, Whitney by the Key, DJ Screw by the Gallon, B!#@H the game belong to me”
Sassy Me..Lotus flower bomb..butterfly ;-)
February 16th, 2012
2:15 pm
Nancy Grace makes me itch
like a bad rash..in July She can be a bit over the top when she wants to..which is often..
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:15 pm
JAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #DEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! too damn funny smdh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:16 pm
Lady – I can see being dominating and selling your point and making your case but Robin outright addressed her crass comments and the dude that’s usually on (sorry don’t know his name) to counter Nancy both wanted her to see the impact of just letting stuff jump out of your mouth and more so being professional, big and woman enough to say you make a mistake.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:18 pm
better Robin than me C!!!! she gets no respect from me she is so irrelevant!
disco
February 16th, 2012
2:18 pm
jake – dag. I was sho’nuff hoping to get my hands on that insider scoop. I was going to make something happen with that.
Willie Dynamite
February 16th, 2012
2:18 pm
Jake – 2:15 pretty much sums it up.
I can’t imagine coming home to Nancy Grace everyday. Then again I’m hoping that TV persona is just that, a persona.
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:18 pm
Jake – I’ve always heard that. Even so, Bobby sure didn’t add anything good.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:19 pm
WD I think that is her all day long a personality disorder!
Sassy Me..Lotus flower bomb..butterfly ;-)
February 16th, 2012
2:20 pm
Whitney was cokehead before Bobby showed up…
I’ve thought that myself. Folks/tabloids said R & B’s “good girl” got with R & B’s “bad boy” and it was downhill for ever since but I disagree. I think she got with a kindred spirit who was into what she was into and the synergistic effect of them BOTH being addicts hastened their decline.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:20 pm
there is no cure for those! ha!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:21 pm
sassy they wanted whitney to be something she wasn’t hell even Natalie Cole had it bad but it seems she wasn’t held to the same standards as whitney and she is just as valuable
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:22 pm
Sassy – Your 2:20 is right. I’ve always heard she had a problem before Bobby. He just always seemed like a leech and latched on to her fame and money…that’s just me though and what it appeared to be. But yeah the bad to the bone usually comes from within out
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:24 pm
Can you see Herman Cain doing the quick-step? The pasodoble?
According to the former GOP hopeful, you won’t. Herman Cain confirms that he has turned down an offer to join the next cast of “Dancing With the Stars.”
Cain’s executive assistant, Lisa Reichert, tells the Atlanta Journal-Constitution Cain was approached by “Dancing With the Stars” producers, but squashed the idea of participating. “He can’t dance in an eight-count. He can only dance in a nine-count,” Reichert said, referring to Cain’s famous 9-9-9 plan.
Cain is just the latest celebrity to turn down “Dancing With the Stars” for its 14th season. As TheWrap reported last week, the Denver Broncos said Tim Tebow has no plans to be on the show, and Dolly Parton last month told TheBoot.com that she continues to turn down offers.
The new season of “Dancing With the Stars” premieres on March 19 and the new cast will be announced on Feb. 28 during “Good Morning America.”
LAWD WHO LEFT THE GATE OPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Exiled!
February 16th, 2012
2:25 pm
looks like the only hood drug those two got was WH’s birf control pill
coz in some interviews they admitted they f.-cked All day,smoked and did it again and again and ……..
Just one baby
Amazing!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:25 pm
Houston’s publicist, Kristen Foster, announced Wednesday that The Associated Press will be allowed a camera at Saturday’s funeral in Newark. The AP will stream the service on http://livestream.com/aplive. The event also will be available to broadcasters via satellite.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:26 pm
smh @ Ex!!!!! too funny!
Exiled!
February 16th, 2012
2:29 pm
Good drug not hood
kimmie - the original :)
February 16th, 2012
2:29 pm
I agree with you all about Whitney before BB came along. She was already ghetto. Clive Davis molded this public image of her, a princess, but that’s not who she really was. I remember seeing interviews with her right before she married him and she was ghetto. I loved her, but she was who she was. No BB didn’t help, a kindred spirit right along with her, but he’s not all bad himself. People I know that have come in contact with BB said he was a nice guy. My dad treated him once and he said he was very respectful. He’s a wild child, just like Whitney was. She was talented and so is BB.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:31 pm
Kimmie I remember the gay rumors in the 80s and now Ms Cissy is mad with Boddy for doing the tell all book saying she got married to clean up her imagine but I took whitney for who she is point blank it didn’t matter i just wished she wouldn’t had married anyone if that makes sense shrugs! lol
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:31 pm
meant Bobby!
kimmie - the original :)
February 16th, 2012
2:32 pm
Exiled – I remember she did have a miscarraige after Bobby Kristina.
Celisea
February 16th, 2012
2:33 pm
Off topic:
Why oh why was Excedrin Migraine recalled???
disco
February 16th, 2012
2:33 pm
to me ghetto and being ghetto is all good. what I can’t stand is the folks who embrace that whole “ghetto fabulous” mentality.
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:34 pm
i am with you disco
kimmie - the original :)
February 16th, 2012
2:35 pm
I remember when Eddie Murphy was in love with Whitney. That’s who she should have married if she had to marry someone in show business.
cba
February 16th, 2012
2:35 pm
Early on it was reported that Whitney’s mother and Dionne wanted to have the service in ATL . If that was true, I wonder who else is making the decisions ?
I wasn’t to keen on Pier Morgan and now I really don’t care much for the guy. He’ll be milking this story for the next three months or more.
Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB
February 16th, 2012
2:35 pm
“Bobby. He just always seemed like a leech and latched on to her fame and money…”
Celisea, gotta call a flag on that play….people forget how big of a star Bobby was before he got with Whitney, if anything…she derailed his career!!! Which takes us back to an earlier point, puddy will make a man do some strange things!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:36 pm
that would have been cute but hmmmmm he is known to be suspect to but I love me some Eddie and his ex wife got paid.com
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:36 pm
yep cba!
Lady~
February 16th, 2012
2:38 pm
but Jake it took NE time to heal from Bobby and his antics so it has validity that he is a stressor its just not all his fault.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
February 16th, 2012
2:39 pm
If they play – or you get to see – the VH-1 behind the music with New Edition, all them boys were like “it wasn’t a surprise to nobody that Whitney married Bobby, they both hood, and both were on the same isht.”
While I wouldn’t call her a coke “head” (i.e. did a gang of it before BB), she dabbled *hard*, and so did he. pause.
That’s why folks that be on that blame Bobby, really need to see that WH wasn’t all that innocent – a fact well known in the industry.
disco
February 16th, 2012
2:39 pm
hmm. eddie Murphy or bobby brown. who would I pick? I’m almost embarrassed to admit I’m leaning toward bobby brown. i’ve never cared much for eddie Murphy. at least I like bobby brown some. tenderoni is still the lick.
SlimNu
February 16th, 2012
2:39 pm
Blog monster ate my damn post….but in a nutshell, Bobby should be able to attend the funeral and see his daughter. The family needs to set the anger/opposition aside until it’s over. It’s not like Bobby is going to try to steal Whitney’s jewelry off at the funeral to take it to a We Buy Gold shop