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Love, Not Actually

Imagine being on a date on the supposedly most romantic night and someone drops the L-word on you. Imagine the awkwardness of the moment when you don’t say it back!

People use the word love rather frivolously. I love chocolate. I love the show Fringe. When it comes to true love, do you say it when you feel it? Do you say it when you are unsure?

Have you ever been in a new relationship and got caught up in the moment and told someone you loved them?

What would you do if someone you had “strong feelings” for professed love way too soon?

Yesterday we talked about how will you know, but what do you do when you know for sure that you are not in love…and they are?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

177 comments Add your comment

disco

February 15th, 2012
3:43 pm

yeah. my mother drilled that into us in childhood – “never envy what someone else has because you don’t know what they had to do to get it”. still it can be a bitter pill to swallow when you are busting your hump to save up for that gadget and then one “falls off a truck” right in pookie’s front yard.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
3:47 pm

Kimmie?

I don’t know how much the drug tests cost but hopefully a way can be found to test cheaply without defeating the purpose of it all

But I’m All for testing if u are getting a handout from the taxpayer just to ensure the handout is not being diverted for other use

These jokers on welfare who sell their EBT or whatever name cards are so damn wrong

Fair is fair

There has to be an incentive to work

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
3:48 pm

Glamour – I thought maybe that too, but no.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
3:50 pm

Might I add,if u have to buy drugs,buy them with ur damn hard earned money

Not the govt/taxpayer money

Ijs

Leggs

February 15th, 2012
3:53 pm

Always have to laugh at the name Pookie and Junebug!

That has always been my motto, disco. I don’t know what they had to do to get what they got.

disco

February 15th, 2012
3:55 pm

what??? a grown man whining about fair. fair is where you go to ride rides and eat cotton candy. we all know not much is fair. I will say that the EBT food stamp cards must be the bomb. I remember being so embarrassed as a kid when you got caught with those paper food stamps in front of the wrong somebody. still, I will admit that we really enjoyed busting food stamps. (you know, they give you single food stamps to go buy 25 cents worth of candy to get the change back). I bought many a pack of kool filter kings/newports with the change from busting food stamps).

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
3:57 pm

No whining Disco

but just saying beggars can’t be choosers

Ijs

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
3:58 pm

Let me put it this way – it cost the state WAY more than it saved. And I hate seeing my money go to waste too on those that commit fraud, but there has to be a better, cheaper way.

I don’t care about what other folk have. I have no way of knowing how they got it – someone might have given it to them. What USED to make me mad is when I knew how much hard work and sacrifice I put in to get an education and thus, a good job, only to have someone stroll in that barely finished a GED get promoted ahead of me. Some joker selling their EBT card – it’s wrong, but karma’ll take care of that.

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:02 pm

I say USED to make me mad, because now I have the experience, clout and big mouth not to tolerate that mess!

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:15 pm

U can’t envy folks on welfare

U pity them

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:15 pm

Sorry I ran everybody away!LOL!!

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:18 pm

Exiled – I don’t envy anyone, but especially those less fortunate. I am blessed to not only have a job, but the ability to perform it. I feel for those that really want to work and for whatever reasons, such as health or physical reasons, cannot.

disco

February 15th, 2012
4:19 pm

exiled – beggars? heck, they don’t even have to beg. just ask and you shall receive with some of these benefits. I know for a fact that social workers have been known to go to college campuses and offer food stamp and medical benefits to students who lived in off campus housing.

kimmie – I’m still here. was kind of waiting in the cut for someone else to chime in. do we want to go back to old sayings. I submit “your mouth is going to write a check your behind can’t cash” or another favorite of my mother’s “shut your mouth and keep your teeth”.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:25 pm

Right Kimmie

I think the fraudsters or those of suck inkling make it tough for the ones who legitimately need help

Unemployed,sick etc

I despise anybody who steals

Period!

that includes the educated rich doctor doing Medicaid fraud.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:25 pm

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:27 pm

disco – Yeah, I had friends in college that went and got food stamps. I would not do it. Even though I was a “poor college student” I knew I was not poor in a technical sense. I had 2 professional parents that had my back. If things got tough, they were more than able to help me. They were paying for college! They had plenty to eat and would see to it that I did. I’m no saint, but I knew there were folks that truly needed those stamps.

disco

February 15th, 2012
4:30 pm

one of my cousins says that back in the day when she went to visit her caseworker the lady told her that it was good that she was able to stay home with her children. my cousin had 4 kids at the time and even she (my cousin) was surprised that the lady was encouraging her to stay home and be on welfare. guess the caseworker saw it as job security.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:36 pm

We ain’t talking bout sex but stealing and uall go Crickets?

hmmmmmmmmm

:lol:

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:38 pm

disco – Depending on how much the job was paying, after you factor in childcare costs, it may have been cheaper to stay home.

disco

February 15th, 2012
4:41 pm

definitely kimmie but you still wouldn’t expect the social worker to encourage a welfare recipient to not work, not seek work and simply stay home and get those benefits.

I’ve worked with folks who had back to back babies and child care was killing them. I know a few women who did opt to stay home simply because they were working essentially just to pay daycare. still, I’ve pointed out to friends/family in the past that the term “stay at home mom” in my opinion only applies to women who have “go to work husbands”. welfare mom isn’t quite the same thing. just my opinion.

kimmie - the original :)

February 15th, 2012
4:44 pm

disco – I agree with you – that’s not a real “stay at home mom” in my opinion either. And the cycle has to stop – social workers should not be encouraging it.

Gotta go gang!

Be easy!

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:46 pm

Disco/Kim?

Now to add on to drug testing thing,if she has to get benefits coz the babies are killing her on day care,the gubernment has to give her a chill pill to stop the baby output.

Govt mustn’t promote female lay ups and birthing by giving freebies!

disco

February 15th, 2012
4:48 pm

well actually ex when I said getting killed by daycare I meant regular, working women. heck, welfare moms are good on daycare. they get vouchers for that.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:51 pm

Yea I know so gear is the deal

Govt had to tie those tubes and give a voucher for a max number of kids,say 3.

After that,welfare mum had to pay her way.

And welfare voucher beyond a certain number of months requires some stringent work conditions/stipulations.

Let get America To work!

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:53 pm

I’m running to be ur Congress man Blogsville!

Do I have ur vote!?

disco

February 15th, 2012
4:57 pm

you had me on the making folks work for their benefits but I had to pull back when you wanted to regulate folks’ reproductive systems. that’s crossing the line to me. going to far when you think you can tell somebody how many kids they can and can’t have. in that regard, I feel like the government and everyone else needs to stay in their lane.

Exiled!

February 15th, 2012
4:58 pm

Disco??

in that case u(mother of 6) u are on ur own!