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How will I know?

Whitney Houston, may she rest in peace, sang the music that many of us grew up on. Her songs are the soundtracks to my first love, first heartbreak, first restraining order (don’t ask) – and her voice got me through a lot of tough times.

I remember going through those emotions of being uncertain about a guy. I think looking back, that is exactly how he wanted it – uncertain. Have you ever fallen for someone who was not forthcoming about how they felt about you? It’s not the best position to be in and they end up having a lot of “power” in the relationship. If someone wants power in a relationship, that is a clear sign there is a problem.

You should not have to wonder or question how someone feels about you. When it feels like a big guessing game, it’s because someone is playing one.

How will you know when someone has good intentions?

If you are in love, falling in love, or are seriously smitten with someone, what do you do to show them?

Happy Valentine’s Day to those that acknowledge it!

For those who don’t…kick rocks Cupid!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

227 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:00 pm

What u get for Vee day Lady?

from dude wooing u…?

did he pass the Vday test?

if any u ladies fore go shenanigans over the weekend,reserving them for today,that was a good decision.

If I were ur dude I elf leave wrk at 3:35 and go home to light up the fire.

Snugging in front of fireplace,wine beside us…

Its goin Down!

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:04 pm

Valentine’s joke- There’s two ways to keep your marriage on point. 1. When you’re wrong admit it. 2. When you are right, shut up. <<<<,lol interesting

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:05 pm

Ex he did and I can’t even share it was priceless and very thoughtful he is a winner and almost my official Boo! he is a winner! ;) wow! :)

Bluzgirl

February 14th, 2012
2:05 pm

Hmmm…my post didn’t show. Lady…I’m going to D.B.A. Barbecue

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:07 pm

Valentine’s Joke- Woman says I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day = Bitter. Man says I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day =Cheap

disco

February 14th, 2012
2:07 pm

leggs – thanks for that day/nite thing with exiled. that was kind of called for. the way I see it if I’m single all day valentine’s day then I’m single all night valentine’s night. it’s all good.

ex – no known boyfriend? as opposed to an unknown boyfriend?

leggs – why does ex talk about coochie all day? well have you never “talked something up”. lol. maybe he thinks if he talks about it / writes about it some will magically appear.

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:07 pm

oh ok cool!!! Bluz maybe one evening we can do happy hour @ Agave! I would love to meet you sis!

Leggs

February 14th, 2012
2:07 pm

Awww, Lady is winning (lol)…

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:09 pm

LEGGS!!!!! Yes ma’am I am ready! ;)

Bluzgirl

February 14th, 2012
2:11 pm

@Lady…that would be fun! Once I get back to being on track financially, we’ll plan it!

czBrat

February 14th, 2012
2:12 pm

it was priceless and very thoughtful he is a winner and almost my official Boo! he is a winner! wow!
luv this ^

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:13 pm

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:13 pm

czBrat thank you honey!

Leggs

February 14th, 2012
2:13 pm

Not talking about Valentine Day, but why do men believe because it’s a holiday you automatically supposed to be having sex…President’s Day, Ground Hog Day, Mother’s Day, Yom Kippur….

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:14 pm

get it krunk ms leggs!

Leggs

February 14th, 2012
2:15 pm

Ready…whatcha ready for Ms. Lady???

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:17 pm

a real exclusive relationship Ms Leggs! ;) #embracingiteffortlessly ;)

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:19 pm

finally some congruence leggs……….finally

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:19 pm

@Leggs ??

why automatic s e x for men?

well,men just know and appreciate good food

the way to a man’s heart is good food….literally and figuratively

czBrat

February 14th, 2012
2:21 pm

but why do men believe because it’s a holiday you automatically supposed to be having sex…
and why do men think every day is a holiday?

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:22 pm

screamin’ lol

cba

February 14th, 2012
2:22 pm

:-) @ Ms Lady
I’m kinda missing reading Ms Celisea…….Leggs you know anything?? :-)

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:22 pm

Show me a happy married middle aged man

the wife is Not feigning headaches!

:lol: LOL

disco

February 14th, 2012
2:23 pm

leggs (and all the co-signers) let’s not jump on men for expecting/wanting sex on bdays/holidays. part of that is just their sexual greed but some of it is because they are with women that dole it out a little at a time. those guys almost have to wait for special occasions to get it. that might have a little to do with purple’s notion of “side chick day”.

ex – the way to a man’s heart is through his chest, with a bullet. okay. sorry that wasn’t vday appropriate. i recant.

czBrat

February 14th, 2012
2:24 pm

how bout i just realized the cartoon on my desk calendar this month is pepe le pew forcing a kiss from his unrequited love. hilarious!

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:25 pm

cba you so crossed my mind one day I will share why but you were right! ;) Thank you sir! ;)

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:26 pm

I miss C too but was trying to remain quiet about it lol Leggs is she okay?!?

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:26 pm

pepe le pew forcing a kiss from his unrequited love <<<<<Classic! awwww!

cba

February 14th, 2012
2:28 pm

EX, I might be a couple of notches pass middle-age, but having sex with my wife, when I want is really no issue and never has been. Maybe I’m one of the lucky few, issue of having sex is waaaaaaaaaaaay down the list.

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:28 pm

Disco? thru his chest?

I will take that one if thats coming from a spurned ex wife/girlfriend.

Willie Dynamite

February 14th, 2012
2:31 pm

Afternoon All,

Happy Valentines Day to the blog Ladies. I hope your day everything you want it to be and more.

I haven’t read yet sooooo please tell me this isn’t a mushy mushy day round here.

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:32 pm

Cba?

It’s not an issue because having it is not an issue in your marriage,right?

If u didn’t have when U want it it would be an issue

It’s like saying Mitt Romney has no issue with money
how can he?
:lol:

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:33 pm

Valentine’s Joke- When a man steals your wife, there is no better way to avenge him than to let him keep her. <<<<yall see I am getting these from a man LOL too funny! lol

disco

February 14th, 2012
2:33 pm

aww ex, that’s just one of my hard chick jokey jokes. besides I think that statement is far more true than that through his stomach mess. we’ve pointed out countless times how many fellas love women that can’t cook.

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:33 pm

Hey WD! ;) Thanks!

czBrat

February 14th, 2012
2:33 pm

what happened to c? and where has sexy been?

granted their business is none of mine, but they’re exceptionally cool ladies. wishing them well.

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:34 pm

It’s like saying Mitt Romney has no issue with money
how can he? <<<<<< dead ex! smh LOL

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:39 pm

awwww SNE died from exposure to cold weather! bless her heart! ;(

cba

February 14th, 2012
2:39 pm

EX, that was in reference to your 2:22……but you did mention happy. At this stage of the game, sex is only one of the many ingredients, sorta like strong concrete, it requires cement, sand, gravel, water, fly ash, etc :-)

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:40 pm

Food and sex

for men

Top 2!

@Disco…if the woman ain’t cooking,he is buying the food but getting lots of sex

There has to be a trade off

Food + sex = happy

No food + no sexy but appearing happy = cheating

but u may not know this, looking in

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 14th, 2012
2:42 pm

Happy V-Day folks….

Ya’ll get off Ex, he just thinking out loud.

Diso-sexual greed, nah….how bout men just love puddy, and we don’t mind lettin the world know.

Well Slim, its a Bloody VDay you say, I am sure there are other things you can do to make it a very special occassion, P90Neck excercises

Leggs

February 14th, 2012
2:44 pm

@Lady ~ Finally….I’m happy for you! Now, remember the 3 C’s! Unfortunately, I can only think of two of them…communication and consistency. Anyone remember the other C???

@czB ~ funny, but true!!!

@cba ~ waiting to hear back from her? Will let you know.

“ex – the way to a man’s heart is through his chest, with a bullet. okay. sorry that wasn’t vday appropriate. i recant.” Pure comedy!

disco

February 14th, 2012
2:44 pm

okay here’s a question for the fellas present. with all of ex’s lack of sex talk, has any man here ever been in a relationship with a woman that wanted it more than he does? it’s been known to happen. or any woman here have a man that couldn’t keep up?

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:44 pm

Cba? But u also said past middle age

meaning testestorene levels are going down as well

so fulfillment comes in more ways than just food and sex

U know it

Don’t deceive these single chics

They marry and ration it(sex)

= cheating by their mates plus unhappiness ! :lol:

Exiled!

February 14th, 2012
2:47 pm

@Jake?

P90Neck exercises!

Lol
She got u! Lol

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:48 pm

Thank You Leggs!

LOL Jake count me in for Bloody VDay too! its true about that timing and folks youinteract with! lol damn you slim too damn funny!

Leggs

February 14th, 2012
2:50 pm

Here’s a msg from Celisea:

Hey there….Awwww, that’s sweet. I got about 3 February 17 deadlines I’m wrapping. Working simultaneously on all so I’m snowed. I’ll try and pop in. Tell those missing me I said hello.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

February 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

Disco-cant say that I have had any ladies with my appetite!

Ex brought up Rationing-a woman’s biggest mistake in her intimate relationship, never use it as a weapon, the average man will find another supplier if the lady cannot handle the demand.

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:51 pm

did y’all read this?!? A Letter to Roland: Make It Right

Tom Joyner

I think one of the things that makes the TJMS work is that, like a real family, we bring a variety of personalities, talents and flaws to the table, yet we accept our differences and roll with them. It only becomes a problem when one of our actions – or lack thereof – begins to detract from our overall goal, which is to entertain and empower black people.

As head of the family, I’ve sat back as long as I could, hoping I wouldn’t have to say anything. But now the time has come.

So, Roland, we love you and need you full force to be able to do what you do – represent us and our views on CNN and other arenas. In order to continue your role on that show, on the speaking circuit, etc., it’s time for you to make a sincere apology to GLAAD (The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation). When people are offended by something we say or do, it doesn’t matter what our intentions are. The job of the offender is simply to apologize and learn a lesson about what to say or do going forward.

Your mission is greater than your principal. It’s no longer about you. Now it’s grown into something bigger than you are, but only you can make right.

We love and appreciate what you do as a journalist, an analyst and commentator. You are a much -needed voice in the community and have the gift of being able to relate with everybody from the ‘hood to the White House.

We’ve gone through this with another family member who refused to turn around. I sure would hate to see pride silence another important voice.

Make it right, Roland, so we can move forward.

Lady~

February 14th, 2012
2:54 pm

good deal leggs!