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Attraction: Who gets our attention? Time?

I read somewhere that the type of woman that gets a man’s attention is not always the same type that gets his time. I have witnessed men gawk at the sexy vixen who is turning heads, but is that the type he will end up with though?

I know I can notice a edgy guy who looks like he is a total heart breaker, but would I actually take that type seriously? Probably not! This makes me wonder if we ever really know for sure when the type of attraction we have to people is the kind that will last longer than 72 hours.

When you consider the type of person who makes you sit up and take notice, do you think that person is someone you could actually be around?

Should we trust our initial attraction to pick the person we should pursue?

How do you decide who gets your time after they get attention?

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disco

February 13th, 2012
3:44 pm

ex – back in my project days there was the “tree” at the end of my block. that tree was where the crap games took place, where the dog fights took place and the all around general hangout spot.

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
3:44 pm

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
3:49 pm

@kimmie ~ as I was typing that I was telling myself I have the wrong information. Thanks, that’s who I was referring to.

kimmie - the original :)

February 13th, 2012
3:55 pm

Exiled – Everyone else has been saying just the opposite about her state, but you know once you get a rep for something, people look for and expect the worst.

disco

February 13th, 2012
4:01 pm

kimmie – agreed. and not only do I believe folks look for the worst but I believe that some of those folks recognized that even at her worst whitney had them beat and therefore they were simply hating because that’s the nature of some people.

cba

February 13th, 2012
4:02 pm

Just finished talking to my addicted (clean at the moment) brother. Only by the grace of God, he’s still here.
Natalie Cole is one celeb who appears to be coping, even though she almost died because of the damage to her liver.

disco

February 13th, 2012
4:05 pm

here’s an almost end of the day quote since we’re on addiction. “Progress not perfection” – Alcoholics Anonymous

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
4:08 pm

Progress :arrow: Not perfection

Disco! I think that works best for AAs

1 step each time

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:11 pm

The New York Daily News had to find one of her worst pictures to put on the front cover. I emailed and gave them a piece of my mind.

disco

February 13th, 2012
4:15 pm

leggs – “oh hell to the naw”

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
4:16 pm

Lol @Leggs!

Her best pic wldnt do it either coz it would be somewhat of a lie.

Maybe side by side,best and worst

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
4:18 pm

That pic seems nice Leggs i see none wrong

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:19 pm

Her best pic would not be a lie. It is a picture of how she was, just like this awful picture is how she used to be…both pics are accurate, but you don’t need to pic the horrible pic to grab the headlines. Have some dignity and put one of her more beautiful pics out FIRST!

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:21 pm

@Ex ~ there are worse pics of her, that’s a given. By the same token, there are better pics of her. I don’t think they should have led with that picture.

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:23 pm

Not only that, that picture is at least 2 years (if not more) old.

kimmie - the original :)

February 13th, 2012
4:25 pm

We have to hold up our own, because they always want to show us in the worst possible light!

I tell who IS looking rough these days & that’s L Lohan – hot mess!

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:26 pm

@Ex ~ just went back, the pic they have out there now is not the one from earlier. In that one, she looked haggard, eyes sunking and her matted fur coat on.

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
4:28 pm

Leggs..look at that editor’s picks and see that plastic surgery photo

Lol

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:29 pm

And when Lohan passes, what pic would they put out of her…probably her days in the movie Parent Trap when she was squeaky clean. Yeah right!

disco

February 13th, 2012
4:36 pm

leggs – you sound fired up. the other day I put on the morning news to catch the weather. what I caught was news that a young black male had been shot at the mall the night before. mind you said male was a victim of violence. how come the news detailed his entire background, past arrest history, mug shots, the whole nine. then, right after all that, they showed a young white woman who had just been CONVICTED of multiple crimes. they showed video footage of her in court but never showed her face. they never detailed her history or put all her business on the news. that one had me fired up all day. the media can be a trip.

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:41 pm

And that’s what I’m feeling, disco. We all know she had demons. Ok, let it rest and show her as Ms. Houston and stop always trying to descecrate who she was, a wife, a mother, someone’s daughter. \

@Ex ~ not today, no need for any of your snide comments (plastic surgery or not)! Thank you much!!!!

kimmie - the original :)

February 13th, 2012
4:41 pm

disco – See, you got me fired up now as well. And then somebody is supposed to be able to get a fair trial after being exposed like that? Jack up!!

Leggs

February 13th, 2012
4:41 pm

Peace out! – Good night!

disco

February 13th, 2012
4:46 pm

kimmie – fair trial???? this particular boy wasn’t even accused/charged with any wrongdoing. he was just the victim of a crime and they put his background on blast. some fraggle naggle bull I tell you.

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
4:53 pm

Leggs..I meant there is another pic(not of Whitney) but another white lady with plastic surgery gone wrong.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:04 pm

Its obvious that the media is racist. We should all overlook Whitneys poor parenting and focus on her music.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:08 pm

I think we as a society need to quit celebrating the lives of people who were morally bankrupt…black or white. Bill Clinton can walk into any room and be praised yet he is a total scumbag. Steve Jobs is deified yet was an absent father. Same with john lennon. Michael Jordan is a God yet he was a pathetic family man. Same with Whitney and a lot of others that we spend days talking about and obsessing over.

We should laud and praise the lives of those who passed who lived honorably. We should focus on the a persons moral fiber first and foremost and focus less on the great things they did.

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
5:10 pm

She grew up in the church,with church living parents…no poor parenting there

Her drug issues are her own adult mistakes,not parents fault

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:10 pm

When refering to Whitneys poor parenting I was not refering to Whitneys parents parenting but whitneys parenting.

Exiled!

February 13th, 2012
5:13 pm

Why scumbag Bill Clinton coz he f-cked an intern?

We don’t know there’s folks..God does

So he will judge them not u nor I

MLF!

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:25 pm

Bill Clinton boned more then an intern. My take is if your married and have children you are pathetic if you put a few moments over what should be most valuable. Even worse if you are a minister and have affairs…Jim Baker, Jesse jackson, MLK.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:29 pm

Also politicians who cheat should be taken out of the fray as well. if somone can put their own interst ahead of their families just think of what they will pout ahead of the rest of America.

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
5:40 pm

Soccer MILF — Hate to break it to you, but if you disqualified politicians for getting some strange, there wouldn’t be many left in either party. Ditto for corporate executives, athletes — basically anyone with money and/or fame and/or power. There are some exceptions, of course, but those are the exceptions, not the rule. Bottom line, while you might not want to be married to these guys, their sexual escapades really have very little to do with their ability or reliability with regard to their jobs. Two totally different worlds.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:43 pm

Im swiss…I agree with you in the numbers but I also think our society tends to celebrate a lot of morally bankrupt people. Whats the difference between Whitney and those people we villify for not being good parents? Money and a voice.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
5:46 pm

Also, Its not about wanting to be married to these people…its about celebrating people who are substandard in terms of integrity.

I was having a conversation over the weekend about this topic and MLK came up. My view is that Rosa Parks is a much better face of the civil rights movement because she had nothing to gain other then her integrity and self respect by her actions. A lot of civil rights leaders had power to gain…just like politicians today.

It may be a fantasy to think that America should celebrate integrity but I will practice it. Its why I will never vote for people like newt or the likes.

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
5:51 pm

Just out of curiosity, what exactly do you think that MLK had to gain, other than equal rights for blacks and a big target on his back?

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:07 pm

He was the most powerful black manin America during that tie and according to Ralph David Abernathys biography gained a lot fo extra marital attention. What does jesse Jackson today have to gain from being involved in civil rights?

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
6:13 pm

And… what did being the most powerful black man in America at the time get him, exactly? The power to vote? The power to attend the same schools as whites? The power to drink from the same water fountain? I hope you aren’t suggesting his interest in civil rights was all a ruse to get some. There are much easier ways to get laid, I can assure you.

I guess my point is that none of us are perfect. There is good and bad in all of us, and to classify someone as “morally bankrupt” for his/her mistakes, while completely ignoring the good that he/she may have done is pretty short-sighted, IMO.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:17 pm

My point is we tend to celebrate people who are morally bankrupt. My definition of morally bankrupt is someone who does not put their family first. Whitney Houston having drugs addictions and kids at the same time equals putting family behind driugs.

As far as MLK I am not saying he entered the movement to get tail. I am saying he did things that i would not expect from a minister. To me we as a society to should place the highest emphasis family. it would cure a lot of ails. Joe Patenro is my mind did a lot of great things like you say but I think what he did wrong should stand at a higher significance if only to send a re minder to all that some things are undeniably inexcusable.

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
6:22 pm

Interesting… How about fat people with kids? Are they morally bankrupt, as well? They eat their way to poor health and an early grave, much like drug users. Even worse, how about fat people with fat kids?

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:23 pm

So you are equating overeating to crack?

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:25 pm

Fast food does not prevent you from parenting properly….crack tends to make you a litttle out of it.

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
6:26 pm

Well, if it results in a parent not being healthy enough — or alive — to take care of their kids, what’s the difference? Even worse, as I said, if the parents are transferring those same unhealthy eating habits to their kids, isn’t that putting food ahead of family?

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:28 pm

Again…I can eat aa whopper and sit down and read with my kids. I cannot smoke a crack pipe and do anything with my kids. If I only fed my kids mcdonalds then I am probably a poor parent who does not put my kids health in high regard. But there is quite a large difference between doing things that cut down life expectancy for our kids then doing something that basically takes us completely out of the equation in terms of raising them.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:29 pm

im Swiss…did you think that Joe Paterno deserved the firing in disgrace that he received?

i'm swiss

February 13th, 2012
6:36 pm

You’re assuming that drugs “take [people] completely out of the equation” overnight, and that’s not necessarily the case. In fact, most addicts develop over time, and many are very much “functional” addicts for a long time. Not saying that’s a good thing, but the distinctions you draw may not be as great as you imagine.

As for Paterno, based on what I’ve read of the case, yes, I agree that he deserved to be fired, but I don’t think he’s “morally bankrupt” as you might say. I think he made a grave mistake and he and many others suffered for it. I also think he was a positive influence on a lot of people.

Very few things are totally black & white. Mostly, we’re all shades of grey.

WOW

February 13th, 2012
6:37 pm

One Soccer MILF, it’s apparent you know nothimg about GOD. The most rank sinner can utter a honest sincere prayer of repentance at death’s door and can be accepted into God’s glorious kingdom. You might want to worry about your walk. I can tell you this, if you’re measuring by your standards of good vs evil you just might not measure your ownself. I see lives in the media but I don’t what transpires between the Almighty and people so I’ve learned to refrain from placing anybody anywhere….heaven or hell. No she didn’t the purest life and yes she struggled with demons. But who doesn’t?

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:41 pm

I agree with you on Paterno. I think paterno should have been fired in disgrace despite his long history of good deeds to set an example that some things are more important. then those deeds. Somethings are just too important that we cannot overlook them.

For me anyway, putting family behind drugs or affairs is one fo those things. Can these people be redeemed? Sure but my point originally is we tribute a woman who smoke cak while raising kids. We had people crying for Michael jackson when at the very least he was a drugged up person with three children.

WOW

February 13th, 2012
6:44 pm

Those you think will make heaven won’t and those you assume won’t will. God’s measure is according to his righteousness not yours and all the bad things you don’t do. Self righteousness is the worst addiction yoy can have. Give me a junkie any day.

Soccer MILF

February 13th, 2012
6:48 pm

Give me a person who holds family in high regard over someone who doesnt and has a great voice.