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Lingerie a risky gift?

That so called “romantic holiday” that is less than a week away has some people all in a tizzy. When you are in the “casual dating” stage, things may be a little confusing on which way to go. What do you do when you aren’t exclusive, but definitely more than just friends, and headed toward romance?

One reader wants to know if he should purchase lingerie for a woman he has feelings for and wants to let her know. I don’t think lingerie is a good gift idea for someone you are just dating. It can be a risky option since it sort of screams “I want to see you in it for about 30 seconds” – which may be the point, but is it the right time?

Are their certain gifts that you should definitely steer clear from just to be safe?

Have you ever given or received lingerie or sexy items as a gift from someone you were seeing? How did you/they react?

What is the sexiest thing someone has ever given you?

A guy once gave me a porn video. Seriously, he literally gift wrapped the thing! I’m no prude (by any stretch of the imagination) but that did not win me over.

Here is a tip for you: Never give porn to someone you actually want to impress. You’re welcome.

362 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
4:20 pm

Purp?

Dr Phil talks(sound of voice) like somebody wifes him

:lol:

I wouldn’t surprised

It’s like that Joe Paterno dude who died

I think he was in the biznes of kids

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
4:23 pm

Purple — Oh, no, the whole d@mn thing was weird, no doubt. But it was kinda fun for a while, nonetheless… :lol: Don’t judge me! :lol:

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
4:25 pm

Thank you Purple. And, thanks for voting…you can vote everyday.

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
4:29 pm

That’s why Disco mentioned the uniqueness of folks relationships

To think there are men who get joy(if not getting off) seeing their wives being banged by another stud?

Hmmmmmmm

Only in America

U can excuse the Moslems in Iran for saying America is Evil :lol:

disco

February 9th, 2012
4:29 pm

swiss – judge you? I’m willing to bet some folks are living vicariously through you.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
4:30 pm

Or living match for match, deed for deed…currently

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
4:31 pm

@Celisea ~ you’re over there talking about sticking and d!!icking…roflmao.

@PR ~ not sure if you’re really teaching your son how to make spit bubbles…think they’re born knowing how to do that (lol).

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
4:32 pm

Leggs – Wang swapping

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
4:34 pm

And I gather it’s not safe, a good idea or the best idea to buy lingerie for VD?

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
4:34 pm

Don’t seem like there’s a need for clothing at all around these parts.

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
4:38 pm

although I really wanna go to Trapeze,solo,be4 I die!

:lol:

Ijs

SlimNu

February 9th, 2012
4:40 pm

Purp – You didn’t know swiss was an extra in that movie Eyes Wide Shut.

swiss – Pure Crazy! :lol: But question, would a foul on the play consist of unnecessary male to male contact? Or was that expected?

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
4:41 pm

@Ex ~ even if you’re still married. Solo???

Wang swapping / Wife Swap (lol)

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
4:43 pm

No wife swap Leggs,are u crazy? :lol:

just to watch,take notes and maybe write a book

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
4:43 pm

Me.lo:lol: Yeah, that’s what I thought. I don’t get it, either, but when you’ve got a nice piece of pud.dy begging you to phu.ck it, the peripheral details of the situation seem less important… :lol:

SlimNu

February 9th, 2012
4:47 pm

Meant to say ‘Accidental Male to male contact’ :oops:

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
4:49 pm

That was a remark to Celisea’s wang swapping. Wasn’t meant for you Ex (didn’t mean to ruffle your feathers).

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
4:49 pm

Slim — Whoa, whoa, whoa… hold the phone. Absolutely no dude-on-dude contact — accidental or not — is acceptable. That will get you a lifetime ban. At least in my league… :lol: No, seriously though, no danger of that — it wasn’t a free-for-all, it was just my friend off w/ some other chick and me off w/ the friend’s wife. No cross-pollination going on…. :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
4:59 pm

Leggs – He said that so emphatically…lol “are u crazy” riiiight.

I was just commenting on the hot tub actions and exchanging partners and bedrooms…lol That’s where my wang swap came from.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:11 pm

I quickly forgot about the hot tub. Ex is a walking double edge sword. Ummm, double something…what is the term???

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:20 pm

I’m going to post something soon that I’ve noticed with a coworker. He’s not new here but been in my group for about 8 months. He was heavily recruited to this team. I’ve noticed it but wasn’t sure I was seeing what I though I saw. Natually I thought naaaah, that’s you…. you’re not seeing that. I want to be sure it’s not what I’m seeing but something much less. It could be just what men do but I dunno yet. Right now I’m more leaning to it’s just what men do.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:22 pm

Got it….double standard! Yep, it took me that long to figure out what I was trying to say,

Good night!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:23 pm

Dang girl, stop leaving me hanging…what is it you think you’re seeing. Is he scratching his ballz all willy nilly???

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:24 pm

Leggs – This is for you only….cause most are gone…one sec

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
5:25 pm

C — To answer you question: Yes, that dude does want to ph.uck you. :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:26 pm

Dang I know my body…just great

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:26 pm

Ooops, swiss is still here. But, he’s cool…

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:26 pm

One sec Swiss…lol

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:27 pm

Paying a bill…one sec

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:27 pm

I am truly laughing at loud at you Celisea! You called it, she came to visit. Too funny.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:38 pm

Okay, last year he was brought on here because the other guy left. They interviewed almost a year and recruited him. White guy, pretty smooth, nice dresser, nice size…etc Well we have to interact on a lot of deals. Soooo, my manager put in my review for us (not just me and him but another member) to get some time on the calendar. So, I send him a planner at the beginning to meet for about 30 minutes. Well, he respond to “why haven’t we had lunch?” Atennea shot straight up but I didn’t respond or react one way or the other. So we go to lunch (my guard is up, walls high). We talk about work and work only so then I relax a bit. But I have caught him sooooo many times looking at me. His office is directly in front of me and when I stand to walk, he eyes are like where my hips are and he ALWAYS ALWAYS LOOK. During the holiday lunch he asked me “so how old do you think I am” He reminds me of Richard Gere. Beautifully mixed gray but young face. I was cool laughing and talking but now it’s like instinct, I’m guarded when he approaches. It’s been nothing overt and I don’t want to be one of those women that believes all men likes them but I catch him ALLLL the time. We had a call the other morning and it was just the two of us in the conference room, others dialed in and each time I looked up, he was just looking at me. I even closed my top…had it buttoned to the where my bra starts. I was here the other night until six and it was just us again. I get up to go the the restroom and he’s looking at my hips. He then says something and I walk in his office and it like ha ha ha…jokie joke.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:38 pm

Leggs – The only sympton I didn’t say is headache…I do get those…and I have one now

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:42 pm

Ok, your co-worker has the hots for you. I don’t get your last sentence. Why you go into his office and what’s the jokie joke. Are you making this stuff up??? Why??? Looking sideways, am I being punked???

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:42 pm

He is KNOWN all over this place…EVERYBODY loooooves him. Very highly reverenced and regarded. He always walks up to my desk to chitchat. I just lean over because his eyes go straight to the waist (while I’m sitting). I could be waaaaaaaay off, because really he’s super friendly, everybody knows him across states and all. I had a coworker to call me and said “tell his fine ass I said hello” and another IM’d me here at work and said she’d heard he was good looking and to describe him…

Just saying, it could be. Too early to concretely say.

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
5:42 pm

See there, C, I already knew the answer even before I knew the question. :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:44 pm

Leggs – I was going to the restroom before heading home. When I came back around the corner he said something…his door is ajar. So I stepped back and said “I’m sorry did you say something” and he just said “nothing I was joking” but I didn’t hear what he said. He’s the one where one day I didn’t realize he was behind me and I said “I’m getting too fat” and he replied “You are NOT fat”

I could be wrong and misreading. Just need to keep my guard up.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:45 pm

Swiss – I’m hoping I’m off but I almost don’t think I am.

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
5:47 pm

C — Why so on guard? You just might like the swirl if you try it… ;-) :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:47 pm

Swiss – He’s married.

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
5:49 pm

Ah, yeah, well there’s that… :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:50 pm

He’s super friendly by nature pretty much with everybody but there’s just a hint of “something” I can’t quite peg. When I say there’s no one in this place that haven’t heard of him, there’s pretty much no one. He’s only been here as long as me but he worked in a much bigger LOB. Which is why he was heavily recruited. I mean we went months missing this role because they couldn’t find someone that really qualified.

I just got a quick note to meet (he copied others) but he and I need ot cover a few things.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:50 pm

Swiss – I don’t mind the swirling…I do mind the wife :)

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:51 pm

Sounds like he’s admiring the chocolate. He’s gregarious by nature from what I’m reading. Just stay alert. He’s smart to have a harassment charge.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:52 pm

That’s what I’m thinking. I think he just “admire and appreciate” women, especially black women. It’s all black women in other support teams and roles that assisted him.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:53 pm

smart to NOT have…

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
5:55 pm

Well, if there’s something you can’t quite “peg,” then when you have to cover things, do it with a third person in the room.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:57 pm

Leggs – He’s been here 15 years and too smart for that. I’m not worried at all. I trust myself COMPLETELY…LOL I’m was just wondering if my eyes, ears and instinct were all deceiving me but any lines getting crossed? Not worried at all.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
5:58 pm

Now if we went to Vegas…I KID I KID I KID :)

Alright folks I’m out.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
6:00 pm

Your instincts rarely ever deceive you.

Good night!

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
6:03 pm

Cee ask him if he married to white or black…to start the ball rolling…unless if he got her pics in the office. I don’t.

If u jokey jokey with him u could just be blatant and ask him if he likes black tail

BAM!!!!!