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Lingerie a risky gift?

That so called “romantic holiday” that is less than a week away has some people all in a tizzy. When you are in the “casual dating” stage, things may be a little confusing on which way to go. What do you do when you aren’t exclusive, but definitely more than just friends, and headed toward romance?

One reader wants to know if he should purchase lingerie for a woman he has feelings for and wants to let her know. I don’t think lingerie is a good gift idea for someone you are just dating. It can be a risky option since it sort of screams “I want to see you in it for about 30 seconds” – which may be the point, but is it the right time?

Are their certain gifts that you should definitely steer clear from just to be safe?

Have you ever given or received lingerie or sexy items as a gift from someone you were seeing? How did you/they react?

What is the sexiest thing someone has ever given you?

A guy once gave me a porn video. Seriously, he literally gift wrapped the thing! I’m no prude (by any stretch of the imagination) but that did not win me over.

Here is a tip for you: Never give porn to someone you actually want to impress. You’re welcome.

362 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:01 pm

Leggs – LOL…..noooo, not today anyway. I KID I KID

Okay, the AI is now being advertised.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:02 pm

Nobody sees the shoes but Celisea. I saw her popping a pill in the bathroom. Thought it was an aspirin, but now I know. Probably a Black Beauty (lolololol).

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:03 pm

Hey, I’m crazy anyway. As you hit refresh, the advertisment changes.

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:04 pm

Leggs?

u don’t want a relationship any more

u got All the right reasons why u should break up

But u cry…that’s confusing..

Ok dudes?? Any of u here cry?

All else I will Roland Martin u.. :lol:

Dude: my chic slept with another dude..she cheated on me..we have to break up

Dude: (sobbing) Ho Ho Ho…she cheated..she has to go Ho Ho Ho

That makes sense?

I don’t get it!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:05 pm

@Ex ~ what’s wrong with crying over a relationship. Dude, you sure talk a lot of smack on this blog.

disco

February 9th, 2012
12:05 pm

ex – did you have the same pill celisea had? y’all got any more?

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:06 pm

disco – Sorry no pill, I was born with this condition…lol

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:10 pm

Leggs?

nothing wrong with crying over a relationship U want…

Crying over something u Don’t want is ummm,blah

Yea…my throat!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:11 pm

Damn the guy on Maury is fine as hell….he jut found out he’s not the father and is so heartbroken.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:13 pm

I’m crying right along with this brother…he’s been there from the beginning, cut the umbilical cord and all. Now 15 months later he finds out he’s not that baby’s father.

Purple

February 9th, 2012
12:13 pm

Nothing wrong with a woman crying over a relationship there is something wrong with others feeding into her pain though.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:14 pm

@Ex ~ you said it. She wants the relationship, but realizes it’s not a healthy one so she has to book…

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:15 pm

Especially strangers, right Purple (lol).

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
12:16 pm

Celisea — I empathize with the presentation lady. At my last job, I was doing a 2-day technical training course via web conference for Purdue University. Normally, I would use GoToMeeting for these remote sessions, but it has a limit of 25 seats, and this session was going to have over 100 attendees, so I had to use GoToWebinar, which I had never used before, and which, as I learned the hard way, has some quirks around the “start webinar” and “display screen” options. Long story short, I went through the entire first hour of the course with nothing but my audio — no one could see anything I was doing. :lol: Ooops…

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:16 pm

now that sucks Leggs!

she’s a beeyotch!

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:17 pm

If you don’t let the tears out, then you just bottle it up and may explode! It’s heartbreaking to be broken up with or to be the one to do the break up…it was two years and I’m having to let go of my best friend and companion. Of course I will be sad, even though I’m the one who made the decision…

Jeez Ex…get a life and quit belittling me…I’m sure you’re quite a prize!!!

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:18 pm

Swiss – I’m am laughing…not at you but the experience. You are right. We’re hanging in here. I think some of the problem though, as we just realized, is she’s home. Not sure if all she needs to fully function is accessible.

How do we know she’s at home? A DOG JUST STARTING BARKING..lol Okay it’s not funny but it is. She’s talking over the dog as if it’s not there.

I understand though. Sometimes leading these type seminars won’t always go smoothly.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:19 pm

Okay…I’m so messing everything up…guess I shouldn’t laugh.

I am laughing

disco

February 9th, 2012
12:19 pm

I don’t know KB – don’t jump all on ex for posting his opinion re your situation. that’s what happens when you put your business out there like that. is it wrong to cry? no. is it wrong to whine and mope all up on the blog? not necessarily. just be prepared to get what you get. such is life.

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:20 pm

At that point Leggs,when u figure,Ohh,this is hot,dangerous,unpalatable etc,All desire must desist and u sequestrate urself from and desensitize All feelings towards target.
Let go :arrow:

No need for crying over poisoned stuff

I don’t get it.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:25 pm

@Ex ~ why you calling her that….that is not cool, dude!

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:25 pm

Disco…do you not agree that he’s being a jerk about it? I mean, I just did the breaking up on Monday night and it’s nice to be able to talk about it to strangers. I understand that people are entitled to their opinions, but people don’t have to be so mean and rude. Give a girl a break. Maybe I just shouldn’t come on this blog anymore…

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:26 pm

@swiss ~ that sucks….

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:28 pm

I would be laughing too, Celisea, especially once I heard the dog bark.

disco

February 9th, 2012
12:28 pm

nobody’s chasing you off. still, you are a big girl. gotta take the good with the bad. some folks will be all nice and supportive and some folks will be out to cut you down. again, such is life. deal with it. if you aren’t feeling ex then say to yourself “later for ex” and ignore his comments.

SlimNu

February 9th, 2012
12:30 pm

Leggs – Maury is just like House, the same show just different set of characters. lol

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:31 pm

Bluz?

Iam Not belittling u nor am I a ‘prize’,except to Queen.

But I make decisions very quickly and decisively

No second guessing Myself

The world is full of wonderful men,for u and (women), for me :lol:

Now that’s comforting,in case u moving slow

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:31 pm

@BG ~ stay on the blog, just ignore him.

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
12:32 pm

Celisea — Yeah, for me that day it was a Perfect Storm of Epic Fail. :lol: So, apparently, with GoToWebinar if you hit “show screen” first and then his “start webinar” it automatically turns off the “show screen” option. You have to hit “start webinar” first then hit “show screen.” Go figure. Also, in the webinar interface, since there are typically more people on the call, everyone except the presenter is muted, so they couldn’t tell me verbally that they didn’t see my screen. There is a “chat” window, which I was accustomed to from the meeting interface, but no one was saying anything there. There is also a “questions” area, unique to the webinar interface so I had never seen it before, which as luck would have it, was collapsed by default. Oh, and there are no pop-ups or audible notifications when folks are asking questions in that section, so if it is not expanded, you just don’t see anything. And, finally, my phone was charging in the other room, so it wasn’t until I stopped for the first break that I checked it & realized that my office had been blowing up my phone trying to tell me that no one could see my screen. :lol: Oh well… I got back online, cracked a few jokes at my expense & went back over what they had missed from the first hour & everything was fine. But that was embarrassing as heyal, I can tell you that… :lol:

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:33 pm

I know I gotta take the bad with the good, but jeez…I’m feeling down and out and a little vulnerable and it sucks when someone is trying to make it their goal to tear you down. It’s a shame how some people are and it’s too easy to hide behind the computer screen. I wish there was a way to just hide someone so that you don’t see their comments…

Purple

February 9th, 2012
12:33 pm

Bluzgirl, sorry for you breakup. It always serves better to hurt in private for me. Because I know me better than anyone and I don’t like random people in my business. That happens when you share on social media so you have to be tough enough to deal with whatever response you get here. No need to runaway since you put it out there. You have to deal with it now. I notice you said you lost your best friend. If he was your best friend then it is not over because true friends may argue but they never part. Maybe you thought he was your best friend and wasn’t.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:33 pm

@SlimNu ~ yep. Same game, different players.

Great been waiting for noon to put likka in my tea.

Purple

February 9th, 2012
12:34 pm

Bluzgirl, how vulnerable are you right now? Just asking? LOL

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:35 pm

The b comment was for the lady getting child support from dude who’s not the father

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:36 pm

Well…he’s been my best friend for the past 2 years, but I can’t have that now…at least not for a long time. I hope down the line, when I get over the feelings and heal, that he and I can be friends again. I have to let go of all of him in order to heal…

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:37 pm

@Purple…not that vulnerable!!! LOL

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:38 pm

@Bluz ~ there’s a blogger by the name of ITL. She was somewhat thin skinned when she first came to the blog. I told her she had to toughen up to deal with the comments on this blog…you have to do the same. You will have some in your corner, and some in the peanut gallery throwing stones at you. That’s how it works. You have to toughen up and not mind what advice you’re given here…good or bad. Only you can decide what you need to do..not us.

disco

February 9th, 2012
12:38 pm

purple – funny re “how vulnerable are you”.

kb – good luck is all I really have to say. hopefully in your real life (as opposed to your blog life) you have folks in your corner. if so, lean on them. if not, you might have more pressing issues than a breakup. j/k but still kind of serious. still, there’s some that comfort with kind words and all that. personally, I’m not one of them. my friends know I’m the “what are you going to do about it” friend. do all that crying and moping on your own time.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:39 pm

Swiss – That’s how it works when we have large conferences. It’s usually everyone is muted but the presenters or speakers. But I feel you. I think most though just tend to naturally understand that there will always be mishaps and difficulties when dealing with technology. One thing about it, once you experience it and learn what to do or NOT to the the next time you should be pretty good.

Kellibean – I agree with disco. You’ve been coming here a minute and really what else can be told. I’d rather take anyday, someone taking a hardline but telling me the truth over someone that’s telling me what I want to hear and it causes me to keep eating the poison.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:42 pm

Kellibean – If it’s any consolation to you, MMeello is not partial to who he jumps at.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:44 pm

Oh, Ex. Gotcha…

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
12:46 pm

Celisea,if my daughter comes to her mum saying stuff like ,’Iam dumping him coz he cheats on me etc but I luv him’ crap she’s not getting respite..from me,trust.

Good is good bad is bad

Make a choice and move

singlelongtime

February 9th, 2012
12:46 pm

Bluzgirl – I can totally understand how you feel. i was with a guy almost 2 years and we just broke up about 4 months ago. I miss what I thought we had. At first everything reminded me of him and it was like a punch in the stomach. But as time goes by it does get better, or at least less bad. I still think of him a lot but don’t get that gut punch feeling anymore. Just give youself some time. I have found that keeping occupied helps a lot. Hang in there.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:49 pm

MMeelo – You know I’m agreeing. It’s okay to hurt as that’s just sometimes the outcome of relationships. Once you have it though and it out there in the open, what else do you need people to tell you? Make a choice…deal with it and stay or let it go. Don’t stay there, feet glued to the floor and continue to say, I want to go.

disco

February 9th, 2012
12:52 pm

these situations always make me think of Lackawanna blues when chick said “sometimes a man and a woman have an understanding that nobody else understands”

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
12:54 pm

singlelongtime…Thanks! I realize it can only get better, but I will allow myself to be sad for a while. The hardest part will be telling friends because we are a pretty public couple in the Atlanta blues scene and we have a TON of mutual friends. There will be constant reminders. I’m doing my best with keeping occupied…have a lot to do over the next week that will keep me busy and around my good friends. I’ll have a lot of support, which I am thankful for.

I know I really should take some things on the blog as a grain of salt, but I guess it can be hard to handle some comments. My skin will thicken once I get through all this. I am thankful for the people willing to help through this time. Sometimes, it can help talking to strangers because you don’t want to lean too much on your friends.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:55 pm

@disco ~ I can see S. Epethea (sp?) saying that line. They definitely had an “understanding.” Love that movie!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:56 pm

@Bluz ~ the hardest part doesn’t have to be “telling” your friends. They already know.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:56 pm

That was a good movie.

Willie Dynamite

February 9th, 2012
12:59 pm

Afternoon All,

On Topic – I am personally not too imprssed with Lingerie. If old boy hasn’t sealed the deal then whats the point. That is a keep her happy item not a wanna get her item