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Lingerie a risky gift?

That so called “romantic holiday” that is less than a week away has some people all in a tizzy. When you are in the “casual dating” stage, things may be a little confusing on which way to go. What do you do when you aren’t exclusive, but definitely more than just friends, and headed toward romance?

One reader wants to know if he should purchase lingerie for a woman he has feelings for and wants to let her know. I don’t think lingerie is a good gift idea for someone you are just dating. It can be a risky option since it sort of screams “I want to see you in it for about 30 seconds” – which may be the point, but is it the right time?

Are their certain gifts that you should definitely steer clear from just to be safe?

Have you ever given or received lingerie or sexy items as a gift from someone you were seeing? How did you/they react?

What is the sexiest thing someone has ever given you?

A guy once gave me a porn video. Seriously, he literally gift wrapped the thing! I’m no prude (by any stretch of the imagination) but that did not win me over.

Here is a tip for you: Never give porn to someone you actually want to impress. You’re welcome.

362 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
10:15 am

If u want the chic romance wise/sexually,go for it.

If dude plays safe,no matter how nice or gentlemanly u end up being lame if u too safe. Friend zone hello!

Dudes with ummpf take risks. The downside of not shooting to win is other guys might take ur place. This game is for offensive minded players.

Play defense after you have put some points on the board or won!

Howdie folks!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
10:19 am

@SlimNu ~ too funny. I’m cozied up in a zebra print snuggie. Yes ma’am.

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Lady~

February 9th, 2012
10:27 am

bad link leggs

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
10:27 am

try it again

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
10:30 am

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
10:31 am

yes now I am bout to computer hop and vote for lil leggs! Ia m still laughing @ you from yesterday evening! too funny!

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
10:31 am

@Purple ~ If I was in VS and saw you cupping bras and sizing up panties, I’d probably sneak and take a picture of you (lol)…j/k

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
10:33 am

@Lady, when I read your post, I stared at it thinking “damn, that’s exactly what I’m trying to do.” :wink:

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
10:34 am

yeah, yeah, yeah, computer hop (lol)…”by any means necessary!!!”

Fion

February 9th, 2012
10:34 am

I’ve heard of wishful thinking, but giving lingerie to a chick you ain’t banging is a stretch at best. After all once you’ve had your face to face interview, you know if you got the job.

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
10:41 am

ok I did a few more later Ms Leggs! ;)

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
10:42 am

chuckle Fion!

Purple

February 9th, 2012
10:52 am

Now that I think about it, a guy could really offend a women by buying her lingerie. What if he buys something to big or to small?

Purple

February 9th, 2012
10:55 am

Leggs, I probably look like a pervert doing that.

Who in their right mind would gift wrap a porno and give it as a gift?

kimmie - the original :)

February 9th, 2012
10:57 am

Purple – That’s why it’s a risky gift if you are not really in tune with her yet, know what her taste is and an idea of her size. If you have been intimate, you’ll at least have a better guess at the size or you could peek at the size of the stuff she takes off. If you all haven’t gone there, it’s rushing things.

disco

February 9th, 2012
10:59 am

speaking of big girls – am I the only one that is sick of the term “curvy”. I think some chicks are getting carried away using this as a descriptor. some of them are way past curvy. I’m thinking we ought to throw “lumpy” in the mix. and that’s not all about being mean. when I think curvy I think figure 8, I think hourglass, I think a few extra pounds in the right places. the word is developing into a new pet peeve for me.

purple – many many years ago I gifted some jake steed videos. (I think dude’s name was jake steed).

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:00 am

Kimmie I am thinking skip the lingerie if the relationship has been establish and buy a nice satin sheet set………..its many other vices out there that’s subtle yet sexy……….shrugs! lol

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:01 am

hmmmm well disco I am a 16 all day call it what you want sis lol

HST

February 9th, 2012
11:01 am

Wow at the responses in this blog. I think the ladies out here said it right. No way am I going to buy a girl I’m dating lingerie. Tiffany charms are welcomed by most women in a new dating scenario. That’s my go to if I don’t really know her that well but want that to change.

Last time I went to VS to buy a GF items, I felt like the employees were flipping through the sex offender database seeing if I was on the site. Other times a cute woman helps and you find yourself playing with her…I just skip that and let my GFs handle their underwear.

HST

February 9th, 2012
11:02 am

Disco…agreed.

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
11:04 am

I would not like to receive lingerie if we are just dating…I need to try on lingerie to see how it looks on my before I just wear it in front of anyone. I would prefer to maybe go shopping together to pick something out after we’ve established a relationship.

P.S. I’m changing my name to Bluzgirl since Kellibean was his nickname for me…

HST

February 9th, 2012
11:04 am

Ladies, what is an acceptable amount on a gift before it becomes too much?

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:06 am

Bluzgirl LOL I remember when I dropped J after Lady for that same reason….lol til this day that dude still calls me J smh LOL

i'm swiss

February 9th, 2012
11:08 am

“She has me pick stuf out for her and plus I get to see all of the other good looking women in there shop for theirs. LOL”

Purple — I was in VS with Mrs. Swiss a while back & I kinda put my foot in my mouth. We were browsing through one of those big tables of panties & there was this other couple looking through the same table. The other chick was looking at this pair of Atlanta Falcons panties & joked to her dude that those could be for the half time show. She put them back down & as we circled around to that side of the table, I picked them up out of curiosity, only to realize, “GOT D@MN, them draws are HUGE” — which I accidentally blurted out loud enough for the other chick to hear. :oops: :lol:

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:14 am

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Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:18 am

Sorry, you’re blu, KB. Stay strong and stay true to yourself. As long as you know you’re doing the right thing, you will be fine in time.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:20 am

BTW, if you keep the name Bluzgirl, you’re only feeding into a slow emotional recovery. How about finding a different moniker???

disco

February 9th, 2012
11:20 am

lady – a 16 can work. I’m really perturbed by these chicks that weigh so much that they only wear sneakers and flip flops to work. mind you those are direct dress code violations but no one says anything because there seems to be some sort of unspoken understanding about overweight folks and their available footwear. if you have to wear sneakers because shoes won’t support your weight – you are something other than curvy. I’ve got a few more “you know you aren’t curvy whens” but I’ll stop because I suppose at some point it could get offensive.

swiss – that was funny.

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:21 am

you are right sis and I know those women lol

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:21 am

Thanks for the laugh, swiss! Now I’m having a coughing fit.

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:22 am

shm @ leggs lol

Exiled!

February 9th, 2012
11:25 am

Leggs?

Women u are so funny!

you saying stay strong as if she lost a relative thru death? Not even a husband?

a mere boyfriend?

Are u serous? :lol:

Bluzgirl (AKA Kellibean)

February 9th, 2012
11:31 am

I’m actually Bluzgirl because I’m into the Atlanta blues scene…a lot of people know me by that name…nothing to do with the sadness, even though I’m feeling blue these days. But…I’m keeping strong…not letting him see me cry. I know it will be hard for a while, but I’ll pick up the pieces and move on. One thing helping me is a book called “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken.” Written by the same people who wrote “He’s Just Not That Into You.” It’s a funny, yet helpful break up guide! It helped me through a previous breakup and is helping me through this one…Thanks!

Lady~

February 9th, 2012
11:33 am

That is why I shook my head Blu lol Blue is my favorite color all shades that is and I was like her name is cool! LOL

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:37 am

@Ex ~ yes, I’m serious. When a person is in pain, due to the “death” of a relationship, they need to stay strong to their convictions as to why they let the relationship die!!!!

.

Purple

February 9th, 2012
11:37 am

Leggs, LOL

kimmie, exactly

Swiss, that was funny. There are usually some fine women in those stores.

disco, I am agreeing with you on the chubbies.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:38 am

Gotcha on the meaning of Bluzgirl.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:49 am

Why or why am I on a conference call with a “live meeting” and the woman is doing the presentation and it’s MUTED???? We are dying laughing. She’s got her messenger on do not disturb so we can’t get her attention….

This is waaaay too funny.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:51 am

Even my manager is laughing…she’s doing her pointer and all…just gone to town and all for nothing. We can’t hear a dern thing.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:51 am

She’s up to slide 12 of 38

disco

February 9th, 2012
11:52 am

aww man. that is funny celisea. she’s going to be so embarrassed. I hope this presentation isn’t “important” or she’s gonna get it….

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:53 am

disco – You know we were all trying to be polically correct and nice and then somebody burst out laughing.

She’s gone to town too. Collateralized and Noncollaterlized…I’d say it’s important.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:54 am

Nooooow, she’s got the message and just unmuted. Bet she said “I’ll stop here for questions” and she got crickets.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:55 am

Ha…she said it. She said she stopped for questions…ha ha ha….

Slides 13 – 22 was muted…ha ha ha

Okay that’s my laugh for the day.

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:56 am

Is is just me or can anyone else see the salmon colored shoe to the right of the screen? LOOOOVE them.

disco

February 9th, 2012
11:58 am

so… is she going to start all over? and no, i don’t see any shoe.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
11:59 am

Stop here for questions….that is hysterical. Question should be “can you start from the beginning cuz we ain’t heard squat.” :lol: :lol: :lol:

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
11:59 am

She’s trying to do a quick rollback. You don’t the shoe? Wait. I don’t either now. It’s advertising so the pictures are changing. Watch for it. It’s hawt

Okay this is gonna be a TMI….I suuuure hope Aunt Flow ain’t here VD. I got a feeling she’s gonna show up the day before or of. Great

Celisea

February 9th, 2012
12:00 pm

Leggs – LOL…I’m done listening…seriously. I’m back to blogging. I’m gonna ask if I can get a copy of the deck once she’s done.

Leggs

February 9th, 2012
12:00 pm

@Celisea ~ you on those hallucinogens again (lol)?