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Single files: Love living alone?

I read a recent NY Times article that said single people are relishing living alone..a lot:

“More people live alone now than at any other time in history. In prosperous American cities — Atlanta, Denver, Seattle, San Francisco and Minneapolis — 40 percent or more of all households contain a single occupant”

Count me in that “living alone and probably loving it waaaay too much” number because I have literally spent an entire weekend alone on my couch before – and loved it.

Just as the article states, single people living alone have a pretty active social life. We come home and relish our space as well as the peace and quiet. Perhaps this in some way becomes yet another barrier to any of us actually settling down?

Does the thought of sharing your “castle” make you want to prolong your single life? Do we get too comfy in our homes to give it up?

If you live alone, what is the best part of it? What is the worst?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

222 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
4:46 pm

Kellibean…where you at girl?? You love to get ghost after you get us all talking about it.

I say, tell him, stick to it and don’t look back. Don’t fall for the okie doke but be smart about making your move. Quit worrying too, once he’s gone about what he’s doing.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
4:49 pm

@disco…It’s hard to be firm on my decision, but I HAVE to be. I don’t want this anymore. I don’t think there is anything he can do right now to buy more time. More importantly, he’s actually a nice enough guy to respect my thoughts on this. He agrees that it isn’t working out, even though we do still care about each other. He has too much baggage that he can’t let go of and I can’t try to take it from him anymore.

Yes…I have flaked before, but not this time. I’m really not a flaky person. I held onto a lot of hope and wishes for so long. Lately, I’ve seen the realities and know that I have to do what is best for me, no matter how much it hurts or how hard it is.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
4:50 pm

@Celisea…My IT person had to work on my computer and I couldn’t leave this up! :-)

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
4:52 pm

Why are u breaking up Kellie,what has he Not done?
all these years u been crying

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
4:54 pm

Kelliebean – I had to realize that I didn’t WANT to break up…I did it because I HAVE to

Okay and so what. You ain’t the first to pull the cord and was forced to do it. Again, nothing new. What do you think folks do that catch or learn their SO cheated? They go on and ride off because at that point, they have to. And what I’m saying, everbody likes the thought of knowing “I left them, they didn’t leave me” Okay, you’ll get your turn there. In this case though, you already know he’s not good for you and apparently not much you’re going to get out of it. What’s even sadder to say and you already know what to do. It will always lean his way. Do what you need to do and quit letting that other stuff rattle in your head.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
4:55 pm

Ex…all I’m going to say to you is that it finally came to a breaking point where I figured out that I’ve been waiting and hoping for too long. Maybe it should have been over sooner, but the time is now. I wanted us to be right together and we were in some ways, but so wrong in other ways.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
4:57 pm

I’m doing my best Celisea…I’m doing what is best for me and trying to keep the doubts and fears away…

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
5:01 pm

Get out of your head and you’ll be fine.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
5:02 pm

If any of you pray, will you please pray that I continue to be strong and firm in my decision? I would appreciate it. I’ll check back in and keep ya’ll posted, if ya’ll care…

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
5:02 pm

He beat u?

He cheat on u?
He abuse u?
????

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
5:02 pm

@KB ~ if you don’t want to wonder, you won’t wonder. You control your thought process, don’t let your thoughts get you all discombobulated. The power of thought rests with you.

Don’t worry if he’s pining for you. That too is detrimental to your growth. The worst thing you can do is sit there and conjure up scenarios in your head. You stay on that path and you won’t grow AT ALL.

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
5:04 pm

@Celisea ~ too funny, we are saying the same thing.

@KB ~ no disrespect, but you have to acquire a thicker skin. Sounds like you’re going to be your worst enemy.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
5:05 pm

I’m working on the thicker skin. I am my own worst enemy and I’m working hard to not be…

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
5:06 pm

I gotta run for the day…thanks for all the words…good and bad…

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
5:07 pm

Leggs – Yes we are

Kellibean – GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES….that’s no lie. You know what you need to do? Your eyes opened? Then there you have it. That’s all you’re getting. He’s already strengthen you to walk away. One foot in front of the other. Otherwise, you’re stuck and he’s not going to move you. Mind over matter.

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
5:09 pm

Kellibean – One other good thought….there are times when men pine for lost loves….just saying. All the time they don’t just drop it and never have an after thought….most times but definitely not EVERY TIME. Hope that’s consolation to fuel you moving your feet. Somehow you steps get higher when you know they know they lost a good one. May not bring ‘em back but them reflecting (for me) is good enough…lol

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
5:13 pm

Thick skin Kellie..?

imagine he is pining for u even when u don’t know that for sure or it’s not true.

That’s a comforting start.. :lol:

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
5:14 pm

@KB ~ I have a gf who thinks like you do, that’s why I think you are going to be your worst enemy. You are going to busy yourself and not wonder how he’s faring. He’s not your child to worry over, he’s a grown man that need to take care of himself. If you allow, the hurt will dissipate, but only if you want it to.

GreenEyeBandt

February 7th, 2012
8:03 pm

Single aint whats it cracked up to be. I think its natural for people to partner up and this “I love being single” thing is another symptom of a broken vain society that tries to pursue what may feel good but is ultimately bad for them. I can’t tell you how many people who “loved” being single and now they find themselves alone, and getting fat while pretending to be happy on blogs… I am here in atlanta, and soon as I can I am snatching a queen up and starting a family. if it dont work then it dont, but I wont be ending up like the cougars at taboo who chased me in the restroom or the old man with a pink suit on chasing 20 year olds…LOL

Maria

February 7th, 2012
8:16 pm

Living alone is ideal for me. I love having my own space and doing whatever I want to do when I want to do it. Sometimes I do the dishes and sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I buy groceries and sometimes I don’t. But I will say footing the bill for EVERYTHING can be a bit daunting; especially when you are unemployed. A dear friend has offered me a space in her two bed two bath home and i am really considering. While I hate to give up my space and my privacy, I need help financially. Plus I think it could be kinda nice to have someone around to talk to. I spend the majority of my time in silence because it’s just me.

Lily

February 7th, 2012
8:22 pm

I wonder why people always attack the bloggers here with their judgement? I wonder why people saying they like living alone NOT I like being alone and many other comments are often lost in translation to the sad at heart. I wonder why it’s hard to believ everybody’s not CONSUMED with sadness because they are. I wonder why the assume older or single women are fat.

HaHaHa

February 7th, 2012
9:22 pm

Newsflash GreenEyedBandt if it dont work then you did end up like the fat lonely bloggers you so despise. THATS funny