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Single files: Love living alone?

I read a recent NY Times article that said single people are relishing living alone..a lot:

“More people live alone now than at any other time in history. In prosperous American cities — Atlanta, Denver, Seattle, San Francisco and Minneapolis — 40 percent or more of all households contain a single occupant”

Count me in that “living alone and probably loving it waaaay too much” number because I have literally spent an entire weekend alone on my couch before – and loved it.

Just as the article states, single people living alone have a pretty active social life. We come home and relish our space as well as the peace and quiet. Perhaps this in some way becomes yet another barrier to any of us actually settling down?

Does the thought of sharing your “castle” make you want to prolong your single life? Do we get too comfy in our homes to give it up?

If you live alone, what is the best part of it? What is the worst?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

222 comments Add your comment

disco

February 7th, 2012
12:57 pm

leggs – it was indeed a kitchen chair. it was a midnight blue chair with chrome legs. I will never forget that chair. I held the back of the chair and swung the legs at him. caught him in the face. (not that I’m proud). looking back I know I was dead wrong.

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:01 pm

Okay, some of my post totally screwed up….lol I’ve been on the phone since 10:30 handing off the chick that’s replacing me so Imma so it’s her fault….lol

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
1:01 pm

I do have a question in terms of the topic. If you’ve been single for a long time, would you stop trying to find a mate and settle into a live style where you no longer even make yourself desirable to man? I know women do this.

kimmie - the original :)

February 7th, 2012
1:05 pm

Ex – I don’t know how old the lady was, but I’m assuming she was younger cause she wanted kids.

No he does not get a pass at 45 when all his friends are booed & daddied up and he’s still hitting the clubs. He does okay, but not great money-wise – blue-collar. It would be all cool if he were cool with it, but hubs told me he seemed kinda sad. Everyone has moved on that they went to school with, and he’s at a stand-still.

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:26 pm

poppin’ back in!

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
1:30 pm

I’m popping out..medicine is grabbing my eyelids shut.

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:31 pm

awww feel better will miss you today!

cba

February 7th, 2012
1:43 pm

According to Yahoo Travel, top ten dating cities:
1. Austin
2. Boston
3. Chicago
4. Miami
5. NO
6. NYC
7&8 Phoenix & Scottsdale
9. San Diego
10. San Fran

Willie Dynamite

February 7th, 2012
1:45 pm

Afternoon All,

What’s being discussed now?

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:45 pm

hmmmm cba mine would be chicago, nyc, san diego and maybe boston hmmmmmmm lol

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:46 pm

I want to go to the Super Bowl in New Orleans next year! I can drive to that cba! lol

SlimNu

February 7th, 2012
1:49 pm

I’m so ready to go I’m tempted to just leave work early and head to the gym. Ya ever have those days were everything and every irks you? :twisted:

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:51 pm

Slim I am having the same day! ugh lol

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:52 pm

a glass of wine in a few hours will make it all worth while lol

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:52 pm

It wouldn’t be like right if I didn’t have an everything irks me day…lol

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:54 pm

I just get so sick of dern meetings….I’ve had 3 today and 2 more to go. What kills me is folks putting planners on your calendar. I mean I know you have to accept to get it placed but sometimes I wanna ask…WTH?? I did call somebody yesterday and ask, ummm did you not see my email asking you to reschedule and include all parties? The answer was “oh, okay” Who does that???

Okay, that sounded a bit soapboxish…I’m off :)

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
1:55 pm

disco email me please ma’am wanna share something msjenkins8@gmail.com

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:56 pm

Wait….3 more meeting to go….

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
1:56 pm

going to take a well deserved and probing dump right now

cba

February 7th, 2012
1:58 pm

Lady~ keep hope alive, maybe the “dirty birds” will there. lol

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:58 pm

I got 4 minutes so I’ll say this quickly…to MMeello’s nasty 1:56. I did a potty run before my next call and why was it too funky to step up in there??? I thought about this morning’s convo…lol I sprayed so much Lysol, almost knocked my ownself out. I mean c’mon, there’s about 10 cans of spray. At least spray or take some matches in there. Don’t y’all act like you never heard of striking a match. That’ll kill the oder quicker than spray. I was striking matches on my kid Sunday…gheesh

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
1:59 pm

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:00 pm

yes sir I am~ ;)

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:00 pm

cba

February 7th, 2012
2:03 pm

Celisea~ you didn’t say matches……:shock:

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:06 pm

that is what I am cracking up @ cba old school LOL

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
2:19 pm

cba – C’mon know you know about matches….lol

Not sure what happened to my other post.

Lady – :)

SlimNu

February 7th, 2012
2:23 pm

Lady – Oooooh wine, that does sound so soothing right now.

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:27 pm

yep slim very soon

SlimNu

February 7th, 2012
2:27 pm

Can you all imagine if they implemented a 30 minute drink break at work & a 30 min nap period??

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:29 pm

hmmmmm Slim it would be abused!

Celisea

February 7th, 2012
2:31 pm

I just dern ready to go.

disco

February 7th, 2012
2:31 pm

Leggs – (re the 1:01) – I’ve settled into not trying to find a mate in the sense that I am not actively looking. no more asking folks if they know anyone. no internet dating. no singles groups or activities (other than a singles church group but that’s more for socialization than dating prospects). I go where I want, do what I want. if a guy turns up great, if not then it is what it is. still – on the flip side of that – I do always make sure that I’m looking presentable when I’m outside of the house. even if that’s just the grocery store or working out or whatever. I’m just in a comfortable place now. definitely no “woe is me” going on here. (except for when I need validation and then I CAN’T STAND being single).

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
2:33 pm

I used to love living alone. After I moved out of my parents house, I had my own place all to myself. Two years ago, I let my boyfriend move in too quickly. I liked the company. Now, we are breaking up and he’s moving out this weekend. I will have to get used to being alone again. I also bought a house last year, so now I have a house to be alone in and not just an apartment. It will be a huge adjustment. I know one thing…it will be a LONG time before living with a man again. It’s going to be very hard for a while, but I hope to get back to loving living alone…

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:34 pm

I go where I want, do what I want. if a guy turns up great, if not then it is what it is. <<<<<grown folks

Twin

February 7th, 2012
2:37 pm

Disco, that’s me to a “T”. I’m over 40, never married, no kids. Whatever to Exiled’s silly comments. My life is grand. Not actively looking for a man/relationship. If it happens, great. If not, still great. I’mma do me, And me is pretty darn terrific if I may say so.

SlimNu

February 7th, 2012
2:38 pm

kellibean – Why are you two breaking up?

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:39 pm

Slim sooooo O/T but I voted to but beer on Sunday and I am YET to purchase a lick on Sunday! LOL it just dawned on me I haven’t!

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
2:41 pm

It’s just not working…we are on separate wavelenghts. He’s not a bad guy, but he’s not capable of giving me what I want and need in a relationship. He’s too bitter and guarded because of past hurts. Until he can break down those walls, he will be able to be in a truly loving relationship with anyone. I keep telling myself that it’s not his fault…he is who he is. I tried and tried and just can’t do it anymore. We both know it’s not working and it’s time to let go. I do still hope that he is able to let go of his past hurts and open his heard and realize the good thing he is losing, but I’m not banking on it…

SlimNu

February 7th, 2012
2:49 pm

Lady – LOL, you’re all late and shyyyyyt. I think I bought some goose the 1st Sunday that CampCreek Licka stow was open on a Sunday. I felt like somebody that day. :lol:

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:51 pm

Lady~

February 7th, 2012
2:54 pm

peace out good people! ;)

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
3:00 pm

@disco ~ I was a little reluctant to go the online route but decided to give it a try. Some people fare well going that route, I haven’t. I am doing me. I’m happy with me, and I am always presentable and open if I should meet someone. I don’t club with the intention of nursing a drink at a table hitting on men walking by. I go every blue moon to dance and hang with friends. When a man is meant to walk across my path, is when a man will walk across my path. I won’t even say “if” it happens, because I know it will.

@Twin ~ thanks for posting. We all know Ex’s comments aren’t etched in cement. He may think so, but we know better.

@Kelliebean ~ he may be another poster child who misses the well when the water runs dry. If the relationship isn’t going where you want it to go, and you’ve talked it over and no change, you have to look out for yourself. This has been beaten to the ground here (as it should), if you’re not a priority, but only an option, change your status. Well, not exactly said like that

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
3:00 pm

Disco..do u own a vibrator?
do u miss it..oh maybe u call on ex when cobwebs get too heavy?

Twin…question above applies to u..are u a born again Christian..meaning fornication is a no no,like Celisea says?

Lady! Stop drinking beer from the bottle. Jaded women do that.

Exiled!

February 7th, 2012
3:06 pm

And Twin…u are never going to be in a relationship unless u address things(isdues)that make u not be in one.

No way a nice,beautiful chic is gon be alone..i j s

No way!

Either u dirty u talk too much and drive off guys argumentative can’t cook u butt ugly(face) high maintenance u easy and guys take u up for sport etc

No way u don’t have a man but u hope u will stumble on it!

My foot!

Seek and u shall find!

Chuurch say Amen!

disco

February 7th, 2012
3:07 pm

leggs – I know countless folks who have fared well on the internet. I went there a time or two but came back with nothing. it’s not for me. I’m just waiting on that chance random encounter.

ex – no I don’t own any self help tools. and ex I’ll join the congregation and say amen but heck I’m the one waiting to be found. so the brothers better get to seeking. “amen again”.

Kellibean

February 7th, 2012
3:08 pm

You’re right, Leggs…how many times have I been on here talking about our relationship? I’ve held out hope for too long. I guess I just finally got to my breaking point. I hope he is able to let go of the bitterness and bring down his guard one day so he can be happy, but that’s on him. I can’t keep waiting and hoping. It really stinks. This is all fresh because we just had the talk last night and it stings a lot, but I know it’s for the best. If you love something, let it go and if it comes back, it’s meant to be yours, right?

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
3:11 pm

Please close the doors to the church leaving the gentleman outside…thank you.

“No way a nice,beautiful chic is gon be alone..i j s” – men say this nonsense all the time. There are a lot of beautiful, nice women walking solo. In essence, Ex, you’re calling a woman a liar if she fits that description and she tells you she’s alone.

disco

February 7th, 2012
3:14 pm

not to sound pessimistic but kellibean we hope he’s moving out this weekend. sometimes it’s hard to put folks out.

leggs – what I think Ex meant (not that I’m siding with him) is that there’s no way a chick can’t get laid whenever she desires because some buster is always sniffing around. this I agree with. however he knows that getting some D and getting a commitment are two different things. AND getting some D and getting a commitment from someone you really like makes it four different things.

Leggs

February 7th, 2012
3:15 pm

@disco ~ I know many who have fared well online. I’m just saying I’m not “as of yet.” When my subscription expires, will not be renewing.

@Kellibean ~ you can only end something when you in fact get to that breaking point. I remember your story. If you feel you’ve exhausted all avenues, the next avenue to turn on is Getting Back To Me Boulevard.