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Dating: Scoring extra points?

Congratulations to the New York Giants! What a game that was, right? I am soo going to miss football though. So much so that you will have to humor me with this “game” themed post today.

If dating is a game, then who is keeping score? When it comes to sizing each other up, single people sure know how to assign extra points for the most random things.

For instance, I know a woman who agreed to go out with a guy because his car’s license plate was supporting Breast Cancer. I met a guy last night who asked a woman out because she mentioned that she was a gymnast in college. I know, random! (Also, blatant wishful thinking)

Apparently we meet and scrutinize one another because we believe that little things can add up to a lot. So what seemingly small thing are you impressed by? What is the most random reason you decided to ask someone out or agree to date someone?

Do you think that people meet you and give you “extra” points about something you do or say? Spill it!

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

219 comments Add your comment

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

I haven’t had the disappear to avoid a gift or incite a fight to break up but I’ve had one to step away a few days (during the trying to get it off the ground days) and honestly that insults me, my woman…all it it, every bit of me in every way. You can best believe you’re gonna hear about it. I might would hear you out if you came back all contrite but to come back skipping like nothing….whew….woo sah…lol

I’m a grown woman and I need to be feed. I wonder why grown men sometimes don’t get this. Being fed ain’t solely about sex either.

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
3:50 pm

disco – If you’re still influenced by other dudes, like you’re in high school, then yeah, stay gone. I need a real man that doesn’t have to get the green light from his boys to take care of home. Let one of them keep him warm at night!LOL!!!

i'm swiss

February 6th, 2012
3:50 pm

Having said that, V-day is some retail, Hallmark, FTD made up BS. Extorsion, I say! :lol:

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
3:51 pm

I don’t all the time it’s about where you stack on the totem pole, sometimes I think it’s one of those things where a man will do what he can until he can’t.

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
3:51 pm

Swiss – Soooo what are you doing for the Mrs this V-day? hahahahaha

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
3:53 pm

Cel – Co sign 3:51. Some Women as well.

i'm swiss

February 6th, 2012
3:54 pm

Willie D — Cooking her a nice dinner at home, with a good bottle of wine & giving her a good, ahem, servicing. :lol:

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
3:55 pm

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
3:57 pm

I’ve not had one to disappear on me, but I’ve had a few to “act” cheap and stank around that time, when generally they were not that way before. I had one to claim he didn’t “believe” in Vday, yet he “believed” the year before!

Thinking back, it’s just what Swiss said – they didn’t think very much of me to even try to do the bare minimum!

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
3:59 pm

WillieD – We’re gonna have to celebrate your WLB membership. If we can’t get no one else, you will make an appearance, keeping this from become an all girls social blog…lol

Swiss – Imma need you to show up at least a couple of times a week. Bring ya “freshness”, it seems to rally others…lol

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:00 pm

Some of your fellow WLB members only want to make an appearance if we go subpar…I kid I kid

SlimNu

February 6th, 2012
4:01 pm

swiss – Sounds like you hit the nail on the head plus the stuff that WD said as well.

Can you imagine a dude having the “Reason why i’m not buying you a gift convo” with a chick he’s been dealing with for a while. Where is For Real when you need him?

Leggs

February 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Awwww, V-day is indeed next week.

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Swiss – atta boy, no different than a random Tuesday in June. Just for GP Monday night 12:01 wake her up and…………. HAVE AT IT (seriously).

Cel – be careful, be very careful. I may be domesticated and all that but you do not I repeat do NOT want me just chillin all up in the hen house.

disco

February 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

I actually did forget about valentine’s day (or maybe I just chose not to think about it). happens when you are single. I have to buy myself something. don’t know what but I will be looking to get some chocolate covered strawberries for sure.

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:08 pm

WillieD – No no no…just drop by enough to keep the estrogen level in balance…lol Noooooooooooo feathers would be flying everywhere…lol

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

February 6th, 2012
4:09 pm

I’ve not had one to disappear on me, but I’ve had a few to “act” cheap and stank around that time,

I haven’t gotten any disappearing acts either but with some of the things I’ve gotten…disappearing would’ve been better. I’ve had ONE v-day to remember….uno. Hopefully Mr. Bermuda won’t disappoint….cause got some Victoria’s Secrets I wouldn’t mind sharing with him ;-) :oops:

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:10 pm

I just played PREX for 42 points :)

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Slim – If he’s been dealing with ME awhile, he knows he better be straight up! Plus, if he’s having financial problems, 9 times out of 10 the woman knows this. If she’s expecting him to go all out and he can’t pay his rent, well then dude knows what he’s dealing with. The anxiety at that point should not be necessary. See I’m ride-or-die – I want you to go on and pay that rent and that car note so you’ll have a roof & transportation to get to work. Them roses will die(though I appreciate them if you got it like that, don’t get me wrong!)

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

My kid asked if I would take her and “that boy” to Maggianos for VDay. Nevermind if I got plans or want to do something…lol

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

February 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Just for GP Monday night 12:01 wake her up and…………. HAVE AT IT

Hercules…hercules…herculeeees…

Talk about a good start to the day..

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:12 pm

I ain’t trying to double with no kids….ut uh

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

February 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

My kid asked if I would take her and “that boy” to Maggianos for VDay

Awww ain’t that special…I understand your second point Celisea about having your own plans but taking the chirren to Maggiano’s sounds soo cute.

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
4:19 pm

Cel – hahaha, not the feathers flying. what do you take me for?

Kimmie – I would expect nothing less out of you. Lets be realistic here, right.

Sassy – I take it your V-day gift to him will be a gift bag; 1 bottle of gatorade, 1 sweat towel emblazoned with his initials and 1 re-inforced head board (courtesy of Home Depot DIY learn at home video),.

SlimNu

February 6th, 2012
4:21 pm

Chapperoning for VDay :lol:

kimmie – I’m like you, just let me know what’s going on in your world. I’m grown enough to understand but don’t try to set me up for the okie doke because that is not cool

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:22 pm

Hey Sassy – I’m thinking to either do me the weekend and them VDay or vice versa. I did tell her, I’m only paying for mine so he better come strapped (okay that’s strong for a kid) and ready to pay for both their meals.

WillieD – Ha…that was funny….”what do I take you for” A ROOSTER!!!!

Mike P

February 6th, 2012
4:27 pm

the gift problem is simple… don’t pick-up any new chicks between November thru Feb 14. and no (real) birthday gifts expectancy without experiencing a consistent, progressive, 3 month dating pattern with No-Flaking from said chick!

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Willie – This lady I used to work with years back had just gotten married to a dude that had filed bankruptcy and was barely making his child support payments. She was walking around pouting about the dozen roses he sent her! She hadn’t too long cosigned on a car for him, but she expected “more” for Vday than “just” the roses!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

February 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

Whateva Willie!! :lol:

My gift to him will be a long bath followed by a massage, some lingerie that he remarked about in passing one day at the mall….and some new things I’d like to show him. He’s cooking one of my favorite meals and has warned me to be sure to get my rest the day before…. This dude is my kryptonite…and I like it :mrgreen:

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
4:33 pm

Cel – you aint right (didn’t say you were a Liar either) but you aint right.

Mike P – I been around a few dudes that subscribed to your Calendar. Matter of Fact Feb.14th is the official start to Free Agency (according to the playas handbook).

Kimmie – Are they still Married?

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:36 pm

WillieD – Mmm hmmm, can’t bring yourself to deny it…lol It’s okay.

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:38 pm

Wow – 9 month calendar year w/a 3 month black out period.

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
4:38 pm

Willie – Far as I know, yes. See the thing is, she did that flexing, pouting, around us in the office. I got a sneaky suspicion she wouldn’t pull that mess around old dude! I met him before, and dude didn’t seem to take no mess!

But you never know what goes on behind closed doors!!

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

Cel – hunh, what

Kimmie – you right cause we all know behind closed doors buddy might have that leg shaker.

Honestly, take a look at all the V-day gifts you have ever gotten and who they came from and what they mean to you NOW. Just guessing but; 70% were average (non-memorable), 20% were BAD,BAD BAD as in NEXT, Less than 10% were memorable (long-term SO or Hubby), and really prolly 1-2 in your whole life that you will remember forever just cause (whether you with the dude or not).

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

February 6th, 2012
4:44 pm

and really prolly 1-2 in your whole life that you will remember forever just cause (whether you with the dude or not).

I soo cosign..

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:45 pm

Honestly for Vday, if a dude has been on point and pretty decent the whole time, I’m not looking for him to pull out all the stops. I just want a nice time. I’m more impressed on “just because” days.

disco

February 6th, 2012
4:46 pm

mike p – back in my “female player” youth my birthday was always the 17th of whatever month was coming up next.

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:47 pm

My mama made sure she bought all of us girls something every year. Nothing over the top but just something nice and thoughtful.

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
4:49 pm

Celisea – Yeah, I’m not expecting miracles on V-day if you’ve been coming up short all along!LOL!!

Willie – I do remember maybe 20% of them, and none of them broke the bank! We had a fun time and dude was just thoughtful.

kimmie - the original :)

February 6th, 2012
4:50 pm

Celisea – My dad would always put a small box of chocolates on all the girls bed the night before! :)

Leggs

February 6th, 2012
4:51 pm

I haven’t gotten the disappearing act, but I have been an after thought. I remember one guy gave me one of the V-day gifts he was selling in the club as a side hustle. I figured he thought I would be impressed, but I wasn’t in the least! Cheap club gifts are never a way to go unless both of you are at the table already drunk when the dude walks by hawking his wares!!!!

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:52 pm

Kimmie – Exactly. Too, I think our parents wanted us to know and show by example..here’s what to expect. I’m not saying it in a way of feeling “entitled”…don’t mean it like that but you know, letting you know “you’re special.” Birthdays and VD, once we got older and money was a bit better for them.

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
4:52 pm

Okay here is an official trade request.

On behalf of the MLB I’d like to request a trade for Disco(per her 4:46 post). We are offering HST(cause we really don’t don’t know the difference in designer purses, really dude) and a player to be named later.

Mike P

February 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

@Willie Dynamite: My calendar system isn’t about being a player, its about not being PLAYED, not trynna be a seasonal sponsor for nothing… If a women isn’t interested in me (or acting flaky) during the spring or summer months, then don’t be knocking at my door when its cold outside, im just saying.

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
4:55 pm

WillieD – Just as long as you don’t send over a manny wearer and the terms are something those being traded can come to terms with. We’ll need a balance. We need somebody don’t go moist every other day.

disco

February 6th, 2012
4:58 pm

awww. Willie D – I’m flattered. (I think). but the trade request does sort of seem like a compliment.

Celisea

February 6th, 2012
5:00 pm

Night folks!

i'm swiss

February 6th, 2012
5:01 pm

disco — Just so you know, don’t be offended when we smack your azz in the shower after the game. It just means we’ve accepted you as one of our own. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

February 6th, 2012
5:05 pm

Mike P – no dissrepect sir, good answer.

Cel – playa to be named later is just that. We don’t have any control over future tendencies. Deal is open until 2/13.

Disco – It is indeed an compliment. I/we like how you think.

Leggs

February 6th, 2012
5:07 pm

@Mike P ~ yeah man, I’m just saying…. (lol). But, you’re right!