A Good Wife?
I believe there are a lot of single women who think about what kind of mate they want to be. I know I have thought about it from time to time. My ideas about what I think would make a “good wife” does not always align with those of the men that I date.
Whenever the topic of marriage or “wife” duties come up, I always perk up and pay attention to what guys say. They usually have very specific things they believe a good wife should do. Always makes for an enlightening discussion!
This is probably a good discussion to have when you are serious. I think a lot of married couples are surprised when they realize how much they differ from their spouse’s expectations of a husband/wife.
What really informs a man’s idea about what makes a good wife, though? What informs a woman’s idea about what makes a good wife?
What do you think is most important?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
January 31st, 2012
3:29 pm
@Celisea ~ when I read the post on her having herpes I thought he was yanking our chain too..
“I won’t stay in the relationship to fix her problems. – Can easily walk away.
I also won’t abandon the relationship because she has problems.” – Can’t walk away….Ok, then you’re stuck. You’ve heard about that drug where people are stuck in place…can’t move, don’t even think they can blink. That’s what you sound like.
I’m not saying what you’re doing is bad, just recognized why you’re doing it and don’t put all the blame on Gina.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:31 pm
Willie – 3:27…LOL I almost spit out my tea
disco – Something in the milk ain’t clean (no pun intendec). Ain’t that how it goes?
kimmie - the original :)
January 31st, 2012
3:31 pm
Celisea, how was the Kardashian store? I know it is expensive, but do they have some cute things?
disco
January 31st, 2012
3:32 pm
Willie D – did you miss the day where I said I wasn’t a team player? I’m sure I’d end up charged with something fooling with fred.
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
3:33 pm
Cel – ok, Miami was boring, except for buddy (4am mustv’e had a helluva time). What about Orlando? Don’t tell me about the folks. I wanna know about YOU.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:34 pm
Leggs – That’s why I don’t like to comment…that might be selfish…too much with unknowns. Not saying all are not welcomed but don’t be trying to pull me into your bullcrappery. I don’t like giving out advice on a fake story. You know? I think it’s good if folks can come here and drop a hint of a situation and solicit a bit of feedback but to tug on folks heartstring in giving out SOLICITED advice and you’re faking all along? So not cool.
Willie – I’m waiting for the annoucement for this year’s conference.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:38 pm
disco – 3:32…I LOL for real
Kimmie – We walked I know 10 miles at least got there a bit after 8:00 and some chick was coming back to go in. I asked if I could at least have a bag for a souvenier but she said no. It was rough (the streets) walking down there…lol I was scared as heck. We saw folks hooking and all. The guy I walked down there with kept saying it’ll be alright…lol I did take pictures though from the outside. I still have those.
Willie – Yeah, he said he was taking it to his grave. Wonder what he did?
Orlando was a bit wild…when I got there (took a later flight) folks were already drunk. Me and a coworker went out.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:39 pm
No shenanigans though. Just about everybody (from what I hear), came back way over in the wee hours of the morning. I got back in before midnight
Shoot, I was tired.
Fred
January 31st, 2012
3:42 pm
Ya’ll, collectively, are a trip!
None of this is made up. It’s funny to see people think I’m “yanking your chain.” What would I get out of that? I’m an anonymous person to you all, as you are to me.
Anyway, please put aside all the psychological issues that you think I have for a moment, if you can, and let me hear your opinion on the herpes thing.
When I found out, we were 2 months or so into our relationship, in which we got very close very quickly. After I had gone out with 25 different women, none of whom rang my bell. So I’m not jumping on the first good thing to come along.
I researched herpes and it just doesn’t seem that worrisome to me. She believes she was exposed to it in 1991, a little before her marriage, and it took 20 years to come to fruition. It is giving her no problems on a daily basis.
When I heard “herpes”, I thought, “Oh My God.” I really didn’t know much about it but it sounded bad. When I researched it, turns out it’s pretty common.
57% of people in the US have HSV-1, and 16% of people in the US have HSV-2. Most people who have HSV-2 are not aware they have it. In other words, the symptoms aren’t even manifesting themselves. This was Gina’s situation for 20 years. And the symptoms are that you might have a mild outbreak every now and then. We’re not talking about AIDS here.
So should I really exit a relationship because of it? Am I crazy? Or crazier than you already thought?
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:44 pm
This year though, I’m having a drink or two and I’m hanging out
Unless we’re treated like school kids again…lol
Honestly Fred, knowing you’ve been exposed, I sort of hope you stay and stay off the market…shrugs
kimmie - the original :)
January 31st, 2012
3:45 pm
Celisea – That’s wild!LOL!! As for your other post, you’re not being selfish by not wanting to comment on something on here. A lot of these troll dudes come on all holier-than-thou spouting out their so-called advice or asking for opinions. Chump is too good a word to describe sicko, lying Fred.
Yeah Fred, I called you sicko. Cause even if your mess you put on here is true, you are a lowdown dirty dog for putting out stuff like that, even if the names have been changed!
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
3:46 pm
“Fred, herpes….really? If this is true me thinks you have low self esteem.”
@PR ~ you’re just figuring that out??
disco
January 31st, 2012
3:47 pm
not that I’m instigating but why did kimmie come back with “yeah I said it”.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:48 pm
Exactly Kimmie exactly….I wanna run when I see the trolls getting riled.
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
3:49 pm
Cel – you good, have you some fun. Although I am really having fun translating all that you didn’t say. lol
Purple
January 31st, 2012
3:50 pm
Fred I woud not date anyone with Herpes, there is still a chance that you will get it. If you already have it….have fun. Crazy is worse than herpes because you can treat herpes and most crazy people don’t know that they are crazy they rationalize their feelings as normal. Crazy with Herpes is a bad mix and your girl is definitely crazy. But you seem kind of crazy yourself so it may work out…hang in there…lol
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
3:51 pm
Disco – if you didn’t know Kimmie is a lil hand grenade.
kimmie - the original :)
January 31st, 2012
3:51 pm
disco – Sho did! And we don’t need all those long a– posts with STD statistics either! He really can go somewhere with that mess!
Purple
January 31st, 2012
3:52 pm
Leggs, I have been skimming and not really reading all of the entries. I usually just read those that I am familiar with then when I see them speaking about a certain topic I pay attention to that person. I guess I’m allergic to BS and know how to skip over it or be done with it quickly…unless I feel like joking around.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:53 pm
Willie – Honest question for you…why do you think I’m bad to the bones and just won’t say? I’m waiting
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:54 pm
What’s even more frightening? Fred could be a regular blogging post alongside us everyday. Now THAT’S a scary thought.
disco
January 31st, 2012
3:55 pm
kimmie – I just flashed back on a childhood cheer. did y’all used to do cheers? anyway, one in particular the group called out “mmm. she think she bad” and then she’d reply with “mmm. I know I’m bad”.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
3:55 pm
I don’t think anything has crazy written all over it more than that
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
3:56 pm
@Fred ~ that’s only because trolls come on and make up stuff to purposely get us riled up. Since you say you’re going through all that, all I can do is wish you the best. But you must understand the depth of her pain and her daughter going to live with her father. Hell, I may be projecting my own pain if it happened to me. But, no doubt it hurts her and the shameful stigma of a DUI has rocked her. Good luck…
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
3:58 pm
@Fred ~ we probably all have some form of the herpes inside us. Herpes is a form of fever blisters. When we used to break out with a fever blister as a kid, no biggie. Get some ointment and wait for it to heal. Now with AIDS, a fever blister is now looked upon like leprosy. There are different stages, so ask.
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:00 pm
I hear ya, PR!
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:01 pm
I mean fever blisters are a form of herpes….
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
4:03 pm
Cel – Honestly, I don’t think you are bad to the bones at all.
kimmie - the original :)
January 31st, 2012
4:04 pm
Celisea – I don’t care if he is a regular, just quit highjacking the blog with all that fake drama. And if it’s real, quit blasting you & girls business on a public blog. Nothing scary about it to me, cause it has no effect whatsoever on me & mine.
Purple
January 31st, 2012
4:04 pm
Leggs who is “we” I’ve never had a fever blister…nor AIDS..LOL
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:05 pm
Willie – Gotcha. I’m cool telling and sharing some stories. I just don’t have many. Imma get some this year though to report…lol
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:06 pm
Me too Kimmie. That’s why I go silent when all the “weird” folks suddenly pop in. I tryna cosign fake or distorted stories. More than likely it’s a reverse scene…lol
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:07 pm
I ain’t…is what I meant
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
4:08 pm
Cel – some stories (un hunh). Please don’t report the 2012 stories, I like translating them myself thank you very much.
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:08 pm
@PR ~ sorry, we wasn’t the right word. I just remember growing up seeing lots of people with fever blisters.
Fred
January 31st, 2012
4:11 pm
Thanks everybody. I really appreciate everyone not making quick immature judgments. You are about as helpful as my living room wall.
The most interesting thing I learned today is that only someone with low self-esteem would date someone with herpes. That is fascinating.
And 1 out of 6 people have herpes. So several of you on this board.
Have a great day.
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:12 pm
That didn’t sound right either. I remember seeing children with fever blisters….
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:13 pm
“You are about as helpful as my living room wall.” – Then why the hell you put all that out there if you felt that way???
Fred
January 31st, 2012
4:14 pm
“Hijacking the blog” — most days, the posts on this blog are as exciting as tuna fish. People are posting about their lunch plans, or what they’re doing after work, anything but the topic at hand.
It is unfortunate you had to spend so much time scrolling past my “fake” posts. But since I don’t have low self-esteem, forget you and may you find a blog where all posts are filtered so you can just hear about the very specific topic to be commented on. I think you will find them quite boring.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:15 pm
Alright then Willie, just make right assessments please sir
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
4:15 pm
And there we have it. Bone fish grill azz, Buster azz, Barry azz Barry azz.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
And your asinine story was much better? I take the tuna stories please
Fred so you know us?
Willie Dynamite
January 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
Cel – right to who? In my mind they are plenty right. lol Don’t worry you translate very well and respectable.
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
@Fred ~ calm your narrow a$$ down. I was simply asking. I didn’t say anything about wasting time, just asked why you post if you already knew nothing said would be useful….
AND, this blog NEVER talks about the specific topic posted for than a few hours.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:17 pm
For real…lol
Fred
January 31st, 2012
4:18 pm
leggs, i didn’t know how silly and immature some people would be on this board. I check it out occasionally but not every day. I really don’t mind the insults — we’re all anonymous here and I don’t take it personally because if you knew me, you would love me — but towards the end many people seemed to think it was fake and/or just took an opportunity to blast “the troll”, leading to my ultimate conclusion.
Celisea
January 31st, 2012
4:18 pm
WillieD – Awwwwww thanks! Any crazy in there you read?
Leggs
January 31st, 2012
4:18 pm
@WillieD ~ as soon as he said herpes, thought it was him…only one person has ever bought up the topic of herpes in the years I’ve been blogging.
disco
January 31st, 2012
4:19 pm
speaking of meal plans – I am less than two hours away from curried something or other and some rice and peas. think I could go for some plantains too. can’t wait.
cba
January 31st, 2012
4:19 pm
Dam WD, I just thinking MCH or was it just MH?