Dating perks: The gushy stuff
As much as I hear single people proclaim their love of being free, those same people will completely trade it all in to be with someone great. Single life has its moments, but how awesome is it to meet someone and be caught up in the haze of “love”..be honest!
That butterfly feeling you get when you see them calling. The naughty thoughts you have about them during the day. Waking up next to a person who literally makes you feel like you can conquer the world…all that gushy stuff is FUN.
What do you think are the perks of dating a great match? Do you enjoy the getting to know you part the most? Do you relish slipping into a comfortable routine with one another and merging lives the best?
Sometimes, it’s the little things that you get those gushy feelings over! What’s your favorite?
Guys – we know you get that gushy feelings too – no judgment, though! What is your favorite thing about a new romance?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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233 comments Add your comment
czBrat
January 27th, 2012
10:22 am
does that mean you have arrived in a sense?!?
lady, the work i’ve done thus far has been primarily for the betterment of myself and my kids. being in this committed relationship means (to me) that i “have arrived” at a place where i get to keep putting that work in, but now learn to factor in the betterment of another person and of US. in other words, getting here is not my destination … it’s just a new path on a continuing journey.
MrsTazzee
January 27th, 2012
10:23 am
Hey Kimmie! Hubby was singing (well trying to) Love on Top this morning as I got my window kiss. LOL, he had the words and tune all wrong, but I loved every second.
Window kiss – every morning he walks me to my car and I get a kiss through the window. If I don’t get my window kiss, my day doesn’t go right…
kimmie - the original :)
January 27th, 2012
10:23 am
disco – I don’t know a lot of women that refer to a BF as their husband! When dating, I would have never wanted a guy to hear me refer to him as that. I would not want him to think I was trying to sweat him! I can’t stand to hear dudes refer to their girlfriend as wifey either. It’s kinda ghetto to me, cause I think in my head he has no intentions of making it official. Now if she’s really his wife, it’s okay, just a pet name.
Celisea
January 27th, 2012
10:24 am
I agree too, if you’re not married then…… I think it’s nice and respectfuly of folks saying they’re exclusive but marriage offically takes you off the market and out of the game.
MrsTazzee
January 27th, 2012
10:25 am
Hey Lady~ How are you friend?
kimmie - the original :)
January 27th, 2012
10:27 am
Mrs Taz – That’s so sweet, I love it!!!!
You guys are like us – we are always touching too! Funny, I was really like that with any other guy until him.
Celisea
January 27th, 2012
10:27 am
Lady – I think you don’t have to reinvent the wheel but I think ever evolving is required…
I don’t you ever “arrive.” I think you make strides and overcome but being that we are two different individuals, we have to keep working at it.
kimmie - the original :)
January 27th, 2012
10:29 am
Taz – Doing great! Almost done with that wonderful book your friend wrote!
MrsTazzee
January 27th, 2012
10:29 am
Kimmie – that means we got the right one. Guys I dated before would get on my nerves if they were up under me as much as he is.
disco
January 27th, 2012
10:31 am
kimmie – before I got to your ghetto part I was thinking I should have added this occurs in my more ghetto circles. they are also prone to referring to folks at their in-laws. again I want to say – that’s not your mother in law, it’s your baby’s grandmother. guess I just need to stay in my lane.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:31 am
czBrat I needed that sis!!!!!
MS C just said that!!!! I needed that!!!!
Thank you ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes Tazzee is my friend and I heart her positive energy! Love IT!
kimmie - the original :)
January 27th, 2012
10:31 am
I was NOT that way with any other guy, but yall got it!
czBrat
January 27th, 2012
10:32 am
aaahhhh, slim. that post is a hit in my book all day long!
You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you,
i like to refer to that process as becoming real, real good at being real, real independent.
and yes, he has put the kibosh on that process.
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
10:33 am
Hey, MrsTazzee! 20 months in…wonderful!
@SlimNu ~ that description is a true depiction of what love will do to a person. Albeit negative, the flip side when all gels together is worth taking a chance on love. To walk around scared of the unknown is just what Lady said, is to “risk even more…”
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:36 am
Amen Leggs! I have finally open my heart to risk to love again and I tell you it feels liberating! My smile is easier and I am becoming less guarded ~
SlimNu
January 27th, 2012
10:39 am
Leggs – True, and as crazy as it may sound, I’m not scared of love. If anything, I’d be scared to live a life without it.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:41 am
And Slim just think I told myself I didn’t want it or the benefits almost felt I didn’t deserve it but that has change….your mind is a powerful complex tool and hurt and make you lose sight
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
10:45 am
Love Bey’s “Love on Top.” She is singing her heart out on that song.
@Lady ~ your smile is brighter, your skin is softer, your eyes twinkle more, your level of understanding is heightened simply because you have more patience to hear out your significant other’s point of view.
@SlimNu ~ that’s my stance as well. I don’t think we are meant to grow old alone. There’s someone for everyone on this Earth. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to wait until another party is finished with them.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:46 am
Tears Ms Leggs!!!!!!!!! Chills!!!! Thank You!
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
10:47 am
@Lady ~ I heard you speak of “keeping your distance” yesterday. Not to be nosey, but are you trying to implement the 60-day rule. I’m a firm believer that all rules are meant to be broken (as long as they don’t wind me up in jail, it’s bendable).
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:47 am
There’s someone for everyone on this Earth. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to wait until another party is finished with them. <<<<<<<<Yes indeed!
MrsTazzee
January 27th, 2012
10:49 am
“Unfortunately, sometimes we have to wait until another party is finished with them.”
That’s some truth right there Leggs!
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:50 am
no ma’am not at all……the physical attraction is super overdrive mode (so I am just cutting through that for the both of us and things have settled in a sense bc we have been very candid in recent talks) and I am glad we have yet to meet actually. yes I met him online and we have been conversing for about a month and he went out his way to find where I work and had flowers delivered yesterday…….I haven’t met him yet but Sunday we will…..I am in no rush if that makes sense
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:52 am
Ex made a great point about a wolf in sheep’s clothing….hell no one is perfect but I am not singing up for fool either……..
My overall point is I am truly open to consider a real relationship and to get to know someone….that is growth for me….my wall has been standing for a minute
czBrat
January 27th, 2012
10:53 am
slim, i’ve never thought of it as being scared of love or even being afraid to love. i love love. but i do recognize that i intentionally limit how deep i will allow myself to fall. never any deeper than i KNOW i can safely climb back out.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
10:55 am
we are both divorced one child a piece both had our rebound post divorce relationships blah blah blah so we will see what the future holds. I have been clear about my needs and wants and how I am not dealing with incongruousness.
czBrat
January 27th, 2012
10:58 am
wishing you all the best, lady. and no matter what the future holds for you and your gentleman, i am happy that you are happy in THIS moment. cheers!
MrsTazzee
January 27th, 2012
11:00 am
I’m happy for you Lady~ (I like putting the squiggly after your name) – happy you’re open to love.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:00 am
Thanks Mrs. Tazzee!!!! It was a process~
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:01 am
Thanks czBrat!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
11:03 am
“the physical attraction is super overdrive mode”
“I am in no rush if that makes sense” – sounds like two emotions battling each other.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:04 am
yep that is why I am trying not to cloud rational decision making…..I know the physical results….Its time for something new~
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
11:04 am
Glad your wall is down, Lady. I know you’ve been working on some things. Congrats and hope the chemisty is just as strong when you two meet. Go get yours, chica…
Into the Light
January 27th, 2012
11:06 am
@Lady~ I’m happy for you!! Being open to love feels like it opens you up to so much more in life – more of everything!
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:06 am
and a FWB isn’t what I want LOL!!!!!! #dead
But it is only fair that in the start you are more physically attractive to that person bc you don’t know the real deal yet sooooooo I have no 60 day rule period…When I am comfy and it feels like what I want it will work in my favor
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:07 am
yes it does ITL~!!!!!!
Leggs thanks for being apart of my journey!
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
11:08 am
Note to self: let the necessary parties know “I am not dealing with incongruousness.”
Leggs
January 27th, 2012
11:09 am
Awww, that’s sweet, Lady! You are more than welcome.
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:09 am
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~
Into the Light
January 27th, 2012
11:11 am
Lady~ if I may ask, what did you do to mentally/emotionally prepare yourself to wade back in the water?
PS – I’m with MrsTazzee , love the squiggle ~~~~~~
SlimNu
January 27th, 2012
11:12 am
Great song lyrics for the topic
http://www.metrolyrics.com/one-and-only-lyrics-adele.html
cz – Your post reminds me of a line in Turning Tables by Adele where she says she won’t let him close enough to hurt her. You build walls high enough to keep folks from getting in, you’ll end up not being able to get out
But I understand, sometimes it hurts to love
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:14 am
ITL it was a discombobulated journey. I wouldn’t advise it to anyone but it finally meshed and is working in my favor. I don’t regret my experiences post my divorce they all were lessons to be learned. It is no one thing but just know I came through and I refuse to let it define me~ LOL I am FREE! LOL
czBrat
January 27th, 2012
11:18 am
slim, for me it’s always been about rationalizing. i build those walls high, wide and thick. the man that makes it up, over or through … and safely across the moat, is quite welcome to get close enough to
hurtheal me.SlimNu
January 27th, 2012
11:19 am
From across the room, i am sneaking peeks at you and it makes me smile. It turns into a game at times, as I keep a watchful eye for any sign that you’ll catch me. Then I think, if I get caught how will I play that off?… but I continue to take that chance…My mind is all over the place but you can always tell when it get mischievous because that smile comes with hungry eyes. I say hungry eyes because my thoughts awaken a hunger for you…a hunger filled with passion, excitement, desire. The mental picture I paint in my head could be part of any hot, steamy novel about us. Your dark, smooth, silky skin that I imagine being covered by my kisses. Your strong, stern physique…those arms…chest…overall that seems untamable, I picture coming to me and embracing me w/such a firm gentleness. Your dark sexy eyes, I picture connecting w/mine After they’ve scanned my body. If your eyes could talk, I’d hear them saying how sexy you found me to be, tracing my lips to my neckline, over my shoulders to the small yet engourged breasts, canvassing over my super erect nipples as if you wouldn’t mind a taste…to tracing my small curvey waste, admiring my body art before you glimpse down to my moist nature. Even though it only takes a second for this process, it feels like time stops to allow a slow summary taken of my body.
My breathing now deepens and my body seems to move w/o instruction. I’m anticipating your smell…that smell I look forward to so many times…that smell that makes me feel home. But more so, I yearn for your touch…the chills I get from the first contact of your lips to my skin. My head is thinking so far ahead that I just wanna take you, straddle you, kiss u passionately and let my love pour out BUT I want to be patient. I don’t want to rush…I want to be submissive to your plan and let u have me in the way u want to. You have a hunger and I’m the meal. Strongly anticipating the entrance of your stiff throbbing manhood inside me…wanna grab your back in a tight embrace…and let our lovemaking be the pen in the writing of our own real live poem…souls connecting. All this so overwhelming, I can see my eyes welting up with tears. Tears bc I’m being in the moment with you, so open and all that is inside is overflowing. Then that moment is close…the moment when u go into a different dimension and all is ok and nothing matters but here & now. Our previously moving bodies are at a halt but the warmth still remains as the only sound is that of our rapidly beating hearts. Thinking there is no place else I’d rather be….
Into the Light
January 27th, 2012
11:20 am
^5, Lady~
kimmie - the original :)
January 27th, 2012
11:34 am
Who was it that was dating the guy that wanted to go to medical school? Was it you, Light?
Into the Light
January 27th, 2012
11:34 am
Not me, Kimmie. I do remember that, though….
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:38 am
that was me Kimmie and it went nowhere I failed to mentioned he lived in Memphis and with that it just never mesed
Into the Light
January 27th, 2012
11:38 am
You have a hunger and I’m the meal
Have mercy…somebody pass me a fan….
Lady~
January 27th, 2012
11:39 am
he went to friend zone…he looked great on paper but not for me long term