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Dating perks: The gushy stuff

As much as I hear single people proclaim their love of being free, those same people will completely trade it all in to be with someone great. Single life has its moments, but how awesome is it to meet someone and be caught up in the haze of “love”..be honest!

That butterfly feeling you get when you see them calling. The naughty thoughts you have about them during the day. Waking up next to a person who literally makes you feel like you can conquer the world…all that gushy stuff is FUN.

What do you think are the perks of dating a great match? Do you enjoy the getting to know you part the most? Do you relish slipping into a comfortable routine with one another and merging lives the best?

Sometimes, it’s the little things that you get those gushy feelings over! What’s your favorite?

Guys – we know you get that gushy feelings too – no judgment, though! What is your favorite thing about a new romance?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

233 comments Add your comment

will i am

January 27th, 2012
7:03 am

It’s just happened to so and it’s GREAT!

will i am

January 27th, 2012
7:04 am

should be to “me”

King

January 27th, 2012
7:45 am

The endless opportunities of where it could lead.

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
7:55 am

Awwwww King so true!!!! Happy Friday MIA!!!!!

kimmie

January 27th, 2012
8:08 am

The feeling you get on Friday’s when you’ve been away from each other all week and you know he’s coming home and you can’t wait to see him.

Bill Clinton

January 27th, 2012
8:30 am

Well……Jennifer, gushy…Paula, groggy…Monica, gooey….I just love new romances…..

Rob

January 27th, 2012
8:30 am

Her eyes! The way she looks at me is Priceless.

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
8:55 am

one perk is is a clean slate……..not making one’s past relationship a headliner…..just a refreshing state learning someone new……the good, bad, flaws, pet peeves, and so on……….even red flags……

Leggs

January 27th, 2012
8:55 am

When coupled up, it’s a wonderful thing to build on the “anticipation” of seeing each other. The delight one gets when seeing an email from them, their name across their phone screen, etc. is a stimulant that makes the day a little better.

“Do you relish slipping into a comfortable routine with one another and merging lives the best?” – Kinda sorta. We all need a “routine,” yet even that “routine” needs to be shakened up every so often.

KaiserSoze

January 27th, 2012
8:57 am

Slipping into that comfortable routine and merging lives together is the best part. Falling asleep with her in my arms, waking up next to her in the morning, sharing a cup of coffee in the early morning hours. Those are the real feelings of falling in love, after the first few months of butterflies and infatuation fall to the side you can really tell if you’re going to be together if you enjoy time together while not doing anything, or you can just pick up and go without really making plans and have a great time together.

A quick call to say good morning after days we haven’t been together, a text before bed to say good night, a mid-day email letting me know she’s thinking about me. Those are the things that really make me feel like I matter in her life.

KaiserSoze

January 27th, 2012
9:00 am

Building off yesterday’s topic a little, to me romance is never about what you can buy me or what you can do for me, it’s about how you make me feel about ‘us’ and making me feel appreciated and that she wants me to be part of her life.

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:05 am

Amen KaiserSoze @ your 9am! ;)

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:06 am

Leggs great post!

kimmie - the original :)

January 27th, 2012
9:07 am

Morning Gang!

Just having the butterflies when you see that person is priceless! I hope I never stop having that feeling about my husband.

Have a fabulous day gang!

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
9:12 am

Good morning honey lambs, and Happy Fabulous Friday!!

There’s a reason countless songs have been written about falling in love and being in love. It’s the best natural high! And those gushy, butterfly-inducing actions/moments? They’re the icing on the cake: when he kisses me goodnight, turns to leave and comes back for one more kiss, and then one more; holding hands, even when you’re just watching TV or in the car; the smile on his face when I walk into the room (and wondering if he can see my heart beating out of my chest because I’m so happy to see him). There are so many sweet moments that I love and treasure.

SlimNu

January 27th, 2012
9:14 am

Good flirty Friday!

I love getting the ‘just thinking of you’ text, calls, emails…the cutesy verbage shared between the two of you, seeing them at the end of your work day, having a partner to do things with, sitting on the couch watching a movie and being comforted by that mere touch of their hand resting on your leg, lookig forward to the good bye kisses & hugs in the morning when they leave for work, or the sweet surprise of a note written on a steamy mirror after a shower….I could go on but no need to bore yall :oops:

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:16 am

ITL I absolutely love music and when I come across a potential mate who appreciates it just as much it does enhances those natural highs……….abstract flirting is so cool!

KaiserSoze

January 27th, 2012
9:17 am

I love holding hands. Not just holding hands, which is great, but when you’re in the car or walking along somewhere and you just realize that you’re holding hands and you don’t even recall thinking about doing it. When it becomes a natural subconscious act to have that simple, physical touch together.

Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic, but it’s the simple things like that more than the big overt gestures that let me know someone’s feelings for me (and me for them) are genuine.

Celisea

January 27th, 2012
9:18 am

Morning,

All of what all of you said already….especially Kaizer :) Dontcha just love love???

SlimNu

January 27th, 2012
9:19 am

and to add…looking forward to their familiar smell that just gets you going Mmmmmm

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
9:19 am

Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic, but it’s the simple things like that more than the big overt gestures that let me know someone’s feelings for me (and me for them) are genuine.

And that, Kaiser, is a most precious gift….

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:20 am

especially Kaizer X2 C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love a romantic attentive man! :)

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
9:21 am

Kaiser: Are you in a relationship??? Would you like to be??? ;) :oops: :lol:

Leggs

January 27th, 2012
9:28 am

having a partner to do things with, sitting on the couch watching a movie and being comforted by that mere touch of their hand resting on your leg, lookig forward to the good bye kisses & hugs in the morning when they leave for work, or the sweet surprise of a note written on a steamy mirror after a shower….

SLAM DUNK!

Leggs

January 27th, 2012
9:31 am

KaiserS ~ you are on point with each posts. People need to remember it’s the little things that have the biggest impact.

disco

January 27th, 2012
9:32 am

morning all. all this mushy mushy stuff going on this a.m. I won’t hate though. I’d surely much rather be doing ballerina leaps through meadows of wildflowers than walking around with my fists balled up wishing I could gut check folks. that’s what love does – takes the edge off.

KaiserSoze

January 27th, 2012
9:34 am

Lucky for me (and hopefully for my lady) I am in a terrific relationship. We both come from similar failed long-term marriages where we were both cheated on, so we have a good foundation and have overcome our trust issues together. It’s a terrific thing.

But if it doesn’t work out I’ll be sure to let y’all know ;)

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:36 am

Leggs

January 27th, 2012
9:39 am

gut check folks….I like.

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
9:41 am

LMBO@disco. Girl, I don’t know if that scene you described is love or a maxi pad commercial, but either way it made me laugh.

Happy to hear it, Kaiser. Nice to see the good guys finish first. :)

kimmie - the original :)

January 27th, 2012
9:42 am

Kaiser – Great to hear a guy happy on here for a change! :)

Celisea

January 27th, 2012
9:44 am

Now Kaizer, you know you can’t come on here being the perfect man, saying all the right things…especially the stuff ladies like to hear and then say…

“Luckily for me and my lady, we’re in the best darn place”…..lol

KaiserSoze

January 27th, 2012
9:47 am

I lurked around here for a long time when I was a bitter, jilted, pi$$ed off, newly divorced toad in the pond. My princess kissed me and turned me back into a prince. What can I say?

SlimNu

January 27th, 2012
9:47 am

that’s what love does – takes the edge off

disco – Or a good wang lashing :lol: —->yeah I know, too early :oops:

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:52 am

~Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything its cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it….It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.~ ;)

kimmie - the original :)

January 27th, 2012
9:54 am

Lady – That 9:52 – deep and so true!!

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
9:56 am

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
9:57 am

@Lady: LOVE Erica Jong!!!

kimmie - the original :)

January 27th, 2012
9:58 am

This topic reminds me of Beyonce’s song, Love On Top! Heard it this morning and got it in my head.

disco

January 27th, 2012
10:00 am

slim – no, it’s really not too early. heck the only reason I didn’t go there is because it seemed like the blog was embracing a love discussion instead of a sex discussion for a change. love is good.

leggs – I got that gut check move from a friend of mine who once said she wanted to gut check her boss. I’ve embraced the gut check ever since.

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
10:01 am

Yes ma’am ITL!!!!

Kimmie real talk I love that song by Bey too!!!! I can’t even hate! she did that! ;)

Celisea

January 27th, 2012
10:03 am

I like “throat punch”

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
10:06 am

Art Terrell calls it our women’s anthem Kimmie!!!! LOL

Into the Light

January 27th, 2012
10:06 am

gut check, throat punch….truly it is better to give than to receive.

czBrat

January 27th, 2012
10:11 am

as i’m reading the topic i’m saying to myself “who says you can’t have all those gushy things and still be single?” i’m sure it’s just semantics, but i consider myself single until i get married. i suppose WD meant single=not in a relationship.

having said that, i see some great points being made all around. it’s what i call the “newness” of a relationship. and like kimmie said, i hope we never lose it.

HiYas!

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
10:15 am

Preach czBrat loving yourself first and being comfy in your singleness is the foundation!!!!

That leads me to a question I’ve been pondering. Once in a relationship (for those who are and married) does that mean you have arrived in a sense?!? That this is what folks seek the most to be apart with another?!?

disco

January 27th, 2012
10:17 am

brat – I agree with you on the single until married bit. I can’t stand when chicks refer to their boyfriends as their husbands. I always want to holler out “he’s not your husband!!!” I also hate when the resort to using fiancé when there hasn’t been a proposal. as my son says – it just grinds my gears.

SlimNu

January 27th, 2012
10:20 am

I once read this – “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
Neil Gaiman

MrsTazzee

January 27th, 2012
10:20 am

Morning Folks!

20 months into the marriage and I’m still experiencing the gushy stuff. I love the posts today!

For us, we’re always touching. If we’re sitting on the couch watching a movie, it might just be my foot under his leg, but we have to be touching to be comfortable. Even in church, I have to sit close enough to him so that our arms are touching. We always falls asleep touching. In the middle of the night, if we discover we’re not – we fix it. I remember waking up in the middle of the night to find we were holding hands one time.

I guess you can tell what our mutual love language is, LOL.

Have a great day!!!

Lady~

January 27th, 2012
10:22 am

Hey to my buddy Mrs. Tazzee Mae!!!!!!!!!! ;)