The Ex Files: Keep old mementos?
My friend Lewis recently had dinner at his lady friend’s house. He noticed a lot of racy pictures of her that she displayed in her living room. When he inquired about them, she said that her former boyfriend took the pictures and she kept them because they were so beautiful. I am not sure if Lewis was bothered more by the nearly nude images or the fact that the “guy before him” took them.
He asked me if I kept things from past relationships and I actually had to think really hard to remember. I had kept a lot! I also forgot that some of it came from an ex. It’s interesting to see how the things we hold on to from our past relationships become a part of who we are. If it was a gift from an ex, the sentimental value is there but that doesn’t mean we haven’t moved on.
How much “stuff” do you still have from your past relationships? Would you keep racy pictures, sex tapes, jewelry, etc. that would be a constant reminder about them?
Would your exes be surprised at the things you still have from the time you spent together?
Would you want the person you are dating to conceal those sentimental things?
P.S. Did you know that you can make money by selling stuff from your exes? “Never Liked it Anyway” lets you unload stuff from bad relationships. Yes. I am mad that I didn’t think of this too.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~
January 26th, 2012
9:59 am
LOL Slim I would have looked like 0_o really lol I can’t with it Slim…….lol maybe with time I can get that simple necklace http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en&safe=active&sa=N&biw=994&bih=622&tbm=isch&tbnid=rjZa0dfmQAhiCM:&imgrefurl=http://www.cjewelryfashion.com/tag/diamond-fashion-necklaces&docid=COr3N8yaP6cN4M&imgurl=http://www.cjewelryfashion.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/07/diamond-fashion-necklaces-201011076.jpg&w=510&h=510&ei=2mghT-WCH4L20gH8o7TaCA&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=104&vpy=112&dur=906&hovh=225&hovw=225&tx=106&ty=140&sig=102015410993816251495&page=1&tbnh=150&tbnw=152&start=0&ndsp=10&ved=1t:429,r:5,s:0
Lady~
January 26th, 2012
9:59 am
my bad smh LOL
JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:00 am
Leggs – Beware, I think BF has got an idea to buy you a herring bone bracelet soon
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 26th, 2012
10:01 am
And it’s not overhead light enhanced either.
Lady~
January 26th, 2012
10:01 am
C that is a sad story!!!! I feel I know her through her smile!! Her personality seems warm and she has a daughter in college and that hurts. Mayor Reed did an excellent job yesterday saying the city will rally behind her………..
JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:03 am
Leggs – Dang, not strangled with your own necklace. Now you have me wanting to lock up any type of jewelry before going to bed lol
disco
January 26th, 2012
10:04 am
ITL – I forgot about purses. I’ve got a dooney bucket bag and a dooney tote that one ex bought me. have had those bags for more than 10 years. don’t carry them much but they still get compliments when I do break them out.
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:05 am
I’m really liking the perspectives from the woman out here. I was contemplating this very subject recently. I like to be generous, I enjoy the looks on my GF’s face when they receive gifts from me. When I see them years later rocking the jewelry I bought them…I always feel great.
Burning bridges or being a DB is a bad way to go through out life. I could never imagine being so petty as to ask for a gift back. What kind of guy does that?
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 26th, 2012
10:06 am
Celly:
Sorry to hear that about someone you know. I remember when my friend was killed during the missing and murdered fracass, I felt blank and empty. Like a piece of my childhood died with him.
JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:09 am
I still wear a watch that the ex gave me…
The beaus ex mailed him one of those memory foam type pillows and strangley enough, it’s the pillow i use to put between my knees when I sleep…is that bad of me even though it wasn’t intentional :-p
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:11 am
I should really add purses always with the matching wallet as well. I was at Starbucks the other day and an old GF came in for coffee. Low and behold she’s using the purse I bought her in 2005. She was recently married – I wonder if she told him I bought that bag? I could care less but it was great to see her still enjoying the bag and wallet.
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:12 am
@Celisea ~ the young woman who struck and killed Ms. Thomas has ruined her life at the tender age of 22. They interviewed her mother on the news this morning, and all I can say is her mothe appears to be an alcohlolic herself or a druggie. She looks like she’s been rode hard and left dangling on a clothes hanger. Perhaps the daughter has been using the bottle as an escape!!!
So sorry that this hit home for you!
@JustMe ~ let me clarify. My dress wasn’t purchased at a store. I bought it from a gf. Still stunning. Senfd me your info, I’ll send you a pic. Heck, perhaps it could fit you.
@BF ~ then it would mean even more with it not being light enhanced (that’s funny).
@JustMe ~ you know how we sometimes leave our dishes and large knives in the drainer over night? Well, I try to put everything away, especially the big knives. If anyone should break in in the middle of the night, I am not going to have weapons out to make your job easier. If you didn’t come with one (which I know you did), you’ll have to go to the drawer and get it. It won’t be lying out for you. Hell, those few extra minutes of you getting one may help me better hide. Yeah, I watch too many movies (lol).
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:12 am
Cel, that story broke my heart. Looking at her picture and reading what others had to say about her, it seems she was a person whose smile lit up a room.
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 26th, 2012
10:13 am
LOL……@Slim1
A memory foam pillow, was she trying to remind him of something and you put it between your legs.
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:15 am
Wait….are BF and HST buying jewelry and purses for the blog ladies???? Woohoo!!
PS – Speaking of purses, Coach is having an online sale today for their outlet merchandise. Invitation only. E-mail me if you want the link.
Celisea
January 26th, 2012
10:17 am
Yes Blackfoot ad Lady…..I remember her…very quiet and sweet disposition
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:17 am
Slim, no it isn’t, it’s being used as it was intended to be.
Sometimes I feel weird about having a “safe queen” watch. I’ve often wondered would this watch be better having a life on someone’s wrist? Then I realized, it will one day on my son. I quit wearing it because I will not wear a watch anymore that is less than 44mm on the face.
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:18 am
“I wonder if she told him I bought that bag? I could care less but it was great to see her still enjoying the bag and wallet.”
@H S T ~ no need to wonder, more than likely she didn’t. Not many women have even the tiniest convo with their men about purses in their closets. Now, if they went to the store together to purchase one, ummm, maybe, but doubtful.
Celisea
January 26th, 2012
10:18 am
Yep ITL….she was very sweet back in high school. Very quiet.
Leggs – I saw that…just a dang shame.
JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:20 am
Leggs – You have my info…it’s me SlimNu
BF – Well he has neck pain frequently so I guess she was trying to be thoughtful and help give him something to better align his neck at night. He has probably slept on it maybe once. I failed to mention she mailed to him last Valentines and YES we were together then. She was pushing hard to get him back. She even sent unsigned Christmas cards last year but we both know it was her..
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:20 am
So, I will repeat my PSA from yesterday – don’t wait to tell those you love and care about how you feel, because tomorrow is not promised.
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:21 am
Too funny we’re talking about purses because just the other day this guy said he was going to buy me a purse since I’m always complaining about the one I presently carry. I said truly in a joking manner “oh wonderful, can we go the Coach outlet store” and he said “we can go to T.J.Maxx!” I had to laugh.
disco
January 26th, 2012
10:21 am
HST – I’m more surprised by the fact that you recognized the bag than I am by the fact that she still has it.
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:22 am
@JustMe ~ I know who you are (LOL). I thought of you as I was getting dressed this morning…email on the way.
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:22 am
Wait….are BF and HST buying jewelry and purses for the blog ladies????
Hmmmm, didn’t see a response to this…..
Oh, and if we’re getting jewelry and purses, we need another MLB to sponsor the shoes. 
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:22 am
ITL, if like Coach the outlet mall on 400 always has great deals. I buy my friends bags from there. Sometimes they’ll have the same stuff as the boutique.
Disco, I am a label whore.
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 26th, 2012
10:24 am
Hey Light:
Every lady in blogsville gets a _________, isn’t that how they do it on those day time shows. Everybody in the house goes home with something.
Celisea
January 26th, 2012
10:24 am
HST – Date me please.
Now that that’s handled may I have a coach bag please?
I kid
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:24 am
Disco, specifically, when you drop 2-5k on a purse for a woman, it’s nice when they take care of it and appreciate it…
JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:24 am
One of my customers bought me a Louis V bag from New York, which I told him he didn’t have to do that. I’m not quite certain if it was the real deal, since i’m not big into bags, or if he got it from one of those ‘back of a truck’ type deals lol
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:25 am
So we have purses, jewelry and shoes…TYPICAL…WLB’s have us walking around nekkid!!!!
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:25 am
@HST: They’ve only had this sale once before, but the items were similar to what you’d find in the outlet store (which I LOVE!).
@Leggs: Seriously, the outlet store always has 30% off. You should check it out! I’ve bought several bags there and saved beaucoop $$$.
Celisea
January 26th, 2012
10:25 am
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JustMe - Slim
January 26th, 2012
10:26 am
Oooooh weeeee, Blogsville is having its first “Favorite Things” Day….compliments of BF and HST
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:26 am
Yeah, BF, but I don’t need a years’ supply of Turtle Wax or Cascade.
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:27 am
Celisea, I’ll buy you a Coach Bag because I can. You like mono-gram , embossed or just leather? What are your wallet need (CCs, etc.)?
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:28 am
Speaking of favorite things, I’ve managed to get my mom hooked on aloe socks, too!! (Thanks, Kimmie!!!!)
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:29 am
Celisea ~ I really want a Coach bag. Saw a beautiful chocolate one at Lenox that I couldn’t afford. I’ve thought about that bag many times. I remember seeing this young woman come in with a man and she picked out a $450 bag and he quietly paid for it. Oh I could say is dang, your cooch must be gold (because she was so young)…
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:29 am
Not WLB’s, meant the MLBs…
KaiserSoze
January 26th, 2012
10:30 am
“when you drop 2-5k on a purse for a woman”
Seriously? I thought I was bad at dropping cash.
Lady~
January 26th, 2012
10:30 am
Go ahead Ms C! get that bag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:31 am
FTR, I get all my dogs’ Coach collars at the outlet – $30 vs. $90 for the same item.
abc
January 26th, 2012
10:32 am
I keep absolutely no mementos of any kind, unless you count the kids from a 20 year marriage — those I’ll keep! Otherwise, no pictures, no gifts, no nothing. I’m not much of pack rat anyway, I regularly get rid of stuff I no longer need or want, either to Good Will, the trash, etc.
Saving stuff like that is something chicks do. Guys typically don’t care about things like that — exceptions to everything though, as always. When I see things like that saved by a chick, I figure it just goes with the turf, and don’t think much of it. Sex tapes, racy pictures, etc.? Well now, things like that shouldn’t be made in the first place, and would be a deal breaker if dating. I recommend getting rid of things like that anyway.
Leggs
January 26th, 2012
10:32 am
@HST ~ said in a whisper, can you buy me one too! I’ve been good all year. Celisea’s been good too and she did ask first…{kicking rocks as I mosey on down the road}.
disco
January 26th, 2012
10:32 am
talking of bags puts me in mind of my youngest brother. he’s only 4 years older than my son so our relationship is almost more mother/son than sister/brother. I’ve always done a lot for him. after his high school graduation he wrote me the sweetest thank you note and promised me a Louis bag one day. after his college graduation he sent me a similar note with the same promise. he’s now in grad school and every now and again tells me he’s a little bit closer to fulfilling his promise.
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 26th, 2012
10:33 am
LOL…..@Slim1 and Light:
HST I hope you’re not kidding with the bag purchases, looks like we’re on the hook for some goods today.
HST
January 26th, 2012
10:33 am
KaiserSoze, pretty darn often.
Lady~
January 26th, 2012
10:34 am
I get my sister’s coach bags the old ones. I have never walked into coach and brought a purse and prob won’t but my sister does that…………I will clean out my close buddies closets and make it look brand new…..lol
Into the Light
January 26th, 2012
10:34 am
Ummm, HST, if you’re feeling generous, I’d like a Birkin. (fingers crossed)
Celisea
January 26th, 2012
10:34 am
Embossed and a change purse…no wallet needed.
Leggs- Check out North Ga Premium Outlet. They have great sales and coupons.