Dating: Should you stay or go?
Sometimes you know the exact moment that your relationship is over. It’s possible that is the point where you realize the only thing you two have is good sex. I won’t pretend that good sex will make you hang on a lot longer than you should, it happens. A lot.
The question then becomes how long will it take before the relationship with great sex is not satisfying all the other needs? Do you think it is wrong to stay in a relationship when the only thing you enjoy about it is the sex and little else?
I think most people would agree that bad sex is a deal breaker, but should it be a deal breaker when the sex is great but the relationship is not?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:22 pm
I’ve said just two pumps, I promise…well maybe 3. Then if they give in, you count about 4 to 5 pumps as ONE.
so when I started to she pushed me off rolled me over took the condom off and then had a meal
Boy oh boy did she set a precedence.
Purp – So when the next chick came around, please tell me you didn’t ask her about ‘having a meal’??
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
4:23 pm
First time I was nervous and scared as heyal. Fortunately for me I had a few dome jobs before so i knew the outcome. Chick wasn’t a first timer so she was more a coach than a emotional cheerleader. At first it was 30 seconds of trying to be careful and get it right. Then I paid attention and went for all i knew dayum everything else. 3 minutes flat and I smiled like I won the championship. But I’ll tell you that was kids play compared to that first dome piece. Thats a whole nother conversation.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:26 pm
Slim I didn’t ask the next chick I just jumped up and fed her!
Willie, thie first dome…I think I was paralyzed and had an anuerism from joy!
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:28 pm
WD – Strangely enough it seems you fellas are privy to the dome-jobs at a rather young age. I’ve heard many a tales from guy friends that said mainly older chicks ’spoke into their mics’…one instance was the babysitter…another was the best friend of their mother while they were young boys (11-12yrs old) Shocking at the amount of older women that want to get to the center of a little boys tootsie roll pop
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:29 pm
Purp – The song, “Feed me Seymour” comes to mind from Little Shop of Horrors
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
4:31 pm
Purp/Swiss – Man you talk about the finish and dismount. I went from just finishing (under 18) to aiming (18-25) to appreciating the technique (grown azz man).
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:31 pm
“…another was the best friend of their mother while they were young boys (11-12yrs old) Shocking….”
Beyond shocking, DISGUSTING!
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:31 pm
“…another was the best friend of their mother while they were young boys (11-12yrs old) Shocking….”
Beyond shocking, DISGUSTING!
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:31 pm
Interesting…..
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:35 pm
Leggs – My thoughts exactly…I’m sure they are bloggers here that had experiences like that.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:35 pm
But I’ll tell you that was kids play compared to that first dome piece
What is it with men and the dome??? I mean, I know it must feel good and all, but men talk about it like it’s the holy grail, better than the puddy tat.
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
4:36 pm
Leggs – All i’ll say is my moms friends and my friends moms were all upstanding ladies of virtue. They would never do a thing as disgusting as that. Shame on those who do.
Slim – I literally have no words that can describe it to you.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:37 pm
@Leggs: it is beyond disgusting – it’s a CRIME. And why it still gets the wink wink, nudge nudge is beyond me….
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:38 pm
there not they grammar all off today. I’m rhet ta go!
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:40 pm
WD – Was your 4:36 sarcastically written?
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:40 pm
@JustMe ~ well, I’m here nodding at my desk. I am sleepy…
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:41 pm
“What is it with men and the dome??? I mean, I know it must feel good and all, but men talk about it like it’s the holy grail, better than the puddy tat”
It all depends on the level of commitment of the giver. I think it’s more about the visual & the fact that it shows a level of… uh… engagement that is hard not to appreciate.
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:44 pm
” well, I’m here nodding at my desk. I am sleepy…”
Leggs — Better be careful having your head nodding up & down with all this dome talk going on. Somebody might try to sneak a w@ng under you on a down-nod…
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:45 pm
So given a choice, Swiss, would you take BJ or the Bear (if it had to be either/or and you could not have both).
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:46 pm
@swiss ~ I remember a few years back a lady asked how does she know if she’s doing a good job talking to the mike. I told her her degree of commitment to the relationship will show in her degree of long she can work the mike.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:46 pm
swiss –
You’s a nut (no pun intended)
Well with all the back stabbing going on at the job, we’ve coined a new acronym: TAB – Triflin’ Azz Bytches
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
4:48 pm
Slim – yes, I don’t want to turn this into a Nancy Grace column. So yeah Everything was on the up and up.
Swiss – you just spoke nothing but the truth. Its 3 kind of women in my book. Those that dont (boooooooooooooo). Those that do only because they think its a part of sex (pat on the back and forehead kiss). Then we have the true bonafide winners that just love to do it (bells ringing, fireworks exploding, ima keep this bish) types.
ITL – I know you asked Swiss but my answer is Dome. Of course I’d love the package deal upgrade but one or the other gimme the dome 9 out of 10 times your honor.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:49 pm
@swiss ~ I promise I was thinking something along those lines re: nodding!
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:51 pm
“Swiss, would you take BJ or the Bear”
ITL — I’m going to say this very clearly: I would never, ever f@#k a bear.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:51 pm
@WillieD ~ that opens another can of worms. Now, when dating you have to find that woman who likes Dome as much as you like to receive it. Better yet, likes to get on that dome more than she likes to be serviced…you be hard press to find that (lol).
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:53 pm
Really, WD?? May I ask why???
The fact that men feel this way is so interesting to me, because on the flip side, I can tell you that even if you are the most cunning linguist on the planet and fluent in 12 languages, at some point, I’m still gonna need you to swing the bat (if I’m gonna score a homerun). Maybe it’s just me….
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:54 pm
Swiss, you are too much.
Seriously, though….downstairs or upstairs???
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:55 pm
Friends older sister gave me my first dome I was 14.
Thing is yeah it’s a crime but when it’s an older female to younger male we are not calling the cops we are calling for round two. LOL
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:56 pm
How old was the older sister?
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
4:59 pm
Leggs – There you go talking about relationships again. I cant speak for the next dude but I’ll tell you a chick is not gonna give better dome just because she loves you. She might eventually get better or work at it cause she loves you but if a chick don’t like to give it; a ring, a benz, and a house on the hill aint gon change that.
ITl – I really cant give you a answer that you will understand. You obviously fall under category #2 (not that there is anything wrong with that) . Ask your BFF Becky, maybe she can enlighten you.
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:59 pm
Upstairs? What’s happening upstairs?
If you’re asking whether I’d take a BJ or a bareback ride — in general, I’d take the bareback ride. Now, there is 1 exception, and that’s my first. She wasn’t that great a lay, in hindsight, but GOT D@MN could that girl suck a d!ck. And I mean she enjoyed her work, too…
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
5:01 pm
Well I’ve heard some guys don’t too much care for it..dome that is
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
5:03 pm
Oh, ok….if you say so. I believe how you feel about that person ups the anty on how you service that person!!!!
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
5:03 pm
“Well I’ve heard some guys don’t too much care for it..dome that is”
Slim — That’s what we tell chicks who fall into category #2.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
5:04 pm
Actually, WD, I’d put myself in category #3. What I’m saying is that while I enjoy receiving oral, I prefer intercourse. It seems that men are the opposite, and I’m trying to understand why.
Ahhhh, so we have one for the dome, one for the ride. Purple, Fion, y’all gonna vote?
Purple
January 25th, 2012
5:08 pm
I love them both and they go hand in hand or she doesn’t get to play. I like a nice balanced woman. had some who had great dome but sorry cooch…some with great cooch but sorry dome.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
5:08 pm
Something about hearing her gag while her eyes start to water turns me on for some reason…all that is left is to pinch her nose!
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
5:11 pm
Leggs – you are consistent if nothing else. But i’ll say this, every chick knows how to ride a bicycle. How many chicks go bicycling. Catch my drift?
IZTL – ding ding ding we have a winner. dayum I just may start watching a few more UGA games now. hahaha
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
5:11 pm
Frankly I like intercourse better because I feeling all of that….closeness, the intimacy all it. I like the going dow because it’s more intense. I don’t too much about giving. You gotta be Mr Freaking Wonderful relationship wise to get that. Sorry
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
5:11 pm
Purple
January 25th, 2012
5:11 pm
oral with no cooch to follow frustrates me
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
5:12 pm
Nope, all chicks don’t know how to ride a bicycle….catch my drift (lololol).
Purple
January 25th, 2012
5:13 pm
Oral is like a microwave. Intercourse is like an oven. Microwaves will get the job done but nothing is better than a slow baked meal. Capisci? (Kapeesh)
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
5:13 pm
@PR ~ I was thinking that (your 5:11) when we started talking about celibacy and if dry humping oral fell under that umbrella. How you going to go downstairs and then not put the key in the door???
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
5:14 pm
Again…on my phone. For some reason the site aint right on my computer
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
5:14 pm
LOL@Willie D!
Purple
January 25th, 2012
5:14 pm
Celisea did you just say you liked to be gone dwon on but does not like to go down on your partner?
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
5:14 pm
dry humping AND oral…
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
5:15 pm
oral with no wang to follow frustrates me
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
5:15 pm
Why you questioning her, PR….did you question your counterpart, Ex, when he said the same thing (LOLOL).