Dating: Should you stay or go?
Sometimes you know the exact moment that your relationship is over. It’s possible that is the point where you realize the only thing you two have is good sex. I won’t pretend that good sex will make you hang on a lot longer than you should, it happens. A lot.
The question then becomes how long will it take before the relationship with great sex is not satisfying all the other needs? Do you think it is wrong to stay in a relationship when the only thing you enjoy about it is the sex and little else?
I think most people would agree that bad sex is a deal breaker, but should it be a deal breaker when the sex is great but the relationship is not?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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311 comments Add your comment
disco
January 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
purp – I stick by my stance. chicks constantly trying to “tighten up” have men with little salt shaker peters.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:24 pm
So do backdoorways start to stretch out and lose elasticity as well over time? I never thought about that…
Robert
January 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
“should it be a deal breaker when the sex is great but the relationship is not?”
No, it should not be a deal breaker. Great sex is hard to find for a man or woman in today’s world. Women have commented on this site they need to have an emotional attachment in order for them to be satisfied with the relationship. As a man I need to feel my woman’s passion (hugs, kisses, soft whispers in my ear, etc.). Her passion for me enhances my desire to fulfill all her sexual desires. I would rather have great sex with lots of passion which will fuel my desire to change the things in our relationship that need work. Relationships are a “work in progress” and always need help. You are lucky if you find a great lover full of passion and desire for you only.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
disco, you dont have to prove a point to me. I’m fit for war.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
@ITL ~ I was making reference to the Orbit Gum commercial. I always think of that when she’s talking woof by calling her a lint licker.
But if you really broke that phrase down, guess the woman really did have cooties if there’s lint all over it.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
Awwww! It’s so cute! I didn’t know those came in Fun Size.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
3:26 pm
disco, maybe all you have had is little peters and that is why you still have your virgin shape. LOL
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
3:27 pm
“So do backdoorways start to stretch out and lose elasticity as well over time? I never thought about that…”
Slim — You don’t watch much p0rn, do you?
Uh, to answer your question: YES. 
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
3:28 pm
Hit send too soon….
Awwww! It’s so cute! I didn’t know those came in Fun Size.
(a friend said that to a guy once…i’m guessing it didn’t help his, um, growth potential)
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
3:28 pm
Disco – alrighty then. I think i just about have you figured out.
No Crying – check
Don’t pay for grown daughter bills – check
Cuss you out every now and then – check
Tell you Bish shut up – check
Baseball Bat size schlong – dayummit man, Next
disco
January 25th, 2012
3:31 pm
just the opposite. I got broke in on the king size bars which is why I have zero tolerance for the minis or the fun sizes as ITL put it.
willie d – all except for the name calling. them’s fighting words. yeah, I’m a little rough around the edges. speaking of old boy with the grown daughter. he called the day we were talking about folks crying on here. talking about he had a dream where we ran into each other in a restaurant and we both starting crying. i asked him if that was his way of trying to say he missed me.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
3:35 pm
@disco ~ surprised you didn’t say “you sure you were dreaming about ME cuz I don’t cry!”
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
3:36 pm
Okay, so we’ve got:
mini (bite size), fun size, regular, king size, sports team fundraiser size….
Did I miss any?
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:36 pm
Guess the woman really did have cooties if there’s lint all over it.
Leggs – Or she could’ve made a mistake and washed her undies with the towels. Lint ERRRRywhere lol That reminds me of a time I stayed at a friends house and used a bath towel. Apparently, whoever did the laundry washed the towels with the bath mats and there was lint EVERYWHErE on EVERYTHING. I almost felt like I needed to take another bath or either wipe my body off using a dryer sheet
Jill
January 25th, 2012
3:37 pm
If you stick to one dingaling for 16 years, does that mean your paradise stays the same size? Or does it stretch from being used for 16 years?
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
3:39 pm
Disco – ok, how about baby shut up? Is Buddy with the daughter one of them 80/20 situations? everything was good except that right.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:41 pm
ITL – The best bar is the Mr. Good Bar. It’s not necessarily over-sized but it packs the right amount of punch to quinch that hunger
disco
January 25th, 2012
3:42 pm
leggs – he’s most definitely far more sensitive than I am. I’ve joked about it for years. heck, he was probably crying alone in the dream but tossed me in the mix so it wouldn’t seem so bad. as it is, the breakup was around October. he calls maybe 2-3 times a month to “check on me”. he always says that I can call him because after all we’re still friends. I’ve called only once and that was to ask him to come change an outside light bulb that I couldn’t reach. yeah. I called him out on missing me.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
oops meant quench
Purple
January 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
I wonder if every woman thinks that her first wang is a big wang since you know it’s her first wang and she does not have a standard wang reference.
Ok let me shut up I am turning into Meeellloooo talking about wangs. LOL
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
3:45 pm
LOL@Slim….co-workers now looking at me like I’m cwazy!
2-3 times a month, disco?? I’d say he’s still got it bad.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
3:45 pm
Fellas how do you tell a woman she is no good in bed? Answer is you don;t LOL
disco
January 25th, 2012
3:46 pm
well how about this question purple. I’ve heard it discussed before. as a guy do you think certain women (i.e. certain body types/height/weight or certain ethnic groups) are better built to take more or less than other women?
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
3:47 pm
I’ll take the right size please
Purple(The Right Size)
January 25th, 2012
3:49 pm
disco, I used to think that but as I increased my experience I found that not to be true.
Hey Celisea I changed my name a little.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
3:51 pm
@PR ~ I think my first was a big one, an ugly one, a painful one, and a horrible experience!
Purple
January 25th, 2012
3:56 pm
Leggs wow. I don’t think guys are that terrified the first time. Unless she is to tight…that stuff hurts.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:58 pm
I’m not sure why but Michael Jackson’s song “Dirty Diana” seems to come to mind with the current topic. Have yall ever read the lyrics to that song?
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
3:59 pm
Leggs – I can’t say I have ever heard a great 1st time story coming from a female..
PR – Aren’t you dudes nervous the very first time, or are you too busy acting like you’re a pro to dwell on the fact you have no idea what you’re doing?
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:00 pm
Oooh, good question, Slim. I hope all the guys will answer that one.
(ITL sitting in the corner, notebook and pen at the ready)
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:01 pm
Neither have I, JustMe! One the hymen is broke, we have entered the twlight zone of Dating 101.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:03 pm
Some womens’ hymens don’t even break the first time doing the do.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:03 pm
Slim my first time I was very nervous. I did not want to be to rough or hurt her and I wanted to make sure that I pleased her. I was more nervous about doing a good job…until I got a few inches in her then it was all about me and it was fun
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:05 pm
Another thing I’ve often wondered…TMI alert…um, I wonder if the use of tampons effect the looseness or elasticity of the va jayjay walls…being that the material sort of swells? I only asked because I recall waaaaaay back in the day some chicks in the bathroom at middle school talking about it.
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
4:05 pm
Purple –
You’re bad
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:06 pm
Well, it is Hump Day Wednesday!
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:08 pm
until I got a few inches in her then it was all about me and it was fun
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
4:09 pm
Leggs – We’ll be humped out by Friday
disco
January 25th, 2012
4:09 pm
slim – a few inches whatever. what woman hasn’t heard some variation of the line “just let me put it in a little bit”
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
4:12 pm
Last man out this evening, please mop up!
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:13 pm
“I wish at least once that I could see how it felt to you guys to do the do because I swear sommma yall act like it’s crack”
Crack, vajayjay…. it all feels about the same, really. Well, depending on the vajayjay. And the crack.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
4:13 pm
or “just for a minute” Mmmm-hmmmm
Jill
January 25th, 2012
4:14 pm
First time was a awful mess. He was happy though. I always say I should have waited. Because I found out after he dumped me that he wasn’t good at all. The next dude made me stalk him and had me moaning in my sleep
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:14 pm
Just the tip. Just for a second. I promise….
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:14 pm
Oh we planned on having sex I was a virgin she wasn’t. I just never had done it before. I knew she was experienced and I didnt want to be the guy who got picked on for not performing well but once i got in a little bit and felt heaven for my first time I went to town…I swole her up!
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:17 pm
She kept asking me to tell her when I was going to climax…so when I started to she pushed me off rolled me over took the condom off and then had a meal. So my first time was a great ending. The bad thing about that was that I thought all women were supposed to do that at the end. I learned otherwise.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:18 pm
I think that is where “give an inch..take a mile” comes from
i'm swiss
January 25th, 2012
4:19 pm
Purple — Ah, nothing like a chick that can stick the dismount.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
4:20 pm
Swiss, that woman taught me the ways of the Jedi! I love her, wherever she is!
Jill
January 25th, 2012
4:22 pm
The bad thing about that was that I thought all women were supposed to do that at the end. I learned otherwise.