Dating: Should you stay or go?
Sometimes you know the exact moment that your relationship is over. It’s possible that is the point where you realize the only thing you two have is good sex. I won’t pretend that good sex will make you hang on a lot longer than you should, it happens. A lot.
The question then becomes how long will it take before the relationship with great sex is not satisfying all the other needs? Do you think it is wrong to stay in a relationship when the only thing you enjoy about it is the sex and little else?
I think most people would agree that bad sex is a deal breaker, but should it be a deal breaker when the sex is great but the relationship is not?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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311 comments Add your comment
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
11:45 am
Hello Lady!!
abc
January 25th, 2012
11:46 am
Personally, all the mojo has to be flowing before I’m into sex — why would you want to have sex with someone you didn’t like that much? So, you’d stick around someone just to get laid?! That’s pretty nuts.
Fion
January 25th, 2012
11:48 am
@Celisea
Cool. I read your 11:30 post with laying in it and it through me for a second. I didn’t see your correction until after I typed my post.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
11:50 am
Sorry, jumped the gun, it’s not even noon yet.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
11:51 am
threw you…
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
11:51 am
Gotcha Fion
Abc – Yep
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
11:54 am
LOL@disco’s 11:45
Exiled!
January 25th, 2012
12:07 pm
@Leggs…I listened to Obams thru out the address and it was really good especially when ge concluded it.
Listening to him I think he’s gon have a landslide!
Celisea/Lady I think at some point,especially when u get to 40+ u don’t wanna get booed up just for the record. It looks rather pathetic. If not desperate..look at Demi or Aretha thing.
Now a lady ought to have an Opprah/Steadman type deal..not booed,going steady and getting some. Every person(woman) deserves Dick..whether legit/church type or other,D is D. It’s only natural! Why be miserable?
At least have a friend that u can have a 2 way relationship with and u two define it
Exiled!
January 25th, 2012
12:08 pm
He concluded it
Lady~
January 25th, 2012
12:13 pm
LOL Ex I am not there yet….I am almost to an exclusive relationship currently so I wanna enjoy a successful relationship before I have to deal with another FWB if that makes sense. I truly get your point though……
Purple
January 25th, 2012
12:14 pm
I have to be into a person before I have sex with them and if two people care enough about each other bad sex can be groomed into great sex. But sex has never been a reason for me to stay in a relationship…not as long as I have two hands to get me through the lonely nights.
Ladies may not ever run out of it but you might want to save it so that it does not lose it “snapback” factor. LOL!
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
12:16 pm
Mmeello – I agree. It’s just silly to me to be wasteful (of your goods)….lol
Lady~
January 25th, 2012
12:17 pm
LOL C!
Hey Purple!
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
12:18 pm
@Ex ~ as soon as he concluded his speech the backlash was immediate!
Willie Dynamite
January 25th, 2012
12:18 pm
Afternnon All –
On topic – when you start asking the question should I stay or go it is officially a wrap. The problem is most of the time after a few heartbreaks (women esp) have an escape plan from the jump. Instead of living in the moment they are looking for the deal breaker. JMO
New Discussion – Now for me personally, Sex is Sex. A means to an end. If you wanna keep me then you gotta get me Mentally with or without the sex. My Krptonite is the connections I have fully clothed and they have been more satisfying than any nut. Sex really is just a quickie in the grand scheme of things. My Mental is a Tantric experience.
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
12:26 pm
WillieD – I agree
I agree too on the snapback factor…lol I’m not feeling like I want to be the abyss…just a big ole black whole. Nothing to do with “saving” it per se. Friction is a much needed thing. I don’t want a dude have to do the hoola hoop motion just to feel the walls. I’m just saying. Not trying to be fresh.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
12:26 pm
My Krptonite is the connections I have fully clothed and they have been more satisfying…
Now that’s hot!
Purple
January 25th, 2012
12:28 pm
Lady, hello how are you?
Celisea, LOL
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
12:31 pm
Purple –
You feel me
Purple
January 25th, 2012
12:32 pm
It’s tight…I feel you!
Exiled!
January 25th, 2012
12:36 pm
I hope none of u adult ladies have a nose rings
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
12:37 pm
Great comeback, PR!
Exiled!
January 25th, 2012
12:41 pm
Careful there PR..C might be a lil stiff there
she ain’t felt in a minute
and gently please…work with her..
Purple
January 25th, 2012
12:47 pm
Leggs, LOL I am waiting on Celisea to put me in my place…pun intended.
Exiled, you are wild!
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
12:55 pm
PR and Exiled – Both of ya’ll to the corner…
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
12:55 pm
I’m at a loss for words. I know I know, don’t take much…lol Honestly I wasn’t trying to be fresh.
SexyCool
January 25th, 2012
12:59 pm
Today’s great fun – an applicant who can’t read. When directed to complete some forms, he started saying that his eyes were giving him some problems and asked if he could take the forms with him. I told him that the forms had to be completed in the office and that he could return when his eyes were no longer bothering him.
Sexy (my name is not Kizzy) Cool
January 25th, 2012
1:01 pm
As to the topic, after experiencing Hump-Hump-Come and the NonExistent Member, Um….yeah…no, I’ll pass on ever having those experiences ever again in life.
Back to grinding…
Jill
January 25th, 2012
1:02 pm
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
12:26 pm
My Krptonite is the connections I have fully clothed and they have been more satisfying…
Now that’s hot!
I agree!
Before I got married, I put myself in a stay position. All for the D. Just simply dickamatized. It was beautiful for a minute, until I realized outside of the bedroom and fully clothed I didn’t like him very much. I think he felt the same way about me in the end
Live, Learn and Do Better.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
1:09 pm
I nominate “dickmatized” as word of the day. Do I have a second?
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
1:11 pm
Yall are all crazy…Do you all begin to freak out a little when the frequency of sex starts to slope on a decline? Or do you chuck it up to just the flow of a long term relationship?
Anyone hear Salt & Peppa on the Tom Joyner morning show? Peppa said she was at one time holding out on sex for a meaningful relationship. But she said she was not going to do it again because once she finally got physical with the guy that it was WACK. Said it was like those new mini-chicken nuggets at Mcdonalds
cba
January 25th, 2012
1:12 pm
SC~ please say the person was an immigrant and didn’t speak/read english.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
1:18 pm
*****PSA******
Please don’t ever be too busy to take the time to tell and those you care about how you feel.
RIP Officer Gail Thomas
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
1:18 pm
^tell and show
Lady~
January 25th, 2012
1:19 pm
ITL its been a gloomy week with bad news and deaths………good post 1:18
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
1:20 pm
I recently found out my 74 year old granny only made it to 3rd grade, and even she can read & write. I guess there are still some folks out there that got passed along through the system.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
1:21 pm
Peppa has probably lost all of her elasticity…good thing she has a big mouth.
Sexy (my name is not Kizzy) Cool
January 25th, 2012
1:21 pm
An immigrant who barely speaks and has a very limited understanding of the English language. I kept having to ask him the same question in two or three different forms to get an answer.
I’m trying to figure out how this individual has been able to be employed at several different companies on this campus for nearly 12 years.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
1:24 pm
Purp – Maybe she lost it at first but then she was celibate for some years, so I heard. As far as experiencing that wack weenie, I’m sure it’s probably back to slinky status now. lol
Purple
January 25th, 2012
1:24 pm
An immigrant from where?
Sexy (my name is not Kizzy) Cool
January 25th, 2012
1:25 pm
Haiti.
Purple
January 25th, 2012
1:26 pm
Slim which on is is Peppa? The tall one or the short one?
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
1:29 pm
@Lady: Stories like that really hurt. It’s tough to imagine how it would be to get that phone call. I guess we never think that we might say “goodbye” in the morning, and those be the final words we tell the ones we love.
JustMe - Slim
January 25th, 2012
1:29 pm
Peppa is the tall one that acts the craziest and is always sort of borderline raunchy. Salt is all the way PG-13 now, into church and family mainly.
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
1:29 pm
@SexyC ~ wow, what a chance to take when applying for a job.
@ITL ~ I’ll second….
Jill
January 25th, 2012
1:30 pm
Purple
January 25th, 2012
1:21 pm
Peppa has probably lost all of her elasticity…good thing she has a big mouth.
LOL!
Leggs
January 25th, 2012
1:31 pm
I believe Pepa said she was celibate for 6 or 7 years.
Into the Light
January 25th, 2012
1:32 pm
On purpose????
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
1:32 pm
There was a Hatian and Afrikaan selected for the jury
Celisea
January 25th, 2012
1:34 pm
I think by grace folks get along and move along when educationally they are not equipped with those essential basic tools needed for performing jobs and tasks. I ain’t talking about trifling folks. I’m talking about folks where a way was made or opened when all odds went against.
That’s just me though.