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Should occupation matter?

If you have spent any time at all on the Atlanta dating scene, you’ve heard the following countless times: “What do you do?” which is usually followed by, “Where did you go to school?” Casual conversations can go from innocent flirting to archaeological dig for information in 60 seconds!

Everyone has their own angle to asking the career or occupation question. A lot of people believe that what a person does for a living says a lot about their character, personality….and bank account.

This is one of the reasons one of my guy friends tell women that he runs a non-profit when he meets them. This is only partly true because he actually runs the family business and runs the non-profit on the side. He says it is two-fold: It weeds out overly pretentious women who are only out to land wealthy men. It appeals to women who share similar interests and outlook.

I don’t know if this has worked well for him or not, but I do think about how much occupation matters – or does not matter – to a lot of us. Do you think it should?

What can you really tell about a person’s job, career, or career aspirations? When do you ask the person you are interested in dating or pursuing what they do for a living?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

335 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
2:47 pm

As for u ladies,Kimmie,when u ask yr friends the following morning,(u single ladies esp) to see if she slobed and tangled with him..how u say it?

I know u ask,was it good as a ur second question! :lol:

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
2:48 pm

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
2:51 pm

Ex, what makes you think we ask that?

Do you ask your single male friends?

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
2:52 pm

Exiled – To be honest, my single friends & I don’t really do that anymore, never did it that much to begin with. The few times it does come up, they volunteer the info. I don’t have to ask if it was good because they say up front. Either it was mind-blowing or not! We talk about men, but more about “situations” we may be dealing with. Nothing too personal. We’ve grown up!

i'm swiss

January 19th, 2012
2:55 pm

“Do you ask your single male friends?”

Yes. And I believe the current acceptable phraseology is “You tap that, dog?” :lol:

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
2:56 pm

ITL..from the movies. :lol:

Guys do that ITL especially if it’s a play chic..

Purple

January 19th, 2012
2:58 pm

Why tell someone how good it is? Then they might want it?

i'm swiss

January 19th, 2012
2:58 pm

The words that came out of kimmie’s mouth (er, keyboard): “We talk about men, but more about “situations” we may be dealing with. Nothing too personal. We’ve grown up!”

What kimmie actually meant to say: “GOT D@MN! I got some boring azz friends!” j/k ;-) :lol:

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
2:59 pm

Purple – Bingo!

That’s why that type of info is rarely shared!!

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:01 pm

swiss – LOL!! Most of my friends are married anyway. When we get a little tipsy, we are more likely to spill the beans on dudes from the past, like college. That’s always good for a laugh!LOL!!

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:01 pm

If i’m serious about a person I’m dating or in a relationship with, I’m not giving anyone any gory details about our adult interactions.

i'm swiss

January 19th, 2012
3:03 pm

Slim — How about just a home movie, then? Throw us a bone, will ya?

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:04 pm

Ex – sorry. I got caught up in my moment of silence. that had a R.I.P. ring to it. currently my life lacks “validation” but I do remember being fond of the phrase “break off / broke off”.

swiss – funny re boring friends. shucks I have some friends who will answer the phone while they are doing it with no shame in their game.

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:04 pm

kimmie/purple – y’all ain’t fooling nobody though. folks know what it means when you don’t talk about it.

Kym

January 19th, 2012
3:09 pm

@disco..now that talking while doing it…that is some silly stuff..why not wait…who the heck wants to hear all that..

Hey Rico..What up man!!..Wait whats that bang sound..awww man…quit playing on the phone..call me back!!!

Purple

January 19th, 2012
3:09 pm

disco, I don’t talk about my sexual exploits with my wife. And all the other women I smash I should not be smashing anyway so I just keep mum on the subject. :O

Leggs

January 19th, 2012
3:09 pm

he asked her for a “chance”!LOL!! – never heard it put that way.

@disco ~ if they want to conjure up a visual all on their own, that’s on them. I’m not going to sit by and paint a picture of how good it is for them! No can do.

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:11 pm

well – since no one wants to share the good. how do y’all feel about spilling it when it’s garbage? let’s face it. it’s not always good.

Purple

January 19th, 2012
3:17 pm

disco nope don’t tell a thing.

Purple

January 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

nobody wants to brag about their bad decision making

and my 3:09 was a joke.

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

disco – Hey, folks can think what they want, I have no control over their thought!LOL!!

As for discussing “garbage” – if it’s some dude from the past, most definitely we laugh about that. Usually they were garbage inside and out so the decorum flew out the window!LOL!! We really don’t allow it to occupy a lot of our time though. The point is to have FUN – not rehash old garbage!

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

swiss – That’s what tube 8, p-orn hub, keez movies etc are for. Take your pic buddy. And the great thing is, they are all free! ;-) No need to thank me

Leggs

January 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

spilling it when it’s garbage is acceptable. even comical….(lol)

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

LOL@disco. My bestie and I refer to that as a “counter night”…..

Her: Sooooo, you went out with T the other night…how was it
Me: Girl, it was a counter night
Her: (mortified and shocked) NO!! I’m surprised…
Me: Me, too, but believe me, girl….he has 36.2 ceiling tiles exactly. And I know, because unfortunately I had time to count twice.
Her: Dang, Gina!

Leggs

January 19th, 2012
3:22 pm

@kimmie ~ weird, I said the same thing. Their mental pictures are on them! I’m not assisting.

Purple

January 19th, 2012
3:27 pm

I would hate when a woman would get naked and her body did not match her shape of her in clothes.

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:28 pm

Leggs – LOL!! Once again, great minds think alike!

To be honest, my friends and I have almost completely different tastes in men & what we find attractive, physically speaking. I would not want any of their men at all. They might be great in “other” ways, but I couldn’t get past the looks!

Kym

January 19th, 2012
3:29 pm

@ITL LMAO!!!!!! so help me I almost fell out of my chair!!!

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:29 pm

Light – LOL! Poor counter dudes, if they only knew!!

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:32 pm

purple – I’ve heard that complaint before. a friend of mine said that women’s clothes are just too daggone supportive and when all the support is gone everything heads south. he even went so far as to say that women should either support the top or the bottom but not both.

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
3:38 pm

@Kimmie: And you know he probably told his boys, “Man…I was so good the other night, ITL was speechless. Her eyes were all glazed over like she was in another world!!”

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:39 pm

purple/disco – dudes should just be thankful someone wants to share themselves with them, whatever they look like in or out of clothes. Dudes can be “misleading” in their attire as well!LOL!!

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:40 pm

Light – Oh yeah, he rocked your world! :roll:

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:42 pm

kimmie – that sounds good in theory but I understand where the men are coming from on that one. don’t be a size 14 (I’m not hating on 14s) squeezed into enough spanx to make you pass for an 8. it’s not fair. and don’t be wearing your bra that makes you a D cup when you really are B. it’s not fair. and I’ve seen the ads for padded underwear. all I’m saying is don’t be bamboozling folks. it’s not fair. as for dudes being misleading – not anymore at least not for me. experience has lead me to call them out from the gate. show me what you working with.

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:45 pm

Hole up a cotton pickin minute, Yall mean to tell me you’ve never ‘messed around’ while one of you were on the phone, even if you were just trying to be funny? Yeah riiiiight

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
3:46 pm

Show me what u working with..

girl!,ur inbox gone be dagone Full!

:lol:

Fellas,Disco throw a challenge!

Let’s roll!

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:48 pm

Dudes can be “misleading” in their attire as well

Yup, like those dudes who wear the tight azz shirt have you think he swoll but really he’s just about to have an anuerism because the tightness of the shirt is cutting of his circulation. And stop walking like you can’t put your arms all the down by your side. lol

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
3:49 pm

Uall ladies don’t even kowk how guud a nutt is to us..

whether you enjoy it or not sometimes it is neither here nor there

go head count the tiles ITL
:lol:

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
3:49 pm

experience has lead me to call them out from the gate. show me what you working with

LOL. Why do I have a mental image of disco, snapping on the latex gloves, electric measuring tape in hand, “Alright, Buster, drop ‘em. Let’s see what you’re working with!” :lol:

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:50 pm

show me what you working with

disco – You travel with a ruler with you and measure that wang upon 1st meeting? j/k

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
3:52 pm

disco – Not fair how? I don’t grieve for the men on this, I really don’t! It’s hillarious, sorry, they’ll be alright. All the spanx in the world are not going to make a 14 an 8 and she still be able to breathe – I don’t know of any shapewear THAT good! At best they smooth you out and MAY take you down a notch, help you fit into something that’s a little snug. If he really is THAT bamboozled, poor thing is all I say. As for the padded bra – some outfits call for a little lift and pad if you don’t have it. Most of the player types I’ve know can scope that kind of stuff out a mile away.

And no dude every misled me either, cause I don’t judge a book until I open it!

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:53 pm

slim – that’s a funny visual. little skinny dude trying to walk like he’s diesel. good one. still, I think women have more options for faking the physical than men do. a guy can stick his chest out all he wants but we can pretty much still tell if it’s a little bird chest.

slim again – not on first meeting but before it gets to the point where we might do it you need to show it to me. I won’t be all riled up only to find out he’s coming up short. I’m the chick that will get dressed, grab my keys and call you names on my way out. no one has time for that.

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:54 pm

ITL I see you and I are >here :lol:

disco

January 19th, 2012
3:55 pm

fine kimmie… call me out on my exaggerated exaggeration. at least I didn’t go as far as the movie where the chick started removing prosthetic limbs.

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
3:55 pm

LOL@Slim. I was thinking the same thing (of course I was!) :lol:

Into the Light

January 19th, 2012
3:56 pm

SlimNu

January 19th, 2012
3:57 pm

disco – Yes women do have more room to mislead a man as far as wardrobe goes. I have to admit, I’ve never asked to see a dudes member as a weeding out tool on if we’d proceed in dating or not. So big-up to you for being bold..I guess that saves you the trouble of still having to stop on your way home for a V8 :lol:

disco

January 19th, 2012
4:02 pm

not the V8. that was funny. I’m more of a verbal venter though so I’d be talking about him like a dog to somebody on the drive home. “can’t believe that old raggedy a buster had me over there thinking I was about to get some only to come at me with that little rinky dink such and such. the nerve of these sorry a busters blah blah blah”. yep. I could just hear me.

kimmie

January 19th, 2012
4:05 pm

disco – Your 3:53 reminds me of how a good friend of mine described this guy she went out with a few times. He was the big, teddy bear type. She always likes those dudes, but a few times they have REALLY come up short! She and this particular dudes got into it and once revealed, she literally felt sorry for him. She said he was embarassed and had actually tried to delay getting physical.

Exiled!

January 19th, 2012
4:08 pm

@Kimmie!

yea the playa types wil want to cop a feel on her bootey no doubt

If it feels bouncy or she slapping ur hand and she fidgety,u brace urself,even tho u still wanna smash…

that’s why dudes tend to quickly undress first,lue on the bed belly up,doing the digits on her body as she unrobes….

although I’ve known chics that go into the bathroom then come our after flicking that light switch off first..hmmmmm ..tell tell sign …not looking good! :lol: