Should occupation matter?
If you have spent any time at all on the Atlanta dating scene, you’ve heard the following countless times: “What do you do?” which is usually followed by, “Where did you go to school?” Casual conversations can go from innocent flirting to archaeological dig for information in 60 seconds!
Everyone has their own angle to asking the career or occupation question. A lot of people believe that what a person does for a living says a lot about their character, personality….and bank account.
This is one of the reasons one of my guy friends tell women that he runs a non-profit when he meets them. This is only partly true because he actually runs the family business and runs the non-profit on the side. He says it is two-fold: It weeds out overly pretentious women who are only out to land wealthy men. It appeals to women who share similar interests and outlook.
I don’t know if this has worked well for him or not, but I do think about how much occupation matters – or does not matter – to a lot of us. Do you think it should?
What can you really tell about a person’s job, career, or career aspirations? When do you ask the person you are interested in dating or pursuing what they do for a living?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:38 am
LOL@Exiled
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
11:40 am
@Ex ~ I wasn’t loving it at all. He wasn’t a good looking man…Looked a little like ET’s older brother. I was watching the faces of NeNe, her mom and other people turn away in disgust, then watched Phaedra with the look on her face of “oh boy, I done gone and messed up in front of Kandi’s mom!”
Kym
January 19th, 2012
11:41 am
@ITL…yep …cause scared money..don’t make no money!!
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
11:42 am
Ex – I’m not speaking for Leggs but buddy wasn’t anything to write home about, even for a gay dancer. All he had was that cheap party trick since nothing else was going on. He wasn’t even that cut #stripperfailure lol
disco
January 19th, 2012
11:43 am
kym – “scared money don’t make money”. I haven’t heard that particular quote in a long time. that takes me back to the days of flipping 8 balls.
Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:44 am
So the Sanders are divorcing hmmmm
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
11:45 am
Purp – I’d gladly buy one of your home vids
Kym
January 19th, 2012
11:47 am
@disco..are you out there..I have a new thug crush… ACE HOOD
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
11:47 am
Exactly, SlimNu. I wouldn’t have hired him…
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
11:48 am
@disco ~ now, I haven’t heard “flipping 8 balls” in a mighty long time.
disco
January 19th, 2012
11:49 am
kym – I had to google him. had no clue who he was. while the photos I found do portray the image well it looks like he’s got a baby face. don’t know that I have a current thug crush. I still say that the muscled up 50 cent looks like he can do some things and I’ve always liked wood harris (though I guess he doesn’t fall into the thug category. he just has a street look about him).
Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:49 am
Slim go to http://www.yougonnalearntoday.com and you can download a home video of me. LOL
Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:49 am
Kym his is not a thug he is a rapper. LOL
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
11:53 am
Purp – that sounds like you’re trying to set me up for a Kevin Hart okie doke lol.
Kym
January 19th, 2012
11:53 am
@disco..I just can’t do 50..lawd forgive me but he looks like he just a bit slow on the uptake..even with muscles..naww I would take Idris Elba over Wood Harris..
Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:54 am
Slim my movies are better than 3d it’s like I am really there. It will leave you both sore and satisfied at the same time. LMAO
Exiled!
January 19th, 2012
11:55 am
Slim?
nothing to write home package wise??
Slim? u are a slim trim chic
What size thicknes(of package) can u download in urs?
Ur answer will proly out compete and shock some of the lady troopers on here?
waiting………….. -;)
Purple
January 19th, 2012
11:57 am
Well Slim are you going to answer Exiled? LOL
disco
January 19th, 2012
11:58 am
kym –50 looks like he can bring that thug passion that tupac was talking about. taking idris elba isn’t even a “compromise”. you got to come up with one of those sleeper type fellows. heck, we’d ALL take idris elba. okay, maybe not all but most of the women in my circle have dibs on him. my girls clown me when I put ving rhames and derrick fisher on my list. of course, derrick has fallen off a bit but I saw him on an episode of cribs or something many years ago and just the way he was sitting on the sofa made you want to climb on top of him. ever since then he’s been on my list.
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
11:59 am
LOL…..@Exiled
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
12:00 pm
I have never come across someone so openly full of penis curiousity, or one who loves to reek sexual havoc all day every day.
disco
January 19th, 2012
12:02 pm
leggs – sexual havoc??? funny. puts me in the mind of the insurance commercials about mayhem. havoc and mayhem…
Purple
January 19th, 2012
12:03 pm
LOL@Leggs!
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:04 pm
Another thing that’s funny as heck, fomer Clayton Co. Sheriff Victor Hill can’t get out of jail. No bondsman will take his 50k bail money……….LOL
Kym
January 19th, 2012
12:05 pm
@Leggs..cause he trying to keep it in the closet..but it keeps coming out..
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:05 pm
LOL…..He’s behind bars saying he is running for Sheriff again.
Kym
January 19th, 2012
12:07 pm
@disco..hmm a sleeper thug…I got to think on that one…
Exiled!
January 19th, 2012
12:08 pm
Well. @ Leggs!
when someone says nothing to write home about openly…
the gauntlet has been thrown!
Slim…now what?
give us ur digit requirements..the guys feel challenged!
Exiled!
January 19th, 2012
12:10 pm
I’m sure when she says niteh 5 inches
Guys and dolls will be like
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:10 pm
Dvd’s from the street are hit and miss, I can’t do ‘em. I always end up with one’s that show a blurred picture.
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
12:13 pm
@BF ~ NOW, THAT IS INDEED COMICAL RE: VICTOR HILL.
His co*cky, short, arrogant self is behind bars yelling he’s going to run for Sheriff. He’s mental. Bottom Line! Poster child for Napoleon Complex.
czBrat
January 19th, 2012
12:14 pm
i’m sure i’m way late hearing and sharing this, but did the cruise ship captain really say he didn’t abandon ship? that he tripped and fell into a life boat? please STOP!!
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
12:15 pm
@disco ~ yep, havoc and mayhem are kin.
My thug crush is Nelly!
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:16 pm
LOL…..@Leggs
He can do a comedy skit with this shenanigan, I would love to see Saturday Night Live give him some play.
czBrat
January 19th, 2012
12:17 pm
BF, i’m too chicken to buy bootleg movies. but i sure will spend a saturday at my sister’s house catching up on all kinds of stuff i missed in theaters. pretty good copies too. except ‘tropic thunder’ sounded like there was a helicopter hovering right above the mic throughout the entire movie.
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
12:20 pm
Ex – I was not referring to the man’s package!! You really think they would’ve shown it on the BRAVO station? C’mon dude I was just talking about him as a whole, dance-wise, bodywise and lookswise.
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:20 pm
LOL…..@CZ
That’s another funny story, I’m sorry people died. But he tripped into a life boat, that is an original lie.
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
12:21 pm
Purp – Strangely, I’ve recently seen a 3D flick since the beau bought a 3D tv not too long ago.
disco
January 19th, 2012
12:23 pm
O/T – I’m looking at this week’s sports illustrated. Muhammad ali has been featured on the cover 38 times. they should do a special edition or a coffee table book. I’d buy it.
Leggs
January 19th, 2012
12:23 pm
@czB ~ I heard that and had to SMDH. He is a discrace. Although I understand the stance the paper is asking if it’s really practical to ask a person to stay steadfast until all passengers are off even if it means losing your own life. The answer seems to be an unequivocal YES! He cannot look anyone in the eye. His name is beyond sullied!
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:24 pm
Slim1 what are you’re saying some adult films come in 3D?
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:28 pm
Leggs:
The Captain is supposedly, should go down with the ship. When something like this happens that’s when we learned who will and who wont.
czBrat
January 19th, 2012
12:28 pm
leggs, i didn’t give two sh!ts about nelly until i saw him in a “husbands of beverly hills” skit with jd and bobby brown. i’d still have to pull the pillowcase over his face, but that body is just damn!!
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
12:29 pm
BF – I suppose so but it wasn’t a movie that was purchased. It was downloaded off the internet. But ssssshhhh don’t tell anybody
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:30 pm
LOL…..@Slim1
Gotcha.
czBrat
January 19th, 2012
12:32 pm
but BF, the ship didn’t even go all the way down. it’s tipped on it’s side. at the very least he could have hung on until the last person got off safely and STILL saved his ass (and his good name) in the end. that man must have tripped into one of the first boats leaving the scene.
Willie Dynamite
January 19th, 2012
12:36 pm
Afternoon All,
Soooo with the subtle topic change would any of you Ladies date Hustle Man?
Blackfoote: Thrown Back Under The Stairwell
January 19th, 2012
12:36 pm
CZ:
Exactly he could walked back and forth on top of the ship that didn’t sink in the water. Yet he tripped into a life boat how hillarius.
disco
January 19th, 2012
12:38 pm
hustle man? my first thought was bruh’man from martin and yep I’d be all over that. then I thought about tracy morgan. I think he had a hustle man skit once upon a time. I like him but he’s not on my hit it list. I’m guessing, though, that you meant the barbershop hustle man. back in the day I did date one. not so sure I’d be on that now especially if that was his main/only hustle. I might be able to deal with a side hustle man but…
SlimNu
January 19th, 2012
12:40 pm
that man must have tripped into one of the first boats leaving the scene.
The captain thought his normal excuse of, “I just tripped into the puddy” would also work here.