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Why do men hate to be alone?

This NY Times article posed the question: Why do men hate to be alone? Initially, I didn’t agree that was the case, then I remembered that out of my divorced friends, the men seemed to be quick to have a full committed relationship, some even remarried right away.

While my never married male friends seem to relish the perks of bachelorhood, when they leave long term relationships, they seem to feel a void. They go through this “nestling” phase where they want the first woman they find attractive to start playing house and fill the void. It’s basically the worst case of rebound girl ever.

Maybe men really do hate being alone? Well, hate it more than women do! Are women more resilient when it comes to being on our own?

There was one part of the article that struck me, though:

A marriage is a lot of work. Strike that. A man is a lot of work. Anyone who has been in a bad marriage knows that its defining characteristic is the unspeakable loneliness in which one feels shrouded, a sense of isolation amplified by not being alone.

If women enjoy their freedom so much after a long (bad) relationship ends, is it because being in a relationship brings a lot of “work” for us? Do most women feel as if they have embarked on a vacation after they divorce or break up?

What do you think? Who handles single life better?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

233 comments Add your comment

SlimNu - Deflated, defeated, back to sq1

January 13th, 2012
2:35 pm

WD – Maybe she stayed with him since he was acting as a public figure…we all know mahy of those wives now the deal. It looks better for a guy to have a family and be married when running for office. Who knows…

Randyt (made it past the needy stage and dayum glad)

January 13th, 2012
2:36 pm

(okay, that might have been ’slight’ exaggeration…maybe)

For Real

January 13th, 2012
2:37 pm

For Real now wondering how Randyt puts on a pair of draws with grapefruit size nutts.

Blackfoote: From The Stairwell To The Penthouse

January 13th, 2012
2:38 pm

Alright time to open the bar.

Glad smokies are not on the food tray.

For Real

January 13th, 2012
2:38 pm

two things you can see from outerspace:

1. The great wall of China

2. Randyt’s nutts

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 13th, 2012
2:39 pm

The weenie might have turned into a “Lil Smokie”

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SassaFrass blog hollering…then fainting…must resuscitate

SlimNu - Deflated, defeated, back to sq1

January 13th, 2012
2:39 pm

Speaking of rhoids, did yall ever hear about Hulk Hogans wife saying he had a gayship with one of his best friends?

For Real

January 13th, 2012
2:39 pm

For Real is not putting forth a resolution to change Randyt’s name to “Deese Nutts”. All in favor say aye!

Celisea

January 13th, 2012
2:40 pm

kimmie

January 13th, 2012
2:40 pm

Slim – You are right about that. The higher a guy gets in politics, he better be married to look “stable”. And yes, them wive ain’t crazy, they know exactly what’s up.

kimmie

January 13th, 2012
2:42 pm

Sassy – I just couldn’t resist!! :lol:

SlimNu - Deflated, defeated, back to sq1

January 13th, 2012
2:42 pm

For Real – You have me cracking up on Randy’s grapefruit sized nutts! lol

Blackfoote: From The Stairwell To The Penthouse

January 13th, 2012
2:42 pm

I did the same thing Sassy. Still rolling!

SlimNu - Deflated, defeated, back to sq1

January 13th, 2012
2:43 pm

Wait, that didn’t come out right. I’m not ON Randy’s nuts cracking up….oh nevamind

Blackfoote: From The Stairwell To The Penthouse

January 13th, 2012
2:45 pm

Slim1 too late, I’m sure RandyT don’t mind though. Just hope Exile hops over that one………..LOL

Randyt (made it past the needy stage and dayum glad)

January 13th, 2012
2:46 pm

That is FUNNY For Real, LMAOROTL (from Space…I may claim that the next time I am hitting on a lady whose IQ is lower than the temperature and might buy it).

Randyt (made it past the needy stage and dayum glad)

January 13th, 2012
2:47 pm

Did you say cracking up on my nuts or cracking my nuts?

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2012
2:49 pm

Leggs

January 13th, 2012
2:52 pm

@Ex ~ that’s because you live a make-believe existence believing you “da man” in all things! So not true!

SlimNu - Deflated, defeated, back to sq1

January 13th, 2012
2:52 pm

Randy – Don’t fret my pet, I’m not in the business of cracking nutz unless the recipe calls for it. ;-)

Lord Velonese

January 13th, 2012
2:59 pm

And just who came up with this statistic? Woman perhaps? I think it’s funny that women “think” they know everything about men. Single for life FTW!!!!!

Randyt (made it past the needy stage and dayum glad)

January 13th, 2012
3:02 pm

Time to go. Next week I go out for awhile. Have a great weekend y’all (can see from outer space, lol)…For Real, which is easier, the Great Wall or my nuts? Enquiring minds want to know!

Kym

January 13th, 2012
3:02 pm

@Leggs…could you tell me what the midday number was..I got my tickets for the evening

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 13th, 2012
3:04 pm

somebody give Bitter Bobby a hug so he can go back under his rock….

Kym

January 13th, 2012
3:04 pm

Ohh and Thank YOU!!!

Leggs

January 13th, 2012
3:19 pm

Leggs

January 13th, 2012
3:21 pm

@Lord ~ I’ve been known as the “flip the script Queen” by a few here. Just like you say women think they know everything about men, many of the posts over the years prove that quite a few men believe they know everything about women. Neither one is right!

Leggs

January 13th, 2012
3:22 pm

@SassyMe ~ Bitter Bobby has fangs. Every time he comes on I think of vampires…

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2012
4:42 pm

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 13th, 2012
4:44 pm

I’m outta here…have a safe weekend errbody!!! Keep warm the best way you can! ;-)

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 13th, 2012
4:44 pm

Celisea

January 13th, 2012
4:51 pm

Dern…I missed a good discussion. Just coming up for breath

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2012
5:00 pm

Everybody disappeared for a good min. Hope its a good weekend for all.