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Signs the relationship is over

Sometimes a relationship starts to come apart slowly, unraveling like cheap clothing. You see and feel the difference but you don’t want to be the one that brings it up. You hope things will get better but they only get worse.

A lot of times, breakups are inevitable but how do you know when it is really over? Every couple go through tough periods, but how can you tell it’s a rough patch or the end of the road?

What are signs that a relationship is over? Would you try to stay and find a way to make it work if you have signs that the other person has given up?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating

192 comments Add your comment

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
3:49 pm

Kimmie…as I saw on here once before, such is life…Everyone will have certain unavoidable experiences…the problem that I have with this discussion is, Ladies believe that Dudes intend on playin them from the giddy up, but that’s not really how it goes. Dudes are often lookin for something significant too, but we don’t live in an emotional nutshell and can quickly recognize when the only thing significant is the “HoTT and Toasty”.

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
3:53 pm

It’s amazing how so many men really think we are dumb creatures and can’t see the obvious right in front of us even when they’re acting like they put perfume on a pig and it no longer stinks! We are not dumb women. It’s like watching your enemy in your peripheral vision all the while looking dead ahead at the person in front of you.

Willie Dynamite

January 12th, 2012
3:54 pm

Jake – 3:49 that’s what I’ve been trying to say for years.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
3:55 pm

Nice symbolism in that last post Leggs…especially the last line. That’s real talk.

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
3:56 pm

@Kym ~ and my bday 129!

@MLBs ~ just like many of you think you’re dropping knowledge on us, let me share this with you. We know when you’re sniffing around, we know when you think of clever ways to get us to open the front door or even step out on the porch and talk. We know what’s up when you ask if we would like to stop over for a drink on our way home. We know when you aren’t into us at all, but still want to ride. We really do know…

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
3:56 pm

Dayum Sassy, I am hurtin for dude…did he really ask you that? Ole Babyface azz dude!!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
3:58 pm

Willie/Jake you guys make valid points but just know that if y’all wookin pah nubb or something significant sometimes your actions belies the notion…not always but often enough.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:02 pm

@Jake~ Yes he really did ask me that… What a rookie move that was. He needed to have his man-card revoked or sumthin.

Babyface azz dude!!

My sentiments exactly…where they do that at?!

kimmie

January 12th, 2012
4:03 pm

Jake – I get what you are saying. You are right, it’s life. Speaking for myself, I take ownership of everything that’s gone down with me & men, the good and the bad. I was raised to have respect for myself, so yeah, my radar was on. That didn’t mean at times I wasn’t played. I’m human. Nothing happened to me that I didn’t allow to happen. And no, I didn’t think every dude was out to play me. Every one was not looking for a relationship either. The trick is recognizing and figuring how I want to react to it. Sometimes I played along. Sometimes I hoped against hope that my instincts about dude were wrong. Those are the times I got played, but yeah I knew it wasn’t right. I didn’t shoot myself in the foot, though, and become bitter. I recognized real love when it presented itself. That’s all that matters.

Just don’t think anything you or Willie or any of these other dudes say on here is new or you’re dropping some knowledge. Been there, seen it, done it.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:06 pm

Willie, they don’t believe us, guess we need more people…

Yea Sassy, I feel ya, but you do know that her actions will always dictate his

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:06 pm

@kimmie ~ Exactly what I was trying to say..

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:08 pm

and sometimes is actions will dictate hers….its a two way street.

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:08 pm

his actions…

Willie Dynamite

January 12th, 2012
4:10 pm

Ladies – I am agreeing with probably 87.2% (ha) of what you all are saying. Don’t shoot the messengers. We understand and feel your pain. We took a giant leap and went against the code and see what its getting us. Then again we deserve it for being dumbazzes. We should have just stuck with the company motto. Bro’s before…..

Jake – dayum mayne,next time close the store early.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:11 pm

Precisely..it is definitely a two way street..

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:11 pm

Sassy-No dayum where, I hope you at least gave him a parting shot…

Kimmie-so you are sayin that I am not Negrodamus?…hehehe

Celisea

January 12th, 2012
4:12 pm

Enter your comments here

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:13 pm

Willie I wasn’t aiming at you or Jake…I know there are other male bloggers who are lurking and nodding in agreement with what your saying…only they didn’t have the nerve to say so.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:14 pm

Aight, the store is closed Indefinitely for Renovations, and somebody just got hit with an Insider Trading charge…

Celisea

January 12th, 2012
4:14 pm

I think 87.2% is a good number :) The other 12.8% is probably due to ya’ll being men and just knowing from a man’s window.

kimmie

January 12th, 2012
4:14 pm

Jake – Nope, not Nostra either! LOL!!

I grew up with 4 brothers. I should have actually had a way better history with men. I had somewhat of a head start on gaining knowledge about them. Oh well….

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:15 pm

@WillieD ~ see that’s what we’re saying…you didn’t go behind the code. You’re trying to reveal something we already know! If anything, WE went behind the code to let you know we see more than you think we see (LOLOL).

Watch your mouth!!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:16 pm

I hope you at least gave him a parting shot…

:shock:

Ummm no…seeing him slither away all broken was all the gratification I needed..plus he’s on some boyish/childish bullisht. I gots me a man now :lol:

kimmie

January 12th, 2012
4:18 pm

Sassy – There is NOTHING like a REAL MAN!! :wink:

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:22 pm

There sure isn’t Kimmie!

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:23 pm

Sassy wit extra sauce…now I see, you got you a man, so the maintenance dude is no longer needed…such is life.

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:25 pm

He wasn’t needed before she got with her “real man.” She felt he was blocking what she was really looking for in a relationship and put a stop to the shenanigans (lol)…Poof she was able to recognize him and him recognize her.

kimmie

January 12th, 2012
4:27 pm

Sassy – A good friend of mine came in contact with this guy I used to date awhile back. She used to work with him and actually introduced me to him. We dated about 3 years on and off, but it just didn’t work out. He didn’t want anything substantial. They still work for the same company, just in different states now. She said he’s up to the same old stuff, trying to be a player in his late 40’s now. What might have been cute before just looks stupid. SMH

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:30 pm

THANK YOU LEGGS!!!

Jake that is exactly what happened…one of the first laws of physics is two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time and I realized that if I was going to be with man I wanted that the boy toy couldn’t be in his space…so he had to go. I was celibate for a while until I “re-connected” with Mr. Bermuda…who has recently moved back to the States…yeah for meeeee :-)

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:32 pm

Dayum Leggs, who broke Sassy’s fingers?…lol

Willie Dynamite

January 12th, 2012
4:32 pm

Leggs – Needs and wants Needs and wants. She got what she wanted until she figured out what she needed.

To be honest I wasn’t trying to drop knowledge or anything like that. I was as always taking a jab at these Babyface Azz dudes shining a flashlight in broad daylight trying to find something. I would rather talk to Women and hope they get the message in a round-a-bout kind of way. Dudes get real defensive (kinda like Women) and say he not talking to me.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:33 pm

What might have been cute before just looks stupid.

True,true. Once the novelty wears off that isht is soo not a good look. kimmie I’m glad your friend didn’t try to make lemonade outta that lemon. That dude hasn’t met his match yet, there’s always one that’ll be his Kryptonite…there’s ALWAYS one.

kimmie

January 12th, 2012
4:34 pm

It’s been totally fun gang, but I’m cutting out! Read ya tomorrow.

Be easy!

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:35 pm

Yep, WillieD. That so coincides with my E.O.D.

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:37 pm

@Jake ~ she was having a coughing fit, so I typed her response for her.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:39 pm

she was having a coughing fit, so I typed her response for her.

:lol:

Willie Dynamite

January 12th, 2012
4:40 pm

shiiiiiiid I must be special. I’ve ran into my Kryptonite several times.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:45 pm

Oh really Willie?…so how well did you handle your first encounter with Ms. Kryptonite, cause that first time is a doozey. Since you said “several times”, I’m sure it took multiple encounters for you to build up your resistance…or did you marry her?

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 12th, 2012
4:47 pm

By y’all…have a good evening!!!!

Willie Dynamite

January 12th, 2012
4:49 pm

didn’t marry her and the rest is officially “No Comment’

Leggs

January 12th, 2012
4:55 pm

Good night!

Have what you want, but WANT what you have.

Peace!

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 12th, 2012
4:57 pm

“I would rather talk to Women and hope they get the message in a round-a-bout kind of way”

Willie- Subliminal messages always been a 50/50 proposition to me, I usaully go more direct, cause some folks need things plain, but to each his own”

ya’ll be safe out there this evening