Signs the relationship is over
Sometimes a relationship starts to come apart slowly, unraveling like cheap clothing. You see and feel the difference but you don’t want to be the one that brings it up. You hope things will get better but they only get worse.
A lot of times, breakups are inevitable but how do you know when it is really over? Every couple go through tough periods, but how can you tell it’s a rough patch or the end of the road?
What are signs that a relationship is over? Would you try to stay and find a way to make it work if you have signs that the other person has given up?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating
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Kick Rocks
January 12th, 2012
11:05 am
@Celiesa – I shut one down quickly when he said Ce-Lo Lady Killers CD was his favorite. lol
Robert
January 12th, 2012
11:05 am
“What are signs that a relationship is over?”
Trust is a major issue. For example;
1.Checking my cell phone
2.Going through my pants pockets looking for receipts
3.Inspecting my dirty laundry
4.Riding in my Car looking for evidence
5.Feeling to attached (D!ck Wipped)
6.Very emotional (jelously)
7.Lost Job and Income
8.Lost Home
9.Lost Car
10. Lost Man
i'm swiss
January 12th, 2012
11:07 am
Morning, folks. Just popping in to say hi. Oh, and by the way, Leggs, playing with yourself is much more fulfilling when you broadcast on webcam. And send me the link. Just sayin’…
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:08 am
Kick Rocks – LOL…Okaaaay
Like they told us in the 3rd grade at the crosswalk….STOP LOOK AND LISTEN
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:09 am
@czB ~ you are a pistol (lol).
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:12 am
Out or Robert’s 10 points, I haven’t done any of them!
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:13 am
@swiss ~ Hush…if I remember correctly, I said I don’t take the time to play with myself any more, it’s exhausting (lol).
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:15 am
Leggs – It wasn’t so much a debate but Bert’s kid had to pick from a list of “heros” someone to do a biography and he chose Muhummad Ali and during the course of the conversation with dad, he was hyped in saying all he was going to do in presentation and “going brown” or wearing brown makeup was one. So from there Bert said he didn’t respond because if he told him noooo, don’t do that, he’d have to explain. Bert said he knows blackface is taboo but didn’t really know the history. So he decided before he told him “no” he would research. After that he decided to get calls and opinions from the audience and someone on the show this morning named “Carl.” Now this might be someone famous but I didn’t catch the last name so I don’t know who he is but he wanted to give feedback on why the kid shouldn’t. By the way Carl’s kid and Bert’s kid have hung out/hangs out together sometimes. The other DJs was saying no but Bert’s stance was if it’s all innocent and the intent is to only go full character, why not? Very interesting discussion and mixed comments from listeners. I was last moving this morning so I missed everything else. I was in Publix buying Benefiber…lol Which by the was is only a bit half full. Somebody owes me about 6.00 bucks back.
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
11:16 am
Leggs – I don’t remember the exact words used, but they were similiar to that “sooner than later” mess. A dude said that to me and I immediately shot back with “let’s make it later, much later, then”. Like I said earlier, he didn’t know what hit him and how to respond!!LOL!!!
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:17 am
And sometimes you get so tired of running into “nots” and “nothings” that sometimes, just sometimes you’d rather swing it single.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:18 am
The other DJs were saying
i'm swiss
January 12th, 2012
11:19 am
Well Leggs, if you need a hand…
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:20 am
Same here, kimmie. A playa (or even a wannabe playa) thinks he’s saying a lot when saying “sooner or later.” Baby, I can’t wait to see you again, don’t know when but it will be sooner than later, and the woman should feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Those are “filler words” and they mean as much as Jack in the Beanstalks beans growing in my backyard! Game recognize game…
czBrat
January 12th, 2012
11:20 am
leggs, not only have i not done anything on robert’s list, but i can’t even identify with that mentality.
@ kimmie 11:16. like i said … just luv ya, chica!
Robert
January 12th, 2012
11:22 am
@Kym – “I can only speak for me but I like to be courted, so if the guy is doing things to court me and get to know me then I am going to respond.”
Good morning Kym. How are you? I am thinking about you….R. U. free for lunch?
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:25 am
@swiss ~ I can only laugh at you. See, that’s the problem…not looking for handouts, looking for the real deal.
@czB ~ exactly, can’t identify with that mentality. I aint checking crap! If I don’t trust you, I don’t need to be with you. Now, if things began to get muddy, I won’t resort to snoping, but we will sit down and talk things over. If the water clears fine, if not….NEXT!
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:30 am
Going through somebody’s dirty laundry?
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:30 am
That’s a new one
mark
January 12th, 2012
11:31 am
@leggs and @ shannon:
Ladies you both right and i have just called the young lady and told her what the problem was and now she syas she realized it and is willing to work on it. so i guess communication was the key.
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
11:31 am
Brat –
As far as courting and such – if a guy was truly interested in me, he let me know it by not only his word, but his actions. No man I’ve dealt with has been really rode the fence on this. Either he was into me and it showed, or he was not. I would respond in kind to the dudes that were really interested. There was give & take, easy. Those that were flaky with their interest, I was completely flaky with mine until I didn’t feel like playing any more. I had a dude to tell me once “you don’t call nobody, not even call them back, you’re lazy”. He was so right, it would not even occur to me to pick up the phone sometimes to call him. That’s because he was playing me and I was on to it!
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
11:35 am
@mark ~ glad to hear it, but you’re old enought to know “communication” is always the key. So many don’t try and just walk away…like I said, the new breed of humans lack patience. And yes, Ex, it’s a two way street.
czBrat
January 12th, 2012
11:36 am
exactly, celisea! looking for what???
czBrat
January 12th, 2012
11:38 am
“you’re lazy”? no. i’m not lazy. i’m finicky.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:40 am
czBrat – One thing Raqi use to ask is “where are they finding these women”…lol Girl, looking for what I don’t know but I’ll be daggone if I’m rambling through anything. Dirty laundry, clean laundry, cars, phones…
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
11:43 am
Brat/Celisea/Leggs – Laundry? H no! See I’ve always been so proud, I wouldn’t want any dude even knowing I was into him like that.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
11:48 am
Hey Kimmie – The jury is still out on Robert’s list…lol Going through pants pockets, his car?
Sniffing No More!
January 12th, 2012
11:50 am
None of them?
Leggs?!
No D!ck whipped?
so this Viagra issue is serous ha?
All of them??
ladies,I’m organizing a collection plate for Leggs so we can hire a man with natural talents…At least she deserves that..
@Swiss. She does need a hand!
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
11:50 am
Cel –
For Real
January 12th, 2012
12:03 pm
what up blog fam!!
On topic: It’s over the day my peace is disturb
Courting: Ladies courting is a 50/50 thing. I move, you move….
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
12:06 pm
For Real – You are right about courting being 50/50. That’s what I eluded to in my post about give and take. My husband and I courted each other. Not one chasing the other and hitting them over the head with a club.
czBrat
January 12th, 2012
12:14 pm
this is my feeling on that whole inspector gadget approach. the very instant it crosses my mind that i should start checking up on you to discover what dirt you’ve been getting into, that’s the instant i need to start looking for the nearest exit. end of problem.
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
12:18 pm
@Sniffing ~ do I sound like I’ve ever been D whipped! Had good sex, but nothing making me go on the deep end or acting stupid to get back to it! Nope.
And, for the record, I don’t need a collection taken up. I have no problem turning down the ones I’m turning down. I’m good over here….don’t need a helping hand either, but thanks for your warped concern.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:23 pm
I wonder if it’s just me…it could very well be but why in the heck does my dentist call to confirm the next day’s appointment at dang 7:00 in the morning!! That mess irritates the heck out of me… You can’t call like after 9:00 ish???
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:25 pm
I’m listening to the voicemail of a call I bumped this morning cause it was just too dang early.
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
12:25 pm
@Celisea ~ my dentist calls 3 days in advance.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:27 pm
They call the day before because they charge you $50 if you don’t show. I don’t even mind the day before…but 7:00 in the morning. This is each time I have an appointment.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:28 pm
I’m so happy I always opt to do the Flex Spending Account. I don’t have to come out of pocket…well sort of I do because it’s out of my check. The day of though, I’m glad I can pull out my FSA Card.
Sniffing No More!
January 12th, 2012
12:33 pm
not even going back to dude’s house in only trench coat but completely butt nekkid?
would that be Deep end for U..at least U,Leggs?
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
12:35 pm
@Celisea ~ love pulling out the FSA card (even though it’s my Ex’s).
Sniffing No More!
January 12th, 2012
12:39 pm
trying to determine if Leggs likes candy..
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:43 pm
Me too…especially when you get there and there are a few surprises they failed to discuss the previous visit…lol I had some work done and got to the counter to check out. Aside from my portion it was another $40.00 for an antibiotic. Um, how come the dentist just didn’t write a presciption and I got it filled for $7.00??? Yeah that FSA card is good to have. I paid it but I wasn’t happy. I was ready to get home, get medicine and get to bed.
GracieL
January 12th, 2012
12:44 pm
It’s over when: He sends a facebook message from his iPhone: “Hey baby, miss you, be back in few days, looking forward to… yadda yadda..” to you, and to another woman (We’re all named “baby,” so why retype it?) not realizing that FB will make it a three-way conversation, and then turns on YOU in a frightening, nasty way (that makes the hair on the back of your neck stand on end) when you confront him for getting sloppy with his juggling.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:47 pm
The chick covering for the ballplayer is shadowing with me for getting up to speed. Funny thing, she called me yesterday and told me of the two meetings and laundry list of questions, issues and items….she asked pointblank, “what sort of jacket should I wear into this thing?” That was funny as heck. She said I just told him, I don’t need to see and talk to him everyday. She said (while I was on vacay last month), that after see all the work I normal prepare for his meetings she called and said “it’s a one hour meeting, you don’t need all of that stuff” Hey I’ve said it a gazillion times. Some things I stopped doing because he’s just an idiot BUUUUT, I’m out and she’s in and she ain’t feeling it.
Celisea
January 12th, 2012
12:48 pm
seeing, normally
czBrat
January 12th, 2012
12:54 pm
just YIKES!
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
1:22 pm
Those who get caught on FB deserves to be caught on FB for being so dumb thinking they can hide behind social media.
@Chelisea ~ why did I get a call on Tuesday saying I owed $$ from a visit back in April and May. Why when I was there in May they didn’t tell me about an outstanding balance then. Took my co-pay and said nothing. Now, January 2012 I get a call about payment from April and May. I told them they need to fire their bookkeeper because I pay my bills on time and it makes no sense to receive a bill 8 months later. I quibbled and quibbled and got $40 taken off for an administrative fee. You damn skippy to take that off!!!
Sorry, back to regularly scheduled blogging…
Robert
January 12th, 2012
1:29 pm
@kimmie – “Brat/Celisea/Leggs – Laundry? H no! See I’ve always been so proud, I wouldn’t want any dude even knowing I was into him like that.”
If you were my woman you would happily do my laundry with yours. I would reward your good deed with my “passion & desire” all night long.
Leggs
January 12th, 2012
1:30 pm
@Robert ~ The point wasn’t about “doing” laundry. It was about going “through” his dirty laundry looking for dirt other than the soot on his clothing.
@Kym ~ NEVAMIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kimmie
January 12th, 2012
1:41 pm
Robert – You sound like a weirdo most times you come on here. But I don’t care how fabulous the weenie is, ain’t none been enough to make me lose my mind and go on stalking rampage thru some stank draws! LOL!!
Plus, my husband and I have different styles on how we like laundry done, so he does his & the kids and I do mine. Works out beautiful.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
January 12th, 2012
1:47 pm
But I don’t care how fabulous the weenie is, ain’t none been enough to make me lose my mind and go on stalking rampage thru some stank draws!
need air…must get air…please resuscitate