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Why is the Lunch Date Popular?

We have a guest blogger today! Brian Jenkins has a timely topic about the lunch date trend. Check it out:

In our fast-paced world, lunch dating is increasingly popular with busy professionals. The lunch date is ideal because it isn’t as complex as the dinner date – it’s more relaxed and doesn’t have the pressure associated with a dinner date. It’s much, much easier to be yourself.

An offer for a lunch date is also more likely to be accepted by the person you’re interested in than is a dinner date. Besides, since lunch dates are shorter, you only have to be on your best behavior for a little while.

The best time to ask for a lunch date is when you’re feeling a good vibe during a casual conversation. It’s easier to ask for a lunch date if the offer flows with the conversation and doesn’t take center stage.

For women who don’t have a lot of experience asking a man out on a date, the lunch date is a great way to go. Many women find the lunch date offer fairly easy and if they get a negative response, it was just a lunch invitation, no big deal!

A lunch date is less demanding, involves less pressure, and takes less time than a dinner date, but it still provides an excellent opportunity to get to know each other. The lunch date lets you mix lighthearted fun with a little romance.

Low key restaurants work well. To keep it casual, consider selecting a place where you order the food at a counter and then find a table. Select a somewhat quiet place that allows you to have a conversation without screaming. Eat at a moderately priced restaurant. Fast food is alright if you know for sure the other person enjoys it. If time is limited, schedule the lunch date to begin before or after the busy 12:00 to 1:00 rush.

The conversation is vital. Don’t discuss work because the answer to a question such as “How is it going at work?” usually receives a boring response such as “It’s alright” or “I’m usually busy” and you both end up talking about problems at work. The good vibe easily disappears.

What do you think about the lunch date? Have you ever started a relationship with one?

Brian Jenkins writes about many different topics that relate to life in the workplace for BrainTrack.com.

221 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
11:41 am

Guess we have the lunch crawl going on in here…Hey, do any of you all recall taking Slave Mathematics back in the day? :shock:

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
11:41 am

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
11:44 am

Ex – What I found strange was the article stating Atlanta has been knocked down from the number 1 spot as far as Gayest cities…we have now been trumped by Utah. Isn’t that where many Mormans reside or am I mixing that up with Polygamist? lol

disco

January 10th, 2012
11:46 am

I’m not at lunch. in fact I’ve been wondering if time is standing still for anyone else. does time standing still have anything to do with slave mathematics?

dyslexicbunny

January 10th, 2012
11:50 am

You have one slave headed from LA to Boston at 294 mph and another going from Boston to LA at 421 mph. Where will they meet if time is at a standstill?

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
11:52 am

disco – I’m sure there is a word problem in there somewhere. If a slave worked from sun up to sun down, approximately how many hours did he/she work? BONUS: If they failed to pick enough bails of cotton during that time, how many beating would suffice for that amount of hours worked?

Dbunny lol

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 10th, 2012
11:52 am

Hey, do any of you all recall taking Slave Mathematics back in the day?

:shock:

The teacher claimed they were trying to integrate history into math…WTH? So by asking a child “how many oranges a slave picked” or “how many whippings a slave was gonna get” is barbaric and sends the wrong message. I’m still trying to rationalize the deductive reasoning that led to such a dumb,insentitive idea. Just because we have an African American POTUS does NOT mean racism is dead. It’s become more blatant than ever since his election.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
11:54 am

Slim?

So Atlanta was trumping San fransisco..now Utah

Lawd have mercy…..

I can’t understand Utah tho..seems quaint and country to accept that..

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
11:56 am

Sassy – Yeah, asking a MATH question that merely has slaves as the subjects is not teaching me history. It would be no different it they substituted Jews, Indians, Latinos etc into the mix. We are sooooo behind in education, it’s not even funny.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 10th, 2012
12:00 pm

We are sooooo behind in education, it’s not even funny.

Coupled with “No child left behind statute” and there… you have APS cheating debacle as a result. Georgia has historically scored low when compared to the other states when it comes to education.

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:00 pm

Ex – Yeah Utah is a strange one if you ask me but I’ve never been to Utah so can’t really speak on what the haps are out there. So I guess that’s a good thing for the single ladies here that the numbers are dropping lol

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:03 pm

Exiled – Wait, I may have the answer…Brokeback Mountain?? i kid, i kid

abc

January 10th, 2012
12:10 pm

The South has always lagged in education, from elementary through college. That slave arithmetic stuff is pretty stupid, though. Or, really stupid.

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
12:12 pm

I didn’t watch it Slim but if Utah wants to do an swap I think Atlanta guts will luv it..

we give them our gay dudes and Utah gives us her polygamous friendly ladies :D :)

howboutdat!!!!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
12:13 pm

Robert

January 10th, 2012
12:16 pm

“What do you think about the lunch date? Have you ever started a relationship with one?”

Gentlemen beware!!!….We live in hard times and if you are unemployed, lazy, married or in a committed relationship you should be worried about your woman having a lunch date with co-workers, old friends and the friendly Brother (Me) with the corner office who always has a smile and compliments for your woman. The only thing thats stopping “Me” is my respect for that woman. Lunch can turn to passion and desire.

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:17 pm

abc – I don’t understand if we KNOW how other countries fare on education, especially math & science, then wouldn’t it make sense to try to mimick their curriculum? Seems like everything is basically geared towards numerous standardized tests. What do I know though…

Ex – Um, what a way to turn that into a positive :lol:

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
12:17 pm

Robert – Like I said earlier, when lunchtime rolls around, seems everyone is SINGLE, even if they are not!

disco

January 10th, 2012
12:19 pm

Robert – lunch can turn into passion and desire… I’ll bite. where do you go for lunch?

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:23 pm

Robert – You can be anybody in that case…but that’s the whole trick with “going to lunch & lunch dates’ because of the laid-backness of the situation. If you were out to lunch with a co-worker and the significant other showed up, it would be easy to pass that off as ‘just lunch’ when in fact it could be a passionate and desirable hour session. My ex actually pulled that on me, when gut feeling told me otherwise. Come to find out, they did mess around.

Celisea

January 10th, 2012
12:23 pm

Look at Robert. So you’re the “hey whatcha doing for lunch” dude? Stooooop

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
12:24 pm

Slim – There are a lot of things other countries have figured out better than we have. Mimicking, or at least taking a few of the good ideas and implementing them would make perfect sense. But some may think that would make us socialists or communists or something!

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:25 pm

kimmie – Or maybe the ‘powers that be’ prefer us to be as dumbed down as possible.

disco

January 10th, 2012
12:27 pm

kimmie/slim – and besides, america is the GREATEST. all that and then some. it would be so beneath america to take a pointer from all those lesser countries.

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
12:27 pm

Slim – Bingo!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
12:38 pm

The folks with money in america actually prefer some type of feudal system,without saying it.

They want privileges for them and then crumbs for u and me.

They send their kids to pvt schools,they travel in pvt jets,they go overseas and have villa there and aspen etc and they declare wars that uall kids go over to fight.

And they keep the school system is Dummer as Dumb!
And they give u food stamps with Loads of sugar to make u fat dump and looking stupid! Lol

(boy I hated the sight of yhat fat lady with a fatt behind pushing an overflowing Cart,loaded with dumm stuff,Oreos,juice juice,stale shelf bread ,etc) :lol:

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
12:39 pm

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:41 pm

Ex – You so wrong for that one.

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
12:44 pm

Exiled – You wrong for that, but right. :(

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:47 pm

Well, unfortunately, it’s cheaper to eat in an unhealthy way, as it is to eat healthier foods. They don’t even have a Whole Foods spot on the south side

disco

January 10th, 2012
12:47 pm

hush ex before they get a raise in their food stamp allotment so that they can afford fresher/healthier foods because then you’ll really be ticked when they have even more food stamps to buy more junk like oreos and juicy juice.

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
12:54 pm

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
12:54 pm

Slim – I saw on Dateline once that it’s easier to get a gun than fresh produce in Harlem.

Whole Foods is a rip-off and I can’t stand it’s CEO. So they can stay where they are for all I care. But it would be nice to have a Trader Joes closer. They have more reasonable and realistic prices.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 10th, 2012
12:56 pm

They don’t even have a Whole Foods spot on the south side

They shole don’t…and even at the lil mom n pop grocery stores..the produce isn’t always the freshest and costs SOO much. It is easier for a mother/father/caretaker to stretch money farther with unhearthy options than healthier ones. Plus if you look at the way it’s marketed now, all they do is tell you how you can get aaallllllll of this salty, greasy,fatty food for just a few bucks..in a recession…and with folks losing jobs n such it’s a trap.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 10th, 2012
12:57 pm

*unhealthy* ..geeze, but I digress. My typing sucks hard today…

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
1:00 pm

Sassy – Maybe because i’m from Bama, I grew up on fresh veggies & fruit. Very rarely did we eat oreos, candy or any other sugary treat. But I will say kool aid was a normal part of our ‘nutrition’. lol But anyway, i think that’s probably why i’m not real big on all that stuff now. If I eat cookies, it’s usually ONE or at the most two. To this day, I grab me a container of misc fruit from Publix to snack on.

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
1:00 pm

A great thing would be to try to grow a few things yourself, even if it’s just in a big pot on your patio. Otherwise, try to buy produce only in season and when it’s on sale. That way you can get fresher at a reasonable price. You may find you are paying the same for a bag of apples on sale versus a package of cheap processed cookies & chips.

It takes effort to eat healthy, but it’s well worth it. You save all around on health costs.

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
1:04 pm

I’ve just found that people really afford what they WANT to afford. They’ll moan about buying healthy food, but will find money for fake nails and eyelashes and weaves, the latest electronic gadget or overpriced kicks.

People do exactly what they want to do – it’s where they put their priorities.

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
1:07 pm

Slim – We didn’t have much of that junk growing up either. The few times we got a soda or cookies or fast food, it was indeed a treat. Even Koolaid was a treat, and my mom used to mix in lemon or pineapple juice the few times we got it. We had better teeth as a result too!

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
1:07 pm

kimmie – You have a point there. You’ll stand in line over night for some overpriced Jordan sneakers to look good on the outside but say to hell with paying to get a medical physical to ensure health on the inside lol

Leggs

January 10th, 2012
1:31 pm

Are we on a slow moving barge….man it is dismal in here.

I’ll bring up a topic I never bring up. How about that “mauling” of LSU last night. Yes, I had to watch the game with lil leggs and she allowed me to only turn to my shows during commercials. I let her think she was in control….

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 10th, 2012
1:42 pm

Slim Nu I understand what you mean…growing up we ate alot of fresh fruits n veggies cause we grew ours or could barter around the neighborhood. Now-a days it’s not like that…at least not in the hood. Folks just trying to make it and feed the cherrn and strecth money at the same time and alot of times it’s the worst food that’s the cheapest.

I’ve just found that people really afford what they WANT to afford.

Gotta agree with that,too….it’s about priorities.

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

Leggs – I’m still here but I suppose we ran out of gas. I didn’t watch the game last night but the beau did end up going to a friends to watch it. The word ‘mauling’ that you used immediately brought back a flashback of the last Falcons game :lol:

Leggs

January 10th, 2012
1:49 pm

The announcer used the word “mauling” and I cracked up, because it was the perfect word…

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
1:52 pm

I almost caused an abomination! :shock:

I am a fartee by nature..but I usually do the silent pheeeeeeeew ones..occasionally,the Loud bang.

Now a colleague is eating and chewing loudly while sitting in the cubicle across
and I’m on my desk reading,prepping for a meet and I got so engrossed that I almost released the loud thud…but caught it before o could do damage..

Whew…(wiping my brow) ! :lol:

Willie Dynamite

January 10th, 2012
1:55 pm

Afternoon All,

On Topic (I’m sure it has changed) – Lunch Dates are under-utilized. Some people thoughts are too restrictive. you can have a Lundh Date on the weekend. Use this as an opportunity to weed out riff-raff.

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
1:56 pm

Ex – It’s funny you brought flatulence up because I just got on mr man about the night before last. This fool has gotten to the point where he thinks it’s funny to let em rippppp now. But then he goes on to tell me it isn’t ladylike for chicks to do it. He said, I know we’re human and we all do it but yall ain’t supposed to let on that you even fart at all. Just for that, I let one go :lol:

kimmie

January 10th, 2012
2:01 pm

Willie – Yes, lunch on the weekends is a delight!

Exiled!

January 10th, 2012
2:06 pm

It kinda puts ‘human’ to the nice chic which sometimes for men,we don’t want to happen..we put our women in another zone sometimes..

So I understand ur man stance Slim..but go head and

Release aghhhhh.. :lol:

My late paternal grand dad once released it accidentally while we were having dinner:granny,uncles,unties etc and rather than saying sorry,he immediately called out the name of my brother sitting near him,apportioning blame. Here go the play:

Me: this food is so good,grand mum,nice cooking!

My Uncle: yes maa,it’s gooooo (before he completes sentence)

Granddad: bwaaaaaaa(loud crack)

Granddad: SIMON!!! Haaaaaa,what’s that?! :lol:

SlimNu

January 10th, 2012
2:13 pm

I think I told yall about my experience at Old School Saturday last month. We all were dancing towards the dance floor but as soon as we got there, this plume of the grosses farts ever ran EVERYBODY away. It smelled like bad collard greens & 3wk old deviled eggs. That happened more than once and this chick says,” I guess that what we get for partying with the old folks”. Whoever it was, never left the dance floor. Just danced that fart right on out. :lol: