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Should parents pick your mate?

Whenever I hear the words “Let me introduce you to my son”, I already know which direction the conversation will go. I hear it a lot, actually. What can I tell you? Mothers love me. I’m like the Mom Whisperer or something.

For years I have graciously declined the meet my son offers. I figured that well-meaning mothers really don’t know for sure if I am a good match for their sons. Further, how many men would actually look forward to being hooked up by their Mom?

Then I met a guy this weekend who is the son of a woman I have known for years. The fact that he is crazy handsome, successful, and charming as they come sort of changed my notion about Mother Matchmakers.

Maybe our Mothers really do know best and is it terrible to let them do a little matchmaking every know and again? Would you be open to being introduced to a potential match that your parents selected for you?

Have you ever met someone through their parents and things went really great?

On a semi-related note: I have always been fascinated by arranged marriages. A lot of cultures still practice this tradition and I would be curious to find out more information about the divorce rates among arranged marriages.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

221 comments Add your comment

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:34 pm

@kimmie ~ The New York Daily News is a legit newspapers. Nothing like Star or The Inquirer….but thanks for the hearty laugh!!!

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:34 pm

There is nothing wrong with seeing having a partner in life as happiness but the point is your happiness should not solely depend on another. As far as what I think, I have some feelings or what not but I don’t care to post them here. Plus, I never claimed to be an expert as I’m not married. However, that does not mean I don’t have suggestions or observations she couldn’t get something from.

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:36 pm

and the surrogate story better be false

otherwise Lil Wayne and them will toast JZ
and say:
useless balls! :lol:

u know they got beef already!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:36 pm

Kimmie I’ve heard prior she didn’t want to lose her shape or gain any weight……ijs it could be its just not a modern practice in our cultural is my point… Wend Williams made a great point, some teal babies, miscarry babies, can’t have them, and pay others…….

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:36 pm

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:37 pm

Leggs we probably did read the same article…and of course the hospital’s top dog is gonna say she hasn’t heard of any complaints cause then she’d have to answer some questions from her big dog.

On Will n Jada…I don’t know if it’s over for/between them but something in the milk ain’t clean..usually where there’s smoke, there’s fire.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:38 pm

ex the person supposedly had their egg sperm

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:38 pm

I joked around with one of my best friends that if she was definitely not able to have any that she’d pay me to be a surrogate for her and her hubby. I’m glad I bit the bullet on that one because she just found out she’s expecting :D

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:39 pm

oh, I was trying to picture a bluish/green baby.

Bey was pregnant, gave birth to a healthy, baby girl….end of story.

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:40 pm

I heard they kept having disagreements about the kids. One wants them to take it easy & have as close to a ‘normal life’ and the other wants them to continue on in the world of entertainment…then they speculated on thats why we hadn’t heard from Willow lately as well. Who knows

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:40 pm

I saw a pic of her preggers in a bikini on Essence

I saw that one,too. She was veeery pregna n pretty….she had that glow.

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:41 pm

@Lady?

if there is some fog then we don’t even know the real truf..

:lol: whose eggs with whose juice

Or whose juice with whose eggs

Dammn it! Lol

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:41 pm

good deal Sassy! its a beautiful thing to carry your baby! and for those who can’t I take nothing from their motherhood! ;)

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:43 pm

Ex as my mama can say ” Lady you wasn’t hold’t the light” it ain’t my business just good gossip1 :)

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:43 pm

The only thing I want to see is the baby’s lips….

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
2:43 pm

Leggs – Tell me, I didn’t know. There is one of those papers out of NY like the Enquirer though, what’s it called?

Lady – Yeah, I heard that about her not wanting to gain weight story, too, usually from the tabliods to justify the surrogate rumor. But if she did use a surrogate, why would it have to be that reason? Suppose she or JZ were infertile?

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:44 pm

maybe Kimmie, it could be anything!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:45 pm

DEAD Leggs! lol

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:45 pm

@Lady and the nose!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:47 pm

LOL Ex I will not pick @ the baby lol I know y’all ain’t but if the baby has their DNA then you will know soon enough lol

Celisea

January 9th, 2012
2:49 pm

Now THAT’S what I was thinking. Surrogate or not, the baby will eventually look like one of the two or both. Doesn’t matter to me. I think though it’s folks and their outlandish nature to knock anybody’s sunshine.

Back to work…

Celisea

January 9th, 2012
2:50 pm

Okay…let me say this…rumors of surragate baby or not, if it’s not, well will know. JayZ ain’t the cutest cookie in the animal cookie box.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:50 pm

Me,too Lady…resuscitate pronto .

Leggs, like I said I know lil Blue will be almost two before we get to see her but I hope she take after her mama’s people..

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:51 pm

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:52 pm

@Lady, you said “if the baby has their DNA…” That is funny…that is their baby!

I have never heard so much gossip with any other celebrity couple in all the years I’ve been on Earth.

Willie Dynamite

January 9th, 2012
2:52 pm

yall aint right.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:52 pm

you right Leggs it is!!!! I am stopping! lol

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:53 pm

really did mean it that why but I was thinking of the egg and sperm that was used but again its not my business lol #done

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
2:53 pm

Slim – One of my best friends has 5 kids. She could get pregnant just by looking at her husband!LOL!! She told me years ago if I couldn’t have one she would carry for me, be a surrogate. She was dead serious too. I didn’t take her up on it, but it touched me she would do that for me.

I heard that thing about Will & Jada disagreeing on the kids. I don’t see why that would be reason to get a divorce. If they are, it’s way deeper than that. Wonder if it had to do with the supposed open marriage thing. I thought that was supposed to make them, as I heard talked about, divorce-proof! :shock:

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:54 pm

Kimmie I agree it is deeper than that is another person I believe….

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:54 pm

meant really didn’t mean it that way Leggs

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:55 pm

We will see that baby way before she turns 2. As long as JayZ doesn’t pick up where MJ left off with all the scarfs and masks, we’ll see the little munchkin real soon.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:56 pm

Leggs he started with the bullet proof car!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:57 pm

I thought that was supposed to make them, as I heard talked about, divorce-proof!

They shole did sit on Oprah’s couch and say that…

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:59 pm

Gotta run…today was fun as usual.

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
3:00 pm

What’s going on with Jada and Will disagreeing on the kids???

Are they finally realizing those snot-nosed kids are bonafide brats (just the two younger ones).

Celisea

January 9th, 2012
3:02 pm

And the REAL reason Little Blue Ivy is being hid is because………

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
3:03 pm

Okay this last tidbit before I go…Jay’s released a song about the baby called “Glory”..talked about Bey having a miscarriage, when she got pregna with lil baby Blue and possibly you can hear her crying towards the end of the song. I’on know but Imma listen to the song and see…TTYL!!!

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
3:04 pm

kimmie – I would definitely agree to say it has to be way more going on that hasn’t been revealed. I really thought they had the family, marriage thing down as an example to others. I suppose it goes to show, we all have our own crosses to bear.

Kym

January 9th, 2012
3:04 pm

Ohh we on Celeb babies..yall leave Baby Blue aka Antichrist according to the conspiracy nutzs..

disco

January 9th, 2012
3:06 pm

sassy – re your 1:59 response to somebody’s comment re “ex” sex being about passion/history blah blah blah. I don’t think that’s it. maybe it’s just me but sex with the ex is competitive. it’s about you are missing my stuff, I’m not missing your stuff. or it’s about this old is better than that new that you thought was going to be all that. and…i’m still playing catch up. forgive my delayed responses.

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
3:08 pm

@Celisea ~ because she’s one day old. Seriously, probably negotiating with each other which magazine will have first dibs on the photo ($$$). Won’t backfire like Mariah Carey’s plan. Their daughter will/is in high demand.

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
3:08 pm

Leggs – Okay?!! Especially since I heard Jada talking about how they raise them. They get to come up with their own punishments!

NY Post is what I was thinking of earlier!!

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
3:10 pm

@disco ~ you sound like you’re on the basketball court tryng to one up the other team.

Celisea

January 9th, 2012
3:12 pm

One more….then I gotta finish…sex from ex IMO is a game. Nope, not happening. I was there in that place once, with my kid’s dad. Truth…only time I’ve ever been there. IMO, I got too much pride to know you’re coming back, yet moving on. Don’t lean on me for that. If I gotta chance the new then so do you. I was in a different place in the head. I thought he was the be all to end all….in bed. Probably the best sex if I REALLY had to line folks up….that’s just physically. All the other crap about him depleted his number by comparison if I’m talking a person as a whole. But physically, heck yeah. He was leaning on that too. I mean I was just as guilty as not wanting to venture out but once I snapped out of it I didn’t do that reverting crap no more and didn’t let anybody in my head (once out) to get back in…not physically. No do overs. Only time Imma revert back is if we’re giving the whole thing another try. That’s likely not gonna happen though…if it was something that got off the ground, went full swing and we didn’t make it. Not trying to sound hard but for some reason, IMO they seem to be benefiting better from reverting.

This could very well be my antiquated way of thinking too. Just what I’ve done and what’s worked for me. Keeps my head clear.

Celisea

January 9th, 2012
3:17 pm

One last one for real…I ain’t got but 2 hours and still got another ton of stuff to finish.

One thing I’ve noticed, little boys can come out not being all that handsome. A fresh cut around 2ish, fresh kicks and he’s good to go. A little girl, if she ain’t “blessed with the good genes” well, all the cute dresses, ribbons and hairbows don’t exactly help that….lol I know that sounds mean but I’m just saying. Ribbons, hairbows, cute hair styles, slicking down the baby hair but ain’t a lot gonna change in other places. Little boys, their “cuteness” often kicks in if you keep a fresh cut and keep him fresh. IJS

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
3:18 pm

NY Post is a decent publication. Nothing like Star or Inquirer…can’t beat the sales of The NY Daily News, but right under its rung on the ladder (I think).

They get to come up with their own punishments! WOW, I’ve heard it all. No doubt Jada probably believes she’s letting “Ill Whip My Hair Back and forth” little girl tap into her own creativity in dressing herself. Well, Jada needs to rein it in and tell that girl she needs to hire a stylist because she looks a hot mess. Punky Brewster had that look on lock, never to be duplicated….

disco

January 9th, 2012
3:19 pm

leggs – I’m competitive like that.

palepadre

January 9th, 2012
3:26 pm

No. If you cannot make up your own mind,all your future decisions will bother you.
Parents,friends,if it doesn’t work out and ends badly, if the person speaks to you,guess who will get the blame?

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
3:26 pm

I agree Willow looks a hot mess. And I don’t knock alternative ways to raise kids either, if it works!

I’ve seen the Post in stores here – very tabloidish if you ask me, but there’s a place for that too. Everything has gone tabloid to me, true journalism is really becoming a thing of the past. Then too, Enquirer has been right on a few things – they broke the John Edwards story.