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Should parents pick your mate?

Whenever I hear the words “Let me introduce you to my son”, I already know which direction the conversation will go. I hear it a lot, actually. What can I tell you? Mothers love me. I’m like the Mom Whisperer or something.

For years I have graciously declined the meet my son offers. I figured that well-meaning mothers really don’t know for sure if I am a good match for their sons. Further, how many men would actually look forward to being hooked up by their Mom?

Then I met a guy this weekend who is the son of a woman I have known for years. The fact that he is crazy handsome, successful, and charming as they come sort of changed my notion about Mother Matchmakers.

Maybe our Mothers really do know best and is it terrible to let them do a little matchmaking every know and again? Would you be open to being introduced to a potential match that your parents selected for you?

Have you ever met someone through their parents and things went really great?

On a semi-related note: I have always been fascinated by arranged marriages. A lot of cultures still practice this tradition and I would be curious to find out more information about the divorce rates among arranged marriages.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

221 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
1:39 pm

Sassy – You know I was just messin wit cha. ;-)

Dudes always try to play stuff down…

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
1:40 pm

SassyMe snatched her stuff back and went skipping down the road. If only boy toy knew that was the last time he might have left a more thrustful mark (ROFLMAO).

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
1:46 pm

Okay Leggs…does that put me in time out?

Okay Kimmie?!?! They act like we can’t handle it when sometimes they’re the ones that crumble like oreos.

I’m assuming errthang cool with you & Mr. Bermuda?

Yes we’re great…we’re both glad he wasn’t there when that happened. Then again had he been there it probably wouldn’t have happened at all.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
1:46 pm

What’s poppin’ in the afternoon MIA?!?

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
1:47 pm

Willie – By closure, i’m sure you mean an Exit Fykc :shock:

Leggs – Exactly! :lol: Speaking of which, it seems when both parties know the end is near, or at least one party, seems they try to really put it on thick before that train hits the station.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
1:48 pm

Diana Ross @ the Fox March 1st! ;)

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
1:48 pm

Yall know that 5 hr energy drink commercial where they say at 2:30 you start getting that tired, sluggish feeling? Well mine is kicking in at 1:48. Yaaaawwwwwwwn

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
1:49 pm

Leggs you’re on a roll chica…especially that last line :mrgreen:

Slim Nu aren’t they always the ones that make it seem like women can’t handle a “situation” like that and K.I.M.(keep it moving)?

2CPTG

January 9th, 2012
1:51 pm

speakin of ex’s, closure, weenin him/her off, and what-not…….I tell ya, there’s something ’bout hunching your ex….I’on know, but after a coupla weeks, months, or whatever, it’s like it’s some “strange” all over again……

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
1:51 pm

wow sassy! #funny

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
1:52 pm

Slim that exactly the kind of closure he was referring to. He had a snowballs chance at that happening.. Then like you said Slim they try to make it all extra extra so you’ll change your mind about letting them go. Does that ever work?

Willie Dynamite

January 9th, 2012
1:52 pm

Slim – This guy merely wanted to have an understanding of what exactly happened. He needs to know in order to cope with the emotional strife that he is feeling. In due time he will be able to better communicate his feelings of detachment in a more adult manner. Hows that?
Nawww buddy just wanted to hit it again. hahaha

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
1:57 pm

Diana Ross….I HAVE TO GET WIN TICKETS!!

Thanks for the headsup, Lady!

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
1:57 pm

@Sassy?

didn’t u say dude is younger than u?

there is always some to be said when the chic is older or got more experience..seems the older the lady,the more she makes a dude see another side of this bizz that’s pleasant.

Maybe had u told dude u were musing calling it quits he wouldve been more prepared for the roller coaster…

U left him clutching on memories…:lol:

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
1:58 pm

always Ms Leggs! :)

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
1:59 pm

I’on know, but after a coupla weeks, months, or whatever, it’s like it’s some “strange” all over again

2C – Plus it always seems to be a bit passionate or intense I guess because it’s not a stranger and it’s someone you had some sort of feelings for in the past. Chances are the guy has been just having some random chickhead sexin’ so when he gets a chance to hit the old main chick again, he gets that faux girlfriend experience sexin :lol:

Sassy – That approach working actually depends on the chick, where her head is at the moment and how she feels about that dude. For some it may work for a little while but eventually it dies. lol

Willie – Yup

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
1:59 pm

Then like you said Slim they try to make it all extra extra so you’ll change your mind about letting them go. Does that ever work? – I don’t see how, because at that time they only look pitiful to me. Pitiful sex is horrible sex (LOL).

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:00 pm

“didn’t u say dude is younger than u?” – No she didn’t say that, Ex. She only calls him boy toy. Does that mean anything to you (rofl)…

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:03 pm

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SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:04 pm

U left him clutching on memories

Set adrift on memories bliss of you…doom dada, doom dada, doom dadaaaa lol I know yall remember that song PM Dawn right?

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:05 pm

Not the “strange” 2CPTG :lol:

@Lady I was trying to do the right thing but the boy toy wouldn’t go quietly…so I had to do what I had to do. He was warned prior to being let go but he didn’t think I’d do it…I guess he thought he had me d!@#matized but that wasn’t it.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:06 pm

I hear ya sis!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:08 pm

who do you all have tonight LSU or Roll Tide?!?!

thoughts on Will and Jada?!?

what about Jay and Bey?!?

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:08 pm

@SassyMe ~ never put you in corner for being the stronger person WOman. You had ole boy, rather that youngin drooling at the mouth yearning for more….that’s the way to DO IT CHICA!!!!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:10 pm

No Leggs…Exiled has a good memory b/c the boy toy is younger than I am.

U left him clutching on memories

Some very good ones at that. He’s young so should heal quickly…

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:12 pm

We pause for this breaking new announcement. So far the blogsville word of the day is DICKMATIZED. Now back to your regularly scheduled program.

2CPTG

January 9th, 2012
2:13 pm

Slim, you’re exactly right……passionate headboard bangin!!!! and contrary to somma y’all beliefs, lotta times, all it takes is that “one last time;” and you’d be surprised, buddy will just fade away….

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:13 pm

what about Jay and Bey?!?

Glad they had a healthy baby…I like the name, it’s kinda cute. What I don’t like is how they’ve got their floor of the hospital hemmed up so tight regular people that want to see their children in NICU are being harrassed and/or not allow to see them at all.

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:14 pm

never put you in corner for being the stronger person

Said in my Patrick Swayze voice, “Nobody puts good puddy in the corner” :lol: Ok, i’m a bit de li r i ous

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:14 pm

same thought process Sassy about the Carter’s!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:14 pm

Roll Tide too! ;)

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:14 pm

Aww thanks Leggs…

Slim you aint right…but you funny as heyal :lol: :mrgreen:

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:16 pm

Thanx Sassy,I kinda thought I read that…

funny I was about to say,’My bad’ then saw ur post…..

(reminder to put Leggs statements to truth meter All the time) :lol:

@Slim..I think u need to help out ur friend,the one pining for vitamin…she gets ur vibe and it makes her sad!

@Lady what’s up with Will and Jada?

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:18 pm

@Lady..I read about a man whose wife gave birth to preemie twin girls and he’s been turned away from seeing his girls and/or given a really hard time. They’ve also got security teams patrolling the hallways,nurses aren’t allowed to have their cell phones during their shifts..I mean all kinds of extra isht goin on.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:18 pm

Jada sought a divorce attorney apparently the August divorce rumors are coming to the light. reports they have been separated. seems like she founded another boo somewhat and Will ain’t clean but it seems Jada is the issue maybe per media

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:20 pm

See Sassy I didn’t know that that makes me sad! they could have had it @ home! Home births are popular but to shift a hospital is a bit much especially if rumors are true about having someone else carry it

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:20 pm

@Lady ~ if it’s true that Jay prevented other families from seeing their newborns, I’d say poor planning and very inconsiderate (as reported in The NY Daily News). I like the baby’s name. I’ve also heard the rumor about Lucifer’s daughther’s named spelled backwards is untrue. I didn’t believe that anyway.

Now the rumor that he paid the $1.3 to the hospital wing and slipped a surrogate into delivery is bizzare (LOLOL).

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:20 pm

Ex – Vitamin D is not her problem because that right there is easy to get. She wants something more meaningful and maybe she is tripping a little since she just turned 35 and feels the older you get, the slimmer your pickings and chances of meeting a good prospect. She said herself, she needs to figure out why she equates happiness with being with someone.

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:22 pm

That was a good take on it, SlimNu!

Why is that, Ex???

SlimNu

January 9th, 2012
2:22 pm

All that hooplah is crazy if it’s true about the hospital deal…also, why the need for a surrogate unless something was wrong with B??? Are we that anal of people to seek out a surrogate just not to have to deal with the effects of child birth on our bodies? (ijs)

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:23 pm

Leggs it is….my mama said all the hungry children he could have fed but anyway its his money and money talks………I like the name too and saw that meaning as well

Leggs

January 9th, 2012
2:25 pm

@Sassy ~ you and I must have read the same article. Along with his and few other complaints, one of the hospital’s head honchos said she didn’t know of any complaints…@Ex, you might want to jump on a flight and check the truth of her statements.

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:28 pm

@Slim?

Equating being with a man abd happiness is a good thing..if she was brought up valuing marriage and kids maybe,I don’t see nothing wrong with that..in fact that’s good…

maybe she needs to look in the mirror and figure out what’s wrong or get somebody who really knows her and her relationships and is candid..to help her out.

What do U,the friend thing about her inability to close the deal or maybe u urself can’t help either..?

Marriage is the natural order of things…

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 9th, 2012
2:29 pm

Now the rumor that he paid the $1.3 to the hospital wing and slipped a surrogate into delivery is bizzare

I read that they dropped the 1.3 milli for that floor and redecorated part of it…still don’t know about the surrogacy thing ’cause you could look at Bey and tell she was pregna. I know she’ll be dang near two years old before we see what she looks like…hopfully she’ll take after Tina n N’em.

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
2:30 pm

Isn’t NY Daily just like the Enquirer?

I don’t believe for a minute Bey had a surrogate! I don’t understand the hate directed at Bey. If those complaints about the hospital are true, it’s more the hospital administration’s fault that Bey & JZ. They are not the first celebrities to have a baby!

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:31 pm

Its no hate Kimmie but I do believe she carried a baby bump…….but anyway its neither here no there! Bless the baby! Bey is winning!

Exiled!

January 9th, 2012
2:33 pm

I didn’t see Beyonce’s bump tho…

imjustsaying!

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
2:33 pm

Lady – No hate from you, but other blogs I’ve read on Essence and others, the attacks are vicious and have been the day Bey came on the scene.

Lady~

January 9th, 2012
2:34 pm

I feel you sis!!!! it is raging today!!!!!

kimmie

January 9th, 2012
2:34 pm

Exiled – I saw a pic of her preggers in a bikini on Essence.