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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

459 comments Add your comment

Dude

January 6th, 2012
7:58 am

Had plenty of elaborate dates, but the fact of the matter is, it is not practical as it was when elaborate dates were common. If the chances were greater that I would get something in return, even as simple as a thank you, hopefully more, but now dating has become so sketchy that there is always that next better thing out there. Why would I put in the effort, even for someone I really like, if the results for them are nil, and the results for me put me in the hole for quite a bit of time. We are refering to lavish dates of course, and lavish “does” require a certain amount of capital.

Truth

January 6th, 2012
7:59 am

Women don’t necessarily expect an elaborate date, but they will dump you in a second for a man that has the resources and money to give them that elaborate date.

Optimus Prime

January 6th, 2012
8:02 am

Women dating men always have men on a trial basis and the winner is most often the highest bidder. It’s not jaded, it’s just the way it is.

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:03 am

Not good at elaborate dates…wish I was. Interesting yes, out of the box somewhat, yes, imaginative, hope so…but elaborate, not real well, or at least by the standards set on those shows.

I make a living helping plan, organize, and troubleshoot multi billion dollar projects that can last through several years…but ask me to plan anything in my own life past Saturday morning before Friday night and I’m not as good as I should be. I like “comfortable” and there is an inherent anxiety that comes from super planning of gala events.

Do I plan, yes, especially on the second and third dates. Do I have the assets to do something (with several hundred thousand skymiles and almost a half a million Marriott points, and still a pretty high number of AMEX points), yeah. I couldn’t rent a Gulfstream and jet off to a villa in Cabo, and have a private dinner and Mariachi band waiting on the beach, but I could (and will) do something nice…as soon as I land again ;-)

That said, if a lady is looking for the dating life of The Bachelor (on a regular basis), I might not be the best candidate. A nice dinner at a mid to nice restaurant, wine and cheesecake on the balcony in the Cheesecake Factory in Buckhead, cruising with the top down to the Westin for a drink in the lounge on top one night…easy. Hiring a yacht to go skinny dipping in the Med, ahhhh not sure I can swing that until I check my mega millions ticket.

Dave

January 6th, 2012
8:07 am

I’ve been on both types of dates and decided on one inescapable truth. Once you take a woman on an elaborate date, that’s now the bare minimum. If you go on an economical date, she will wonder what’s wrong or even be disappointed. Vacations are the same thing. Once you take them to Bermuda, anything less is a sign that “you’re not into them anymore” or “You don’t like them as much anymore”. It’s a tricky situation and if you’re date seems upset with the level of your gift/date/vacation/etc…don’t blame the woman. Blame the poor sap that set dated her before you, set the bar so high and ruined it for the rest of the mid level income earners in the world. Once you go there, there’s no going back.

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:08 am

After thought…if I could do like the Batchelor and use someone else’s money, I could get creative…yup, Windjammer barefoot cruises in the Caribbean to some privte island for example…yeah I could plan that.

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:09 am

Dave just took the next words out of my mouth…about setting the bar too high. Unless elaborate will be the norm, then dayum sure don’t lead with it.

Don't Date Him

January 6th, 2012
8:11 am

I would take a creative exciting date over a lavish one any day!

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:12 am

Bachelor not batchelor…sorry, in computer mode this AM.

I got it

January 6th, 2012
8:12 am

Date fat and ugly women. They are just overjoyed to be in the game, glad to have a date and will be sattisfied with most anything you plan with them. You date the Hawaiin Tropic model, you have to measure up to what she has experienced before. Like it or not, the more beautiful a woman is, the more zeros go on practically anything you do for them. But…..she’s a beautiful woman and she can do that because the line of her suitors goes out the door and around the store.

Dude

January 6th, 2012
8:15 am

Women – Take notice, you want to know a guys mind here is all you need to know.

If I am not hungry, I am horny.
A+B=C I do this and I get this result
Path of least resistance is usually the way I am going to go.
Logic
Is the amount of effort going to really yield the result.

If you look at a man and remember those things then you should be good to go.

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:19 am

I agree with your analysis of model types, I Got It, but dayum, I’m not sure I can go ugly early. Sometimes (plenty of times) I would have been better off with a beer and a good book. …and also there is that anxiety about trying to figure out how quickly one can hit the door with the old standby, “I have a really busy day tomorrow”. ;-)

Dave

January 6th, 2012
8:21 am

It’s really tit for tat when dating. The man has got to be “sponge worthy” to get the date, but then again, the woman has to bring her wares to the table to warrant the elaborate. I’m not talking sex, I’m talking about easy to be around, fun to talk to, fun to do things with no drama, mentally stable (THERE’S A NEED TO HAVE) and just be pleasant. Now adays, a woman will have the attitude of “If you can’t afford me, then don’t ask me out”. It’s like the entire load is placed on the shoulders of the man to impress, woo and entertain while he has to be content with being seen in the presence of her on your arm. But, it’s tit for tat in reality. YOU have to be “worthy” of the elaborate date, too.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:22 am

Good Morning!!!! Its the male perspective today!!! I will lurk a bit a take notes~ Happy Friday MIA! ;)

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:24 am

Observtion, with one small but notable exception, the women seem uncharacteristically quiet today.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
8:25 am

Good morning and happy Friday!

I don’t know….maybe I’m too frugal, or setting the bar too low, but for me, I’m okay with saving “elaborate” for special occasions/milestones. And, to be honest, elaborate dates outside of an established relationship are a little over the top. As we’ve said here many times before, DON”T lead with your wallet!! Creativity and thoughtfulness score more points with me than $$$ every time.

Really?

January 6th, 2012
8:26 am

Seems like it’s just so dang complicated and stressful from these posters. Women just discount the above posters as just whiners, but there’s truth in all statements. Men, be considerate, thoughtful, imaginative and adventurous. Women…pay attention to the above statements and see if you see yourself in the above posts. Denial is the worst attribute to have.

Randyt )aka...left with fanny hanging out of the window on this topic).

January 6th, 2012
8:31 am

@ ITL …one of my favorite commercials of the past was a Foster’s Beer commercial about “how to talk Australian”.. Two outback types are sitting in this rough looking bar when this gorgeous lady comes in. She sits down, order’s a can of Fosters, chugs it, then crushes the can on her forehead. Dude looks at the other dude and says “Keeper!!!”.

Your post is welcomed by laid back males everywhere ;-)

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:34 am

elaborate huh?!? how about quaint for me?!? less is always more……seriously…..I founded my most elaborate dates to be later down the line with much more emotional investment apart of it…. thoughtfulness is appreciated in my book from the beginning to the end…..no its not rocket science…..everyone is not going after his wallet and or the best meal for that night. It does happen but still I try not to bag all men in the same category either……..it is what it is good people! ;)

Dude

January 6th, 2012
8:34 am

Really? and Randy thumbs up kudos to both of you!!!

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:37 am

JavaVino in the Highlands is a great venue for just meeting someone…a nice wine and coffeehouse……..its many places and free places too. every meet n greet doesn’t have to be @ a venue but we know this…….

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
8:38 am

Thanks, Randy! ;)

Lady, we are on the same page! :)

Dude

January 6th, 2012
8:45 am

Have in general men become to cynical, the ones with the ability are jaded and the ones without won’t put the effort in?

Have in general women burnt too many bridges as to make it that much harder to the rest of the women out there, I know there are a lot of good one?

LL411

January 6th, 2012
8:46 am

If a regular date did something way over the top off the rip I’d slow my row… you don’t even know me like that (scary). Special celabratory occasions with my s/o ok, but I like simple, thoughtful romantic/fun plans 99% of the time.

Leading with your wallet is a turn off, and I’m not against spending (within my budget) on you if I like you like that.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:48 am

something like that Dude! BTW, hello and HNY! ;)

LL411

January 6th, 2012
8:49 am

I dated someone who quoted his net worth and offered to show me his ATM balance (LOL!) almost immediately… I had to talk to him about that move, not good, I was insulted. He turned out the be the most selfish person on all levels I’d ever met WOW..

....

January 6th, 2012
8:50 am

Wow….just glad Into The Light spoke to the topic. It’s usually Romper Room with her :)

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
8:51 am

Morning & TGIF

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:54 am

Interesting LL411……reminds me of some who gloat about their jobs, positions, and power early on……men and women do this too….

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
8:55 am

Dude, honestly most of the women (with a few exceptions) aren’t really like that. Having said that, the stories of the small number of one’s that are do have an effect on men’s psyches. Causes just a hint of a “fear factor”, especially if men happen to accidentally hit the channels where “The Real (insert “effed up” here) Housewives (and kept biotches) of (name that town). Even though consciously we men know that those are really just cartoon people and hardly any lady could be that shallow, subconsciously we wonder, is that what all hot women want? Is that what a relationship really is supposed to look like?

I sincerely hope and believe that is not reality, but if it is…where is the beer and my library card?

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:56 am

I look like wow you’re indispensable huh?!? #smirk

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
8:57 am

Good morning!

” If you go on an economical date, she will wonder what’s wrong or even be disappointed.” – Good Grief, who are you guys dating? I’d like to think women, a real woman, would appreciate the date, that it was thought out, a level of interest and respect for his date was put into his planning, and the end result would be that the two connect on a level of mutual respect with a desire for more dates. If not, nothing really lost but some time. If you want to spend $$$ on a date with the hopes of a big payoff at the end of the evening, then don’t date. Dates don’t have to be elaborate, just thoughtful with fun and good convo. If you start out elaborate ($$$), then the problem is you because that is what would be expected on the next date. Can’t go to Bones on the first date, then go to Steak N Shake next go around….well, maybe you can?

An elaborate date should take place after you two have gotten to know each other a little more and to do something special. Any woman looking to date like the women on that dumba$$ show The Bachelor are in for a rude awakening. It is so easy to date on someone else’s dime (the show itself). One reason none of those “hook ups” last because once they get back to the “real world” away from the cameras and glitz, they realize existing in the real world is dull compared to jetting all over the place all glammed up. Give me a freaking break!!!

Kicking my box and mike under the stairwell…sorry if I woke you BF (lol).

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
8:58 am

wow Randy so we are all the same huh…….

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
8:58 am

Romper, bomper, stomper, boo. Tell me, tell me, tell me do. Magic mirror, tell me today. Did all my friends have fun at play?!?!? I see …… and Lady and Slim and Randy and Dude and LL411

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
8:59 am

I never watched the Bachelor, but I understand the nexis. They see elaborate I see regular, and they’re entitlted to roll that way if they want. In the real world elaborate and regualr are the same to me, whether we go to the Meditteranean or to Popeyes I’m interested in your company more than how extravagant the date is.

Finally Friday:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:00 am

In defense of the ladies though, men, IMHO, have become too casual about making any effort to at least be creative. That lack of creativity is why women jump to the next lily pad pretty often, “maybe the grass is greener”. They can only handle being taken for granted for so long…and are justifiably upset or hurt, i believe.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
9:00 am

I need to run an errand plotting an escape! lol smh

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:01 am

Ladies,

How do you feel about a guy wanting to cook dinner for you? Would you be hesitant because that means you’d have to come to the lions den or what?

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
9:05 am

Slim:
As long as it’s a man I know and feel comfortable with, then I think it’s a sweet and romantic gesture. It’s not something I would do, though, unless I felt comfortable (read: safe!) with him.

disco

January 6th, 2012
9:06 am

good morning. I haven’t read all the posts yet but have already noticed the recurring theme that once you set the bar you have to maintain the bar. I agree and disagree. I agree in the sense that a sensible woman – once she’s been treated well by a man will not go back to being treated any old kind of way by any old common buster. I disagree in that once a woman experiences finer/more expensive material things due to the generosity of a man that she can’t go back to less. most sensible women will treat those “special” experiences as just that. special experiences. she knows it’s not everyday and that knowledge is part of what makes the experiences special.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:07 am

@ lady, not saying that at all. Saying that thank goodness women aren’t like that. But am saying that men have hidden fears too, and there is so much “non reality” out there that men can begin to believe that is partially real.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
9:08 am

Well said, disco!! :)

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:10 am

“kicking your box under the stairwell” ? Leggs?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:10 am

Leggs you’re good, all that stumping and jangling made the ears rise up. Other words I caught your scent.

LL411

January 6th, 2012
9:10 am

SlimNu… have no problem going to an “interests” place for dinner. Key word is interest, if I’m here… I’m pretty comfortable that we’ll both continue to be respectful of each other, and should we decide mutually to “go there” we will.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:11 am

Don’t get me wrong, I indulge in “reality tv” but I just don’t see why folks still watch The Bachelor. It’s wack, it’s not realistic and none of those r’ships ever work out. Why would I want to try to vy for this ONE guy’s attention after CLEARLY knowing he’s feeling on and tonguing down all the other ladies on the show. Even those other shows like Flava Flav’s, Ray J, Ochocinco etc…I wonder how the producers approach these celebrity men.

Producer: Hey man, I know you’re known to have a flare with the ladies.

Celeb: Well, you know…I got a lil summin summin

P: How would you feel about having a chance for the ideal situation to have a chance to fykc a different chick every night, have them know about each other, and you can pick em off as you get tired of em?

Celeb: Word??? This has gotta be a joke. Am I on punked? Ashton, brang yo azz outta here

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
9:13 am

Good morning,

Please define elaborate. I like a simply date…plainly stated. Nicely done, well thought of, a little “sexy” in the mix but nothing to do with how big you pulled it off nor over the top. If you want to kick the box open by showing what’s in your wallet (or not) and start that off as an expectation, don’t get mad at her, you set that tone.

Honestly though, I don’t know where these women are that are “special” like that. The average woman and the women I know all enjoy a good time, a special time but nothing that’s over the top.

Dude

January 6th, 2012
9:13 am

Good point Randy, I think IMHO that women want a guy to notice things that they just don’t, pick up on things that he hasn’t been told, know what kind of creativity the woman wants. I think guys want to be appreciated for the effort that they do put forward. Too often I think these 2 things collide when one party doesn’t do what the other was hoping and expecting.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
9:14 am

The Bachelor is a ratings show. I would have a problem swapping one dude out with 25 other women.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:15 am

I only asked because I know how cautious women have to be in the dating world. Plus, I’m not sure if men misread the fact that we’ll come over to their place, early on, as a sign that they are getting da drawers at the end of the night…

Men, is that the case?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
9:17 am

Elaborate, I think are those special times and special occasions when he or she feels like doing that little something extra. If we’re going to define elaborate as bigger than normal, most know it’s not the everyday run of the mill date, hookup, get together.

OUCH ! i bumped my head

January 6th, 2012
9:17 am

Great post Leggs That show is trash TV You saw what happened with Jake and Vienna What did they last ? Maybe 6 weeeks after the show ended

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:18 am

@ Slim and ITL. When I start dating someone, more than once I mean, lol, usually that is what I do around the third date. Plan a dinner at my house, maybe Italian (maybe chicken marsala or if I want to impress, maybe pollo rose maria, with wine, soft music, and a comfortable couch to sit on and just relax and talk. I’m a good cook (for a normal guy), and am safe and respectful and this is just a natural progression to me.

Honestly, whether at my house or at the lady’s, one of my favorite things to do is a little slow dance with wine, in the kitchen, while the food is simmering. Let some other Buster lay on the couch watching TV or playing Madden 12…women are much more entertaining than any video game, and Wheel of Fortune.

Amia

January 6th, 2012
9:22 am

Slimnu- Dinner cooked for you is nice and thoughtful. I would not do it as a first or second date though.

I greatly appreciate dates that are thought out. They can be simple or the wine and dine type, but thought out goes a long way. It shows you have listened to things I like to do or would like to experience. It sounds so simple, but in 2011 I found that many of my dates lacked enough interest to “think”.

LL411

January 6th, 2012
9:24 am

SlimNu… I understand. If a guy is acting like a horndog, making sexual induendos and such upon meeting you or shortly thereafter I’d stay on neutral territory (open public places) for awhile. I think guys behaving like this would immediately assume you came to give LOL..

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:24 am

@ slimnu…not sure I am typical, but I don’t have or plan sex (or at least not in the dating stage). If it is going to hapeen, it will happen, why try to manipulate it? If the mood is right, the chemistry is there, the environment is conducive, then it will be a mutual decision. I just let it happen.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:25 am

Going into the lion’s den is the thought pattern I carry. I’d rather not on the first date. However, if the vibes are good and you’re comfortable, cool. Just make sure you map your getaway strategy and you pack a gun or a sharp knife!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:25 am

Slim1:

Maturity at some point in a mans life has to come into play. Most men I know would genuinely welcome you over without the expectations of the drawers coming off. I will say during the earlier years 19-30 would be different due to the lack of maturity.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
9:27 am

Honestly, whether at my house or at the lady’s, one of my favorite things to do is a little slow dance with wine, in the kitchen, while the food is simmering <<<<<<Love that! The little things! OK, Randy I get your stance too from earlier! Thanks!

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
9:27 am

LOL @ Leggs!

disco

January 6th, 2012
9:28 am

slim – home cooked meals and movies “in” are way down the road for me. I’m not into that “come over” thing right off the bat. and generally, I try to check out his spot before I allow him into mine. I am very protective of my space.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:29 am

I’m with you, Randyt. Cooking at one’s home on around the 3rd date is appropriate. Not all men are horndogs (well I guess they are), but some are more reserved and can be respectful and not act a loose cannon after the first sip of wine.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:29 am

@ Ouch, i was holed up in a Marriott for months when that sequel to the Bachelor (forget the name but there were a bunch of men and women in one house) with Jake and Vienna had to compete with each other. i watched it out of just curiosity (and the women looked good). That Vienna can be one high maintenance mean woman (looks great in a bikini though and apparently had her nose redun from the original show). She treated Jake like crap, it was painful to watch. “Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned”.

LL411

January 6th, 2012
9:30 am

I agree Blackfoote… Maturity, Maturity, Maturity. Heck, I went to a guy I’m interested in house (known a month) and while he didn’t know it… I may have went there LMAO!!!

Leggs…However, if the vibes are good and you’re comfortable, cool. Just make sure you map your getaway strategy and you pack a gun or a sharp knife!

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:31 am

:lol: @Leggs coming to dinner with a bullet proof vest, a army knife taped to her ankle, and a hidden .38 in her Vicky Secretions bra, and a tazer equipped cell phone

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:34 am

@ SlimNu re: Leggs apparel. hey, i think that could be a fun date ;-) Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me, LOL

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:34 am

For the record, my last comment was in jest!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:34 am

Entertainment is all we want on both sides, over the top is cool for those who can sustain it. Trying to ball like a rock star for a dude working 9 to 5 is just reckless.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
9:37 am

I guess I’m a bit different from most…date 3 is too early to go to anybody’s house…mine or yours..lol We’re still finding a mutual place to meet. I’m just not trusting like that.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:37 am

wreckless……..did I do that

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:38 am

But Celisea, the fourth date is the road trip…ya can’t get things out of order ;-)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:38 am

@SlimNu ~ I’m packing “something” somewhere. Must admit, loving the tazer equipped cell phone notion. Let me do some investigation (lol).

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:39 am

Randy – Wwo, a man who can cook Chicken Pollo Maria!!! That is my fav dish at Carrabba’s. Mmmmm

I will say during the earlier years 19-30 would be different due to the lack of maturity

BF – Reminds me of when I was at school. This dude had the nerve to call me at 2 in the morning asking if I wanted to come over to watch a movie. Are you effing kidding me? lol :roll:

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
9:40 am

HiYas!
already on page 2?? cool.

luvin disco’s 9:06. well said!

slim, s/o and i had our first face-to-face over homecooked b’fast at his place. he loves to cook and wanted to be well at ease when we met. no worries on my part. :)

s/o recently asked me if it would be ok to scale back on our usual outings this year so that he is better prepared to kick off a business venture. i said absolutely. i luv time on the couch, at a park, an evening in with friends, a one night trip out of town just because, etc. no need to razzle dazzle me all the dang time. told him we can stock up on groupons and push back abc getaway and xyz vacay to next year or year after. the man immediately says “oh no. we’re doing those things this year! and groupons are not usually offered to the places we like.” well. um. ok. :shock:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:40 am

Date 3 could occur over a 1.5 -2 month period with a lot of talking in between.

oneofeach4me

January 6th, 2012
9:40 am

It’s TV. Nuff said.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
9:40 am

Randyt – LOL

So I assumed by the time of the “road trip” we’ve consummated and marriage is on the horizon? Say 4 or 5 months out? Nooooo too soon. I can do a road trip, and probably by the 4th date but that’s a day trip.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:44 am

LOL……@Cely

Cely on the second go round usually means more time together which translate to mutual comfort. All the giggles and giddyness makes that inner soul say he/she is alright and next thing you know you’re cuddling in the lions/wolf den. It’s good that you’re cautious, you can never know for certain about anything.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
9:44 am

Last night, I was flipping the channels and came upon an old Al Pacino/Ellen Barkin movie called Sea of Love. Some gal was meeting guys in the personal ads and offing them after the date/sex. He was the detective and she was a prime suspect. Watching the tension as he was enjoying her but afraid she was going to kill him after sex was great. Turned out she was innocent, it was her ex coming in after she left and killing them. The tension on both sides as they sort of felt each other out was really well protrayed.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:46 am

I’d be more leary with the road trip than dinner at his place. Driving a route only he knows (I’m directionally challenged) will have me texting landmarks to myself in my phone (lol). I want to make sure we go back the same route we went!

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
9:47 am

Leggs – Let me know what you come up with? ;-)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:48 am

Love that movie…I watched it last month. Also, one of my favorite songs.

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
9:49 am

No,women don’t necessarily expect much but it depends on your(the man) intend.

If you want to pursue a long term and she is a steady chick,just be simple and go for the not so expensive but nice planned dates…maybe some coffee,nice convo,a stroll in the park(beach) with the moon shining,cook her some meal and watch a movie etc..

However,money is the greater deceive r on All Women!

If you just want to score early and get to her confluence,do something elaborate!

All women luv money. But have some game about it and don’t be lame(to quote Ll411’s example)-bad bad bad..

Money beds a woman quick!

Good morning folks!

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
9:50 am

Great deceiver! Damn it!

disco

January 6th, 2012
9:51 am

celisea – you feel me on the “stranger danger”. we will not be visiting each other’s homes anytime soon buddy boy.

brat – I feel you on stocking up on the groupons. I think I’m holding on to about 3 right now.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:52 am

Slim1, I remember those day of the booty calls at 2 and 3 oclock in the morning. The one’s who said come on of course got treated with less respect than the one’s who said why are you callin me I’m trying to sleep right now……..LOL

oneofeach4me

January 6th, 2012
9:52 am

Oh, and I forgot to add that, if I am not mistaken, NONE of the relationships from the Bachelor have been successful.

Don’t set the bar too high. Elaborate dates should be kept for special occasions. Shoot…. take me to the game and get me a beer!! ;-)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
9:52 am

@BF: Actually, you were correct the first time – it’s “reckless” not “wreckless”! :)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
9:54 am

Shoot…. take me to the game and get me a beer!!

co-sign!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
9:56 am

Thanks Light:

Not good with grammer at all. Spelling for sure….LOL

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
9:58 am

and throw in some teriyaki chicken wings…

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:00 am

Blackfoote – I’m just a person of caution…period. I’m going heading off to the lion’s den and cuddling but I need to be sure of the lion…that all fangs and paws are retracted.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:01 am

disco – exactly…”stranger danger”

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:03 am

Cel?

u haven’t met the One u wld actually want to follow to his house yet?

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:04 am

and throw in some teriyaki chicken wings…

Make ‘em lemon pepper and you might even get some sugar at the end of the night! ;)

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:08 am

Christa and the fire guy broke my heart when they split.

Only one I watched

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:09 am

MMeello mmeello mmeello – Have I met the wild one where I wanted to follow to his house?

Do I want to humor you today? Why the hell not? Ummm yeah, I’ve tango’d with a couple of “wild ones”…at their den…lol

Have I been interested in following yet another potentially “wild one?” Yeah. However, if the “wild” fizzles out on me, I’m turning around and going home…lol

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:10 am

I had some lemon pepper wings and a beer with BF and nearly choked on that lemon pepper seasoning. Ranch wings are so much tastier, but the only place I know that sells them is W.K.Wings. Wait Walmart and Kroger are getting into the market, but they aren’t nearly as good.

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
10:10 am

I’m going heading off to the lion’s den and cuddling but I need to be sure of the lion…that all fangs and paws are retracted.
this is cracking me up coz i read it and picture the lion tatt on his arm. i’ve always been a bit on the naive side. our first date was at his house. first road trip was in our third month dating.
God looks after fools and children. :grin:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:10 am

LOL…..@Cely

I like that……paws and fangs retracted

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
10:10 am

BF – I knew buddy was not talking about watching no freaking movie…Matter fact when he called, he asked what I was doing. I said, “Sleep, whatchu THANK i’m doing?!” :lol:

Oooh lemon pepper wangs and some ranch dressing Mmm mmm good

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:12 am

czBrat – Yes dear, babies and fools…lol How are you today?

Blackfoote – LOL You know I’m right :)

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:14 am

and to piggyback celisea – there’s been a time or two when I ventured to a guy’s house but I ALWAYS let someone know who he was, where I was, what his phone number was, what his license plate number was. he might kill me, chop me up and dispose of the body but one somebody somewhere would be able to provide the cops with a solid lead. back when I had a home phone I would also call my house and leave a detailed message on my own machine. overkill? maybe but that first time going in – even if you think you know a person – may or may not be what you expect.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:14 am

And therein lies the problem, Celisea. When the wild fizzles out, it’s a wrap. So easy to get turned off. Apparently on both genders’ part (Ex, not gender parts, you know what I mean).

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:15 am

disco – Exactly. Overkill? Not so much. For every chick found on the bottom of the ocean or scattered over a 2 or 3 mile stretch, I bet she wished she’dda left a note

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:15 am

Oooh lemon pepper wangs and some ranch dressing Mmm mmm good

That sounds SO GOOD! Guess I know what I’m having for lunch!

Leggs, if you ever make it over to this side of town, we’ll swing by Wing Factory. They make the BEST lemon pepper wings, hands down.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:16 am

Leggs – Ain’t it disappointing?? Here he comes beating his chest and come to find out you’re dealing with wet noodles and nail polish (rather than claws).

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:17 am

Ummm, I don’t care for lemon pepper wings.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:17 am

disco:

License plate!……LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:18 am

disco – I’m sort of there with you and just took a couple of notes. I will let someone know, I will leave notes, I will tell a couple of friends, I will shoot (when he ain’t looking) a snapshot of the addy…yep, yessiree. If you commit a crime, you ain’t getting away with it.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:19 am

@Leggs

Did you say date 3 at one and half to two months?

Really?

I’m sorry but, if I’m feeling you, I want to see you when I have the time to devote my full attention to you, and in the case that I really wanna see you I’ll make the time – see also: trips to Minnesota.

But if you’re slowing me down, then my only assumption is that you ain’t fillin me like I’m fillin you, and I need to fillin someone else….

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

Yes ma’am. I remember dating this guy and so looking forward to doing the do. Foreplay was fab, kissing was ok, but when I reached in to get it out, I found a pencil like appendage in my hand. Man, I had to cover up my disappointment with the quickness. The stroking was ok, but I was already emotionally scarred (LOLOLOL).

abc

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

I don’t watch any reality TV — I don’t watch much TV at all, really — so I don’t know what ‘elaborate date’ means in terms of “The Bachelor”. 10-12 years ago, I watched a show on TV that led to all that bachelor and bachelorette mess, called “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire”. I found it completely appalling. I keep People mag in the bathroom, and have noted that (I think) not one single matchup has worked out on all those shows. It’s baloney. It’s proof that Americans are, by and large, idiots.

I don’t think that to be elaborate in a material way illustrates much beyond materialism of everyone involved. If that’s what it takes to impress a date, she’s probably not that much worth the pursuit. Let’s go skydiving to a mountaintop in the Tetons, where there’s a white linen covered table with 7 course gourmet meal, kitchen and wait staff, and a violinist. Then we’ll jet to Paris for cocktails after breakfast.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

Cely……Stop.

I’m glad I got 2 oclock meeting, I’m not able stand this all day.

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:21 am

I think on some level you chicks aren’t being candid at all(not surprising on this blog-blig chics head mentality)

When you date a guy and u really like and are feeling him,the next logical thing is to see where he stays,and for him to check your place as well…

Jumping each other’s bones is the next logical step once most folks are really digging that chic or that guy…

ain’t that right Disco?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:23 am

@Dan ~ I did say that. Not that I necessarily agree with it. I’m with you, if we’re liking each other, let’s spend as much time as we can together. I just know people who seem to wait it out. Please understand, I was tyring to be conservative. Not necessarily accepting…

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:25 am

@Celisea ~ I’m the same. When going out with someone new, I leave a note in my house, have called a few friends with first and last name, have described the car if I’m able to, will let known the location I’m supposed to be, etc…

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

“When you date a guy and u really like and are feeling him,the next logical thing is to see where he stays,and for him to check your place as well…”

That is not the next logical thing…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

Leggs:

You reached in to get it out, you found a pencil. I’m going on a break off that one……..LOL

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

But Viagra can go 4 hours non stop Leggs

u sure u still don’t like it!

(I’ve noticed the package(appendage) has to be right with u) :lol: one hudren,as Slim will say! :lol:

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

I’m sorry but, if I’m feeling you, I want to see you when I have the time to devote my full attention to you, and in the case that I really wanna see you I’ll make the time – see also: trips to Minnesota.

Exactly Dan. But if a dude is trying to space a woman out, I know for me it’s gonna fizzle. Smells like rotation to me. When two people feel each other, IMO and experience things naturally step up. Even if meeting on mutual grounds until we’re feeling better acquainted.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

The next logical thing is to keep listening to him, observing him with his words and his actions. Where one lives is down the road…how they live is front and center.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:27 am

That’s right…take all the necessary precautions. He’s got nothing to worry about if he ain’t a serial killer.

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:28 am

BF – yep. license plate. no shame to my game.

leggs – that there is most definitely disappointing. you kind of feel sorry for the guy because it’s not his fault but really, what’s a girl to do?

exiled – nope. next logical step isn’t to go to his house and check out his digs. I think I may have mentioned on here before that I’m the chick that will check out the register of deeds/tax assessment websites to see if a guy owns his home etc. I don’t need to be all up in your space immediately because I don’t want you thinking you are going to be all up in mine immediately.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:28 am

@Ex ~ I didn’t say anything about his stamina level and keeping it going. I was talking about the thickness of the shaft. Boy, stop acting like you can’t read.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:29 am

Are y’all (the Lady’s) on a candy rush this morning?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:29 am

@Leggs

Okay.

There’s conservative and there’s talking yourself out of a good man time too….isallimsayin

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:30 am

@ Leggs, was he a talented “cunning linguist” at least?

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
10:31 am

celisea, my foolish azz is doing just lovely. :lol: already looking forward to a lazy, rainy weekend at home. how are you, chica?

i did falter on that sound advice, but i do require my daughter to be that mindful of the company she keeps and to report her plans and whereabouts.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:31 am

@Ex ~ sorry, bro, but you haven’t noticed that about me. When I’ve spoken on the skinny appendage it’s always about the same dude (pencil dude). I’ve hade different sizes and lenghths. It’s all about if you know how to use the size you have…some can, some can’t!!!

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:32 am

leggs – you mentioned the “pencil”. I came across a “salt shaker” once. you know the little glass shaker with the chrome top you see in restaurants? it was bad.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:32 am

Just playin wit ya…none of my effing business ;-)

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

I know I read Leggs but I’m just saying,stamina and thickness has to be 100 for u

Viagra was in prior posts not today but still

listening

But 4 hours non stop and no?

Ure a trooper Leggs! :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

Okay Leggs, pull out the excel sheet and give us the full list ;-) (you know ex is reeling you in, lol)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

That’s funny, BF! Something is amiss with us this morning. :lol: :lol:

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

Finally Friday Gang! What’s shakin?

Exiled – Christa & Fireman broke up??? They got married and had a baby & everything!!! Oh well!!

Topic – Save elaborate for special occasions. The first date is not a special occasion. It’s not rocket science people!

Spacing dates over weeks/months = rotation

I met hubby at his place on about the 4th date. I just parked and we left from there. I didn’t go in until about the 6th. He came over to my place on about the 7th. I was not afraid to go to his house because he had kids.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

czBrat – Me too….love lazy rainy weekends. Girl, as long as your “risk” is not greater than your “reward” than I’d say it’s all good :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:35 am

LOL……..@Leggs

RandyT somethings got work for the dude, he certainly got another option in his mouth.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:37 am

Freaky Friday is officially open!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:38 am

@Ex ~ I still think you’re reading me wrong. Stamina is with ANYBODY. Thickeness is preferred BY MOST. Speaking of Viagra is because I’m turned off that so many men in my age group speak of it. Hell let me get to know a little something about you before I learn you use the little blue pill…When I speak of Viagra is alwasy negative.

No one said anything about 4 hours, well no one but YOU!

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:40 am

Kimmie..I think that’s what I head..hope I’m wrong

@Randyt? 4 hours seemed very good to me but hey,what do I know

has Leggs replied yet on whether the guy rhymed good?
:lol:

oneofeach4me

January 6th, 2012
10:40 am

After seeing what happened to Anika Noni Rose in “For Colored Girls” the going into the lion’s den or having him in my place too soon is out of the question. I am gonna have to meet him on common ground for a good minute or at least have him over with mutual friends in the house. The older I have gotten the less naive and more cautious I have become.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:41 am

What’s your order I’m having a Gentleman Jack with lime.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:41 am

Leggs – I can’t say I’ve been disappointed physically where things have fizzled but I was talking about a dude that’s “all about it” and then nothing…. flatline….all talk and NO ACTION

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:42 am

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Makers Mark. Am I right???

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Maker’s Mark on the rocks please…make it a double ;-) No use building a fire if you’re going to put it out.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Hey BF – are you opening the bar for everyone or just the blog fellas?

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:45 am

LMAO @ ITL…you beat me to it!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:45 am

@Randyt ~ sorry, didn’t mean to leave you hanging (no pun intended), but yes he was very good in that arena!

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

@Randy: Or, as a couple of my best guy friends like to say (Makers is also their drink of choice): “Here’s to whiskey, the sweater you wear on the inside!” :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

:-) @ Leggs…good!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

A thin pencil.
Wet noodles and nail polsih.
And a license plate.

This is too much going on……..LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:47 am

Blackfoote – Say we’re wrong :evil:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

That’s funny ITL, haven’t heard that one!…but very true!!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

Disclaimer: this post in no way reflects Dan’s real experiences

I’ve ‘heard’ that the litle blue angel really isn’t worth it. While 4 hours would seem to be a nice time, um, after a while after she’s ‘finished’ and you haven’t, you’re: 1) risking the roll over with 2 -3 hours to go, 2) told on yourself about the use of the blue angel, and 3)risk her uneasiness at the next encounter.

Now, it you on some out and about one night action, number 3 doesn’t matter, but if it’s someone you’re trying to impress long term, the use of the angel should be considered in ligh of these potential issues.

Or so I’ve heard….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

Leggs I’m not so sure you ladies need a drink right now.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

@disco: the salt shaker??? I was LOL on that visual. At our last girls’ night out, a friend of mine said she told a guy, “You know you oughta be ashamed even exposing that little thing!” I was like :shock: guess that didn’t help the cause. LOL

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:49 am

from single friends….

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:50 am

BF, it’s 5 o’clock somewhere. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

Dan:

I’ve heard the same thing, like all meds they’re good for some and useless for others.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

Regarding teeny weenies…a guy I knew said one day, “a lady told mo once that I had a small one…I told her it was plenty big enough to get ME off, thank you”.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

True BF…we’re already on fire (lol).

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
10:52 am

celisea, funny thing is i remember him saying ‘thank you for coming out to meet me and allowing me to cook your breakfast, but don’t you EVER do that again!!’

yes, girl. i’ve got wine and desserts leftover from nye. a new book to get into. and i made a roast last night that should keep thing 2 busy until monday. i will be MIA for two days straight!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:53 am

@Dan ~ that’s how I feel about the blue pill…especially in overweight men. Work yourself into a tizzy with all that heavy breathing and fast stroking…wonder if the heart can take it. It’s a turnoff for me, blue pill and overweight men.

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:54 am

ITL – re your friend who told the guy he ought to be ashamed. I once made a comment that a guy need not be all bold as to get undressed and flaunt across the room like he was swinging. some folks really do need to get undressed in the dark and quickly slide beneath the covers. I remember saying that he needed to sneak that up on somebody.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:56 am

@czB ~ I am not surprised he said that to you. Not surprised at all.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:56 am

czBrat – LOL…see he’s knows the danger. I just ate the last of that dessert. It was still good. All I can recommend is to not break nothing…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

Light:

The sweater you wear is so right, when the weather gets really cold a couple sips/what the hell shots you can walk outdoors in short sleeves…….LOL

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

disco, you have me cracking up again! I’m pretty sure my co-workers are going to hide my coffee mug any minute now. “Sneak that up on somebody!” too funny.

SN: Why am I thinking about “Dexter St. Jock”??? :lol:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

Catching up

disco & BF – I’ve had my best friend take a pic of a dude’s license plate that wanted to take me to breakfast. lol Plus when I had a roomate, we had a dry erase board we’d leave each other msgs on if needed. So when I went to meet up with a prospect, i put his info on the board for her even though i was meeting him in a public place. Precautions baby, Preeeecautions ;-)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:58 am

The “salt shaker” is funny, “sneak that up on somebody” is scary and funny.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:59 am

The legendary John Holmes, in an interview, once said, “there are two kinds of men in this world, one, when he goes to a skinny dip, takes off his clothes and immediately jumps in the water, the other takes his clothes off and strolls on the bank for awhile…I reackon I’m a bankstroller”.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:00 am

reckon…sorry.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:02 am

If you’re the only one who deems your body is good for bankstrolling, please re-evaluate and jump your a$$ in the water…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:03 am

disco, Leggs, Cely, CZ, and Light:

I bet y’all can humble a guy with a quickness if he wasn’t already. The dude would be on another planet if the things y’all say didn’t get under his skin……..LOL

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:03 am

Not me Leggs, I’ll just “sneak up” in the water ;-)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:04 am

LOL@Leggs.

HOWEVER, if John Holmes is the benchmark for bankstrollers, I’ll take a swimmer anyday! One can have too much of a good thing….at least for me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:06 am

A dry erase board, I’m keeled over now (face palming)…….LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:06 am

Blackfoote – I can be pretty brash but in the face of ur rumm, “adversity” I know how to put on a smile and play nice. I wouldn’t take a man out at the knees unless he was disrespectful or something of that nature. I don’t think I’d go there outright on the body parts. At least I haven’t yet :)

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:07 am

LOL, @ ITL…maybe it was just the camera angles…surely not real…dudes dad must have been an Arabian stallion (literally). They used to have rumors that when he died they put his pubic bone in the Smithsonian (urban legend of course, but should probably have).

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
11:07 am

awwww. yous are making me sad to think there are guys out there battling penile challenges. surely they’ve known since like 7th grade or so, no? those comments should not come as a shock. folks should be blowin up the enzyte phone lines.

celisea, i gave the rest of the coconut cheesecakes to my sister and let my daughter take the white cranberry fudge; i’ll be settling down with the last of the oreo cheesecake starting tonight. that’s why i told ya’ll to take as much as you wanted. :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

@BF ~ we aren’t necessarily as bold on this blog as we are face to face. We do take into account a person’s feelings. If you deserve being knocked down a peg or two, then we probably will have no problem doing so. That would only occur if the guy continously talk smack about this strengths only to find out he couldn’t benchpress an uncooked spaghetti noodle.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

Can’t say I’ve been disappointed too much. I can say I’ve mentally done the comparison (thinking he shole ain’t so and so) but even so and overall everything was workable.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

@Leggs

You don’t have to like it, but someone will.

Remember, we’re men, we play the numbers…

See also: fat men in wifebeaters – unabashedly

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
11:09 am

Good Morning and Happy New Year,

On Topic – I have never personally been into the elaborate type dating realm. I consider myself thoughtful and a attentive in that I paid attention during those few convo’s before the date to kind of get a feel for what you might like (read:what I’m willing to do). I can see from some whiners POV why based on elaborateness they have a certain expectation. Where I’m coming from is this is a mutual quest. Heyal I have to see if you are worth you are all cracked up to be as well.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

czBrat – Know I didn’t know OREO CHEESECAKE was among us…lol I would have sliced a big chunk for the road. The cranberry fudge was delish. The chicken was delish and the cressant rolls was delish. Yeah, I should have “been maself” and fixed a bigger plate :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

Now..not know

disco

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

celisea – you might as well tell the man the truth. while some men are aware of their (ahem) shortcomings. there are a lot of guys out there who didn’t get the memo. and I’m sure all the ladies here have heard some variation of “I haven’t had any complaints”. well that’s because most women are too nice, too shy, too whatever to tell the truth. I say tell them.

LL411

January 6th, 2012
11:11 am

The guy I’m speaking of is related to a good friend of mine for many years… didn’t know him, but knew of him. I know she would not have suggested we meet if she thought bad of him. Besides we’d been talking everyday and had been on 4 dates (w/in one month) when I went to his house, and better he’s been to mine for dinner since then. We are attracted, but have not consumated… at this time we are friends and both interested in knowing the other better…

That’s not to say at almost 50 I’ve not done the speed dating thingy, but these days I am a little slower off the jump. .

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:11 am

LOL@Randy.

co-signing Leggs’ 11:08. Benchpress an uncooked noodle….too funny!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:12 am

And based on this: I can see from some whiners POV, I figured Imma just stroll in late mornings. Let ‘em get it off their chests. LOL

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:12 am

@Dan ~ of course someone will like it. Just like a lot of men don’t like very skinny women or fat somen. We all have our preferences…different strokes for different folks, bottom line!!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:14 am

I can see from some whiners POV I was trying to bold this part….to say that’s why coming in late mornings is so much better. Let the whiners get it alllll off their chests.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:15 am

Re: Blue Pill – It just seems a bit overkill to be ‘on edge’ for up to 4hrs for only 20 minutes of hard breathing & skin rubbing.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:16 am

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:16 am

disco – I don’t have the heart to tell folks…lol I won’t go there though. At all.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:17 am

I don’t think it’s whining, I think it’s a legitmate fear

You can listen, plan, pay, and the date still not go well based on some isht that happened to her earlier in the day, or the “hasn’t had that type of treatment” homegirl all in her ear, or just plain lack of chemistry.

To dismiss a guys fear of putting himself out there like that as ‘whining’ is not fair WD/Cel

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:21 am

Dan – It’s not when it’s today’s discussion. It’s whining though if it’s everyday, same speech, different days, different topics, different months, differents years…nothing changes. Same mantra. At that point it’s whining. I just don’t understand physically stating why you can’t do whatever it is you don’t do and why or how your resolve is the same….FOR EVERY TOPIC. Heck even the topic changes, thus the conversation should switch I would think at some point. Bright some days, sad some days, depressed some days, optimistic some days…a change in scenery somewhere. I just hope I NEVER encounter none of the morning posters…lol

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:21 am

you’re not your

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:24 am

BF – What’s wrong with a dry erase board? It’s not the size of one you’d find in a classroom. Just a little small one that had one side as a cork board. We’d put pending bills, coupons etc up there too ;-)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:25 am

I’m with ya Cel,

But silly me, I think these are different people posting…

LL411

January 6th, 2012
11:27 am

SlimNu… Eva body knows who, where and when in great detail… I’ve done checkin/follow-up calls to my wingman from public bathrooms LOL!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:27 am

Dan – Me too

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:28 am

Dan – Nooo I take that back. I think it’s probably the same salty dude. If it’s not morning, he’ll make his afternoon stroll..lol

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:30 am

Just like a lot of men don’t like very skinny women

Leggs – whatchutomboutwillis? :???: i kid :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:33 am

@LL411 ~ yes indeed.

@SlimNu ~ that’ why I threw in the word “very.” I was skinny my entire life and southen men loved it. Now the toothpick, bony skeletor skinny, not attractive.

squirrelly mc cheesy grill pon pon pon

January 6th, 2012
11:34 am

I sure am glad you girls went back to your blog, especially Leggs. Stay off Rodney Ho’s blog !!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

We’ve been jabber jawing….5 pages and it’s only 11:37.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

DON’T FEED THE ANIMALS. KEEP HANDS AND ARMS AWAY FROM THE CAGE!!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

@punk a$$ squirrelly – make me!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

@ Cel and Dan…even though all of us wan sometimes to just shake them and say “MAN UP”, it nneds to remembered that whether we believe what they say or not, the pain is probably quite real to them. I’m not saying you give them or him a pass, but it is a good idea to remember that there are possibly times that we are viewed in the same way when we are hurting. Just thought i would throw that in…now i can throw it back out if necessary.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

Haa haa, guess you didn’t like that fake double dog dare you put out there!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

Leggs!!! Now we ain’t gonna be able to get that thing to leave

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

In my experience, if you take a woman on an elaborate first date, you don’t know if she’s in it for you or for the wining and dining and many would continue to go out with you as long as you wine and dine them. So I screen for that upfront. During our conversation, I make suggestions about activity dates – art museum, bowling, wine tasting (and others), etc. and I gauge her reaction. If she’s enthusiastic, then she’s in. If she insists on an expensive restaurant, I know she’s more into the wining and dining part, so she’s out.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

“Now the toothpick, bony skeletor skinny, not attractive.”—> Slim to a tee :-( :lol:

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

BF: Get your badge and the stun gun!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

Nothing wrong with skinny women,

They’re easy to lift, hold, and the only drawback is they’re kinda fragile….who wants to worry about breaking something just when things get…fun

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:40 am

@Celisea ~ were were interesting enough for him to take time out of his so busy blogging day to visit us. He can stay, but NO VEST! :wink:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:41 am

@ Mark…good points.

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
11:41 am

Also, on these fun and activity dates, both can get to know whether they are fun, interesting conversationalists, etc instead of having to put up artificial smiles while sitting across from each other on dinner dates.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:42 am

@SlimNu ~ you are not skeletor…skinny yes, but very attractive…there is a difference between been skinny and carrying it well than walking around like crackhead Halle Berry in Jungle Fever.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:42 am

Randyt – I agree that the hurt is probably real but I don’t agree that it’s reality to equate all others, men or women to their experience. The flip side to that is ALL OF US have no doubt been in their shoes, at some point, some place, somewhere in time. And natually you eventually heal and move one. You don’t even need another to help the process, it’s something that time natually does. Unless the pain is something recent, I don’t get why you can’t have sunshine sometimes.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:44 am

Yeah, let ‘em stay…sans a vest :evil: mwah ah ah ah ah (that’s my evil laugh…got that from my kid)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:45 am

Slim1 I had to break off a minute to re-coup, y’all got me wondering when I’m waiting for her to get ready if she’s gon and got my tag number and called her friends to let them know I got a wolf in my house……..LOL

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:46 am

Cel-very well stated. I have the biggest heartburn when they wear it like a badge forever…feel the pain, accept the rejection, then wipe your eyes and call another. The ones that assume all are like the few that dated says more about themselves than the people they date. I agree with your points.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:47 am

@Cel

to your 11:42, I got started on this board in – let’s say – a poor frame of mind; one similar to the random commenters.

Did I get a “man up” or 17? Yeap.

But I also got people that – even though they didn’t know me from Adam – sincerely tried to see it from my persepective, empathize, and give me the needed “it gets better” speech.

That’s my experience, good and bad, but you need both the pat and the smack sometimes – especially if there’s something/one worth salvaging

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:47 am

Blackfoote – If it’s/she’s new and she’s smart she’ll grab your tag number when you ain’t looking. Or your house number and street name :)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:48 am

Anything is possible, BF. More importantly, watch the plants to see if there’s a hidden camera. :lol: :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:50 am

Dan’s 11:47. I remember, you had both…and learned from it (also means I’ve been on this blog too dayum long). Your’s was a good story.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:50 am

Light the badge is ready to flash. Dude the Ho has been gone you’re out of date.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:51 am

@BF ~ I’ll call you with your tag number. :lol: :lol: :roll: :neutral:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:51 am

BF – Her looking out for herself doesn’t make her a wolf. It makes her Danielle Boone lol Don’t take offense to it at all. If anything, you should worry if she DOESN’T want anyone to know where she is or who she’s with. In that case, hide yo wife, hide yo kids (compliments of Antoine Dodson)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:52 am

@Dan ~ nice post…no doubt you’ve grown and altered a few things! Good for you.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Randyt/Dan – I think sometimes a level of hurt depends on if you just thought the be all to end all was in a person. Just no place for flaws and then here it comes…the disappointment. This is just me and very speculative but I think that it’s gotta be something like that or of that nature to really get a guy to slump. Most dudes can mount another and at least get his spirits lifted if only for a moment…lol Not saying it’s the answer but it’s just not natural where nothing never ever can pull you out of your slump. And usually when you think that’s it, it’s over…here she comes, unexpectedly. You can’t see her but you see the silhouette (sp) and it’s enough to shake your mood and give you hope…lol Hell a dude can walk outside and see that.

Maybe I’m on fairy dust today or something…but I’m just thinking even with no prospects you can talk yourself up on “happy.”

But yeah Dan, both encouragement and a slap is needed. Maybe we’ll do an “attaboy” Monday to the morning whiners…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

@SlimNu ~ BF is saying he’s the wolf and she’s letting her friends know to be ready to roll at a moment’s notice (lol).

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:54 am

Speaking of bad dates, that &*^&% Joran Van der Sloot is on trial today. Wanting to plea bargain to a lighter sentence. I’m surprised he has survived in prison (kind of hoped he might “accidentally” fall and break his neck).

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:54 am

Leggs – I was kidding…but yesterday at the gym I decided to wear some long workout type shorts that come just below the knees and a tank top. I actually caught a shot of a dirty look from the treadmill area. :roll:
and :lol: at you sending BF his tag number

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:55 am

Mentioning “Daniel Boone” reminds me of a song we sang (for real) where my mama would beat our backs if she heard us…

Daniel Boone was a maaaan,
he was a biiiig man.
He jumped in the bushes,
stoled a lot of p@ssy…and raaaaan

I don’t know. I didn’t make it up, just learned from my sibs. Don’t judge me.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:55 am

Maybe I’m on fairy dust today or something…but I’m just thinking even with no prospects you can talk yourself up on “happy.”

I must have inhaled the same dust. Nicely stated.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:56 am

Leggs – :)

Okay I’m heading to lunch with a friend. Be back in a couple.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:57 am

Cel, if you did, I did, too. Heck, I think the whole world could stand a shot of fairy dust or whatever it takes to make them realize that being happy is a choice you make every day.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:58 am

That’s what it is y’all don had some fairy dust this morning…….LOL

Leggs I don’t even know what my tag number is, y’all something else……..LOL

disco

January 6th, 2012
11:59 am

y’all are nuts. have any of you ever “marked territory”? you know plant an earring, hairpin or something?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:59 am

Randome thought on fairy dust:

We need to market this “fairy dust” and send a crate to rebound chick, JLo. She doesn’t seem to take time to heal…she’s still jumping from one pole to another. I don’t think she likes being by herself.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

ITL – Yep..exactly

Blackfoote – Don’t blame the dust…lol

Alright..it’s lunch time

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

BF is saying he’s the wolf and she’s letting her friends know to be ready to roll at a moment’s notice

Leggs – That’s what I get for trying to polish my nails, ready yall and work at the same time. :oops:

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

i am ctfu @ slim 11:51!!! on. da. flo!

where’s miss sexycool?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:02 pm

@disco ~ never, ever marked territory. To me, that’s top of the list of insecurity.

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

disco, i left jewelry on his nightstand (about 2 yrs into the relationship). he said, ‘if you were any other woman i’d think you did that on purpose’. lol

if my territory isn’t marked on the inside, leaving signs that ‘the brat was here’ don’t mean much.

honestly, i think i could use a mild injection of jealousy or possessive nature or something. or maybe i just need to take something that will tone down my confidence. just a tad. *shrugs*

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
12:06 pm

I got a few minutes…

Off current topic sort of…What’s up with the chick’s on Bert’s show? What’s up with chicks “showing up” after they’ve been dumped or “wondering how to approach” their man after finding a risque picture of a wife of a friend?” There are many many more stories but ummm what are they thinking? You’re gonna show up after getting dumped?? Who does that? That’s gonna accomplish what? Oh all the while saying “I trust him so I know it’s not another.” First of all I’m not gonna waste my dime or time chasing down something done. But hey….

disco

January 6th, 2012
12:07 pm

leggs – I wondered because I know a few “very grown” women that are still doing it. to them it’s not about insecurity so much as it’s about “blocking”.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:09 pm

Someone close to me stated they think they need counseling because they just don’t believe they have been happy for a while…and for some reason associate being happy to mean having a guy in her life. She’s really been down lately and I don’t know what to tell her. I try but maybe coming from a stranger will be more effective

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:11 pm

The difference between how women think and how guys think, we are attracted to each other with different sets of thoughts and virtues. Literally wer’re Clash Of The Titans.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:11 pm

What are they blocking? If you have to block, he’s not your mate! If he was into you only you, he would block himself.

@Celisea ~ for the dude that had the picture of his friend’s wife on his phone, he was all the way wrong and no words in the English language can help him get out of that!

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
12:12 pm

bf, please elaborate.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:12 pm

@SlimNu ~ I was in a funk yesterday (but I had two issues I had to deal with). Normally, I’m cool. Tell your friend to hit me up. We can talk (lol). I’ll have her laughing in no time.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
12:14 pm

Leggs – Yeah, it seems all of them (radio hosts) wanted to slap her for how “considerate” she was of his feelings and how she should approach. They were like, just ask him…straight out. Funny thing is she “stumbled” up on it.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:18 pm

Is “stumble” another word for “nosey?”

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:18 pm

Leggs – I told her to pay me to listen because i shole could use some extra cheese lol

Too bad I missed that part of the Bert Show. I came in when Jeff was talking about doing a triathalon

Because I’m at the beau’s spot often, there are things of mine over there. But it’s not because I’m trying to block or claim any territory.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
12:18 pm

In fairness, if it is not okay for men to generalize about women, then this has to apply to women also. So for the record, the most common male generalization is…

1) all men are lying cheating conniving azzholes…no, some are, but many/most are not.
2) if you complain that every guy is number 1, is the problem the men, or is it your choices?

There are too many generalizations by both genders. The answer to one’s problems lies within oneself to Man/Woman Up and fix yourself.

(Having said that about generalizing, I have to confess I am still tempted to comment about female stability, lol…now ducking to avoid that wildazz tangerine thrower ;-)

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:20 pm

Leggs – Depends on what way ’stumble’ came about. Now if you happen to ’stumble’ upon some old love letters hidden up in his attic or in the back of his workout clothes drawer, then yo azz was really being nosey/snoopin. lol

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
12:22 pm

(ITL throwing a grapefruit at Randy’s head and running under the stairs)

Leggs, tell Randy if he keeps talking that way, next time it will be a cantaloupe! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:22 pm

CZ:

Women like stated today do things to protect themselves and that’s a good thing, while guys unbeknown to us have we’ve been processed through and don’t have a clue. We feel we have a chance to get gold, and y’all already know the gold mine been closed before we make the first dig.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
12:23 pm

I have to confess, I never thought about “marking one’s territory” until the ladies brought up the topic today. I’ve had to explain some things before, but they were always remnants from a past relationship that got overlooked. As far as a woman marking her territory at my house, if she is there by invitation, it IS her territory.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:23 pm

@SlimNu ~ a person in a committed relationship with another is not “blocking” by leaving things.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
12:25 pm

@Cel

Jeff’s “crazy voice/breath” was dead on.

Show up at my house – after hopping on a plane no less – and “closure” as nothing to do with it, in fact, I’m thinking you’re more ‘wide open’ than anything.

@Slim

There’s likely nothing you can say to her. If she’s still depending on someone else to be the key to her happiness, she either needs to grow out of it or wallow.

@Randy/Leggs

Thanks, those were some dark days. But ‘that too passed’

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:26 pm

For the longest time, I would make sure I got everything of mine when I left out…and strangely enough, even found myself vacuuming the whole house before heading to work in the morn lol

BF – So you guys never take any precautions when meeting or going out with a new chick?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:26 pm

Maybe the attic was being cleaned up when one “stumbled” upon those letters (lol). To look at pictures on a cell phone w/o permission is being nosey. Anyway, serves the dumbcluck right. He shouldn’t have asked for it, and if he didn’t ask for it, he should have immediately either shown it to his girl, a/k/a CYA, or deleted it.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:28 pm

“As far as a woman marking her territory at my house, if she is there by invitation, it IS her territory.”

Ummm, may be why you have so many dang t-shirts!!!

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:29 pm

Oh and men, i’m sure none of you would like to admit it, but somma yall have left stuff on purpose at a chicks house. The only thing that’s strange to me either way is, I’ve never heard of a dude ‘accidentally’ forgetting to take his drawers with him…Why is that a chick thang :lol: :shock:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
12:30 pm

@Randy

Some of these ladies are slick.

If you’re a one woman at a time kinda guy, then it doesn’t matter.

The D, on the other hand, would politely remind them that “you left this” and KIP.

Lip gloss, hair/makeup products, and the worse were draws…..yeah, someofem thank they slick.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:31 pm

I do agree with that RandyT. I have a friend that had to call Dekalb Police once this babe came to his door without his knowledge. He had another over and things got out of hand, we believe she was the one that keyed his car a couple of weeks later. There was no way to prove though, it wasn’t funny to him but I gaurantee I couldn’t control the laughter.

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
12:35 pm

We feel we have a chance to get gold, and y’all already know the gold mine been closed before we make the first dig.

ahhh. i see. man’s instintive urge to sow seed v. woman’s innate desire to select prime cut.
you couldn’t PAY ME to come back as a male in the next life … or the one after that. :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:35 pm

Keying cars, busting windshields, sugar in tank is all a waste of time and energy. Hell, it dude doesn’t want me anymore I’ll go home and lick my wounds behind closed doors. I’ll be damned if I make a fool of myself in public over any dude or catch a case for someone. And, as far as showing up somewhere uninvited in the hopes like Adele’s song says “I hope that you’ll see that for me it isn’t over” ain’t happening….

LL411

January 6th, 2012
12:36 pm

As far as a woman marking her territory at my house, if she is there by invitation, it IS her territory.

I believe this… is true when dealing with a mature person, selective about who they bring in their home/life.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:40 pm

Slim1 if a dude is sizing up a lady in that manner he needs to date on the other side of the fence. For me it’s a telling story from how long you have me waiting, 10 minutes we good, 45 tension starts seeping in, 1hr to 1 and half I’m done. I’ve had some make us miss the start of movies doing that, I’m a patient guy but damn I want to see the coming soon movie credits.

disco

January 6th, 2012
12:41 pm

re: marked territory etc. nice to know the blog folks really are so mature. frankly, I’m still in some circles where everybody is playing games and everybody is cool with it. there are a lot of mr. and miss right nows in our ranks.

slim – chicks don’t leave their underwear. they travel with an extra pair. Michael baisden called them “stunt drawers”.

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
12:41 pm

Dan – Sorry I had to step out. I understood your point but C’mon man we are not teenagers anymore. I will try and give my boi a peptalk and all that but not every day. But once again i did understand the point you were making, just not my M.O.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:43 pm

I recall one of my homeboys told me he had a chick over and when they were done getting dressed, she was looking for her undies. So he saw a pair and was, oh here they go. Bad thing was, they weren’t hers, they actually belonged to his ‘main’ chick. Talk about awkward :shock:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:45 pm

Leggs I don’t understand why women or men do that either. It is senseles and nothing good can never come out of it.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:45 pm

disco – Stunt drawers sort of a like a stunt double? :lol: Alrighty then hehehehehe Unless I have to jump up in a hurry for an emergency, I am very well aware that I don’t have on a piece a cothing that I came in with.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
12:46 pm

@WD

No problem – on either account.

Like I said, both are needed.

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
12:48 pm

Slim – My old college roommate (real wolf) use to keep a box with earrings,hairpins, etc. When a chick would come over and he wanted to get rid of her he’d pull the box out and ask her if any of that was her stuff. At that point he would either duck or know he got a certified fun-girl on the team.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
12:50 pm

WD now that’s a slick dude, very clever.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
12:50 pm

If you got a ‘main’ chick that rountinely spends the night, then her draws are going to be left – whether intentionally or in the normal course of business.

But, that also means you need to step you game up and get back to the chicks house.

I’ve know more than a few bruh’s caught up when the ‘other’ chick can tell the ‘main’ chick details about his/her/their home.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:57 pm

WD – That’s just plain mean…

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:59 pm

So for some of you ‘recovering’ or still-practing playas, what are some of the things on your check list/routines that you do to prepare for a visit from a side-piece or even when you know main chick is coming over?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:03 pm

I come back to “stunt drawers.” That’s a first for me, but makes perfect sense cuz most women aren’t walking around afterwards airing out. No one forgets their panties…

@LL411 ~ I have to agree, a mature woman wouln’t hav to mark territory at Randyt’s home and will be comfortable knowing when it’s time to leave, leave with all that you came with (unless you’re leaving with a to go plate).

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:05 pm

@Slim

clean the house; period.

Rule 1 was side piece shouldn’t be all up and through the house – especially if she knew her place; no taking down pictures, no hiding my girls stuff in the bathroom, none of that.

Rule 2 was to make sure before the ‘main’ lady came over, the house was presentable – see rule 1 – cleaning behind the ’side’ babe should be easy.

Cats get in trouble by not letting the ’side piece’ know her role and then by not respecting the main chick. <– that leads to confusion for everyone

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
1:06 pm

Happy New Year Folks…been backed up in this office all week….what’s happnennin!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:10 pm

“Cats get in trouble by not letting the ’side piece’ know her role and then by not respecting the main chick.”

Talking about a play on words. If you respected the main chick, there be no need for a side chick…I’m calling BS on the play…

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:10 pm

Dan – I pictured side-piece coming over and she’s admiring your spot. “Oooh, you have a very nice place here. You want to give me a little tour to check you out?” Dan: Ah, not really…but um, you prefer Ultra-sensitive or ribbed?

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:11 pm

FLAG ON THE FIELD! :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:15 pm

@Leggs

You’re right; that should’ve been the ‘main chick’s position’; thanks for the clarification.

@Slim

That assumes dude is bringing ‘dates’ back to the house (see rule 1), why? It ain’t a date, you know why you’re here (I’m too cheap for a motel), why is looking around all willy-nilly.

‘member, Dan was never a player, just a real dude trying to get it in; I never felt the need to tell a lie to anyone.

**NOTE: omission/obfuscation is clearly not the same as ‘telling a lie’

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
1:16 pm

Slim – I can’t answer from personal experience only from what I heard from a few wolves back in the day. Dan had it mostly right. Side pieces have to know there role. It shouldn’t be any loitering round the house. Said side chick has a path from the door to the room and retrace ya steps on the way out. Just what I heard and seen on the movies.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:18 pm

@SlimNu ~ thoughts and statements like that are rude, disrespectful and plain old foolish.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:18 pm

Even when I no longer lived with the ex, he always kept my pictures up. I had the chance to talk to one of the chicks before and I basically was like, did you not see my pics up everywhere and she blantantly said Yeah I saw em. (In my Sanford & Son voice —> You big Dummy!) Some folks just don’t care though

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
1:19 pm

Cats get into trouble….and then not respecting the main chic’

:lol: Respecting?

Dont worry ladies,Dan had a momentary memory loss..he thought he was talking to another playa,mentioning ‘respect’ :lol:

Carry on… : lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:20 pm

There should be no “main chick” and “side chick” in the same sentence….Whatever!!! The game will never change….

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:20 pm

And just to add, she even went on to tell how much he supposedly “loved me”… :lol:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
1:22 pm

Side Piece etiquette, “stop, drop , and roll”

Stop talkin, drop dem drawers, and roll out, we’re done here!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:25 pm

@Sniffer ~ yeah, that kind of statement should never me made where women are around!

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:26 pm

Jake – Daaaaaaaayum yall are harsh as heyal.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:28 pm

That’ss an unspoken truth, SlimNu. Hope the many side pieces knew this going in….I did, that’s why I stayed on the outside.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:29 pm

Naw Meello, I didn’t

I’m trying to hip these ladies to real playa isht, let the “wanna be loving every chick” dude fend for himself.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:31 pm

I know I’m a dinosaur, but why does one need a side piece? If main lady isn’t fulfilling your needs, is she not the wrong lady? I understand that just becuase one loves a kielbasa with smoked cheddar and ketchup and mayo, one might not want it EVERY day…but is 75 to 80% of needs are being met, why the side piece? But then, I’m monogamous…if it isn’t working then let that person go and take time to find another.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:31 pm

@Dan ~ no, you’re not.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:32 pm

Randyt’s 1:31 is real playa isht!.! !

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

Slim!

Women notice the most innocuous of things(to men) that we men don’t notice. So it’s hard to say what a playa gotta do….

but then again MLB makes us sign a confidential agreement

no wonder WD’s 1:16’s ‘heard’ and ‘from movies’ statement.

Disclosure wld attract a lawsuit and banishment :lol:

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

Slim!

Women notice the most innocuous of things(to men) that we men don’t notice. So it’s hard to say what a playa gotta do….

but then again MLB makes us sign a confidential agreement

no wonder WD’s 1:16’s ‘heard’ and ‘from movies’ statement.

Disclosure wld attract a lawsuit and banishment :lol:

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

1:31 is some real playa isht. Thats some advanced level playa isht right there coming from the biggest playa on the blog. Think its a game? He got a Tshirt for that too. j/k j/k RandyT bnr…..

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:37 pm

I know Leggs, you think if I keep spreading that isht around someone will bite, right? I am though. Contrary to popular belief, it is not all about the effing, and for me there has to be more. When I think I have found that “more”, I’m not going eff it up by hitting another piece of tail. Just not. But I’m not normal.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
1:37 pm

Leggs…thanks for the assist….the truth is that a real side piece knows her place…she is cool with the circumstances and really she just want to get off too…she’s really in control of the whole scenario…if she chose to be a side bunny, don’t expect that Shea Butter rub down before or after we get to the bidness.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:38 pm

Okay Leggs….

monogamous = player = riiiiiggghhhhttt

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:44 pm

I appear to have stretched the credibility band until it snapped here.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
1:45 pm

Poppin’ back in……..Leggs what we discussing?!? ;)

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:45 pm

Sniffer – When I first posed that question, I wondered how long it would take before I got shut down by the MLB in some form or fashion. I have to admit, it took a good minute Muuuaaahhhhh (my evil laugh) :evil:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:47 pm

Don’t spin it on me, Dan…that blunder was all yours.

aflter playing around for so many years = monogamous = player doing right by one person at one time.

now, if you want to spin on the word “player,” just replace it with “gentleman.”

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:48 pm

No offense Randy, you know you man 50 grand and all

I’m just saying it so no one can say “I’ve never heard [of] that”

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:48 pm

@Lady ~ we’re about to close the section on side pieces and main woman!

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
1:49 pm

Interesting……cool

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:50 pm

I understand Dan…thus the screen name for today ;-)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
1:52 pm

Dan – Jeff’s “crazy voice/breath” was dead on.

Yep, she was breathing hard while talking, all the while trying to keep her composure…lol

Jake’s 1:22 fuuuuneee

Randyt’s “every post” Wreaks of “da man” We know Randyt, that’s why groovygal was tryna slickly holla yesterday.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:54 pm

@Leggs

I’mma end mine on this:

A man wears diffrent hats, plays different roles in his life.

From son, to nephew, to husband/father (”spoke as a child”), and when those roles change, he (should) do what’s required of him to fulfill those.

That said, I left ‘player’ out specifically. Because that’s not a role, that’s an age/mentality thing (read: young minded). And if a man can’t grow beyond that young mind and leave childish things behind, then he’ll never grow into anything else.

A player will never have a wife, or “do right by one person at a time”, that’s actually an antonym to the word/concept.

But you keep thinking the way you want about it.

I said my piece, and I’m headed home.

Elaborate not lavish

January 6th, 2012
1:55 pm

Elaborate =! Lavish/Expensive

You can plan and have a very romantic, extremely enjoyable, and over the top evening with a bit of effort. The best dates take creativity, time, a bit of luck, and a great sense of humor to laugh at yourself when it doesn’t go perfectly.

A good woman will appreciate the effort and time you spent on her even if the evening is not flawless. Show her you care, you’re focus is on her, and the evening will be splendid!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:56 pm

Lol @ Celisea…so I am obviously missing an opportunity to be an abundantly blessed “Male ho” ;-) (Okay, I need to get back to Johnny’s and work it since I have the lines, just need to deliver, LOLOL).

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

Nooo Randyt, stay away from Johnny’s…lol I’m saying I think you’ve mastered the game. You got the tshirts to show.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

@Dan ~ what you wrote is nice, but that wasn’t your intended intent with your first post. You thought you were being cute and that it would go over our heads. It didn’t, you crashed and burned and your clean up is dust out the window…win some, lose some.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

ENL – I think your 1:55 depends of you being male or female…lol

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
2:01 pm

If uall are thirsting for playa inside info,we can talk to Elliot Spitzer.

he’s outa contract at CNN

Or Jesse
Or Bill

take ur pic

Even Eddie Long :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:05 pm

Eddie Long thought he was only to find out, he’s as clueless as that toupe on top of his noggin….

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
2:08 pm

Someone pass me a wet wipe…Leggs has made me spit out my coke on my nice flat screen monitor. he’s as clueless as that toupe on top of his noggin… I’ll never be able to forget the way that thang sat up on top of his head when he made that speech right after the accusations started. :lol:

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:13 pm

Slim hot mess honey! lol

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:14 pm

I really worked for my quarter this week! I am ready for some football! Go Falcons!

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
2:16 pm

ENL @ 1:55: Nine out of ten times, that’s true.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
2:17 pm

Good Afternoon Chicken Nuggets!!!

I am sure we are wayyy off topic now.. So could someone tell me how bad were the women folks bashed..and where are we now? I saw Eddie Long and Elliot Spitzer..so are we talking about hookers, toupees, and muscle shirts?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:19 pm

C’mon Mark….be a sport :) I liked your posts earlier.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:20 pm

I knew it was a man…lol I was being facetious. You know Mark “they say” men and women are from different planets…neither being earth :)

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
2:22 pm

that whopper was oh so wrong but oh soooo good. :oops:

i’m with kym. i need a rundown.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:23 pm

I had an overpriced burger and sweet potatoes fries…mmm mmm good

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:24 pm

SP Fries C SHARE! lol any apple butter with it?!? lol

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
2:26 pm

are we talking about hookers, toupees, and muscle shirts?

Kym – You were very close… the judges will accept hookers as a suitable substitute for side-pieces, toupees was correct, and the judges have also accepted ‘muscle shirts’ as a suitable answer in the place of “Stunt Draws” (they both have crotches) :lol:

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:27 pm

Lady – It’s funny too, I’ve tried them and tried them and tried them so my friend today says, go ahead one more time. I think slowly but surely they’ve grown on me and today…not bad at all :)

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:28 pm

one of my fav comfort foods! its nothing to peel a sweet potato @ home and fry some up!!!! lol

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:29 pm

Lady – I haven’t graduated to applebutter on them yet. I like it on toast though.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:29 pm

Funny thing too Lady…I HATE sweet potatoes

disco

January 6th, 2012
2:30 pm

Jake – stop, drop and roll. priceless…

randy – side pieces are for the greedy brothers. the have my cake and somebody else’s cake too type of brothers.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:31 pm

lol come on C!!!! my NC roots love potatoes!

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
2:38 pm

side pieces are for the greedy brothers. the have my cake and somebody else’s cake too type of brothers.

side pieces generally know they’re never gonna meet the mom. they stay in their role by choice. dudes aren’t being greedy; they’re just getting away with what that chick will allow.

if women would just stop sharing, dudes would be happy to have ONE and work to keep her.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
2:40 pm

@ disco

“There’s a saying by Henry Fry
says there’s a girl for every guy
But I don’t think that’s entirely true,
cause that greedy brother is working on two!”

disco

January 6th, 2012
2:42 pm

now brat – you know there’s two sides to that coin. you can say it’s the men’s fault for cheating or you can say it’s the other woman’s fault for being available. I stand by the opinion that you have to place blame on the person that’s cheating on you and not the person that they are cheating with (unless that person is a friend or family member – that’s a whole new can of worms). hence, in my particular circumstance, that would be the greedy brother.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
2:45 pm

Ick. Side pieces. Gross.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:45 pm

I was about to say “I dunno now”

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:45 pm

disco your stance is interesting……Taisa is catching hell for wanting child support from her married boo. many feel she should support their baby since she can afford and shouldn’t bother him bc he is still married with two kids………All I know is two consenting adults had a baby and both should be responsible with its care………go figure….the details at this point is water under the bridge

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:48 pm

All I know is most chicks ain’t just walking up to a dude saying “can I be your side chick?” The dudes that do it or are in the game or play that way are persistent. Like I’ve said it on here before, I’ve moved away from being friends with a couple of “circle dudes.” Those are ALWAYS the great dads, great providers, great image.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:49 pm

And I’ve threatened to “oust” one of them to the “lil crew” if he didn’t back up. Yeah, you’ll sit your butt down now.

disco

January 6th, 2012
2:49 pm

I think tasia’s primary intent – more than child support – is to be a continued thorn in wifey’s side. wifey might be able to pretend baby doesn’t exist. out of sight out of mind. but money. now that’s different. that child support money will take away from wifey’s household (her quality of life) and that she won’t be able to ignore.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
2:49 pm

Who the hell is Taisa?????

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:50 pm

got you disco! thanks for that perspective! well it rings true MOST married men ain’t leaving their homes. #thatsall

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:50 pm

And for “greedy” dudes, they’ll NEVER be happy with no, no matter the pretense. They’ll keep ole’ girl fooled and for every woman that says “no” he’ll move on to one that says yes.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
2:50 pm

Lady – Not to mention, when she had her reality show on, supposedly she called it off with him because he ‘lied’ about being married. So then we fast forward to now and BAM you’ve had this married mans baby?! Shame on her at this point. (But married or not, he needs to help take care of that kid)

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:51 pm

now I have seen some men leave with the mistress or sidepiece but that is a small #

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:51 pm

Lady – Who is Taisa?

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:51 pm

Slim but soon after that they got back together hell it was never over and it still ain’t don’t be fooled lol

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
2:51 pm

Who is Taisa?

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:52 pm

Fanny C as Wendy Williams can say she went on on that chile!

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:52 pm

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:53 pm

Jake you funny boo! #dead LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:53 pm

Ohhhh, girl you gonna have to give me the birth name. She’s ghetto enough. Let’s keep it above waters as much as possible with her…lol

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:53 pm

Then this morning Sybil agreed with Wendy but yesterday they crucified TO for being behind on child support

Kym

January 6th, 2012
2:53 pm

Muscle shirts and stunt draws..well alright then…I so love you guys!!! LMAO

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:54 pm

I still feel both should be there for the baby if he stays with his wife FINE a plan of action (legal) needs to be developed

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
2:55 pm

not excusing dudes (or chicks, for that matter) for being polyamorous. just saying that no matter how greedy a guy may be, he can get out in search of side chicks but if he finds none willing then he gets no extra cake.

and yeah, what jake said @ 2:49.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:55 pm

Off to the left for a sec….Why does my manager just “give us stuff” with no direction, nothing. EVERYTHING with her is like sifting through and weeding and making it through a freaking maze. Gheesh. Almost everyday one of us or another is calling each other getting clarity. If you ask her she’s either freaking irritated or defers you to something freaking robotic, or a ton of freaking links.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:55 pm

TO lost his grandma too! I really honestly pray for that brotha it is difficult times for him

Kym

January 6th, 2012
2:55 pm

Is Tashia guy still married? I thought the wife was suing her..

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:56 pm

I think Taisia is Fantasia.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:56 pm

kym that suit is over nothing pervail

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:57 pm

It just ain’t a good plan having a baby with somebody already in a family. No way to unravel that mess. I think for my own sanity and getting on and getting over, I’d do what so many other single mothers have done, get up and get moving.

disco

January 6th, 2012
2:57 pm

Lady – sounds good in theory but I’ll be real. If it were me with a baby by a married man whose wife likely couldn’t stand me I doubt that there’d be a plan in place that would have my baby around her. My baby would have one time to come home talking about “mommy, what’s a stank hoe” and it would be on.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:57 pm

prevail that is

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:57 pm

Nevamind. I see you guys already clarified who she is. Let me go back to reading.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:58 pm

Why would you want that? I agree with whoever said it. I think at this point it’s to be a thorn. And frankly I wouldn’t give that dude (her fake dude) the middle spot.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:58 pm

yeah disco you know me i love theories lololol

OK good people peace out!

GOOOOOOO FALCONS shut down the GIANTS! ;)

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
2:58 pm

Celisea – I may be late, but are you still seeing WH dude?

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
2:59 pm

If women would just stop sharing…Cz

Unless uall ladies have a Big Ladies Convention to address this sneaky lollipoping,playas will still be in bidness for a long long time.

@Dan..next time just say two words,especially to a boo,’My bad’. U never go wrong..coz too much explaining will unmask u! Bro to bro talk

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
3:00 pm

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:52 pm

Fantasia

now my stomach hurts. :mad:

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
3:01 pm

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:02 pm

Well, I read what Wendy Williams said to her and she was on point with every word.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
3:02 pm

yep leggs she really was can’t deny that

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
3:04 pm

Peace out peoples…make sure you wear yo rain books and coats

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:07 pm

Dang….Slim’s hitting the dusty trail early! Lucky!

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:08 pm

When I think about you
It’s bittersweet
It’s bittersweet

When we were to-getha
You ain’t treat me right
Yeah I really luved ya
I ain’t gonna lie

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:10 pm

Kimmie – Weellllllllllll, I ain’t really “feeling” him. We’re “chatting” still but at one point I blocked him. Right after the embellished story…lol I took it off though. I sort of felt bad because after a couple of days, I think he realized and I got a text like “hey you blocked me?” He didn’t say that per se but that was ringing in the tone of his text. I took it off and we’ve talked but he’s taking a lower number…lol Funny thing, I went to the gym, had gone to this one a couple of times not know THIS was the gym where he’s a member (we talked about him working out though). I don’t have a membership but I pay when I go in. Anyway, I walk up one Saturday and this dude lets me in and asks me to sit tight until he got someone that could take my money while scolding me for not joining (just being nice), all the while telling “someone” about this women that pays as she goes rather than a membership. Well well well, he comes back and says okay cool, come on back and while I’m walking back head down, finding my station (music), he’s saying “man this is who I’m talking about”, low and behold it’s him. I was embarrassed (cause he was blocked at that time). I spoke and he tried to do a bit of chatter but I plugged in my ear piece. After that it was “game on”…he acted as if he had freading A.D.D….he was showing out and hopping from bench to machine and machine to bench and cutting his eyes at me. I thought then, seriousy…RETARD…A.D.D…LOL

I dunno, that embellished convo left something there undesirable for me. When I talk to him that’s all I hear now…EMBELISHMENT

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:16 pm

To disco’s 2:57 – Kid’s father new woman said she wanted to “bond” with my kid (think my kid was like 6ish), yep told me that. Po thang she didn’t know. I was looking at her like it must be the crack because I know she wasn’t feeling me at all. Well not long after that, he came over one day to visit. Obviously from her reaction when she “found him” as she sent her kid to knock on the door and asked if so and so was there (guess he got away unbeknownst to her). I told him his woman was outside. As soon as he stepped outside she went ballistic!! She was yelling and cussing. I said and to think you asked about bonding with my child. I told her and him, we live in peace, both of y’all are clowns. Get the hell on and stay gone.

Sorry but I went there that day. Just saying. A woman that can’t stand or feel threatened by you will not likely have the best of intentions for or towards your child.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
3:20 pm

Totally of topic, but those beancounters running my company are going to push once too GD often one of these days. Let their azzes ge t on a plane or into a rental car every freaking Sunday for months at at time and leave their homes and children sometimes.

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:22 pm

Cel – Okay, I feel ya. But give me a very brief synopsis of the embellished story. I told ya, I’m late. Didn’t blog for almost 2 weeks over the holidays.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:28 pm

You didn’t read it. He was telling me when he interviewed here, how impressed the recruiter was with him, how he was ahead of the recruiter (I didn’t say that..cause Slim asked me too) but I did say I wouldn’t have hired him…that’s why. When they offered he countered off. Idiot still saying dang 4 weeks later that he’s waiting to hear back. Buddy that ship done sailed, you shot yourself in the foot on that one. Was bragging though how the program they’re currently using (the team you’re trying to get back in with now)…YOU INVENTED. I get what SexyC and Swiss said that day that that sort of thing happens a lot but that’s not how he was saying it. He was saying it like he did it. Not a team of folks, not working on something until we found a program best suited….but I CREATED AND MADE THAT PROGRAM, YEP I DID, I SURE DID. Um, again buddy I’m not slow nor naive and I’m here…at the company you’re trying to get back on with and I have some insider stuff and I know if it was THAT impressive you’dda been scooped up lickity split. Too, he called me one Sunday and that following Monday and both times said the same thing. His kid’s mom is sick and it’s hard for him to date. Okay you said that Sunday and I got that answered for you. That won’t be the running motto with me. That’ll get you cut reeeaall quick. So he texts and I do like one word answers “hi”…if I answer but most times I’ll let the calls go to voicemail. Eeeeevery blue moon I might catch the call but buddy is about done as far as I’m concern.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:30 pm

That day I walked in the gym, the first thing out of his mouth was “I heard the recruiter was on vacay” Ummmm, every recruiter here has a backup….seriously. I plugged my earpiece in..lol I just don’t have much patience.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
3:32 pm

@RandyT..I don’t know about bean counters..but I am at the point of wanting to scream bloody murder…instead I just keep saying softly I am grateful..I am grateful..I am grateful to have a job..

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:34 pm

@Randy: :( My BFF traveled 35 weeks a year, until she finally just had enough and transferred to another position.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:35 pm

I’ve been there, Kym. I usually repeat your mantra, along with this too shall pass….i am grateful to have a job and this too shall pass…..

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:36 pm

Randyt – You NEVER vent….I LOVE IT…lol

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:38 pm

Completely O/T: I don’t know how I managed to drag myself back from lunch. Good music was on (I heard Marshall Tucker Band, Barry White, Marvin Gaye, and that was just the first 10 minutes), I was reading a good book (The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) and the weather is beautiful.

I SO wanted to play hooky.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:40 pm

And I still have my bag of chocolates… :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:40 pm

I going to see Tom Cruise this weekend. He use to be my whiteboy crush… for a VERY looooooooooooooooooooong time

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

Cel – That is SO lame!! Didn’t he know you could get the 411 on everything he was saying since you WORK there??? :shock: And all that stupidity at the gym – not smooth and confident at all. Trying to overcompensate! A grown A man!!!

And these so-called “nice guys” wonder why they can’t get any play!! Stuff like that is why!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

Then it was Brad until nasty Angie…I dropped him with that fiasco

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:42 pm

If it rains on Sunday like they are predicting, I see a Dexter/American Horror Story marathon on the agenda…

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:43 pm

Kimmie – Seriously, I text my girlfriend when I stepped on the treadmill and he was on the one next to me. She said she screamed…lol She called me like 30 minutes later. I was still there but by that time he was in full A.D.D swing. She was rolling when I told her he was acting like a grasshopper jumping all over the place.

Yes LAME LAME LAME-O

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:44 pm

And even though Denzel is the epitome of smooth and fine, I can’t get with the crooked finger. Anybody ever notice that?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:44 pm

Now (back in the day), Morris Chestnut did it for me all the way…yeah baby

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:45 pm

Celisea – Ever since Brad started looking straggly and trailer-trashish and bragging about being an atheist, I’ve been thru with him. Never did like Tom Cruise.

McSteamy from Greys and Bradley Cooper are my swiss crushes!!LOL!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:46 pm

Kimmie – Giiiiirrrrrl, you better stop with McSteamy….good Lawd! And yes Bradley Cooper both of them can get it with me on any given Sunday :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:46 pm

That McSteamy just oooozes “sexy”

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:47 pm

I didn’t know Brad was an atheist…oh naw, I’m way just way too done with him.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

@Celisea ~ I would have come down to that gym as a new recruit and laughed the whole time (quietly of course). Yeah he shot himself in both feet (1) with getting the job and (2) with getting to know you better. And to think, it’s been a while since someone made you all giddy inside just to find out he’s a wishy washy circuit workout worm.

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

Celisea – Never noticed the crooked finger, but I could totally overlook that one deformity! He is my all time favorite. Always had a thing for Morris too, both Morris Chestnut and Phil Morris.

Got a thang for Sanja Gupta too. I saw him in person and he is even more beautiful. The fact that he is a genius is icing on the cake!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:49 pm

Yeah we’ve talked about his crooked finger…well, maybe it was a talk with some friends off blog. But yeah, it has been noticed.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:54 pm

Watching McSteamy last night had me saying “damn, that man is fine!” My child asked if he was graying or if it was makeup? I want to believe it’s makeup. Premature gray is sexy.,…

Kym

January 6th, 2012
3:56 pm

@ITL..Did you catch the season finale of Moonshiners? That damn Tickle..lets just say they made a hot 45k for one night of work..they made bananna brandy..and had to make the run themselves.

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel?

First thing,dude was checking u at the gymn,so was u,unless u were using a stealth scope behind ur head to scope his moves, so no lameness there on his part.

now I’m reading ur 3:44 on Morrris and that ‘ yea baby’ tells me u good in bed! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

January 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Happy Holidays everyone. How’s everyone doing? Why is this day going soooooo slow? I almost played hooky after lunch, it was so gorgeous outside.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Alright I’m out folks..have a great and safe weekend..

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

I didn’t see it, Kym, but my mom and I were talking about it. We’ve decided that Tickle should change his name to Pickle, ’cause “Tickle is always Pickled!” LOL I’ll watch it tonight.

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

Getting outta here

Have a great weekend all!!

Be easy!

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

Bye Kym! Have a great weekend! :)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

Dang! Everybody’s leaving….. Bye, Kimmie!

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Leggs? You still here??

Where’s Randy? I have some tangerines left to throw….

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Leggs/Kimmie – Yes ma’am, the crooked finger…lol

Leggs/Kimmie – I’m so done with dude

Mmeello – Ummm, I wasn’t “scoping” dude…hell he was hopping around the place like a rabbit sort of hard to miss. Me going there while he as there was purely coincidental. And yes the look on his face read “did you know I’d be here?” The answer in me igging him was “no”

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:13 pm

I’m here, ITL.

@Celisea ~ it’s obvious to me you’re done, it should be obvious to him by now.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:16 pm

Alright!! Cel and Leggs are here! I think we should open the blog bar! :)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

I’m stopping after work and getting me a Gran Marnier (sp?) and OJ!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

@ ITL, just back from biotching to the Division Manager. I have to work a TVA project, out of town during the week for most of a year (they specifically requested me), and since the sales department negotiated a reduced per diem expense package, I get about $1600 less per month in expenses…so instead of the Marriott, it will be some Crack House Hotel and McDonalds value meals. Company doesn’t want to share the pain either. If three guys have to share a bed, then I dayum sure don’t want the middle (JK).

I’m going home, have a drink, and then go to a movie or something. Nite y’all.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

Hmmmmm, the weather is so nice, I can see myself having a mojito. I should just keep mint simple syrup in the frig for days like today.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:25 pm

Well that sucks. Now I feel bad that I was going to bean you with a tangerine. :(

Have a good weekend. Listen to the Annie soundtrack. That always makes me feel happy! :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:26 pm

Exactly Leggs – I’ve tried to grow though as a woman to at least be or play “nice.” I use to be mean as a snake once I had moved on

I’m still here ITL but I got a meeting at 4:30…hopefully short

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Y’all be sweet, and be particular (as my great grandma used to say)….

ITL has left the building.

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

i really thought i could drag that last task out until 5. guess i’ll blog while i try to look intensely busy.

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
4:34 pm

Randy?

question!?

u still here

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:34 pm

Randyt – it will be some Crack House Hotel and McDonalds value meals.

LOLOL..that was funny. I feel you though. We haven’t been cut back to crack houses but as best as they can get us on the road and home the same day, that’s what’s they’re making happen

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

O/,T not that there’s one – I’m afraid to go out….I have on a thick turtleneck. Have to dress for the bldg with this up and down funky weather. I know it’s nice outside.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:57 pm

Ok, taking turtleneck off and putting on a lighter sweater I found in the drawer. Thank goodness it matches my skirt.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:59 pm

Still in a meeting….grrrr

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:05 pm

And still in a meeting…the chick that’s getting the ballplayer is NOT happy…she’s butting and iffing

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:11 pm

Too funny, Celisea…you got rid of him only for him to irritate someone else.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:14 pm

Leggs….girrrrl, she’s NOT happy.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:14 pm

Where will you be sitting in Eternity – Smoking or Non-smoking?

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:15 pm

But who’s happiness is more important hers or yours (lol)?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:15 pm

She actually worked this portfolio prior to my coming aboard, in the interim and really she’s tainted by a lot of client issues from back then. I was explaining to her and my manager the cleanup that I’ve done but she was not hearing it…

I can’t even do a “lol” cause I feel for her.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:16 pm

Mine….absolutely. I can’t do a “lol” but I can definitely muster up a :)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:18 pm

I understand…snicker in your hand, but offer those “I feel you girl vibes” when speaking with her. Well, unfortunately somebody has to clean up behind every d…k in life! :wink:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:19 pm

Now, that would have been an excellent EOD!!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

LOLOL… To boot, she’s one of my manager’s “FAVES” so I say gon head, handling it

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

Alright Ms. Leggs, I’m packing it up….night night

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:21 pm

Me too…Nite!