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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

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Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:28 pm

You didn’t read it. He was telling me when he interviewed here, how impressed the recruiter was with him, how he was ahead of the recruiter (I didn’t say that..cause Slim asked me too) but I did say I wouldn’t have hired him…that’s why. When they offered he countered off. Idiot still saying dang 4 weeks later that he’s waiting to hear back. Buddy that ship done sailed, you shot yourself in the foot on that one. Was bragging though how the program they’re currently using (the team you’re trying to get back in with now)…YOU INVENTED. I get what SexyC and Swiss said that day that that sort of thing happens a lot but that’s not how he was saying it. He was saying it like he did it. Not a team of folks, not working on something until we found a program best suited….but I CREATED AND MADE THAT PROGRAM, YEP I DID, I SURE DID. Um, again buddy I’m not slow nor naive and I’m here…at the company you’re trying to get back on with and I have some insider stuff and I know if it was THAT impressive you’dda been scooped up lickity split. Too, he called me one Sunday and that following Monday and both times said the same thing. His kid’s mom is sick and it’s hard for him to date. Okay you said that Sunday and I got that answered for you. That won’t be the running motto with me. That’ll get you cut reeeaall quick. So he texts and I do like one word answers “hi”…if I answer but most times I’ll let the calls go to voicemail. Eeeeevery blue moon I might catch the call but buddy is about done as far as I’m concern.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:30 pm

That day I walked in the gym, the first thing out of his mouth was “I heard the recruiter was on vacay” Ummmm, every recruiter here has a backup….seriously. I plugged my earpiece in..lol I just don’t have much patience.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
3:32 pm

@RandyT..I don’t know about bean counters..but I am at the point of wanting to scream bloody murder…instead I just keep saying softly I am grateful..I am grateful..I am grateful to have a job..

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:34 pm

@Randy: :( My BFF traveled 35 weeks a year, until she finally just had enough and transferred to another position.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:35 pm

I’ve been there, Kym. I usually repeat your mantra, along with this too shall pass….i am grateful to have a job and this too shall pass…..

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:36 pm

Randyt – You NEVER vent….I LOVE IT…lol

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:38 pm

Completely O/T: I don’t know how I managed to drag myself back from lunch. Good music was on (I heard Marshall Tucker Band, Barry White, Marvin Gaye, and that was just the first 10 minutes), I was reading a good book (The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) and the weather is beautiful.

I SO wanted to play hooky.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:40 pm

And I still have my bag of chocolates… :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:40 pm

I going to see Tom Cruise this weekend. He use to be my whiteboy crush… for a VERY looooooooooooooooooooong time

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

Cel – That is SO lame!! Didn’t he know you could get the 411 on everything he was saying since you WORK there??? :shock: And all that stupidity at the gym – not smooth and confident at all. Trying to overcompensate! A grown A man!!!

And these so-called “nice guys” wonder why they can’t get any play!! Stuff like that is why!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

Then it was Brad until nasty Angie…I dropped him with that fiasco

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
3:42 pm

If it rains on Sunday like they are predicting, I see a Dexter/American Horror Story marathon on the agenda…

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:43 pm

Kimmie – Seriously, I text my girlfriend when I stepped on the treadmill and he was on the one next to me. She said she screamed…lol She called me like 30 minutes later. I was still there but by that time he was in full A.D.D swing. She was rolling when I told her he was acting like a grasshopper jumping all over the place.

Yes LAME LAME LAME-O

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:44 pm

And even though Denzel is the epitome of smooth and fine, I can’t get with the crooked finger. Anybody ever notice that?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:44 pm

Now (back in the day), Morris Chestnut did it for me all the way…yeah baby

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:45 pm

Celisea – Ever since Brad started looking straggly and trailer-trashish and bragging about being an atheist, I’ve been thru with him. Never did like Tom Cruise.

McSteamy from Greys and Bradley Cooper are my swiss crushes!!LOL!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:46 pm

Kimmie – Giiiiirrrrrl, you better stop with McSteamy….good Lawd! And yes Bradley Cooper both of them can get it with me on any given Sunday :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:46 pm

That McSteamy just oooozes “sexy”

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
3:47 pm

I didn’t know Brad was an atheist…oh naw, I’m way just way too done with him.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

@Celisea ~ I would have come down to that gym as a new recruit and laughed the whole time (quietly of course). Yeah he shot himself in both feet (1) with getting the job and (2) with getting to know you better. And to think, it’s been a while since someone made you all giddy inside just to find out he’s a wishy washy circuit workout worm.

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

Celisea – Never noticed the crooked finger, but I could totally overlook that one deformity! He is my all time favorite. Always had a thing for Morris too, both Morris Chestnut and Phil Morris.

Got a thang for Sanja Gupta too. I saw him in person and he is even more beautiful. The fact that he is a genius is icing on the cake!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:49 pm

Yeah we’ve talked about his crooked finger…well, maybe it was a talk with some friends off blog. But yeah, it has been noticed.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
3:54 pm

Watching McSteamy last night had me saying “damn, that man is fine!” My child asked if he was graying or if it was makeup? I want to believe it’s makeup. Premature gray is sexy.,…

Kym

January 6th, 2012
3:56 pm

@ITL..Did you catch the season finale of Moonshiners? That damn Tickle..lets just say they made a hot 45k for one night of work..they made bananna brandy..and had to make the run themselves.

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel?

First thing,dude was checking u at the gymn,so was u,unless u were using a stealth scope behind ur head to scope his moves, so no lameness there on his part.

now I’m reading ur 3:44 on Morrris and that ‘ yea baby’ tells me u good in bed! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

January 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Happy Holidays everyone. How’s everyone doing? Why is this day going soooooo slow? I almost played hooky after lunch, it was so gorgeous outside.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

Alright I’m out folks..have a great and safe weekend..

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

I didn’t see it, Kym, but my mom and I were talking about it. We’ve decided that Tickle should change his name to Pickle, ’cause “Tickle is always Pickled!” LOL I’ll watch it tonight.

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

Getting outta here

Have a great weekend all!!

Be easy!

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

Bye Kym! Have a great weekend! :)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

Dang! Everybody’s leaving….. Bye, Kimmie!

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Leggs? You still here??

Where’s Randy? I have some tangerines left to throw….

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Leggs/Kimmie – Yes ma’am, the crooked finger…lol

Leggs/Kimmie – I’m so done with dude

Mmeello – Ummm, I wasn’t “scoping” dude…hell he was hopping around the place like a rabbit sort of hard to miss. Me going there while he as there was purely coincidental. And yes the look on his face read “did you know I’d be here?” The answer in me igging him was “no”

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:13 pm

I’m here, ITL.

@Celisea ~ it’s obvious to me you’re done, it should be obvious to him by now.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:16 pm

Alright!! Cel and Leggs are here! I think we should open the blog bar! :)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

I’m stopping after work and getting me a Gran Marnier (sp?) and OJ!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

@ ITL, just back from biotching to the Division Manager. I have to work a TVA project, out of town during the week for most of a year (they specifically requested me), and since the sales department negotiated a reduced per diem expense package, I get about $1600 less per month in expenses…so instead of the Marriott, it will be some Crack House Hotel and McDonalds value meals. Company doesn’t want to share the pain either. If three guys have to share a bed, then I dayum sure don’t want the middle (JK).

I’m going home, have a drink, and then go to a movie or something. Nite y’all.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

Hmmmmm, the weather is so nice, I can see myself having a mojito. I should just keep mint simple syrup in the frig for days like today.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:25 pm

Well that sucks. Now I feel bad that I was going to bean you with a tangerine. :(

Have a good weekend. Listen to the Annie soundtrack. That always makes me feel happy! :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:26 pm

Exactly Leggs – I’ve tried to grow though as a woman to at least be or play “nice.” I use to be mean as a snake once I had moved on

I’m still here ITL but I got a meeting at 4:30…hopefully short

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Y’all be sweet, and be particular (as my great grandma used to say)….

ITL has left the building.

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

i really thought i could drag that last task out until 5. guess i’ll blog while i try to look intensely busy.

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
4:34 pm

Randy?

question!?

u still here

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:34 pm

Randyt – it will be some Crack House Hotel and McDonalds value meals.

LOLOL..that was funny. I feel you though. We haven’t been cut back to crack houses but as best as they can get us on the road and home the same day, that’s what’s they’re making happen

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

O/,T not that there’s one – I’m afraid to go out….I have on a thick turtleneck. Have to dress for the bldg with this up and down funky weather. I know it’s nice outside.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
4:57 pm

Ok, taking turtleneck off and putting on a lighter sweater I found in the drawer. Thank goodness it matches my skirt.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
4:59 pm

Still in a meeting….grrrr

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:05 pm

And still in a meeting…the chick that’s getting the ballplayer is NOT happy…she’s butting and iffing

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
5:11 pm

Too funny, Celisea…you got rid of him only for him to irritate someone else.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
5:14 pm

Leggs….girrrrl, she’s NOT happy.