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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

459 comments Add your comment

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:20 pm

There should be no “main chick” and “side chick” in the same sentence….Whatever!!! The game will never change….

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:20 pm

And just to add, she even went on to tell how much he supposedly “loved me”… :lol:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:21 pm

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
1:22 pm

Side Piece etiquette, “stop, drop , and roll”

Stop talkin, drop dem drawers, and roll out, we’re done here!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:25 pm

@Sniffer ~ yeah, that kind of statement should never me made where women are around!

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:26 pm

Jake – Daaaaaaaayum yall are harsh as heyal.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:28 pm

That’ss an unspoken truth, SlimNu. Hope the many side pieces knew this going in….I did, that’s why I stayed on the outside.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:29 pm

Naw Meello, I didn’t

I’m trying to hip these ladies to real playa isht, let the “wanna be loving every chick” dude fend for himself.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:31 pm

I know I’m a dinosaur, but why does one need a side piece? If main lady isn’t fulfilling your needs, is she not the wrong lady? I understand that just becuase one loves a kielbasa with smoked cheddar and ketchup and mayo, one might not want it EVERY day…but is 75 to 80% of needs are being met, why the side piece? But then, I’m monogamous…if it isn’t working then let that person go and take time to find another.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:31 pm

@Dan ~ no, you’re not.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:32 pm

Randyt’s 1:31 is real playa isht!.! !

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

Slim!

Women notice the most innocuous of things(to men) that we men don’t notice. So it’s hard to say what a playa gotta do….

but then again MLB makes us sign a confidential agreement

no wonder WD’s 1:16’s ‘heard’ and ‘from movies’ statement.

Disclosure wld attract a lawsuit and banishment :lol:

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

Slim!

Women notice the most innocuous of things(to men) that we men don’t notice. So it’s hard to say what a playa gotta do….

but then again MLB makes us sign a confidential agreement

no wonder WD’s 1:16’s ‘heard’ and ‘from movies’ statement.

Disclosure wld attract a lawsuit and banishment :lol:

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
1:36 pm

1:31 is some real playa isht. Thats some advanced level playa isht right there coming from the biggest playa on the blog. Think its a game? He got a Tshirt for that too. j/k j/k RandyT bnr…..

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:37 pm

I know Leggs, you think if I keep spreading that isht around someone will bite, right? I am though. Contrary to popular belief, it is not all about the effing, and for me there has to be more. When I think I have found that “more”, I’m not going eff it up by hitting another piece of tail. Just not. But I’m not normal.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

January 6th, 2012
1:37 pm

Leggs…thanks for the assist….the truth is that a real side piece knows her place…she is cool with the circumstances and really she just want to get off too…she’s really in control of the whole scenario…if she chose to be a side bunny, don’t expect that Shea Butter rub down before or after we get to the bidness.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:38 pm

Okay Leggs….

monogamous = player = riiiiiggghhhhttt

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:44 pm

I appear to have stretched the credibility band until it snapped here.

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
1:45 pm

Poppin’ back in……..Leggs what we discussing?!? ;)

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
1:45 pm

Sniffer – When I first posed that question, I wondered how long it would take before I got shut down by the MLB in some form or fashion. I have to admit, it took a good minute Muuuaaahhhhh (my evil laugh) :evil:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:47 pm

Don’t spin it on me, Dan…that blunder was all yours.

aflter playing around for so many years = monogamous = player doing right by one person at one time.

now, if you want to spin on the word “player,” just replace it with “gentleman.”

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:48 pm

No offense Randy, you know you man 50 grand and all

I’m just saying it so no one can say “I’ve never heard [of] that”

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
1:48 pm

@Lady ~ we’re about to close the section on side pieces and main woman!

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
1:49 pm

Interesting……cool

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:50 pm

I understand Dan…thus the screen name for today ;-)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
1:52 pm

Dan – Jeff’s “crazy voice/breath” was dead on.

Yep, she was breathing hard while talking, all the while trying to keep her composure…lol

Jake’s 1:22 fuuuuneee

Randyt’s “every post” Wreaks of “da man” We know Randyt, that’s why groovygal was tryna slickly holla yesterday.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
1:54 pm

@Leggs

I’mma end mine on this:

A man wears diffrent hats, plays different roles in his life.

From son, to nephew, to husband/father (”spoke as a child”), and when those roles change, he (should) do what’s required of him to fulfill those.

That said, I left ‘player’ out specifically. Because that’s not a role, that’s an age/mentality thing (read: young minded). And if a man can’t grow beyond that young mind and leave childish things behind, then he’ll never grow into anything else.

A player will never have a wife, or “do right by one person at a time”, that’s actually an antonym to the word/concept.

But you keep thinking the way you want about it.

I said my piece, and I’m headed home.

Elaborate not lavish

January 6th, 2012
1:55 pm

Elaborate =! Lavish/Expensive

You can plan and have a very romantic, extremely enjoyable, and over the top evening with a bit of effort. The best dates take creativity, time, a bit of luck, and a great sense of humor to laugh at yourself when it doesn’t go perfectly.

A good woman will appreciate the effort and time you spent on her even if the evening is not flawless. Show her you care, you’re focus is on her, and the evening will be splendid!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
1:56 pm

Lol @ Celisea…so I am obviously missing an opportunity to be an abundantly blessed “Male ho” ;-) (Okay, I need to get back to Johnny’s and work it since I have the lines, just need to deliver, LOLOL).

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

Nooo Randyt, stay away from Johnny’s…lol I’m saying I think you’ve mastered the game. You got the tshirts to show.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

@Dan ~ what you wrote is nice, but that wasn’t your intended intent with your first post. You thought you were being cute and that it would go over our heads. It didn’t, you crashed and burned and your clean up is dust out the window…win some, lose some.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:00 pm

ENL – I think your 1:55 depends of you being male or female…lol

Sniffer!

January 6th, 2012
2:01 pm

If uall are thirsting for playa inside info,we can talk to Elliot Spitzer.

he’s outa contract at CNN

Or Jesse
Or Bill

take ur pic

Even Eddie Long :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
2:05 pm

Eddie Long thought he was only to find out, he’s as clueless as that toupe on top of his noggin….

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
2:08 pm

Someone pass me a wet wipe…Leggs has made me spit out my coke on my nice flat screen monitor. he’s as clueless as that toupe on top of his noggin… I’ll never be able to forget the way that thang sat up on top of his head when he made that speech right after the accusations started. :lol:

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:13 pm

Slim hot mess honey! lol

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:14 pm

I really worked for my quarter this week! I am ready for some football! Go Falcons!

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
2:16 pm

ENL @ 1:55: Nine out of ten times, that’s true.

Kym

January 6th, 2012
2:17 pm

Good Afternoon Chicken Nuggets!!!

I am sure we are wayyy off topic now.. So could someone tell me how bad were the women folks bashed..and where are we now? I saw Eddie Long and Elliot Spitzer..so are we talking about hookers, toupees, and muscle shirts?

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:19 pm

C’mon Mark….be a sport :) I liked your posts earlier.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:20 pm

I knew it was a man…lol I was being facetious. You know Mark “they say” men and women are from different planets…neither being earth :)

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
2:22 pm

that whopper was oh so wrong but oh soooo good. :oops:

i’m with kym. i need a rundown.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:23 pm

I had an overpriced burger and sweet potatoes fries…mmm mmm good

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:24 pm

SP Fries C SHARE! lol any apple butter with it?!? lol

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
2:26 pm

are we talking about hookers, toupees, and muscle shirts?

Kym – You were very close… the judges will accept hookers as a suitable substitute for side-pieces, toupees was correct, and the judges have also accepted ‘muscle shirts’ as a suitable answer in the place of “Stunt Draws” (they both have crotches) :lol:

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:27 pm

Lady – It’s funny too, I’ve tried them and tried them and tried them so my friend today says, go ahead one more time. I think slowly but surely they’ve grown on me and today…not bad at all :)

Lady~

January 6th, 2012
2:28 pm

one of my fav comfort foods! its nothing to peel a sweet potato @ home and fry some up!!!! lol

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:29 pm

Lady – I haven’t graduated to applebutter on them yet. I like it on toast though.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
2:29 pm

Funny thing too Lady…I HATE sweet potatoes

disco

January 6th, 2012
2:30 pm

Jake – stop, drop and roll. priceless…

randy – side pieces are for the greedy brothers. the have my cake and somebody else’s cake too type of brothers.