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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

459 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:24 am

BF – What’s wrong with a dry erase board? It’s not the size of one you’d find in a classroom. Just a little small one that had one side as a cork board. We’d put pending bills, coupons etc up there too ;-)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:25 am

I’m with ya Cel,

But silly me, I think these are different people posting…

LL411

January 6th, 2012
11:27 am

SlimNu… Eva body knows who, where and when in great detail… I’ve done checkin/follow-up calls to my wingman from public bathrooms LOL!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:27 am

Dan – Me too

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:28 am

Dan – Nooo I take that back. I think it’s probably the same salty dude. If it’s not morning, he’ll make his afternoon stroll..lol

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:30 am

Just like a lot of men don’t like very skinny women

Leggs – whatchutomboutwillis? :???: i kid :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:33 am

@LL411 ~ yes indeed.

@SlimNu ~ that’ why I threw in the word “very.” I was skinny my entire life and southen men loved it. Now the toothpick, bony skeletor skinny, not attractive.

squirrelly mc cheesy grill pon pon pon

January 6th, 2012
11:34 am

I sure am glad you girls went back to your blog, especially Leggs. Stay off Rodney Ho’s blog !!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

We’ve been jabber jawing….5 pages and it’s only 11:37.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

DON’T FEED THE ANIMALS. KEEP HANDS AND ARMS AWAY FROM THE CAGE!!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:36 am

@punk a$$ squirrelly – make me!

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

@ Cel and Dan…even though all of us wan sometimes to just shake them and say “MAN UP”, it nneds to remembered that whether we believe what they say or not, the pain is probably quite real to them. I’m not saying you give them or him a pass, but it is a good idea to remember that there are possibly times that we are viewed in the same way when we are hurting. Just thought i would throw that in…now i can throw it back out if necessary.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

Haa haa, guess you didn’t like that fake double dog dare you put out there!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:37 am

Leggs!!! Now we ain’t gonna be able to get that thing to leave

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

In my experience, if you take a woman on an elaborate first date, you don’t know if she’s in it for you or for the wining and dining and many would continue to go out with you as long as you wine and dine them. So I screen for that upfront. During our conversation, I make suggestions about activity dates – art museum, bowling, wine tasting (and others), etc. and I gauge her reaction. If she’s enthusiastic, then she’s in. If she insists on an expensive restaurant, I know she’s more into the wining and dining part, so she’s out.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

“Now the toothpick, bony skeletor skinny, not attractive.”—> Slim to a tee :-( :lol:

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

BF: Get your badge and the stun gun!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:39 am

Nothing wrong with skinny women,

They’re easy to lift, hold, and the only drawback is they’re kinda fragile….who wants to worry about breaking something just when things get…fun

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:40 am

@Celisea ~ were were interesting enough for him to take time out of his so busy blogging day to visit us. He can stay, but NO VEST! :wink:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:41 am

@ Mark…good points.

Mark Kerry

January 6th, 2012
11:41 am

Also, on these fun and activity dates, both can get to know whether they are fun, interesting conversationalists, etc instead of having to put up artificial smiles while sitting across from each other on dinner dates.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:42 am

@SlimNu ~ you are not skeletor…skinny yes, but very attractive…there is a difference between been skinny and carrying it well than walking around like crackhead Halle Berry in Jungle Fever.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:42 am

Randyt – I agree that the hurt is probably real but I don’t agree that it’s reality to equate all others, men or women to their experience. The flip side to that is ALL OF US have no doubt been in their shoes, at some point, some place, somewhere in time. And natually you eventually heal and move one. You don’t even need another to help the process, it’s something that time natually does. Unless the pain is something recent, I don’t get why you can’t have sunshine sometimes.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:44 am

Yeah, let ‘em stay…sans a vest :evil: mwah ah ah ah ah (that’s my evil laugh…got that from my kid)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:45 am

Slim1 I had to break off a minute to re-coup, y’all got me wondering when I’m waiting for her to get ready if she’s gon and got my tag number and called her friends to let them know I got a wolf in my house……..LOL

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:46 am

Cel-very well stated. I have the biggest heartburn when they wear it like a badge forever…feel the pain, accept the rejection, then wipe your eyes and call another. The ones that assume all are like the few that dated says more about themselves than the people they date. I agree with your points.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:47 am

@Cel

to your 11:42, I got started on this board in – let’s say – a poor frame of mind; one similar to the random commenters.

Did I get a “man up” or 17? Yeap.

But I also got people that – even though they didn’t know me from Adam – sincerely tried to see it from my persepective, empathize, and give me the needed “it gets better” speech.

That’s my experience, good and bad, but you need both the pat and the smack sometimes – especially if there’s something/one worth salvaging

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:47 am

Blackfoote – If it’s/she’s new and she’s smart she’ll grab your tag number when you ain’t looking. Or your house number and street name :)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:48 am

Anything is possible, BF. More importantly, watch the plants to see if there’s a hidden camera. :lol: :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:50 am

Dan’s 11:47. I remember, you had both…and learned from it (also means I’ve been on this blog too dayum long). Your’s was a good story.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:50 am

Light the badge is ready to flash. Dude the Ho has been gone you’re out of date.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:51 am

@BF ~ I’ll call you with your tag number. :lol: :lol: :roll: :neutral:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:51 am

BF – Her looking out for herself doesn’t make her a wolf. It makes her Danielle Boone lol Don’t take offense to it at all. If anything, you should worry if she DOESN’T want anyone to know where she is or who she’s with. In that case, hide yo wife, hide yo kids (compliments of Antoine Dodson)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:52 am

@Dan ~ nice post…no doubt you’ve grown and altered a few things! Good for you.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Randyt/Dan – I think sometimes a level of hurt depends on if you just thought the be all to end all was in a person. Just no place for flaws and then here it comes…the disappointment. This is just me and very speculative but I think that it’s gotta be something like that or of that nature to really get a guy to slump. Most dudes can mount another and at least get his spirits lifted if only for a moment…lol Not saying it’s the answer but it’s just not natural where nothing never ever can pull you out of your slump. And usually when you think that’s it, it’s over…here she comes, unexpectedly. You can’t see her but you see the silhouette (sp) and it’s enough to shake your mood and give you hope…lol Hell a dude can walk outside and see that.

Maybe I’m on fairy dust today or something…but I’m just thinking even with no prospects you can talk yourself up on “happy.”

But yeah Dan, both encouragement and a slap is needed. Maybe we’ll do an “attaboy” Monday to the morning whiners…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:53 am

@SlimNu ~ BF is saying he’s the wolf and she’s letting her friends know to be ready to roll at a moment’s notice (lol).

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:54 am

Speaking of bad dates, that &*^&% Joran Van der Sloot is on trial today. Wanting to plea bargain to a lighter sentence. I’m surprised he has survived in prison (kind of hoped he might “accidentally” fall and break his neck).

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:54 am

Leggs – I was kidding…but yesterday at the gym I decided to wear some long workout type shorts that come just below the knees and a tank top. I actually caught a shot of a dirty look from the treadmill area. :roll:
and :lol: at you sending BF his tag number

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:55 am

Mentioning “Daniel Boone” reminds me of a song we sang (for real) where my mama would beat our backs if she heard us…

Daniel Boone was a maaaan,
he was a biiiig man.
He jumped in the bushes,
stoled a lot of p@ssy…and raaaaan

I don’t know. I didn’t make it up, just learned from my sibs. Don’t judge me.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:55 am

Maybe I’m on fairy dust today or something…but I’m just thinking even with no prospects you can talk yourself up on “happy.”

I must have inhaled the same dust. Nicely stated.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:56 am

Leggs – :)

Okay I’m heading to lunch with a friend. Be back in a couple.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:57 am

Cel, if you did, I did, too. Heck, I think the whole world could stand a shot of fairy dust or whatever it takes to make them realize that being happy is a choice you make every day.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:58 am

That’s what it is y’all don had some fairy dust this morning…….LOL

Leggs I don’t even know what my tag number is, y’all something else……..LOL

disco

January 6th, 2012
11:59 am

y’all are nuts. have any of you ever “marked territory”? you know plant an earring, hairpin or something?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:59 am

Randome thought on fairy dust:

We need to market this “fairy dust” and send a crate to rebound chick, JLo. She doesn’t seem to take time to heal…she’s still jumping from one pole to another. I don’t think she likes being by herself.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

ITL – Yep..exactly

Blackfoote – Don’t blame the dust…lol

Alright..it’s lunch time

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

BF is saying he’s the wolf and she’s letting her friends know to be ready to roll at a moment’s notice

Leggs – That’s what I get for trying to polish my nails, ready yall and work at the same time. :oops:

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
12:00 pm

i am ctfu @ slim 11:51!!! on. da. flo!

where’s miss sexycool?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
12:02 pm

@disco ~ never, ever marked territory. To me, that’s top of the list of insecurity.