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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

459 comments Add your comment

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

@Randy: Or, as a couple of my best guy friends like to say (Makers is also their drink of choice): “Here’s to whiskey, the sweater you wear on the inside!” :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

:-) @ Leggs…good!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:46 am

A thin pencil.
Wet noodles and nail polsih.
And a license plate.

This is too much going on……..LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:47 am

Blackfoote – Say we’re wrong :evil:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

That’s funny ITL, haven’t heard that one!…but very true!!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

Disclaimer: this post in no way reflects Dan’s real experiences

I’ve ‘heard’ that the litle blue angel really isn’t worth it. While 4 hours would seem to be a nice time, um, after a while after she’s ‘finished’ and you haven’t, you’re: 1) risking the roll over with 2 -3 hours to go, 2) told on yourself about the use of the blue angel, and 3)risk her uneasiness at the next encounter.

Now, it you on some out and about one night action, number 3 doesn’t matter, but if it’s someone you’re trying to impress long term, the use of the angel should be considered in ligh of these potential issues.

Or so I’ve heard….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

Leggs I’m not so sure you ladies need a drink right now.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:48 am

@disco: the salt shaker??? I was LOL on that visual. At our last girls’ night out, a friend of mine said she told a guy, “You know you oughta be ashamed even exposing that little thing!” I was like :shock: guess that didn’t help the cause. LOL

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:49 am

from single friends….

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:50 am

BF, it’s 5 o’clock somewhere. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

Dan:

I’ve heard the same thing, like all meds they’re good for some and useless for others.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

Regarding teeny weenies…a guy I knew said one day, “a lady told mo once that I had a small one…I told her it was plenty big enough to get ME off, thank you”.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:51 am

True BF…we’re already on fire (lol).

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
10:52 am

celisea, funny thing is i remember him saying ‘thank you for coming out to meet me and allowing me to cook your breakfast, but don’t you EVER do that again!!’

yes, girl. i’ve got wine and desserts leftover from nye. a new book to get into. and i made a roast last night that should keep thing 2 busy until monday. i will be MIA for two days straight!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:53 am

@Dan ~ that’s how I feel about the blue pill…especially in overweight men. Work yourself into a tizzy with all that heavy breathing and fast stroking…wonder if the heart can take it. It’s a turnoff for me, blue pill and overweight men.

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:54 am

ITL – re your friend who told the guy he ought to be ashamed. I once made a comment that a guy need not be all bold as to get undressed and flaunt across the room like he was swinging. some folks really do need to get undressed in the dark and quickly slide beneath the covers. I remember saying that he needed to sneak that up on somebody.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:56 am

@czB ~ I am not surprised he said that to you. Not surprised at all.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:56 am

czBrat – LOL…see he’s knows the danger. I just ate the last of that dessert. It was still good. All I can recommend is to not break nothing…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

Light:

The sweater you wear is so right, when the weather gets really cold a couple sips/what the hell shots you can walk outdoors in short sleeves…….LOL

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

disco, you have me cracking up again! I’m pretty sure my co-workers are going to hide my coffee mug any minute now. “Sneak that up on somebody!” too funny.

SN: Why am I thinking about “Dexter St. Jock”??? :lol:

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
10:57 am

Catching up

disco & BF – I’ve had my best friend take a pic of a dude’s license plate that wanted to take me to breakfast. lol Plus when I had a roomate, we had a dry erase board we’d leave each other msgs on if needed. So when I went to meet up with a prospect, i put his info on the board for her even though i was meeting him in a public place. Precautions baby, Preeeecautions ;-)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:58 am

The “salt shaker” is funny, “sneak that up on somebody” is scary and funny.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:59 am

The legendary John Holmes, in an interview, once said, “there are two kinds of men in this world, one, when he goes to a skinny dip, takes off his clothes and immediately jumps in the water, the other takes his clothes off and strolls on the bank for awhile…I reackon I’m a bankstroller”.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:00 am

reckon…sorry.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:02 am

If you’re the only one who deems your body is good for bankstrolling, please re-evaluate and jump your a$$ in the water…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:03 am

disco, Leggs, Cely, CZ, and Light:

I bet y’all can humble a guy with a quickness if he wasn’t already. The dude would be on another planet if the things y’all say didn’t get under his skin……..LOL

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:03 am

Not me Leggs, I’ll just “sneak up” in the water ;-)

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:04 am

LOL@Leggs.

HOWEVER, if John Holmes is the benchmark for bankstrollers, I’ll take a swimmer anyday! One can have too much of a good thing….at least for me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
11:06 am

A dry erase board, I’m keeled over now (face palming)…….LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:06 am

Blackfoote – I can be pretty brash but in the face of ur rumm, “adversity” I know how to put on a smile and play nice. I wouldn’t take a man out at the knees unless he was disrespectful or something of that nature. I don’t think I’d go there outright on the body parts. At least I haven’t yet :)

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
11:07 am

LOL, @ ITL…maybe it was just the camera angles…surely not real…dudes dad must have been an Arabian stallion (literally). They used to have rumors that when he died they put his pubic bone in the Smithsonian (urban legend of course, but should probably have).

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
11:07 am

awwww. yous are making me sad to think there are guys out there battling penile challenges. surely they’ve known since like 7th grade or so, no? those comments should not come as a shock. folks should be blowin up the enzyte phone lines.

celisea, i gave the rest of the coconut cheesecakes to my sister and let my daughter take the white cranberry fudge; i’ll be settling down with the last of the oreo cheesecake starting tonight. that’s why i told ya’ll to take as much as you wanted. :lol:

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

@BF ~ we aren’t necessarily as bold on this blog as we are face to face. We do take into account a person’s feelings. If you deserve being knocked down a peg or two, then we probably will have no problem doing so. That would only occur if the guy continously talk smack about this strengths only to find out he couldn’t benchpress an uncooked spaghetti noodle.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

Can’t say I’ve been disappointed too much. I can say I’ve mentally done the comparison (thinking he shole ain’t so and so) but even so and overall everything was workable.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:08 am

@Leggs

You don’t have to like it, but someone will.

Remember, we’re men, we play the numbers…

See also: fat men in wifebeaters – unabashedly

Willie Dynamite

January 6th, 2012
11:09 am

Good Morning and Happy New Year,

On Topic – I have never personally been into the elaborate type dating realm. I consider myself thoughtful and a attentive in that I paid attention during those few convo’s before the date to kind of get a feel for what you might like (read:what I’m willing to do). I can see from some whiners POV why based on elaborateness they have a certain expectation. Where I’m coming from is this is a mutual quest. Heyal I have to see if you are worth you are all cracked up to be as well.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

czBrat – Know I didn’t know OREO CHEESECAKE was among us…lol I would have sliced a big chunk for the road. The cranberry fudge was delish. The chicken was delish and the cressant rolls was delish. Yeah, I should have “been maself” and fixed a bigger plate :)

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

Now..not know

disco

January 6th, 2012
11:10 am

celisea – you might as well tell the man the truth. while some men are aware of their (ahem) shortcomings. there are a lot of guys out there who didn’t get the memo. and I’m sure all the ladies here have heard some variation of “I haven’t had any complaints”. well that’s because most women are too nice, too shy, too whatever to tell the truth. I say tell them.

LL411

January 6th, 2012
11:11 am

The guy I’m speaking of is related to a good friend of mine for many years… didn’t know him, but knew of him. I know she would not have suggested we meet if she thought bad of him. Besides we’d been talking everyday and had been on 4 dates (w/in one month) when I went to his house, and better he’s been to mine for dinner since then. We are attracted, but have not consumated… at this time we are friends and both interested in knowing the other better…

That’s not to say at almost 50 I’ve not done the speed dating thingy, but these days I am a little slower off the jump. .

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
11:11 am

LOL@Randy.

co-signing Leggs’ 11:08. Benchpress an uncooked noodle….too funny!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:12 am

And based on this: I can see from some whiners POV, I figured Imma just stroll in late mornings. Let ‘em get it off their chests. LOL

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:12 am

@Dan ~ of course someone will like it. Just like a lot of men don’t like very skinny women or fat somen. We all have our preferences…different strokes for different folks, bottom line!!!

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:14 am

I can see from some whiners POV I was trying to bold this part….to say that’s why coming in late mornings is so much better. Let the whiners get it alllll off their chests.

SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
11:15 am

Re: Blue Pill – It just seems a bit overkill to be ‘on edge’ for up to 4hrs for only 20 minutes of hard breathing & skin rubbing.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
11:16 am

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:16 am

disco – I don’t have the heart to tell folks…lol I won’t go there though. At all.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
11:17 am

I don’t think it’s whining, I think it’s a legitmate fear

You can listen, plan, pay, and the date still not go well based on some isht that happened to her earlier in the day, or the “hasn’t had that type of treatment” homegirl all in her ear, or just plain lack of chemistry.

To dismiss a guys fear of putting himself out there like that as ‘whining’ is not fair WD/Cel

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:21 am

Dan – It’s not when it’s today’s discussion. It’s whining though if it’s everyday, same speech, different days, different topics, different months, differents years…nothing changes. Same mantra. At that point it’s whining. I just don’t understand physically stating why you can’t do whatever it is you don’t do and why or how your resolve is the same….FOR EVERY TOPIC. Heck even the topic changes, thus the conversation should switch I would think at some point. Bright some days, sad some days, depressed some days, optimistic some days…a change in scenery somewhere. I just hope I NEVER encounter none of the morning posters…lol

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
11:21 am

you’re not your