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Elaborate date thing of the past?

My friend Chris was lamenting about the return of the reality show The Bachelor. He is convinced that single women watch that show to live vicariously through the women who get to experience those lavish, over the top, not gonna happen in real life – dates. He says that men don’t do that anymore! Are elaborate dates really something considered old school?

I suppose our definition of elaborate may have changed as well. It doesn’t mean single people aren’t putting any effort into cooking up elaborate and wildly romantic dates. I think they are – it’s just more practical (economy!), more thoughtful, and possibly less opulent.

Guys, do you think that women expect too much elaborateness on dates? Would you ever set up an “elaborate” date with someone you really liked?

What do you consider elaborate?

What is the most elaborate date you have been on?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta, Dating Blog

Happy Friday!

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SlimNu

January 6th, 2012
10:10 am

BF – I knew buddy was not talking about watching no freaking movie…Matter fact when he called, he asked what I was doing. I said, “Sleep, whatchu THANK i’m doing?!” :lol:

Oooh lemon pepper wangs and some ranch dressing Mmm mmm good

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:12 am

czBrat – Yes dear, babies and fools…lol How are you today?

Blackfoote – LOL You know I’m right :)

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:14 am

and to piggyback celisea – there’s been a time or two when I ventured to a guy’s house but I ALWAYS let someone know who he was, where I was, what his phone number was, what his license plate number was. he might kill me, chop me up and dispose of the body but one somebody somewhere would be able to provide the cops with a solid lead. back when I had a home phone I would also call my house and leave a detailed message on my own machine. overkill? maybe but that first time going in – even if you think you know a person – may or may not be what you expect.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:14 am

And therein lies the problem, Celisea. When the wild fizzles out, it’s a wrap. So easy to get turned off. Apparently on both genders’ part (Ex, not gender parts, you know what I mean).

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:15 am

disco – Exactly. Overkill? Not so much. For every chick found on the bottom of the ocean or scattered over a 2 or 3 mile stretch, I bet she wished she’dda left a note

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:15 am

Oooh lemon pepper wangs and some ranch dressing Mmm mmm good

That sounds SO GOOD! Guess I know what I’m having for lunch!

Leggs, if you ever make it over to this side of town, we’ll swing by Wing Factory. They make the BEST lemon pepper wings, hands down.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:16 am

Leggs – Ain’t it disappointing?? Here he comes beating his chest and come to find out you’re dealing with wet noodles and nail polish (rather than claws).

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:17 am

Ummm, I don’t care for lemon pepper wings.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:17 am

disco:

License plate!……LOL

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:18 am

disco – I’m sort of there with you and just took a couple of notes. I will let someone know, I will leave notes, I will tell a couple of friends, I will shoot (when he ain’t looking) a snapshot of the addy…yep, yessiree. If you commit a crime, you ain’t getting away with it.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:19 am

@Leggs

Did you say date 3 at one and half to two months?

Really?

I’m sorry but, if I’m feeling you, I want to see you when I have the time to devote my full attention to you, and in the case that I really wanna see you I’ll make the time – see also: trips to Minnesota.

But if you’re slowing me down, then my only assumption is that you ain’t fillin me like I’m fillin you, and I need to fillin someone else….

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

Yes ma’am. I remember dating this guy and so looking forward to doing the do. Foreplay was fab, kissing was ok, but when I reached in to get it out, I found a pencil like appendage in my hand. Man, I had to cover up my disappointment with the quickness. The stroking was ok, but I was already emotionally scarred (LOLOLOL).

abc

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

I don’t watch any reality TV — I don’t watch much TV at all, really — so I don’t know what ‘elaborate date’ means in terms of “The Bachelor”. 10-12 years ago, I watched a show on TV that led to all that bachelor and bachelorette mess, called “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire”. I found it completely appalling. I keep People mag in the bathroom, and have noted that (I think) not one single matchup has worked out on all those shows. It’s baloney. It’s proof that Americans are, by and large, idiots.

I don’t think that to be elaborate in a material way illustrates much beyond materialism of everyone involved. If that’s what it takes to impress a date, she’s probably not that much worth the pursuit. Let’s go skydiving to a mountaintop in the Tetons, where there’s a white linen covered table with 7 course gourmet meal, kitchen and wait staff, and a violinist. Then we’ll jet to Paris for cocktails after breakfast.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:20 am

Cely……Stop.

I’m glad I got 2 oclock meeting, I’m not able stand this all day.

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:21 am

I think on some level you chicks aren’t being candid at all(not surprising on this blog-blig chics head mentality)

When you date a guy and u really like and are feeling him,the next logical thing is to see where he stays,and for him to check your place as well…

Jumping each other’s bones is the next logical step once most folks are really digging that chic or that guy…

ain’t that right Disco?

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:23 am

@Dan ~ I did say that. Not that I necessarily agree with it. I’m with you, if we’re liking each other, let’s spend as much time as we can together. I just know people who seem to wait it out. Please understand, I was tyring to be conservative. Not necessarily accepting…

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:25 am

@Celisea ~ I’m the same. When going out with someone new, I leave a note in my house, have called a few friends with first and last name, have described the car if I’m able to, will let known the location I’m supposed to be, etc…

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

“When you date a guy and u really like and are feeling him,the next logical thing is to see where he stays,and for him to check your place as well…”

That is not the next logical thing…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

Leggs:

You reached in to get it out, you found a pencil. I’m going on a break off that one……..LOL

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

But Viagra can go 4 hours non stop Leggs

u sure u still don’t like it!

(I’ve noticed the package(appendage) has to be right with u) :lol: one hudren,as Slim will say! :lol:

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

I’m sorry but, if I’m feeling you, I want to see you when I have the time to devote my full attention to you, and in the case that I really wanna see you I’ll make the time – see also: trips to Minnesota.

Exactly Dan. But if a dude is trying to space a woman out, I know for me it’s gonna fizzle. Smells like rotation to me. When two people feel each other, IMO and experience things naturally step up. Even if meeting on mutual grounds until we’re feeling better acquainted.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:26 am

The next logical thing is to keep listening to him, observing him with his words and his actions. Where one lives is down the road…how they live is front and center.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:27 am

That’s right…take all the necessary precautions. He’s got nothing to worry about if he ain’t a serial killer.

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:28 am

BF – yep. license plate. no shame to my game.

leggs – that there is most definitely disappointing. you kind of feel sorry for the guy because it’s not his fault but really, what’s a girl to do?

exiled – nope. next logical step isn’t to go to his house and check out his digs. I think I may have mentioned on here before that I’m the chick that will check out the register of deeds/tax assessment websites to see if a guy owns his home etc. I don’t need to be all up in your space immediately because I don’t want you thinking you are going to be all up in mine immediately.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:28 am

@Ex ~ I didn’t say anything about his stamina level and keeping it going. I was talking about the thickness of the shaft. Boy, stop acting like you can’t read.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:29 am

Are y’all (the Lady’s) on a candy rush this morning?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 6th, 2012
10:29 am

@Leggs

Okay.

There’s conservative and there’s talking yourself out of a good man time too….isallimsayin

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:30 am

@ Leggs, was he a talented “cunning linguist” at least?

czBrat

January 6th, 2012
10:31 am

celisea, my foolish azz is doing just lovely. :lol: already looking forward to a lazy, rainy weekend at home. how are you, chica?

i did falter on that sound advice, but i do require my daughter to be that mindful of the company she keeps and to report her plans and whereabouts.

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:31 am

@Ex ~ sorry, bro, but you haven’t noticed that about me. When I’ve spoken on the skinny appendage it’s always about the same dude (pencil dude). I’ve hade different sizes and lenghths. It’s all about if you know how to use the size you have…some can, some can’t!!!

disco

January 6th, 2012
10:32 am

leggs – you mentioned the “pencil”. I came across a “salt shaker” once. you know the little glass shaker with the chrome top you see in restaurants? it was bad.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:32 am

Just playin wit ya…none of my effing business ;-)

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

I know I read Leggs but I’m just saying,stamina and thickness has to be 100 for u

Viagra was in prior posts not today but still

listening

But 4 hours non stop and no?

Ure a trooper Leggs! :lol:

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

Okay Leggs, pull out the excel sheet and give us the full list ;-) (you know ex is reeling you in, lol)

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

That’s funny, BF! Something is amiss with us this morning. :lol: :lol:

kimmie

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

Finally Friday Gang! What’s shakin?

Exiled – Christa & Fireman broke up??? They got married and had a baby & everything!!! Oh well!!

Topic – Save elaborate for special occasions. The first date is not a special occasion. It’s not rocket science people!

Spacing dates over weeks/months = rotation

I met hubby at his place on about the 4th date. I just parked and we left from there. I didn’t go in until about the 6th. He came over to my place on about the 7th. I was not afraid to go to his house because he had kids.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:34 am

czBrat – Me too….love lazy rainy weekends. Girl, as long as your “risk” is not greater than your “reward” than I’d say it’s all good :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:35 am

LOL……..@Leggs

RandyT somethings got work for the dude, he certainly got another option in his mouth.

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:37 am

Freaky Friday is officially open!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:38 am

@Ex ~ I still think you’re reading me wrong. Stamina is with ANYBODY. Thickeness is preferred BY MOST. Speaking of Viagra is because I’m turned off that so many men in my age group speak of it. Hell let me get to know a little something about you before I learn you use the little blue pill…When I speak of Viagra is alwasy negative.

No one said anything about 4 hours, well no one but YOU!

Exiled!

January 6th, 2012
10:40 am

Kimmie..I think that’s what I head..hope I’m wrong

@Randyt? 4 hours seemed very good to me but hey,what do I know

has Leggs replied yet on whether the guy rhymed good?
:lol:

oneofeach4me

January 6th, 2012
10:40 am

After seeing what happened to Anika Noni Rose in “For Colored Girls” the going into the lion’s den or having him in my place too soon is out of the question. I am gonna have to meet him on common ground for a good minute or at least have him over with mutual friends in the house. The older I have gotten the less naive and more cautious I have become.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:41 am

What’s your order I’m having a Gentleman Jack with lime.

Celisea

January 6th, 2012
10:41 am

Leggs – I can’t say I’ve been disappointed physically where things have fizzled but I was talking about a dude that’s “all about it” and then nothing…. flatline….all talk and NO ACTION

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 6th, 2012
10:42 am

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Makers Mark. Am I right???

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Maker’s Mark on the rocks please…make it a double ;-) No use building a fire if you’re going to put it out.

Into the Light

January 6th, 2012
10:44 am

Hey BF – are you opening the bar for everyone or just the blog fellas?

Randyt (try to never get tarred with another's brush)

January 6th, 2012
10:45 am

LMAO @ ITL…you beat me to it!!!

Leggs

January 6th, 2012
10:45 am

@Randyt ~ sorry, didn’t mean to leave you hanging (no pun intended), but yes he was very good in that arena!