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Is your date boring?

Have you ever been out on a date and it was a complete snorefest? Did you find yourself zoning out or your mind wandering off somewhere else? Is it a bad sign that your date is a boring person?

I don’t know how much “excitement” a person should bring to your life -but I definitely would not want to be someone who I found boring. I was watching Downton Abbey last night and one of the characters said: “A woman can’t love a man if she thinks he is boring” and I agree..for the most part.

While I don’t want boring and dull – I don’t know if I would mesh well with the wrong kind of excitement. I’m pretty tame, so exciting to me would be a guy who likes to trekked across the world and experience interesting things. Or someone who wants to change the world and contribute something positive. I’m a “reasonable” square that way, I guess?

What sort of exciting things would you like to see in a potential match?

Do you think you are boring? Is your conversation a little flat? What do you do to avoid that?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

264 comments Add your comment

Shay

January 5th, 2012
7:00 am

It just depends on you and the brand of fun you subscribe to, your age range and what you consider fun.

Dude

January 5th, 2012
7:28 am

Thumbs up to Shay, what may be stimulating conversation to one person, may be incoherent babble to another. If an extremely attractive person, man or woman, was talking to a not so attractive person, but very intelligent, the very intelligent person may think the hot mama or papa is boring due to lack of stimulating conversation.

Looks are not everything, in fact they can distract people from making real connections most times.

Common interest is what people should be looking for in a date.

Exciting things in a mate, this is going to sound really lame, spoiler alert!!!! What I would like to see in a mate, is a chick that can match me punch for punch on topics going from history, to tech, to cooking, to movies, the more the campy the better, and actually hold a conversation. Ok here is where things get tricky, if I were to date, I would want someone to come home to and be able to discuss my day, and have them actually understand what I am talking about, as opposed to a blank stare. I am not saying that the opposite sex is not smart, I am saying that I have a job that can be hard to explain, if a person is not really tech savey. Finding a chick like that would be very very rare, so I choose to not have anything exclusive. I have my fun, and plenty of it, but if I were looking for a “mate” she would have to bring her A game when it came to intelligent conversation and being able to keep up.

Dude

January 5th, 2012
7:33 am

Example of things that would not work for a person like me. Non drug user.

Chick: Hey I just smoked the biggest bowl and I am high as a kite.
Me: Goodbye, please don’t ever talk to me again.

Chick: Did you see that last episode of Jersey Shore, I love that show!!!
Me: Goodbye, please don’t ever talk to me again.

????

January 5th, 2012
7:47 am

Dude, at least once a day u make the point of not being xclusive, Y? Y r not xclusive because u dont want 2 b. No other reason.

Dude

January 5th, 2012
7:53 am

Don’t know how many people actually read this, and I don’t want to give people a scewed view of the perspective that I am coming from, I don’t do it to be repetative, I only do it to explain the view I am coming from as opposed to most people that read the blog. My view may be drastically different than other regarding many many things. If you are asking me to stop, I will gladly not mention it again.

Randyt (aka,,,is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
7:54 am

I will defer to Dude and Shay on this topic…not much to say. When I read the initial dialogue, I was struck by the seeming suggestion that the guy has the onus of carrying the conversation, but Dude reminded me that it does go both ways. I know that sometimes everyone (read Randyt) is not always on their ‘A-game’ and it is a fact that sometimes the candle goes out before ever really getting a chance to burn btightly.

Again, that is why I always do a ‘postmortem’ after every first (and most) dates…to try not to make the same mistakes.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
8:01 am

Good Morning!

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
8:01 am

Good morning….btw, I got to work waaaaaaay too darn early. *sigh*

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
8:01 am

I would also submit that one can learn more from their failures than from their successes if one is willing to turn a critical eye on themselves. That thought kept hitting me yesterday when several posters seemed to want a pity party for their lack of success in the dating arena.

(Randyt in thoughtful mode…although wondering if he should be watching out for ITL after remarks about possible female instability yesterday ;-)

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
8:08 am

Good morning, all!

(ITL bouncing a tangerine off Randyt’s head and running out the blog door)

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
8:09 am

What sort of exciting things would you like to see in a potential match? Mental Stimulation!!!!!!

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
8:11 am

Another thought about this topic has also hit me. There are times when a lady might find you witty, charming, and entertaining…but not necessarily bedroom material, maybe the dreaded “friendship zone”. That same lady might find the next guy a somewhat boorish clod, but has the pheromones in the air making her want to jump his bones right there on the table.

I guess what I am saying is that I’m not entirely sure that being boring or not boring necessarily translates into chemistry.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
8:20 am

Randy I sorta agree with your 8:11. Seen it both ways. But when your wants and needs mesh with a potential mate it is exciting and I am not talking fireworks 24/7. Even within the silence its an excitement to whatever you two are trying to accomplish………

LeeH1

January 5th, 2012
8:21 am

Only bores are bored. Wome who expect men to entertain them but not bore them are shallow women indeed!

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
8:22 am

But when your wants and needs mesh with a potential mate it is exciting and I am not talking fireworks 24/7. Even within the silence its an excitement to whatever you two are trying to accomplish………

Worth repeating.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
8:23 am

Thanks ITL!!!! ;)

Dude

January 5th, 2012
8:25 am

Randy
It sounds to me like you are refering to women that haven’t quite learned to control themselves or make wise decisions. From what I have seen, those women aren’t dating material. If they will go purely on pheromones, they are not likely to be women you are going to be interested in anyways, save yourself the trouble and move on. If they are willing to “jump” the next guy because of pheromones, you are better off waiting for the next better thing.

Dude

January 5th, 2012
8:27 am

Gotta a busy day, so I am cutting out, I put in my 2 cents and I will comments some other day.

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
8:31 am

@ Lady & Dude …yup, I’ve seen it both ways and frankly I’m not saying it is right or wrong, or good or bad…just an observation. As the wise old Indian said, “sometimes the magic works…sometimes it doesn’t” (but dayum I hate the FZ worse than anything, lol).

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
8:35 am

“sometimes the magic works…sometimes it doesn’t” (but dayum I hate the FZ worse than anything, lol). <<<<<< It happens to the best of us Randy!!! But you know that! ;)

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
8:51 am

Morning….

“What sort of exciting things would you like to see in a potential match? Mental Stimulation and stick to your word….that’s exciting.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
9:13 am

Morning, Leggs! :)

@Randyt: Hmph! I thought my run-by fruiting would have at least made you a little dizzy!

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
9:15 am

Morning All!

If you have common interests and reference points, things should not get boring. If there is nothing that the 2 of you can relate to or even disagree about, that’s where the snoozefest/incompatability comes in. I am very knowledgeable about cooking and fashion. My husband, not so much. But he does like good food and we both love movies, comedies and suspense and we like to discuss politics and current events. We both like the same type of music. We have similiar family backgrounds and have run in some of the same college circles. So there is enough there to talk about and relate about without running out of stuff to talk about or getting bored.

But there’s that little thing that must be present – chemistry. Even if you only hit it off on a friendship level – a certain chemistry must be there. If it’s there, even periods of silence are not uncomfortable.

MiMi

January 5th, 2012
9:16 am

You should expect to receive whatever you can bring to the table. You can’t expect to meet and date “the life of the party” if you are a “book worm”. Granted, whomever you date will need to bring some type of balance to your life, but some commonalities needs to exist. For more topics about dating, please check us out online at http://www.facebook.com/datenightgurus

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
9:19 am

Think about it. Even folks that you are strictly platonic friends with, you still have to kind of “click” with, be able to hold a conversation with and hang out with to not be bored. Otherwise, they are just someone you know.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
9:21 am

“You can’t expect to meet and date “the life of the party” if you are a “book worm”. Book worms can be fun. I suppose “wall flower” would fit better with the sentiment of this statement (lol).

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
9:32 am

I’m sorry ITL I’m kind of out of it…someone busted a tangerine up the side of my head this morning and ran away while I was still reeling from the attack. ;-)

Diddy

January 5th, 2012
9:32 am

I thought I told you that we won’t stop

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
9:33 am

Morning,

I’ll say this (and actually do some work today),

Boring is relative.

While dating and getting to know someone, that feeling of excitement – or the desire for it – is natural.

But, when I thought of a lasting relationship, I thought about the boring rainy Wednesday night. If, after long days of work, we can sit and genuinely enjoy one anothers company on a boring rainy Wednesday, then we good.

Too many times I’ve dated women that felt the need to fill the air with…something. Few were content in just enjoying one anothers energy/company without words or sounds. Fewer still understood what that meant.

And the advantage I had in waiting a little later in life to get married is knowing, understanding, and finding a mate that overstands “quiet”. Not silence, just quiet.

I’m telling you it’s the best.isht.ever.

disco

January 5th, 2012
9:39 am

good morning gang.

kimmie – I like your comment re “they are just someone you know”. I’ve often made the comment that some folks weren’t actually going out on dates so much as they were “two people going to get something to eat”. my friends called me a dreamcrusher but sometimes it’s true. some folks are just placeholders until better/more compatible folks come along.

as for boring – that’s another one of those relative things. personally I have a high tolerance for boring. in fact, I’ve been dubbed as square myself. I agree with dan. some of my most comfortable moments would likely bore the socks off someone else. I had friends that were tickled to death when I would tell them that me and the most recent ex would sit around and play backgammon. I love comfortable silences and get annoyed by folks that I have to fill in the quiet.

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
9:46 am

Dan, I so agree. It is wonderful, the comfortable quiet.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
9:47 am

Oh no, Randy….are you okay?!?!? Were there any witnesses? ;)

I’m with Dan and disco on this one. Those quiet moments are the best. Some of my favorite times with an ex were sharing a blanket on the couch, all snuggly and warm, while we read. The only sound was the turning of pages, but it was so relaxing, so peaceful….

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
9:48 am

disco – I am a bit of an L7 myself. Folks crack up on the things I actually find “exciting”! LOL!!

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
9:52 am

@ Dan…I liked the way you differentiated between “quiet” and “silence”. Quiet is or can be good. Silence brings back memories of my marriage…she was a master at using silence as a weapon. Good post.

@ disco…your comment about being a placeholder hit home. Been there, done that. My particular instance regarded financial security. At the time, I could offer passion, great conversation, respect, and genuine feeling…but was financially busted from a failed marriage and the job market was scary for the future. So I was fine for providing friendship, orgasms, and affection, but… She took me in, nursed me back to health, and kicked me out of the nest when she thought I could fly on my own again. Oh well.

disco

January 5th, 2012
9:59 am

kimmie – L7? guess I understand from context but not familiar with the term. still what are some of your corny exciting things. I get a kick out of documentaries and refer to them as my reality tv since I don’t watch any of that other so called reality tv. I also love all things (books/movies) holocaust. morbid I know but the personal stories are so interesting.

randy – your placeholder experience could have been worse. at least you got nursed back to health. she could have been the one that broke you down and then replaced you with a built up fellow.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
10:00 am

@Randy

Women – people – that do things like that bring to mind that old “reason, season, lifetime” addage. It was definitely her loss, but also her decision.

@All that commented on my post

I learned the differnce between silence and quiet in a relationship I had where the young woman and I would sit and the silence would be palatable – like another entity in the room.

The few times I questioned it, I got more that I bargained for in response to grudges, and supposed slights that were creating that entity.

It’s when I began to learn/demand (almost) that those things not fester.

I learned “quiet” in much the same way. Looked up while sitting with [another] young woman and realized we hadn’t spoken to each other in 2 hours, but it was still comfortable.

Yeah, those were important “reason” young ladies

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
10:05 am

disco – LOL!! L7 was an term we used back in elementary/high school for square!! Some of my squarish pursuits – I collect biographies on famous people and love documentaries too. I have started making jewelry – have found several funky little bead stores around town. I used to be a lawn/grass junkie – I had just bought a house and had the best looking yard in the neighborhood. I could tell you all about grass and seeds and fertilizer, etc! My style is at times what I would call boho-chic, I love hippie stuff.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
10:05 am

Nice post, Dan. It’s a wonderful thing when one recognizes the difference between quiet and silence. Even more important is when one is quiet and the other doesn’t take offense and offer “white noise” to fill in that perceived gap.

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
10:07 am

disco – I agree completely. Not bitter (although it did hurt a lot…actually more than a lot, lol). She was, and is, great. But so much is in the timing isn’t it? If anything, it was harder on her because I still had all those open wounds and nerve endings from my marriage that she had to deal with. It took a lot of patience for her to not kick me to the curb on day one. Ran into her several years later and the chemistry was still as strong as ever…but I knew that the one fundamental thing for me was no longer there…trust. Without trust, I’d rather say no (then stare at my ceiling all night because of what might have been ;-)

MiMi

January 5th, 2012
10:12 am

@Leggs, fine not so much book worms, by that I mean people who are comfortable with and don’t need to necessarily mix & mingle with others. If you are comfortable with a boring person, the truth is you are boring yourself and you just don’t know it. For more dating discussions, check out http://www.facebook.com/datenightgurus

The Healer

January 5th, 2012
10:15 am

“She took me in, nursed me back to health, and kicked me out of the nest when she thought I could fly on my own again.”

@ Randy and Disco-Thats the kinda Relationship that outlast marraiges. lol

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
10:25 am

@MiMi ~ I knew what you meant…just messing with you and “book worms.”

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
10:26 am

@ The Healer…yeah. didn’t last…but was special and I am intellectual enough to see the value that was there…and grateful.. Like I said, timing is everything ;-)

disco

January 5th, 2012
10:26 am

kimmie – I see the L7 square now. thanks for breaking it down. I do biographies but not on famous people. I like biographies on unknowns. my two favorites are “all over but the shoutin” by rick bragg and “life on the color line – the true story of a white boy who discovered he was black” by Gregory Williams.

randy – them’s the breaks.

Randyt (aka...is it Friday yet???)

January 5th, 2012
10:28 am

@ disco…it’s all good ;-)

MiMi

January 5th, 2012
10:31 am

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
10:34 am

@Dan!

Thumps up on that post,9.33!!!

U separated urself from errbody! Lol

I dog that post.

The topic itself is a ‘how to date for 13 year old’

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
10:35 am

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
10:42 am

@disco ~ love biographies and true tv stories…famous or not famous. Life on the color line sounds extremely intriguing to me. I’m fascinated with just about anything to do with slavery, the codes slaves used, the underground railroad and all that helped, the strength of our people back then and everything they had to endure. The Middle Passage is one of my favorite books.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
10:45 am

@disco: Have you read “Wench?” It’s fiction, but I think you would enjoy it.

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
10:50 am

Wench??

Lol

that’s not a very nice word in other lingos

@Randy? Why u talking bout orgasim at 10 am? Lol

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 5th, 2012
10:53 am

Mornting All :mrgreen:

disco…that last book that you mentioned by Gregory Williams sounds very interesting…I think I might have to look for that.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
10:54 am

Leggs – I had an older guy telling me just this week that had ‘they’ not come to get some slaves and bring them back here to the US that ‘we’ would not have such the good lives we have now & basically ‘they’ did ‘us’ a favor.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
10:55 am

@SassyMe ~ I just ordered the book (lol).

disco

January 5th, 2012
10:55 am

leggs – life on the color line is different. the author is alive now. his father was biracial but passing and his mother was white. the kids thought they were white until the parents split and the father took them to live with his black mother in gary Indiana. it was straight culture shock for them but it’s a great book. I have middle passage on my bookshelf too.

ITL – I have read wench. I enjoyed it.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
10:56 am

Damn, that sounds EXACTLY like what Barbara Bush said to the victims on Katrina!!!! Hogwash. Some people are just plain DENSE!

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
11:01 am

Leggs/Slim – I’ve heard that sentiment before. Folks trying to make themselves feel better for slavery.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
11:02 am

Then he said that we were going to miss ‘them’ when they’re gone. By “them”, he meant older white guys…assuming wealthy. I was not sure exactly what he meant by that because he would not state why. I don’t know if he meant that ‘they’ are paying the most taxes, supporting the less fortunate (taxes for ‘welfare’) or what. I’m like, where the hell are ‘yall’ going? You trying to tell me white men are endangered? lol I said, if that’s the case, then who will be the next majority and he said it was going to be the Hispanics

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:04 am

Hogwash is such an old person’s word…Note to self: stop using it!!!

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
11:05 am

kimmie – I asked him if he felt the Indians should feel grateful to ‘them’ as well…

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
11:09 am

Leggs – What’s wrong with older peoples words? LOL!!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
11:10 am

@Leggs

Naw it ain’t.

Used sparingly/appropriately, “hogwash” and “shenanigans” serve a valuable purpose.

@Meeelo

Thanks

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:15 am

I was being facetious, but I always picture a little old woman saying “hogwash” instead of cursing. Shenanigans will never be an outdated word (lol).

disco

January 5th, 2012
11:23 am

I’m fond of the word persnickety myself.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

January 5th, 2012
11:24 am

I just ordered the book

@~Leggs me,too!!

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:24 am

“Persnickety” makes me think of The Little Rascals…

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:32 am

Cold Cut Artist = Kool and The Gang (404) 741-1-075 tix to see Micheal Epps and Joyful Noise.

disco

January 5th, 2012
11:35 am

leggs/sassy – happy reading. let me know how you like it.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
11:37 am

I LOVE “persnickety”….it’s fun to say!

@disco: I enjoyed “Wench” even though parts of it were heartbreaking. Have you read “Little Bee?”

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:39 am

Carol Blackmon think’s I’m crazy, I got through but don’t want those tix…holding out for an upcoming concert (lol).

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
11:43 am

Ummm, I’m leary. I ordered the hardback from Amazon and it only cost me $3.16. You think words will actually be on the pages????

disco

January 5th, 2012
11:45 am

ITL – little bee was on the agenda for my book club but I wasn’t able to get my hands on a copy and then promptly forgot about it. I’m going to check the library online now and see if I can get it.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
11:58 am

@disco: I think you will enjoy it. Again, parts of it were almost unbearably sad, but there was joy and laughter, too.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
12:01 pm

-Off topic-

But, how many of you ladies would agree or disagree with anything on this list:

http://www.fromdatestodiapers.com/50-rules-for-dads-of-daughters

@Leggs

Amazon is the best retailer out there, any problems, keep what you bought *and* they send you your money back.

disco

January 5th, 2012
12:04 pm

Thanks ITL. I got so caught up in the convenience of checking out ebooks from the library that I got a bit lazy about making the journey there for actual books. I just ordered (at the library) several books including little bee. also titles by mary Monroe, Daniel black and Bernice mcfadden. good thing for me I keep a running list of books I want to read.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
12:07 pm

Dan – Love your post this morning and love the 1 – 50 list….I agree with just about all of it….well probably all of it.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
12:07 pm

Especially starting around #17 on through 20 something.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
12:09 pm

I do that, too! As a matter of fact, the library called yesterday to say that a book I reserved is available. I’m not sure I’m going to start it now, though; I’m still reading “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.”

Have you read “The Upper Room?” I read a review and excerpt, and have had it on my to-read list since.

groovygirl

January 5th, 2012
12:10 pm

Been lurking and reading y’all for awhile on my lunch break and blogville is a fun place to visit. Y’all have a lot of good insight and are good for lots of laughs. Have really enjoyed reading you. Just popped in to give a quick opinion. I think if you have chemistry with someone boring is non existant. On the other hand if you don’t have chemistry, everything else is non existant.
BTW
Randy you seem like such a terrific guy don;t know why someone hasn’t scooped you right up!!

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:17 pm

Dan I like! Just passed it on to some great dads I know! ;)

disco

January 5th, 2012
12:17 pm

ITL – I did read upper room though I’ll be honest, without reading a review I don’t recall it specifically. I think red light wives is the only one I really remember. I like mary Monroe though and most of her books are pretty good.

celisea/dan – I didn’t read the entire list. probably the first 10 and I was already thinking about daddy’s girls and momma’s boys.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
12:17 pm

Randy you seem like such a terrific guy don;t know why someone hasn’t scooped you right up!!,/em>

Mmm, do I see a blog hookup in the works? ;-)

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
12:22 pm

Alright naw Randyt…what say you to groovygirl I’m sure there’s not a tshirt for this :)

disco – Yep, daddy’s little girl :)

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
12:22 pm

nah…not naw

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
12:35 pm

Either everyone is at lunch or they are ‘Bored’ with blogsville or the topic at the moment…

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:41 pm

What’s good Slim. I finally have a minute or two…..what a day thus far! lol

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
12:42 pm

Lady – 5:00 would be good right about now because I’m soooooo sleepy. I didn’t sleep well last night. How’s errrrythang?

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:46 pm

Just fine can’t complain……how bout 90 more days for me! LOL j/k

did you frequent any spots we discussed prior to the holidays?!?

GracieL

January 5th, 2012
12:47 pm

Downloading low-level details of your work day to your date, the way you used to do to your spouse every night, is a real snoozer. I’ve noticed this trend among the newly single who are used to married life where meeting summaries, sales projections, etc. might have been mildly pertinent. It’s part of sharing in a long-term partnership, but unless the “news” is truly exciting (we got robbed today!) or meaningful (we’re about to be sold), then find something else to discuss!

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:50 pm

lol GracieL. you’re 1st sentence is hilarity! lol

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
12:51 pm

Dan,that’s a perfect Dad!

I like 42…nothing like home..

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
12:54 pm

Slim..maybe some are nookin_g as we speak!

It’s MIA remember

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:55 pm

meant your sheesh…lol

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
12:56 pm

Lady – You sound like my cousin that is in the school system. She was complaining about going back after being off for two weeks! (Inserted an eye roll there lol)

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
12:57 pm

Ex – Well I’d rather be snoozing.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
12:58 pm

I am seriously not complaining lol the break was restful. I am ready to knock out the 90 days lol but my counterparts are going in with their vents…..lol

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
12:59 pm

Snoozing at lunch time?

That’s what u do after u got some last nite!

puuoor (with a drawl) Slim.. :lol:

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
1:08 pm

Leggs!

can u please pass along(blog publish) Randyt’s email add..

I so luv to instigate a sly blog hook_up!

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
1:11 pm

Ex – I think Queen needs to up her cootie allowances…The only action I got was from being at work all day, going to the gym having the trainer turn my legs to noodles, then going home.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
1:16 pm

@Ex ~ I can’t pass along email addys w/o permission.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:19 pm

its so cold in my room! brrrr!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
1:22 pm

@GracieL

I’d disagree *slightly*

Your spouse should be interested in the details of your day, and your job, so that when you get upset that Lumberg wants his TPS reports – s/he knows: 1)who Lumberg is, 2)what a TPS report is/does/supposed to do, and 3)why you are responsible for the TPS report.

That way, your partner can truly share in the frustration.

Likewise, you partner needs to understand the office dynamics so when Laura “be on that bullisht” about ‘whatever’, they can likewise share in the anguish beyond “really?”, “you don’t say”, “cufk that itchb”.

In related news, the Kevin Hart special I spent $20 to see is going to be on Comedy Central in a few days….daggumit

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
1:26 pm

she on 9 month sabbatical

@Slim,so why so sleepy..the personal gym trainer comes to ur home for extra lessons??

@Leggs??

Are u trying to help a sister out….then talk to Randyt then?

WLB rule #5,paragraph II says and I quote,’co_ck blocking is not allowed unless a MIA sister is clearly being greedy and there is clear evidence of this fact’

facilitate then if U pleasure in seeing or knowing another sister is being pleasured!

Albert

January 5th, 2012
1:26 pm

I’m interested in kinds of music and literature that many people could find boring. When and if I date, I often wonder if I am boring the other person by talking about these things, or sounding pretentious. I don’t want to alienate the women I date, but I don’t like to pretend that I enjoy things that I don’t really care about either.
And I don’t want to be the only one trying to keep up the conversation. I used to date someone who thought she was boring, so she expected me to keep things interesting.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
1:29 pm

Exiled – Um, first off, my trainer is female and secondly, no housecalls. Annnnnnnnd moving right along

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
1:31 pm

Whew….Celisea dodged a freaking bullet today. Had my 1:1 (first this year and who freaking does that beside my manager), where I just saw at 9:13 this morning a task she asked me to do and have to her by 8 a.m. Well given that she sent to me while on vacay, I totally missed it. Was just reading through her emails this morning since I haven’t really been plugged in officially. Well I exported a spread sheet from a system we have, deleted some of the columns I didn’t need, kept the ones that would be useful, combined with a document (related) that I’d worked on a few months back and vwalla!!! I did though have to ask if I could send at 2:00…she said NO….11:00…SHAME ON ME!!

Just got off the call, she said she thought it was a pretty good start for this transitioning projecting that we’re doing and concise and pinpointed the items we’re needing :) Can you say wiping sweat from the brow.

I gotta stop blogging so much if Imma be missing stuff….for real

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:33 pm

C its been that kind of day sis! whew!

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
1:33 pm

Oh and she wants more drop downs added by end of day and a few more columns for her meeting tomorrow…GOTTA GO…LOL

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
1:33 pm

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
1:40 pm

Not sure if you all had heard about the 36 year old woman that’s been missing from her Buckhead condo since 12/27…well there are many folks I know that knew her. I even had a close friend who lives in the same neighborhood as her parents…they just found the chicks car but she is still missing.

http://www.wsbtv.com/news/news/local/missing-womans-car-found/nGGK5/

Even though I didn’t know her personally, it feels closer to home because her parents live not too far from my job. I’m sure the guy that saw her last (which they got in an argument) has a lot to do with it.

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
1:40 pm

is female?

Slim?

and u got lesbo friends so ummm

no nibbling? :lol:

U not completely exonerated on that one Slim

sowrry! :lol:

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
1:42 pm

I heard the story this morning

Why do folks do that

Crazy

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:44 pm

I have Slim! I posted to my FB and twitter!

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:45 pm

glad she is among the living and founded!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
1:45 pm

What’s funny is – back when I was blogging heavy – people would see the blog on my screen and look disgusted.

But I finished my work, usually ahead of schedule, so after a while they left me alone; save for “are we not giving you enough to do?” to wit my reply was always “nope” (with the slow turn back to the computer).

Said that to say, distractions and skill are not mutually exclusive Cel; keep up the good work.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
1:47 pm

Ex – I give up…I’m too tired to beef with you today.

Lady – Her car was found but the girl is still missing.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:49 pm

let me go back and reread

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:49 pm

Oh I do apologize that is not a good sign………Didn’t she just meet someone from St Louis or something and he came to visit……wow

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
1:50 pm

no beef Slim

u the most sweet girl on MIA! muaaaaah!

In other news:

SOS to Randyt! Wanted Urgently!

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
1:50 pm

same here Dan its been years of blogging and folks looking. whocares.com is my thoughts my work is done without complaints

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
1:51 pm

Dayum, go to a few meetings and ya can miss a lot here.

Nothing wrong with Randyt’s dating life…just that I’m picky…and so (fortunately or unfortunately) are the ones I date. Just haven’t hit the lottery yet, but still buying tickets ;-)

Kym

January 5th, 2012
1:52 pm

Afternoon Folks!

Do I think I am boring? Hmm..I guess it depends on who I am with. I like to think that I am pretty freaking interesting once you get to know me. The only thing I would like to see that is exciting in a mate is a sense of humor please, and the desire to try new and different things. The world is a huge place and you should work to discover something new about yourself each and everyday..(okay that sounded a bit shirley temple like) but you get the idea.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
1:52 pm

@Ex ~ real cute! Not co*ckblocking. He can read. How do I know if he’s not responding on purpose. It’s not my job to throw a complimentary post in someone’s face…only the bad ones (lol).

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
1:54 pm

@Celisea ~ why re-invent the wheel….that was good!

GracieL

January 5th, 2012
1:55 pm

Dan (Superior),

You’re right, of course, that your partner should know who Lumburgh is and how much you loathe those darned TPS reports. But if that’s what you’re talking about on a date, it’s boring! I like to date awhile before I reach partner status. Let’s have some fun! Rambling off boring work details on autopilot is married behavior. (Snoozerville!) Hit the highlights if there were any, but I just spent a full week working too, and would not presume to bore my date with such minutia.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
1:56 pm

@SlimNu ~ what I found disturbing is she just recently met this dude and he came to visit her and now she’s missing. Don’t remember where he came from, but it sounded like they were strangers for the most part.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
1:58 pm

Thanks Dan/Leggs…I ain’t gonna lie…I was sweating. Seriously when I was reading through the email and saw “please have me a draft of your aggressive plan and spreadsheet…..” I was like WTH??? I had to think quick….think think think…lol

Seriously, I gotta stop blogging so much :)

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
1:59 pm

“Just haven’t hit the lottery yet, but still buying tickets” – I went to pay 8431 this morning only to find out 4318 fell last night…I walked out. I’m given up on Cash 4 for the moment!

@Randyt ~ Ex needs to breathe down your neck….

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:00 pm

I don’t know about the Dude who came to see the missing gal, but I do know that all women need to be really careful who they see, because a killer gets life with or without parole…dead gal gets…well just dead.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
2:04 pm

Leggs – I think it was Missouri

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:05 pm

@RandyT..I always read these stories and think Ted Bundy was charming as hell..but he killed a bunch of women.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:08 pm

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Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:09 pm

Slim she has a huge support base. I hope nothing tragic occurs. She is without her meds too so who knows what mental state she is in. Trauma is devastating…..

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:09 pm

@Celisea ~ apparently, you’re quick on your feet. It takes skillz to bluff accurately….

GracieL

January 5th, 2012
2:12 pm

Kym,

Charming is a common trait among sociopaths. Having learned much more than I wanted to about such people, I must echo Randy’s advice (be really careful!), and tell everyone: If the little voice inside you whispers that something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to it. Ignoring your gut instinct in favor of the head’s rationalizations is always a mistake.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:13 pm

yeah Kym…hard to tell the good guys from the bad. They were really lucky to catch Bundy…and few people will shed a tear for his fate. Just wish it had been sooner. Some people lack the fundemental quality that makes someone a human being…a soul or a conscience. Never once have I heard of trying to rehabilitate a rabid animal…you just put them down for the wellfare of the rest of society.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
2:14 pm

One last and I gotta go for real:

I was watching last week “Cold Case” I think it was and this dude killed 17 prostitutes in all. I think around number 6 or 7, he dumb behind sent a letter to the police pretty much smirking and pointing them to yet another body. While there were no prints or anything traceable, the big dummy dropped a map from Expedia. Before sending the letter the case had gone quiet for about 8 months and nothing, no evidence left on the first set of women. Well after sending the letter and the map from Expedia, there were also 2 more deaths, this time with semen. Anyway, detectives still not connecting, had Expedia to pull the IP addys and yes, his was in the bunch. Well they narrowed down who they’d visit and I can’t remember how he was selected but anyway they paid him a visit. This dude had a really nice home and it was immaculate. So they go in and when they get there dude starts acting weird. They tell him more detectives are on the way with a search warrant and he (ahead of the search) says, “take me to jail.” They ask whatever for and he wouldn’t say but just kept demanding so, they followed his wishes. While on the way there, he changes his mind and says for them to go somewhere else and said he would take them to what they’d been searching for. Anyway he ends up going to jail. They asked him if anything he wanted and he asked for a soda. Once finished, they had the DNA checked from the soda can and BAM a match to the semen from the last two victims. Anyway, in the meantime, they’re searching his home and downstairs, it was nothing like upstairs. Blood splashed on the walls and ceiling and tons of video tapes. He taped every murder from start to finish of those prostitutes murdered…brutal. He made them apologize (sort of like any last words) and killed them. SICK JOKER. But I just believe things have a way of working out. How you gonna send a letter getting to dang smart for your ownself and think everthing is iron clad. You send it, it can be traced.

Alright…that’s my tidbit for today.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:16 pm

I believe I can be boring at times, but there have been situations where I was bored to tears Waiting for a date to get ready. It fell apart when she came to the door in her robe telling me I’ll be ready in a few minutes.

GracieL

January 5th, 2012
2:19 pm

Randy,

Experts say the number is 1 in 25, or 4% of the population, that lack conscience or the capacity to empathize or care what another is feeling. They’re not all serial killers, but they do have common traits in that they manipulate others to get what they want, with no concern for what harm comes to others as a result. They might not be lawbreakers because they don’t want to go to prison, but they still wreak havoc and misery on the lives they touch. Most politicians and the majority of corporate CEOs are sociopaths, I believe.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:21 pm

Yeah I am big on reading true crime..but I think the BTK killer was the sickest of all..IMO. He killed a woman put her kids in the closet with toys, while he killed and tortured their mother. Dude was a predator for decades. Sent letters to the police and media, and then took a break, come to find out he was a Deacon of the church, Scout leader, Family man. Once caught his open court confession was just cold. Calm as you please told how he killed all those women. I think they are studying him now.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:23 pm

GracieL your last sentence now LOL I sorta agree to a degree no pun to anyone lol

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:25 pm

Ummmm, that was more than a tidbit…IJS (LOL).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:27 pm

Kym the dude thought all was forgiving since he hadn’t killed in years. The boomerang swung right back and landed at his feet. Physics is a daily part of life and what goes around comes around.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:28 pm

I think John Wayne Gacy was one sick serial killer. I’ll never forget him…

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:31 pm

@Blackfoote..I think he wanted to get caught. He started sending letters again in 2004(I think) and just doing weird stuff around the town..leaving clues. They said he only killed 10 people but I know he had to have killed more. They just can’t prove it.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:32 pm

@Leggs..folks buy his paintings now for crazy money..I know one sold for over 50k.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:33 pm

Gacy The Clown, he was having party’s dressed as a clown with children. That’s scary he’s with the children.

GracieL

January 5th, 2012
2:37 pm

Lady~,

A lack of conscience is an asset in the business and political arenas. People for whom the feelings or well-being of others is a complete non-issue (unless it somehow affects them too) are the ones that truly “get it done.” Likewise, they also make good surgeons and lawyers, as emotions do not get in the way of the tasks necessary to succeed, where success = a specific desired outcome. Best to avoid personal relationships with them, though.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:37 pm

And Dahmer, they knew they would kill that man when he was put in general population.

disco

January 5th, 2012
2:38 pm

sick or not – I think most folks are infatuated with serial killers on some level. the Cleveland plain dealer recently ran a series on the women of imperial avenue (Anthony sowell’s victims). it was good and I’m hoping some author picks it up.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:40 pm

I guess the thing that gets me is that serial killers are like true pedophiles, it is a need that no amount of therapy can change. Another thing that gets me is how often one reads about someone killing someone, then you read deep in to the story and find that that person had killed before and gotten a manslaughter conviction or something.

Forgiveness has its limits with me. I still wonder about whether the killer of a girl I knew/dated in high school is even in prison. Five bullets from a .38, and he got fifty years, and five more for shooting at the cops. Eligible for parole in only seven years…and she didn’t have a parole option. I wish the cops had been better shots.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:40 pm

GracieL sound like you’re talking about Tea Partiers.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:41 pm

yep GracieL….then i pity some women that deal as much then snap……. double edged sword somewhat

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

I’m not feeling sorry for Dahmer, he ate people instead of buying groceries.

disco

January 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

randy – true story. I know a guy whose mother was murdered back in the 70s by her boyfriend. boyfriend did X amount of time and got out of prison. the guy that I know, his brother beat up the boyfriend that killed his mom and was actually sentenced to more time on the assault charge than the boyfriend got on the murder charge. our justice system at work.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:45 pm

RandyT I am with you.. I believe some folks are truly just born evil, while some go through life and become politicans or hermits as the case maybe..those that inflict pain on the innocent..well let me just say I wish Ghost Rider was a real-life hero.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

men too Grace!

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

disco…doesn’t surprise me at all. The system protects the rights of the perps more that the rights of the victims and or their families. And re your comment about the fascination for serial killers…I have to admit my favorite TV show is Dexter…a serial killer. And am always really weirded out by those women who start writing serial killers in prison and want to marry them. WTF is that about?

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

OK I am done with this sucka day lol! In the future…..peace out folks! ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:48 pm

A friend of mine was one the murdered kids in the seventy’s. Wayne Williams convicted of two but what about the rest?

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:49 pm

I agree Kym, where is Dexter Morgan when we really need him?

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:49 pm

@disco ~ I think most are fascinated by morbidnes…it’s very interesting to watch the apathy of others and wonder how did they get that way? How were they as babies, toddlers, teenagers???

@BF ~ had to laugh at your Dahlmer comment…time for you to go back under the stairwell. Good one.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:50 pm

@ BF…those were strange, and the end (I guess) was even stranger. What do you think?

disco

January 5th, 2012
2:53 pm

I’ve heard about this dexter show but I’ve never seen it. I watched a show recently that counted down america’s top child killers. it was mindblowing that some of those kids were that cunning. I’m not even talking the teenagers but little grade school kids straight up plotting murder. amazing. i’m also into prison documentaries and movies etc. it would be interesting if they put all of the serial killers in the same prison. the general population would easily eliminate one but I wonder if the serial killers (who generally work alone) would band together for a common cause. okay, y’all excuse me. I guess my mind just wandered off this afternoon.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:54 pm

RandyT it seems to me the authorities wanted the public to hang the rest of the child killings on Williams because they couldn’t connect the dots and prosecute. Those documentaries put Williams in a different light than the police did, some even claimed his innocents.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:57 pm

Leggs I know I’m coming out of the dark talking about Dahmer, I’m returning back to the stairwell now……..LOL

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:59 pm

If you ever get a chance, disco. Rent/Netflix/Hulu Season One and then Season Four. It takes a couple of episodes for Dexter to hook you, but when it does it is addictive. The hero is a true serial killer, but he has learned to channel it into killing people who really need killing. It is a cool show because he works for the Miami Homicide squad, and is right under the noses of those who are actively looking for him. So much of it is his thoughts as he just passes right through the investigative teams. Makes one think but can be quite graphic. Season four was the best though. He is up against another serial killer, John Lithgow. Both won golden globess I think for that season.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

@Disco..that’s okay I was sitting here thinking where could I put a Ghost Rider tat that would be classy but still say..hell hath no fury..

abc

January 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

Interesting for one is boring for another. Personally, I find watching television to be excruciatingly boring, but my wife likes it, so I watch some for the snuggle time. I like to play chess, backgammon, golf, games of all kinds, but she doesn’t. We both like museums and historical architecture, stuff like that, which others would find boring. We can’t stand a loud nightclub, which others would find entertaining. Different strokes.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:01 pm

Not really, BF, a serial killer is a serial killer…whether they eat them or bury them in their own backyard. Sick has many layers, but being sick to one’s core is a place for demented people. Dahlmer is at the top of that list….

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:01 pm

@ BF, are you convinced he did at least the two he was convicted of? That whole thing was strange.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

I love John Lithgow…great actor!! Funny, and scary.

@disco..do you watch Leverage? My white boy crush Christan Kane is on there..sweet Christmas crackers…that joker is fine!!! Woosah..Wooosah!!

abc

January 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

I remember thinking at the time that Williams was (probably) not guilty, but the cops were determined to ’solve’ the case.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:05 pm

One of the best mini-series I ever watched was “Chiefs”. The serial killer was right in their midst for decades. Billy Dee Williams was great in it. The supposed main plot was about the killer, but the real story line was how a small southern town progressed racially thru the three decades.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:06 pm

kym – I am usually the odd man out once the conversation turns to tv. i don’t watch a lot of anything current. i may look at old sitcom reruns. I watch law and order SVU. don’t watch any of the so called reality shows. no housewives/bachelors/races etc. my main thing though – I guess it’s kind of reality – is man v. food and diners drive-ins and dives. I joke that I don’t watch cooking shows, I watch eating shows.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:07 pm

@RandyT..since we are talking serial killers..Did I recommend The Stranger You Seek by Amanda Kyle Williams. Local Author..great book..

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:08 pm

kym – I googled Christian kane and I was like eww. I won’t pass judgment though since adam sandler is my main white boy crush (i’ve got a few). I know a lot of his work is corny and all but something about him just appeals to me.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:10 pm

I am cracking up over disco’s “ewww” for Christian Kane. You straight up looked at her like she was co*ck-eyed or something.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:10 pm

You did Kym and I got tied up and forgot the title. I will download it to my Kindle. Thanks

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:12 pm

Skimming trying to catch up, and I see BTK mentioned. Wasn’t he the one that finally got caught because he used the church computer to send something to the police and they tracked him with his IP address? As for Gacy…I’m still scared of clowns after seeing the movie about him. Between Pennywise and Gacy, I haven’t been to the circus in years.

I bet Ann Rule will write a book about Sowell. She’s always right on top of the true crime genre.

LOVE Dexter. John Lithgow as Trinity was casting brilliance!

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:14 pm

Kym: I’ll row that Christian Kane boat with you, if we limit it to the short-haired version. I’m not opposed to long hair, but his looks so much better short.

cba

January 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

Check out the bio on serial killer, John Paul Knowles. He was known as the casanova killer and about 4 or 5 of his victims were from GA. Meet an English journalist at bar in Atl after he had killed a father and daughter the day before. He didn’t killed her because he wanted her to write a book about him and she did. He was killed in the back of patrol car in Douglasville after he had picked his hand cuffs. Lot of people didn’t believe the story because two of his victims were FL state patrol officers. One of his victims attended high school with me, she was fifteen at the time of her death.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:17 pm

ITL – that was my turn off. first pic I saw of him had long hair. leggs, I repeat, eww. that long hair just doesn’t work for me.

O/T – anyone here seen the stage play “Memphis”?

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
3:22 pm

This blog is funny…one day the crazies and the next day talking about crazy people.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:23 pm

@ ITL. I definitely think that Lithgow was one of the best casting decisions I’ve ever seen. The problem now is that when I see him on anything, I see Trinity…and that is chilling. I watched an interview on line after the final episode of Season Four, and it almost seemed that Lithgow had a hard time detaching from the Trinity character. Great performance.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:23 pm

But with short hair, he is HAWT, disco!

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:26 pm

From “is your date boring” to “serial killers”….umm, one can lead to the other…

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:27 pm

SN: either they’ve turned up the heat in my office or my inner child is playing with matches, but I am burning up!

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:27 pm

Boring won’t kill you Leggs, just make you wish that you or he/she was dead ;-)

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:28 pm

Speaking of dates, and not to put anyone on the spot, but I didn’t see any responses from a certain someone (hint: he got bonked with a tangerine today) to a certain groovy gal….

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:28 pm

I could use a hot flash right about now myself.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:29 pm

@Randyt ~ boring may not kill you, but the person who’s bored with you may want to reach out and choke the daylights out of u….

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

@ ITL, what can a man say…sometimes more information is needed.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

oops, I see my texting style has jumped to my blogging.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

leggs – remember how when you were a kid you really did think you might just keel over and die from boredom?

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:34 pm

Weeeellllll, I like to be outdoors and love long walks on the beach in the rain barefoot while doing charity work for underpriveleged safari animals…..

Oh, wait. You meant about her….. Okay, GG, volley back to you… :)

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:34 pm

The scary part disco is that as one gets older, boring has its virtues sometimes…like laying in bed just flipping the channels after a brutal week at the office or in the field. Age can change one’s perspective, lol.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:35 pm

@ITL ~ you are a bonafide fool.

@disco ~ have fleeting memories…if I even looked like I was bored, Mama sprang into action with some ungodly chore…

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:37 pm

I like your quick wit ITL, I really do…and the country gal that sometimes peeks out (although that red and black affliction, just don’t know about that).

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:39 pm

AFFLICTION?? AFFLICTION?? This from a man who spends Saturdays in the fall looking like he works for the road crew/hunting lodge?!?!? ;) :lol:

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:40 pm

Lookahere…ITL throwing Randyt toward groovygal and he’s boomeranging back to ITL’s spot!!!!

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:41 pm

That’s a disguise so no one will know I am really Warren Buffett’s money manager.

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
3:42 pm

From Dawg to Randyt – So whatchu tryin to say???? :shock:

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:43 pm

randy – I’m the square with no electronics in my bedroom. well I do have a lamp but no tv, radio, alarm clock. nothing. I do all my tv watching in the living room or guest bedroom. a lot of folks don’t get it. over the years I’ve had guys offer to buy me a tv. I guess they think I’m deprived or something.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:45 pm

Thatta girl, Kimmie! I knew my Dawg would chime in. :)

@Randy: And a good disguise it is. If the SEC (the other one!) catches you in any unsavory activity, you’ll be all set in your prison orange. Bwahahaha. :lol: Seriously, Randy, I know you love UT, but even a die-hard Vol can’t like that orange, can he?!?!?

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:45 pm

@RandyT..I can testify to that last statement…the older I get the more I change…and I am digging the changes.

Alright folks I have a end of the day question..Let me state first this is not my question..I already gave my advice

A sisterfriend wants to know how to gracefully tell a dude she no longer wants to see him. Reasons: He is older by 11 years and is pretty set in his ways, (she likes dogs..he doesn’t) and she has met a guy younger than her..but she has more in common with him. So she wants to tell Ole dude..see ya..wouldn’t wanna be ya. Without being mean or bring up she has met New Boo. I told her to just say: “While I enjoy your company Ole dude, I feel we are not a good a match.” and leave it at that..so what say you jury? How can she give Ole Dude the brush off without a gulit?

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:45 pm

@ disco…during the holidays, I had the TV on mostly for the noise when an episode of the Doctors came on. He was advocating that all electronics should be out of the bedroom. You are on the cutting edge, not behind the curve.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:48 pm

At disco..no tv in my bedroom. I have one in the guest room and family room I watch there and if I get sleepy I try to get up and go to bed..

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:50 pm

I have one, but it’s only on 1) if I’m sick and home for the day or 2) for traffic/weather reports while I’m getting ready in the morning. My doc says having the TV on at interferes with getting a good night’s sleep.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:51 pm

Truthfully ITL, I wouldn’t be caught dead in it in the years I lived in Knoxville, orange doesn’t look good on anything but maybe a Hooter’s girl…and only then in really limited doses. But when I came to ATL, I noticed how easy, and somehow important, it was to pizz off GA fans. Put on orange, or have Rocky Top playing in the background and you won’t have to worry about being “bored” too long. I never do like for things to get too peaceful ;-)

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:52 pm

@Randyt ~ not having a tv in the bedroom was espoused decades ago…The Doctors ain’t saying nothing new!!

Haven’t had an alarm clock or radio in years…tv, I need the noise….

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:52 pm

the last time I had a tv in my bedroom is when I was a teenager still in my mother’s house. my entire adulthood I’ve done without one in my bedroom. heck, I just need dark and quiet when I sleep. wish I could do something about the little green light in the smoke detector in my room. it’s distracting.

kym – your friend is thinking too much. just end it if she’s going to end it. she can be straight up and have one of the talks. it’s not you, it’s me. this isn’t working. I need my space. blah blah blah. heck, she can even do the fade away. if she’s checked out she’s checked out. still, I say poor old dude. hope the new youngster doesn’t disappoint.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
3:54 pm

Kym – You said it….

“Hey I love ya, it was good but things just ain’t working out for us. Can we be friends?”

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
3:55 pm

I would burn any bridges though making mention of a new dude…that’s just me though. Never know when you might need a friend for real.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
3:55 pm

“wouldn’t”

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:56 pm

Sounds like you’re not always successful, Kym. :lol: :lol:

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:57 pm

“wish I could do something about the little green light in the smoke detector in my room. it’s distracting. – Not if you’re sleeping (lol).

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:59 pm

Same here, ITL, I only watch tv in bed if I’m sick or getting ready for the day. All my tv watching is done in living room.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
4:00 pm

@Leggs..one day I was watching football woke up with cheese balls all over the floor and my snuggie trying to strangle me..Straight guy moment..

disco

January 5th, 2012
4:01 pm

funny leggs. sleeping isn’t the problem – it’s the time leading up to sleep. you’d think it was a floodlight instead of one teeny tiny little dot of light. I also complain about the noise of the refrigerator humming when the house is quiet. and seems like to me, they would have made a quieter furnace by now.

kym – I got caught up in the snuggie just the other day. it didn’t help that my son was home and witnessed the entanglement.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:08 pm

@disco ~ in all seriousness, I have the comcast modem in my room and that flickering blue light is extremely annoying…

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:09 pm

The snuggie is an inconvenient convenience….hardy haa haa!

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:11 pm

Thanks for that bit of truth, Randy. I always wondered how Vols could stand that orange. :)

I would like to know how you folks without alarms clocks wake up in the morning????

@Kym and Disco: the mental image of y’all wrestling the snuggies has me laughing so hard I’m in tears. And Kym’s….with faux cheese powder all over it…. :lol: :lol:

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
4:11 pm

Kym – Your friend is overthinking it. How would she break up with him if New had not shown up? Because Old was just a placeholder. His age doesn’t have much to do with it either. They just had nothing in common. So New dude or not, they would have broken up either way. Old deserves someone that appreciates him and what he has to offer. It’s plenty folks out there that are not into dogs. I’m an example. I also don’t like cats either, but hubby had two. Wasn’t a dealbreaker though.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:13 pm

Speaking of inconvenient, what’s that new thing they have out now? It’s like onesie pajamas for adults? Forever Lazy or something like that? When they say, “it’s perfect for a tailgate” on the commercial and show the guy wearing one, I crack up every time. I would give somebody 2 seconds in that thing at a tailgate before someone locked them in the porta-potty.

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
4:14 pm

I don’t know what I would do without a tv in my room.

I can get a good night’s sleep anywhere if I am sleepy. I’ve fallen asleep at the table in the middle of a noisy nightclub before.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
4:14 pm

@kimmie..that’s what I said..if you like new boo better then give old dude the bump..

Alright folks..I am off to take my place in line..be safe out there.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
4:16 pm

Disco, I spend more time in Marriotts than in my own bed. No good way to avoid the distractions. Although I am one of those who is such a light sleeper, that the one thing that will wake me up fastest, or keep me from going to sleep is total silence. I need white noise, a fan or two or three, maybe…and if my breath doesn’t condense in the morning (winteror summer) it is too warm for me.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:19 pm

Definitely can’t sleep with the tv on!

I use the alarm on my cell to wake me up (although I usually open my eyes a good 5 mins before it goes off). My internal clock is pretty accurate, I just couldn’t honestly rely on it to get to work on time.

And, how many of you need a loud alarm to get up…My number is 2. That’s loud enough for me to hear. Can’t do that loud stuff first thing in the morning. I nice hummmmm will wake me.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
4:19 pm

Random:

I’m glad I’m a strong black woman that stand on my own and can hold my own :)

disco

January 5th, 2012
4:19 pm

ITL – and I don’t even use the arms. I just use it like a throw. i think my feet/ankles were twisted up some kind of way. a funny though – once I was a bit chilly and tucked my arms into my sweatshirt. anyway, got up to go upstairs and didn’t untuck my arms. messed around and tripped on the stairs and stumbled. of course, I had no arms to catch myself. my stairwell curves at the top and bottom so I fell right into the wall. while I had no witnesses to that I had to laugh at myself and I told everybody.

kimmie – I know people who sleep with the tv on. I can’t do it. you heard me say I get annoyed because I can hear the refrigerator humming. don’t get me started on sharing space with a snorer or “loud breather”. whew.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:20 pm

I’m with you on that one Randyt, I need cold to fall asleep.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
4:22 pm

Re alarm clocks. I have one for backup but almost always awaken five minutes before the time is set on it. Even if it is a change from the day before, or I have to get up earlier, I will wakeup. I have an automatic clock sort of built in. That is what creeps me out about anaesthesia. There is no “time sense”. I am awake and then i am awake…nothing in between. I’ve been under a number of times and that always fascinates me because I always have a times sense when I am sleeping, but nothing with being under. Truthfully, that creeped me out about MJ. Anaesthesia is not sleep, just isn’t.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:29 pm

Slightly jealous of those of you with the internal clock. I, on the other hand, am looking for an alarm clock with a catapult attachment. :)

kimmie

January 5th, 2012
4:31 pm

I have an automatic clock sort of built in.

Randy – That’s me all the way. I will sleep straight thru an alarm. But if I need to be up by a certain time, I will wake up at that time, no matter what time I went to bed.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:33 pm

Completely O/T: I see a trip to my favorite taqueria in my very near future. I am craving their chicken enchiladas.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
4:35 pm

LOL @ ITL

For us light sleepers, it can be a pain in the buttocks to cohabitate with a really heavy sleeper. The alarm goes off for the other and the light sleeper is laying there thinking “will you turn that dayum thing offfff, don’t hit that dayum snooze, get your azz out of the bed so I can go back to sleep”. And then they hit the snooze four or five times and that alarm goes off every five minutes for an hour. Got a few of those t-shirts ;-)

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
4:36 pm

time to go play in the traffic. Nite all.

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
4:36 pm

I hate when the internal clock goes off a whole hour earlier and you’re left there trying to force yourself back to sleep. I normally use my cell phone but it isn’t loud. Unless I’ve had a crazy night of drinking, i’m easy to wake. ;-)

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:38 pm

LOL@Randy: I resemble this remark: they hit the snooze four or five times and that alarm goes off every five minutes for an hour. When I lived at home, it used to drive my mom crazy, because she could hear my alarm from their room.

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
4:40 pm

Strong black woman?

Glad u are Cel?

If u were Korean or Asian maybe u wldnt be that strong.. Lol

Are u guys done with serial killers….I was cowering scared under the staircase

If not,back I go.. :oops:

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:42 pm

Oh, good grief, you big fraidy cat!! :)

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
4:43 pm

I’m a lighter sleeper although I have deep moments of sleep when I know nothing

Queen says I mumble stuff

I’m not surprised,I got demons :lol:

I use my phone alarm but I beat it most times

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
4:43 pm

Bringing things to topic since I didn’t get a chance to earlier:

Boring is relative as others who spoke on the topic said. Whatever your niche or style of dating or entertainment is what one should probably seek to avoid boredom. Sometimes laid back, sometimes excitement, sometimes truly boring by other’s standards, but essentially getting someone with “like” interests will probably be the ying to your yang.

MMeello – LOL

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
4:44 pm

Yep Meello – STRONG BLACK WOMAN :)

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:45 pm

@Ex, why the slur against Korean or Asian women?

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:46 pm

Speaking of under the stairs, I haven’t seen Leggs or BF in a minute….. Hmmmmm……

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
4:47 pm

And of course she posts right as I am writing that….. Dang! I thought I could get a blog rumor going!

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
4:48 pm

No slur Leggs..just examples I picked for no other reason other than they aren’t black

SlimNu

January 5th, 2012
4:48 pm

Ooooh I can’t stand repeat snoozers…My thinking is just set your alarm to go off later. I don’t wanna have to wake up wit yo behind every 10 minutes all over again lol

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
4:50 pm

I consider myself a strong Man

not strong Black man

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:52 pm

@ITL if you look up, you see me right about your 4:47.

Ok, Ex.

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
4:52 pm

I consider myself a strong black woman….I’m a black woman. If I was any other race I would have said that. But I’m not so I can’t. I’m black.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
4:53 pm

Too funny, ITL. I now see your other post. My snooze comes on twice, then I’ll get out the bed. I’m not one to open my eyes at 6:00 and jump right out the bed.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
4:55 pm

Y’all is tripping

Like Randy, I stay in hotels (Hilton FTW – Diamond since ‘08), and if I didn’t go to sleep with the TV on, I wouldn’t sleep.

The walls are paper thin, people above/below/next to you have no concept of how much they weigh noise they make – it’s just horrible.

I brought those habits home a while ago, so if the TV isn’t on [sleep mode] I literally can’t fall asleep, unless there is a massive amount of alcohol involved.

Exiled!

January 5th, 2012
4:56 pm

Cel?

so u wldnt have said ’strong white woman?’

Why?

why black woman but not white woman?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 5th, 2012
4:56 pm

Oh, and dam y’all light sleepers; y’all do the most moving/kicking waking even the heaviest sleepers.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
5:03 pm

I too stay in many hotel rooms and my complaint is the dang thermostat. The Hilton has the best pillows and bathrobes, but I’ve never been bothered by the noise of others.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
5:03 pm

@Cel is Ex asking you what I think he’s asking you (lol)?

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
5:04 pm

Leggs – I don’t know but I’m not going there with him…lol

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
5:05 pm

He’s being funny

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
5:07 pm

I’m out…night night

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
5:08 pm

All this talk about hotels has me thinking about vacation…..

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
5:10 pm

Ummmm, talk of hotels doesn’t put me in the mind of vacationing (LOL)….