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Is your date boring?

Have you ever been out on a date and it was a complete snorefest? Did you find yourself zoning out or your mind wandering off somewhere else? Is it a bad sign that your date is a boring person?

I don’t know how much “excitement” a person should bring to your life -but I definitely would not want to be someone who I found boring. I was watching Downton Abbey last night and one of the characters said: “A woman can’t love a man if she thinks he is boring” and I agree..for the most part.

While I don’t want boring and dull – I don’t know if I would mesh well with the wrong kind of excitement. I’m pretty tame, so exciting to me would be a guy who likes to trekked across the world and experience interesting things. Or someone who wants to change the world and contribute something positive. I’m a “reasonable” square that way, I guess?

What sort of exciting things would you like to see in a potential match?

Do you think you are boring? Is your conversation a little flat? What do you do to avoid that?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

264 comments Add your comment

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:40 pm

I guess the thing that gets me is that serial killers are like true pedophiles, it is a need that no amount of therapy can change. Another thing that gets me is how often one reads about someone killing someone, then you read deep in to the story and find that that person had killed before and gotten a manslaughter conviction or something.

Forgiveness has its limits with me. I still wonder about whether the killer of a girl I knew/dated in high school is even in prison. Five bullets from a .38, and he got fifty years, and five more for shooting at the cops. Eligible for parole in only seven years…and she didn’t have a parole option. I wish the cops had been better shots.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:40 pm

GracieL sound like you’re talking about Tea Partiers.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:41 pm

yep GracieL….then i pity some women that deal as much then snap……. double edged sword somewhat

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

I’m not feeling sorry for Dahmer, he ate people instead of buying groceries.

disco

January 5th, 2012
2:42 pm

randy – true story. I know a guy whose mother was murdered back in the 70s by her boyfriend. boyfriend did X amount of time and got out of prison. the guy that I know, his brother beat up the boyfriend that killed his mom and was actually sentenced to more time on the assault charge than the boyfriend got on the murder charge. our justice system at work.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
2:45 pm

RandyT I am with you.. I believe some folks are truly just born evil, while some go through life and become politicans or hermits as the case maybe..those that inflict pain on the innocent..well let me just say I wish Ghost Rider was a real-life hero.

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

men too Grace!

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

disco…doesn’t surprise me at all. The system protects the rights of the perps more that the rights of the victims and or their families. And re your comment about the fascination for serial killers…I have to admit my favorite TV show is Dexter…a serial killer. And am always really weirded out by those women who start writing serial killers in prison and want to marry them. WTF is that about?

Lady~

January 5th, 2012
2:47 pm

OK I am done with this sucka day lol! In the future…..peace out folks! ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:48 pm

A friend of mine was one the murdered kids in the seventy’s. Wayne Williams convicted of two but what about the rest?

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:49 pm

I agree Kym, where is Dexter Morgan when we really need him?

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
2:49 pm

@disco ~ I think most are fascinated by morbidnes…it’s very interesting to watch the apathy of others and wonder how did they get that way? How were they as babies, toddlers, teenagers???

@BF ~ had to laugh at your Dahlmer comment…time for you to go back under the stairwell. Good one.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:50 pm

@ BF…those were strange, and the end (I guess) was even stranger. What do you think?

disco

January 5th, 2012
2:53 pm

I’ve heard about this dexter show but I’ve never seen it. I watched a show recently that counted down america’s top child killers. it was mindblowing that some of those kids were that cunning. I’m not even talking the teenagers but little grade school kids straight up plotting murder. amazing. i’m also into prison documentaries and movies etc. it would be interesting if they put all of the serial killers in the same prison. the general population would easily eliminate one but I wonder if the serial killers (who generally work alone) would band together for a common cause. okay, y’all excuse me. I guess my mind just wandered off this afternoon.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:54 pm

RandyT it seems to me the authorities wanted the public to hang the rest of the child killings on Williams because they couldn’t connect the dots and prosecute. Those documentaries put Williams in a different light than the police did, some even claimed his innocents.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

January 5th, 2012
2:57 pm

Leggs I know I’m coming out of the dark talking about Dahmer, I’m returning back to the stairwell now……..LOL

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
2:59 pm

If you ever get a chance, disco. Rent/Netflix/Hulu Season One and then Season Four. It takes a couple of episodes for Dexter to hook you, but when it does it is addictive. The hero is a true serial killer, but he has learned to channel it into killing people who really need killing. It is a cool show because he works for the Miami Homicide squad, and is right under the noses of those who are actively looking for him. So much of it is his thoughts as he just passes right through the investigative teams. Makes one think but can be quite graphic. Season four was the best though. He is up against another serial killer, John Lithgow. Both won golden globess I think for that season.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

@Disco..that’s okay I was sitting here thinking where could I put a Ghost Rider tat that would be classy but still say..hell hath no fury..

abc

January 5th, 2012
3:00 pm

Interesting for one is boring for another. Personally, I find watching television to be excruciatingly boring, but my wife likes it, so I watch some for the snuggle time. I like to play chess, backgammon, golf, games of all kinds, but she doesn’t. We both like museums and historical architecture, stuff like that, which others would find boring. We can’t stand a loud nightclub, which others would find entertaining. Different strokes.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:01 pm

Not really, BF, a serial killer is a serial killer…whether they eat them or bury them in their own backyard. Sick has many layers, but being sick to one’s core is a place for demented people. Dahlmer is at the top of that list….

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:01 pm

@ BF, are you convinced he did at least the two he was convicted of? That whole thing was strange.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

I love John Lithgow…great actor!! Funny, and scary.

@disco..do you watch Leverage? My white boy crush Christan Kane is on there..sweet Christmas crackers…that joker is fine!!! Woosah..Wooosah!!

abc

January 5th, 2012
3:02 pm

I remember thinking at the time that Williams was (probably) not guilty, but the cops were determined to ’solve’ the case.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:05 pm

One of the best mini-series I ever watched was “Chiefs”. The serial killer was right in their midst for decades. Billy Dee Williams was great in it. The supposed main plot was about the killer, but the real story line was how a small southern town progressed racially thru the three decades.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:06 pm

kym – I am usually the odd man out once the conversation turns to tv. i don’t watch a lot of anything current. i may look at old sitcom reruns. I watch law and order SVU. don’t watch any of the so called reality shows. no housewives/bachelors/races etc. my main thing though – I guess it’s kind of reality – is man v. food and diners drive-ins and dives. I joke that I don’t watch cooking shows, I watch eating shows.

Kym

January 5th, 2012
3:07 pm

@RandyT..since we are talking serial killers..Did I recommend The Stranger You Seek by Amanda Kyle Williams. Local Author..great book..

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:08 pm

kym – I googled Christian kane and I was like eww. I won’t pass judgment though since adam sandler is my main white boy crush (i’ve got a few). I know a lot of his work is corny and all but something about him just appeals to me.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:10 pm

I am cracking up over disco’s “ewww” for Christian Kane. You straight up looked at her like she was co*ck-eyed or something.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:10 pm

You did Kym and I got tied up and forgot the title. I will download it to my Kindle. Thanks

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:12 pm

Skimming trying to catch up, and I see BTK mentioned. Wasn’t he the one that finally got caught because he used the church computer to send something to the police and they tracked him with his IP address? As for Gacy…I’m still scared of clowns after seeing the movie about him. Between Pennywise and Gacy, I haven’t been to the circus in years.

I bet Ann Rule will write a book about Sowell. She’s always right on top of the true crime genre.

LOVE Dexter. John Lithgow as Trinity was casting brilliance!

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:14 pm

Kym: I’ll row that Christian Kane boat with you, if we limit it to the short-haired version. I’m not opposed to long hair, but his looks so much better short.

cba

January 5th, 2012
3:15 pm

Check out the bio on serial killer, John Paul Knowles. He was known as the casanova killer and about 4 or 5 of his victims were from GA. Meet an English journalist at bar in Atl after he had killed a father and daughter the day before. He didn’t killed her because he wanted her to write a book about him and she did. He was killed in the back of patrol car in Douglasville after he had picked his hand cuffs. Lot of people didn’t believe the story because two of his victims were FL state patrol officers. One of his victims attended high school with me, she was fifteen at the time of her death.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:17 pm

ITL – that was my turn off. first pic I saw of him had long hair. leggs, I repeat, eww. that long hair just doesn’t work for me.

O/T – anyone here seen the stage play “Memphis”?

Celisea

January 5th, 2012
3:22 pm

This blog is funny…one day the crazies and the next day talking about crazy people.

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:23 pm

@ ITL. I definitely think that Lithgow was one of the best casting decisions I’ve ever seen. The problem now is that when I see him on anything, I see Trinity…and that is chilling. I watched an interview on line after the final episode of Season Four, and it almost seemed that Lithgow had a hard time detaching from the Trinity character. Great performance.

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:23 pm

But with short hair, he is HAWT, disco!

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:26 pm

From “is your date boring” to “serial killers”….umm, one can lead to the other…

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:27 pm

SN: either they’ve turned up the heat in my office or my inner child is playing with matches, but I am burning up!

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:27 pm

Boring won’t kill you Leggs, just make you wish that you or he/she was dead ;-)

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:28 pm

Speaking of dates, and not to put anyone on the spot, but I didn’t see any responses from a certain someone (hint: he got bonked with a tangerine today) to a certain groovy gal….

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:28 pm

I could use a hot flash right about now myself.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:29 pm

@Randyt ~ boring may not kill you, but the person who’s bored with you may want to reach out and choke the daylights out of u….

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

@ ITL, what can a man say…sometimes more information is needed.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

oops, I see my texting style has jumped to my blogging.

disco

January 5th, 2012
3:31 pm

leggs – remember how when you were a kid you really did think you might just keel over and die from boredom?

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:34 pm

Weeeellllll, I like to be outdoors and love long walks on the beach in the rain barefoot while doing charity work for underpriveleged safari animals…..

Oh, wait. You meant about her….. Okay, GG, volley back to you… :)

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:34 pm

The scary part disco is that as one gets older, boring has its virtues sometimes…like laying in bed just flipping the channels after a brutal week at the office or in the field. Age can change one’s perspective, lol.

Leggs

January 5th, 2012
3:35 pm

@ITL ~ you are a bonafide fool.

@disco ~ have fleeting memories…if I even looked like I was bored, Mama sprang into action with some ungodly chore…

Randyt (aka...I think I missed something here)

January 5th, 2012
3:37 pm

I like your quick wit ITL, I really do…and the country gal that sometimes peeks out (although that red and black affliction, just don’t know about that).

Into the Light

January 5th, 2012
3:39 pm

AFFLICTION?? AFFLICTION?? This from a man who spends Saturdays in the fall looking like he works for the road crew/hunting lodge?!?!? ;) :lol: