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Best city to find a date?

Thank you Atlanta! You have topped another list of best cities to find a date. This means that if you are dateless in Atlanta – it’s you with the problem! Just kidding – sort of.

Atlanta has been consistently named as one of the best places to land a date. According to the Daily Beast, we have the single people (with jobs!), money to invest in dating costs, and enough mentally and physically healthy people that are out on the dating scene.

This is all encouraging news, of course. You are in the right place to find a date. You only need to put some effort into actually finding a date. Staying home every night is not going to cut it! Just because the city is teeming with single people ready to mingle, does not mean they are going to show up on your doorstep!

What do you think of Atlanta’s ranking as #1 city to find a date? Would you agree? Have you tried dating in other cities?

If Atlanta is the best place to find a date, I wonder what city would be ideal to find a date that is interested in marrying one day? Would we still be the best city? Is Atlanta a great city to be in a relationship and/or married?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

445 comments Add your comment

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
7:50 am

Happy New Year MIA!!!!! ;)

SlimNu

January 4th, 2012
8:02 am

Brrrrrrr Shiver me timbers!

I really don’t know why they come out with these pointless “Best City” articles. I mean, who goes out and conducts actual research to see where you’re most likely to find a date. You can find a date ANYWHERE, it really just depends on you as a person, where you socialize, and whether you let the fact that you’re bat-azz crazy show from jump street. I don’t think the problem many face has anything to do with finding a date but more so along the lines of finding an actual MATE. Maybe this chill in the air has be a bit on edge, so I’ll dismiss myself to drink my cup of joe and try to warm up a bit. Check back in a few.

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
8:10 am

Wow Seattle made the list! I just did a tweet that this year I want to visit Seattle, DC, and Chicago……interesting -back to skim the article some more!

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
8:11 am

Being alone in the ATL is a choice. If you have a job, most of your teeth, and a car (new or used), you can get a date. Now turning that date into a lasting relationship is another question. I strongly suspect that because there are so many more “trains leaving the station”, that we may subconsciously think that each person is disposable…and consequently don’t put in the effort necessary to make a relationship work. A couple of bumps in the road and we are ready to move on. i don’t see this in other places I visit. In most of the English towns, every woman over 25 that any one would actually want is usually married with kids.

One other comment, marriage is harder than it used to be to get to, but one reason is that divorce is so acceptable and easy. A major reason a lot of us guys don’t get married is because we don’t want to get divorced…again. A lot of women I know leave a marrriage not because of adultery, but because they wake up one morning and don’t think they are HAPPY…and it must be the man’s fault somehow. The problem with that is that happiness has to come from within, not from someone else. And yes it works both ways.

So is marriage harder, yep, not a t-shirt most men relish…especially if we already have one.

Celisea

January 4th, 2012
8:21 am

Morning (said sounding congested)…..

I’m working from home today…I’m sick….ugh….hope I don’t have pnuemonia….got my phone forwarded to home….hope no one bothers me today….uggggh…..I know, I’m whining like a baby…..I’m headed out for coffee (not that sick huh…lol).

On topic: I HAVE NOTHING :)

My coworker called while I was typing to ask “what’s ailing you gal?” Dontcha just love it! Okay I’m done for now.

Kym

January 4th, 2012
8:24 am

Good Morning All,

Uhh SlimNu..you took my speech..so I am going to have to agree with your statement. Dating is possible..finding the lasting companionship is the challenge. I agree Wisey..no one is going to come to your door..(I know I tried that) and so alas I..we..you have to put myself out there to be seen.

P.S. For those who recommended the Bert Show..thanks I have the app and I am enjoying the show.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
8:29 am

While ATL is the easiest place to find a date, I suspect that New York would have to be one of the hardest. There, you have coworkers, bars, and dayum small living arrangements, often/usually with roomates. Now that would be tough. I’d starve relationally in NY.

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
8:34 am

Randy I was thinking the same thing! Good Post!

Kym

January 4th, 2012
8:40 am

Okay..they reviewed Census data for folks over the age of 15?? I am not sure if kids should count in Dating data that is to be taken seriously but ok..

Exiled!

January 4th, 2012
8:50 am

Absoluteeley!!!!!!! Lol

Yes yes yes!

Bur To keep the date,He’ll Naw!

Lubie Tupp

January 4th, 2012
8:52 am

We’ll see. I’ve moved here from Tybee Island to experience the dating scene. Course, that wasn’t the only reason. My favorite chicken dish at the local cafe began to oddly start tasting like cat.

Leggs

January 4th, 2012
8:53 am

Morning.

SlimNu and Kym said it all.

@Celisea ~ going out for coffee while being under the weather = addicted (LOL). Never understood the power of coffee (J/K).

“I strongly suspect that because there are so many more “trains leaving the station”, that we may subconsciously think that each person is disposable…and consequently don’t put in the effort necessary to make a relationship work. A couple of bumps in the road and we are ready to move on.

@Randyt ~ Yes sir…you nailed it!

Into the Light

January 4th, 2012
8:54 am

Good morning, all!

I’m gonna co-sign Kym, who co-signed Slim. (Hey, I made a rhyme! I’m poet and I didn’t know it!)

(waving at Randy) Welcome back!

cranky

January 4th, 2012
8:55 am

Best who what?
Oh doorstep schmorstep. This statistic cannot possibly be taking into account the over-40 population. Just try to find a straight, dateable ATL man in his 40s or 50s.
Seriously, go.
I’ll wait.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
8:56 am

(Totally off topic, but the gal in the ad for MaxClarity on the right side of this blog is HOTTTTT!…alas, too young by many years, oh well. I once called a female plaastic surgeon I saw on a billboard in Scottsboro, AL to ask her out (a dare of course), so I do at least try…plus all the other women in Jackson County AL were seriously “underpretty”…she was happily marrried but nice about it ;-) .

Leggs

January 4th, 2012
8:56 am

Most times, depending on where one lives, will hinder one’s dating choices. Sometimes, you have to travel a good 30+ miles just to mingle with the crowd you want to be around. Laziness doesn’t help (lol).

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
8:58 am

Hi ITL. Sidebar, Dayum I hate the Big Ten…that hurt me and I’m not a GA fan even, but am an SEC homer thru and thru.

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
8:59 am

yep leggs @ your 8:56 that is why I will stick with a metro area…….I couldn’t imagine moving backs to a rural area single……….lol

disco

January 4th, 2012
9:01 am

good morning guys. yeah those best cities articles are a crock. heck, a black enterprise article is part of how I ended up living in the city I’m in now. not all of the reason, but part of it. still, I always run up on nice eye candy and good time guys when I’m in Atlanta. of course, I’m usually in vacation/party mode when I’m in Atlanta. it might be different if I lived there.

randy – really? you called a number on a billboard? dare or not, I like it. closest I’ve come to something like that is calling up a barber to see if he was single. (I have nerve but didn’t have the nerve to ask in a crowded mainly Spanish speaking barbershop. I could take the rejection but don’t know how comfortable I’d have been with being talked about and not knowing it).

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:03 am

@ Leggs re: “a good 30+ miles” I wondered after reading ‘Cranky’s’ post if one has to reflect on ITP vs. OTP in this calculation. I can assure “Cranky” that the burbs are full of ‘over 40 straight guys’ that are single and straight and dateable. Not sure about ITP though.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:05 am

Yup disco, I kept seeing this doll on the billboard and thought what do I have to lose. Turns out her husband was a dentist and they worked in the same office. Nothing ventured, nothing gained ;-)

Kym

January 4th, 2012
9:08 am

Well I know I have to come intown to meet folks..I live OTP and the only way I will meet anyone is at the Wally World, Kroger or gas pump..not saying it can’t happen..but the chances are pretty slim.

Celisea

January 4th, 2012
9:09 am

Leggs – Yes ma’am….serious addiction to coffee…lol

disco

January 4th, 2012
9:12 am

randy – and you made her day to boot. married or not, I’m sure she got a kick out of it. probably telling her friends that some guy called her talking about he saw her picture on the billboard.

speaking of meeting folks. background – my friends always say I’m too picky and too judgmental and have my hang-ups. yeah. sure. whatever. so I mentioned on here the little guy I met at blockbuster right before christmas. I wasn’t feeling him because he was short but I let it ride and gave him my number. he pulled out his phone to take my number and it was a cricket phone. I made mental note of that as well because for me it’s not a good sign. anyway, he called Christmas eve and again on new year’s day. I decide to call him yesterday and invite him someplace. how come the phone number was disconnected? I laughed, shook my head and deleted the number.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:16 am

Kym’s comment makes me wonder if the problem is the number, or the lack of suitable venues. When I first came to ATL, I found tons of opportunities thru the hiking clubs, the church singles groups, and the good old standby, Match.com. The only problems with the church singles groups was that it was a “safe” environment, and hard to get out of the Friendship Zone. other than that, it was like a bufffet…and still is for me. That makes it harder because of trying to decide on an “entree” (figuratively speaking…sort of).

That said, sometimes the loneliest place is a big crowd. You have to be proactive and you have to put yourself out there…they don’t come knocking on your door (sadly, because I am basically lazy and would prefer that they did).

Celisea

January 4th, 2012
9:19 am

disco – Thanks for that laugh. Not the cricket phone….lololol

There are some reaaaal characters walking around

Leggs

January 4th, 2012
9:22 am

@Celisea ~ I had a neighbor ring my bell asking if I had coffee. We both knew I didn’t drink coffee, but she said she had to ask in the hopes I had some for company….ummmm, no!

Yes, Randyt, that was real cool. I like boldness and that’s right up there…nothing ventured, nothing gain!

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:22 am

good point Randy. Guess my train of thought was entertainment but you said a mouthful >>>That said, sometimes the loneliest place is a big crowd.

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:25 am

I had an extensive convo about Houston recently and almost looked @ the person strange with his idea that it is really happening there….Low and behold it made the list………..I still feel Dallas over Houston lol smh

I need to visit both!

Celisea

January 4th, 2012
9:25 am

Leggs – That’s funny because my neighbor directly in front of me will brew a cup for me (she’s a drinker of course) if I’m in dire need. Sometimes I’ll do a Starbucks run, her treat if I bring her back and cup after the early service on the first Sunday of every month. Sometimes I’ll treat her. But yeah, she’s my backup if I get the shakes. Surprisingly I don’t have a cup EVERY morning. About 6 days out of the week though I’m getting a cup. Usually if it’s REALLY good, I only want one cup. No two or three and not drinking all day.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:26 am

That’s funny disco LOL. I’ve seen some really prettty ladies in Blockbuster, but they usually had their kids or husbands with them and looked in a hurry.

Re Kym’s comment, I still have on my Bucket list to try to hook up (not literally there, but start an introduction) in the produce section of Publix. I may wander around the one down the street at lunch. Just one of those, “before I die” things I need to do

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:27 am

Dallas made the list too….I know many of these articles are skewed but I like the line up they have……not even trying to move but I think traveling more to view outside of Atlanta other metro areas is an added bonus that could help……….

disco

January 4th, 2012
9:31 am

celisea – one guy (who didn’t stand a chance to begin with but I offered to take his number as part of my exit strategy) had a cricket phone. he was real with his though. asked me to wait a few days before calling him because his phone would be off for a minute.

lady – I LOVE dallas and Austin. Houston, not so much.

randy – years ago I met a guy in a grocery store. talk game was cool but I noticed all kinds of kiddie foods in his cart. I didn’t say anything. he called restricted and had to cut calls short but never let on his situation. finally, I did the dmv check and next time he called I casually asked who so and so was (his wife). he was at a loss for words but finally came clean. I never told him how I found out about her though.

Amia

January 4th, 2012
9:31 am

GM all. I have lived in four of those cities. I am from Seattle. There you have the navy, army, and airforce bases. Whenever you have those in close driving distance, you can get a date! Relationship, totally different. I lived in Denver when I was 22-24. Loved it. Of course had dates and fun one’s too! Denver is a fantastic place. I lived in Orlando for five years. Dating was ok. I must say I have had the hardest time here though. I know it’s me though. I am early thirties and have less tolerance for dates I know are going nowhere. In my twenties I was just having fun and lots of it. I have dated here but have been very selective. I am re-evaluating my approach for 2012 for sure.

MsMarriedUp

January 4th, 2012
9:32 am

Oooh…maybe I shouldn’t be saying this since I am married and all… but I did happen to notice (for the ladies) TEXAS and NEW YORK, NEW YORK being the hot spots!!!

Good Lord the men out there!!! Whew… and I’m talking in 2011. It’s just 2012, but as of last year and for as long as I can remember those two places you can’t miss. Europe is nice too, but haven’t been in a while…

As for the men…this shouldn’t be a difficult guess by the every news channel that’s reporting on where the women are. Apparently everywhere!

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:36 am

see Disco we are >>>>here<<<<!

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:37 am

Old news now, but when I first came to the ATL 12 years ago, a lady told me this about ATL. Where were the good looking, succesful, sensative, single men…the answer was, they already have boyfriends. Turned out she had a point ;-)

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:39 am

MsMarriedUp my hearts longs for Harlem (love Renaissance) lol

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:39 am

“successful” not “succesful”,,, sorry.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:40 am

Sorry disco about the guy in the store. Guys like that give the rest of us bad names.

Leggs

January 4th, 2012
9:40 am

What is a “cricket” phone???

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:40 am

lol Randy not nice lol too funny…..I never felt the competition was fierce with the gay community being here. I respect their lifestyle and stay out their la lol

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:41 am

*lane* that is

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:42 am

(I wish they would add a spell check in to this blog, I hit send too soon).

disco

January 4th, 2012
9:46 am

leggs – cricket is touted as “affordable pre-paid wireless” but affordable or not most folks I know with cricket phones seem to never be able to keep them on. most actually just use the things for texting because they can never talk. to me, a grown man with a cricket phone is bad sign.

Lady~

January 4th, 2012
9:46 am

some browsers have spell check…I am just not at my usual spot today ugh….lol

Celisea

January 4th, 2012
9:49 am

I don’t know Leggs but I thought “cheesey” as in Tracphone

Kym

January 4th, 2012
9:50 am

@RandyT but see down my way..there are mostly married up folks shopping with the wife and kiddies if the guys are single..then I don’t notice them.

Randyt (aka, dayum what a time to get a cold, rather get a new t-shirt).

January 4th, 2012
9:51 am

@ MsMarriedUp…New York has beautiful women everywhere, but I have to believe that dating there is as competitive as the professional world. I’m not sure I could ever do well in the dating world there. Also, one still has to adapt to that culture of personal space. They don’t like for you to look straight at them, so the approach is tough unless they are wearing their “I’m available” look..

Leggs

January 4th, 2012
9:52 am

Yeah I was thinking tracphone like in Metro. I think Metro has upped their game since they first came on the scene?