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A year without sex?

I was watching a CNN report about a DJ in Canada that decided to abstain from sex for all of 2011. He survived and lived to tell! When I asked a few of my guy friends if they could go that long without, a lot of them said they could, they have, and they are doing so now. Shocking, isn’t it?

What if single people purposely took a year off from sex? Do you think the quality of our dating experiences would change? Could we even manage land a date?

When we take sex out of the equation, would our relationships stand a better chance of survival?

How much clarity do you think it could bring?

It’s only the third day of the year, maybe some of you will spend the next 362 days in a self-induced dry season? What do you think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:23 pm

I was so impressed his wife was there to kiss him at the New Year..that was so sweet. I could do with out Jenny McCarthy..

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:25 pm

Two common threads in Unsung:

(1) Didn’t manage their own money (always left in the hands of a smiling snake), and
(2) Drugs

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:26 pm

@Kym ~ I kept saying she is a pretty woman (lol).

disco

January 3rd, 2012
3:28 pm

celisea – unsung and life after can be sad but sometimes it can make you feel good (heck, the Florence ballard episode made me angry). there was a marathon the other day and I really enjoyed the ojays and miki howard.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:28 pm

The thing about Mr. Clark is that despite his stroke and falling condition, he still makes a point to participate in the NYE festivities which began with him. I guess his thinking is, he’ll do it for however long he is alive on this earth….even though it’s hard to watch at times. lol

Random: I think they no longer need to refer to the cookies that accompany your Chinese food as Fortune Cookies. They should be called ADVISE Cookies because they don’t tell you a fortune per say

I just opened my cookie and it reads, “Struggle as hard as you can for whatever you believe in”

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:30 pm

Aren’t you tired of doing that, Slim Nu (lol)…

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:30 pm

disco – The one on Tammi Terrell and the Debarge family, I sort of stop watching. But yeah, I know there are some success stories on there. Just hate to hear about the bad stuff.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:31 pm

I should say “after hearing about……”

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
3:31 pm

@Cel

I disagree (that my logic is flawed)

In using society’s definition as a primer – i.e. what is “blue” or “orange” – is how we each ‘begin’ to define things.

For a less abstract version, there are principles that I was taught as a youngin that informed my decision making until I started to test those prinicples for myself.

In many cases, I found that things that I was taught had foundations in reality and real principles. However, as I tested those principles for myself, I found that they didn’t always coincide with my emerging personal beliefs.

I understand why Leggs – or anyone – for that matter would call promiscuity irresponsible, I simply don’t agree with her (the) assertion. And my reasoning for not doing so lies in not just looking at the effect (read: sleeping with a number of people), but in trying to understand the cause on a case by case basis.

I’ve met more people that are promiscuous because of an early childhood trauma than I’d care to number. That these people are dismissed simply becuase of the effect of their actions and not the cause is what I find a reprehensible act.

I’m not saying that every instance of promiscuity is the result of trauma, but as my experience in life has infomred me, I’m not willing to judge someone out of hand without the facts.

Likewise, per my earlier argument, sans trauma, I still don’t take kindly to people saying that promiscuous behavior is inherently wrong just because they don’t engage in that behavior.

Either way, standing in judgement of another person – be it for dating the same type of person or sleeping with a number of differnt individuals – is an act I find offensive; and I tend to not associate with people that do so haphazardly.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:31 pm

Slimnu – LOL..that was funny

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:34 pm

and i meant Advice, not advise lol

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:35 pm

Whatever, Dan! I suppose since you are in the minority of believing there’s nothing wrong with being promiscuous, makes you right.

Also, I do understand your logic on this because you are the same man that said you would manage your daughter if she worked in a strip club! It all makes sense and everything is relative.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:37 pm

Dan – No matter how you slice it, being a certain way or doing something a certain way is no less being done or was done if your reasoning for doing is different from someone elses. It does not make you a judge to call something what it is….

Case and point – Oprah admits she was permiscuous as a result of being abused. Can only she call it that because she went through it? Or can the lifestyle be labeled as such because of how it’s defined? She’s a success and by no means am I sitting in judgement of her (who am I to do that), still she was permiscuous and admittedly so.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:41 pm

Okay I have to say my new guilty reality tv pleasure is “Moonshiners” I watched the marathon last night and I am hooked!!! I know it ain’t right but I am rooting for the bootleggers to get their product to market..and the for the moonshiners to not get caught.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:42 pm

Standing in judgement of a person is measuring a person by one’s own deeds and so called goodness. Call a thief a thief, a bum a bum, a murderer a murderer…is not judging if that’s what they are or their actions indicate.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:42 pm

Maybe it’s a matter of disputing Promiscuity as ‘irresponsible’…Just because you sleep with a random guy/girl 4+ a week, it does not make you ‘irresponsible’ if you are strapping up every time. :lol: :???: (I guess anyway)

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:43 pm

I feel like crap today. My kid sneezed, coughed and passed her germs along and now I have it. Uggh, I almost called in sick today.

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:43 pm

@Kym: I saw an episode of Moonshiners and thought it was AWESOME! I saw the one where he’s out looking for a site for his still and the grandpa and grandma ride up on the 4-wheeler with a rifle. Too funny!

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:44 pm

Kym – Don’t feel bad. Over the holiday’s the beau and I have started watching “The Call of the Wild Man”….he’s a back woods sort of guy from Kentucky they call the Turtle man. He catches random wild animals usually with his bare hands but his specialty is snapping turtles. He does this loud call all the time.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:46 pm

disco

January 3rd, 2012
3:46 pm

dan – not to mention there’s no way to tally the number of “undercover” promiscuous folks. some folks keep a real good cover on their dirt.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
3:47 pm

@Cel per you 3:48 – I totally agree, and

as one that has/does sin, I am in no position to judge someone else; likewise, I know very few folks who (by the “judge not” standard) that can.

I take it all with a grain of salt and a dash of pepper anyway, no hypertension.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:49 pm

@ITL and Slim..ohh good I am not alone.

@ITL..I watched last night where he was building a shelter for his still and his partner..was drunk and could barely help do the work. I wanted him to kick him in a ditch. But you got to give it up to those Mountain folks they crafty as hell. Dude even shot and skinned a rabbit and fried that sucker up right out there by the still.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:50 pm

Dan – Just having harmless debate that’s all. You’re are Dan the Man :)

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:50 pm

@Slim uh,..what does he do with the snapping turtles?

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:51 pm

Dang! I gotta catch up on my episodes. I wonder, though, what his son’s friends/teachers/classmates think about the show. AND, I wonder what mama thinks.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:51 pm

Dan – I know very few folks who (by the “judge not” standard) that can.

Me too…lol

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:52 pm

Slim: I saw that guy! He was teaching a marine how to catch turtles that were snapping at his kids, and then he caught a fox in the henhouse. That call he does is crazy!! I was LOL.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:54 pm

@ITL..last night he went to visit a legit bootlegger..it would cost him 200k just to go straight and get bonded. He is doing this for his son cause he said he is about to go away to college..I found that touching..plus I am kind of like bump it..who is he hurting? the folks drinking the shine know that stuff is 190proof plus..so they know the job is dangerous up front. Like I said I am rooting for him.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:55 pm

Leggs – I just sent it back

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:57 pm

Kym – He catches the turtles then relocates them to safer environments

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:58 pm

Me, too, Kym! I like the scenes they cut in with the old man, Popcorn. He was a legend; I’ve seen him on other documentaries about mountain life and moonshine.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:59 pm

Dreams – Where are you?

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
4:03 pm

@ITL..YES!! Popcorn was on point..LOL!! He could shake the jar and know exactly what proof the moonshine was at.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
4:03 pm

Alright let me head out..night night folks.

kimmie

January 3rd, 2012
4:03 pm

Isn’t it amazing the whole new world we are able to see now, thanks to cable and the internet?! We would probably never get to see or know much about such things like mountain life or moonshiners, animals, etc, unless we lived around these things. Now we have the information at our fingertips. Amazing!

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:07 pm

And why am I feeling all the teeny bopper songs?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:09 pm

Still want the gray boots…if anybody happen to come across a great deal. I want maybe a 3 inch heel…don’t want anything over that.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:11 pm

Annnnnnnnnnd I have a summons for jury duty….just great

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:12 pm

Last time I went, I was paid $25 dollars…wonder if they still pay for that?? If so how much. Ain’t like you can decline unless there’s a medical or concrete reason. Hope it’s not a crazy case either.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
4:14 pm

They still pay $25.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
4:14 pm

kimmie – That’s what I was thinking

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:15 pm

Dern it Leggs – They ain’t raised that yet? I was what about 20 or so?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:16 pm

Shoot, by the time you pay to park and get there in all the hustle and bustle of downtown that’s well worth a raise…lol

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:17 pm

I have no idea what we’re having for dinner tonight. I know one thing, I won’t be cooking :)

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
4:24 pm

My child had the fridge door opened asking if I was going to cook all the while staring at all the food I made on New Year’s Day. The question didn’t deserve an answer so I kept quiet.

disco

January 3rd, 2012
4:25 pm

jury duty… not worth much in and of itself but you at least get off from your real job and they have to pay you.

celisea – re dinner and cooking. I have had so much food in and through my house over the past weekend that I was almost happy to come back to work. at least I haven’t been eating all day long.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
4:29 pm

Just make sure to take something to read….Jury Duty is really Waiting duty in most cases. When I had to do it, my job fortunately still paid me my regular pay and I got the $25. Not bad

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
4:41 pm

First day back, and I can barely keep my eyes opened.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
4:47 pm

Leggs/disco – LOL I barely cooked for New Years. Wait…did I cook? I cooked Sunday I remember that.

Gotcha Slim – I’ve been going to the Library (I actually enjoy going) looking for interesting books. I like the old fashion way of reading. Not knocking Kindle or any other new devices. Just takes me a minute to get onboard with the modern stuff.