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A year without sex?

I was watching a CNN report about a DJ in Canada that decided to abstain from sex for all of 2011. He survived and lived to tell! When I asked a few of my guy friends if they could go that long without, a lot of them said they could, they have, and they are doing so now. Shocking, isn’t it?

What if single people purposely took a year off from sex? Do you think the quality of our dating experiences would change? Could we even manage land a date?

When we take sex out of the equation, would our relationships stand a better chance of survival?

How much clarity do you think it could bring?

It’s only the third day of the year, maybe some of you will spend the next 362 days in a self-induced dry season? What do you think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:25 pm

Not true Missionary. If you’re a man you have so much to learn about women. My essence lies between my ears. The essence between my legs is the icing.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:26 pm

So Missionary, if a woman’s vagina disappears tomorrow morning, she’s no longer a woman nor possess “essence?” What else do you want a woman for other than sex or did you just answer that with your “essense post?”

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:28 pm

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:25 pm

Not true Missionary. If you’re a man you have so much to learn about women. My essence lies between my ears. The essence between my legs is the icing.

Haha yes men date you for your brain alone ahahahaha

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
2:29 pm

Our essence??? Okay now it has gotten all Metta World up in here..I liked kimmie’s explaination better..

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
2:30 pm

@Cel

Your point is well taken and respected. You can make that decision for yourself and the person (people) you choose to deal with in your life, however; my issue is applying your personal standard to others.

I, for one, ain’t ashamed to state that I’ve valuable learned lessons the hard way and via the application of a sound decision process beforehand.

I’m just amazed that people can’t seem to make that statement for themselves, and bear that fact in mind when speaking on the human condition – in this case, promiscuity.

If it’s not for you – respect; but that standard doesn’t apply to everyone.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:31 pm

Haha yes men date you for your brain alone ahahahaha

You can’t laugh at brain ALONE because that’s what you’re alluding too….our vagina ALONE is the only reason women and man are in a relationship.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:31 pm

Okay then missionary – Define essence? What does it mean then when a man hits it and quit it? What keeps a man coming back for more than just the vagina? Help me understand and distinguish. Because according to you our essence lies between our legs. What’s differentiating us? What’s the difference in a virgin and a prostitute?

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:33 pm

kimmie

January 3rd, 2012
2:35 pm

I guess I’m confused then. Thought I knew where mission was going.

Leggs – I’ve always hated the “don’t knock it till you tried it” reasoning.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:36 pm

People make the world go round…..

Different Strokes for Different Folks and so on and so on and scobby dooby doo…..

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
2:37 pm

@kimmie just go with your own answer..it’s safer..any minute now someone is gonna bring out the bongo drums,start passing the “peace pipe”, and reciting bad poetry..

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:38 pm

Kimmie – I didn’t think that’s where he was going. Where he went is about where I figured he’d go. There’s more to a woman that what’s between her legs if that’s the case we’d never come up for anything else. Let folks that live by that belief have at it.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:40 pm

Always some joking trying slip going left on the women. Always some joker wanting to inflict disrespect on women.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:40 pm

@kimmie ~ As you can see, so do I….

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
2:42 pm

All this circle talking is making my head hurt…Quick, on the count of three everyone make their point in as less words as possible (One sentence if you can)….1…2….3….GO! lol

kimmie

January 3rd, 2012
2:44 pm

Kym – :lol:

Celisea – guess I should have known. I was thinking too much like right.

Leggs – Yep!

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:46 pm

Here’s my point….someone needs to be hogtied and sat near some quicksand….

disco

January 3rd, 2012
2:47 pm

slim – or better yet, feel free to change the topic. how are the resolutions going three days in?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:47 pm

Exactly Kimmie…think too much like right is what normal people do when answering questions or having dialog.

Missionary is just some joker trying incite dissension and disrespect.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:47 pm

with their slong hanging out so we can determine his true essence.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
2:48 pm

@Leggs..uh why are we hogtying folks..did I miss bondage convo or something?

@disco..I don’t make resolutions..I figured I am a constant work in progress..so what’s the point..

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:49 pm

I’ve made one resolution….the same as last years…be me!

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:49 pm

@Kym ~ because Missionary think we’re dumb.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:51 pm

No resolution here…

Next topic?

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
2:53 pm

@Leggs..Ohhh well there are better ways to torture folks..I always think tying someone covered in honey to a fireant hill would work. And not one of those whimpy hills..one of those giant hills like in the jungles of the amazon.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
2:53 pm

I haven’t made any resolutions…Started my gratitude journal about two weeks ago. That’s about it…keep striving to be better, continue growing & learning. My NYE was pretty low key…watched the celebrations on tv with a little drinky drink. Seems like many folks stayed in this year.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:54 pm

Where were you guys when the peach dropped????

disco

January 3rd, 2012
2:55 pm

dag. and here I am all excited about my resolution. 2011 was my first time making a resolution (eliminate all one sided relationships) and that worked out so well that I’m giving it a go again. this year’s resolution is all about travel and socializing so I’m looking forward to it.

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
3:03 pm

All in all, just hope to get closer, if not able to actually discover, what my purpose is while i’m here.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm

Cold enough for boots today. Brrrrr

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm

That’s very nice, SlimNu!

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm

I usually can’t wear boots unless it’s freezing (like today) outside. Otherwise I get too hot.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm

@Leggs

Again, we’re talking about four different things:
- casual sex vs a person sense of morality concerning a stranger’s actions, and

- the faulty logic of false causes that leads to an incorrect conclusion vs simply disagreeing with someone.

I do disagree with your assertion that someone else’s actions could be considered irresponsible, because only that person can determine the “irresponsibilty” of those actions.

I also disagree that someone taking an action that you personally don’t agree with somehow validates your assessment of that action – whether you deem it responsible or not.

Given that you agreed earlier that “worrying about what other people do” (paraphrasing) isn’t helpful in life, I don’t understand how you can employ that view for yourself and then apply it differently to someone else’s actions.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm

I want a gray pair.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:05 pm

@Celisea ~ I was going to ask who has on their new Christmas books, but didn’t think it was topic worthy (lol).

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:06 pm

@Dan, sweetie, don’t even worry because we didn’t start out talking about the same thing. My opinion is solely owned by me.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:07 pm

Dan in all that you just said – A person don’t have to be a participant of certain actions to identify…in this case promiscuity and calling it what it is does not make it passing judgement. How ever will you teach your children if only they can call a spade a spade if only can call it that based on experience only? All things aren’t meant to be experienced by all in order to identify with what it is….your logic is flawed.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:08 pm

Leggs – If we can bring a topic to a skreeching halt because a person don’t have anything to add or we can just flip the script, you can toss anything out there if you want…lol

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:08 pm

Afternoon, honey bunnies!

I hope everyone had a safe and happy NYE.

Did y’all see Dick Clark? He makes me so sad….. :(

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:11 pm

@Celisea ~ Yep!

@PR~ if you’re lurking, was wondering the other week if you’ve put in your application for Amazing Race????

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:13 pm

@Celisea ~ remember, just because we think the person is a spade doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a spade…and if we haven’t experienced it, we can’t speak on the positive or negative. Our thoughts doesn’t make it right…..

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
3:14 pm

@disco..I am excited for you..I like your last year resolution alot!!!

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:14 pm

Leggs – LOL…okay right…I’ll remember that.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:14 pm

@ITL ~ the man is 87 years old. I thought he looked rather good considering. He has looked far worse over the years.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:15 pm

I didn’t really pay attention to Dick Clark. I was at a nice gathering, small group of grown folks but didn’t pay attention. The convo was nice, the food was good and even though I haven’t had a sip of anything in 15 years, I had a sip or two of bubble :)

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:16 pm

Point was…t.v. was on but wasn’t paying attention.

disco

January 3rd, 2012
3:19 pm

87 years old? is he still wearing his signature hairstyle? I ask because I just watched an episode of unsung the other day (the bar-kays I think) and dick clark was on there with his hair swooped up in the front.

Into the Light

January 3rd, 2012
3:19 pm

It’s not his looks, it’s his speech since he had the stroke. It makes me sad that someone once so articulate now has difficulty being understood.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
3:22 pm

I meant because of his stroke he looked and sounded much better NYE. In the past, he looked and sounded a helluva lot worse.

Vesta Williams was on Unsung last night…looking forward to see that episode.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
3:23 pm

Sometimes I can’t watch Unsung…too sad.