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A year without sex?

I was watching a CNN report about a DJ in Canada that decided to abstain from sex for all of 2011. He survived and lived to tell! When I asked a few of my guy friends if they could go that long without, a lot of them said they could, they have, and they are doing so now. Shocking, isn’t it?

What if single people purposely took a year off from sex? Do you think the quality of our dating experiences would change? Could we even manage land a date?

When we take sex out of the equation, would our relationships stand a better chance of survival?

How much clarity do you think it could bring?

It’s only the third day of the year, maybe some of you will spend the next 362 days in a self-induced dry season? What do you think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
12:49 pm

czBrat/disco – That’s how I like ‘em. Juuuuust right. Not too big not too thin. Of course I don’t know if his wife (I’m assuming) was watching from afar because when he stepped closed to me (I was in a clothing store) and I looked him over, she came from out of nowhere and grabbed him…lol

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
12:51 pm

czBrat – Ting!! (that was the twinkle in my eye…lol)

czBrat

January 3rd, 2012
12:53 pm

ahhhh. gotta luv it when your mere presence/interest causes another chick to break out in a cold sweat.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
12:54 pm

czBrat – LOL He wasn’t wearing a ring. She showed me hers though..lol Gotta admit, she was a looker too. They actually looked nice together.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
1:03 pm

Submerging sexual urges….

Couldn’t do it….

does.not.compute.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:05 pm

Submerging sexual urges….

Couldn’t do it….ummmm, what if you had no one to do it with, would you just go out and get with any heifer???

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:09 pm

@Celisea ~ that posts of her showing you her ring reminded me of Raqi and her husband at the gas station and the woman constantly flipping her hair. It took of of Raqi’s will not be bust her upside her head (lol).

OUCH ! i bumped my head

January 3rd, 2012
1:09 pm

If the lord didn’t mean for you to touch it he would not have placed in in reach

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
1:11 pm

disco – I really can’t clown because the last dream like that I had included some old dude in overalls and dirty nails giving me the bidness. :shock: On top of that, he wouldn’t let me leave on my own free will

czBrat

January 3rd, 2012
1:13 pm

celisea, that sort of thing is always hilarious to me. when i come across such shenanigans i just step a little further away so she don’t fall on my head when she gets shot down.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:13 pm

How many arrests have you had OUCH, or doors slammed in your face????

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
1:15 pm

That’s funny Celisea…during the day I have to speak with a lot of dealers. You can always tell when you call a location if there is or has been trouble in paradise. The female will be like, this is his WIFE. How may I help you? :lol: I wanna say sometimes, cool off there tanto. Nobody is calling to get witcho man. :roll:

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
1:15 pm

Leggs – I understood her “marking” her territory. She didn’t have to do that though because I’m not one of those women that will roll up on a man. If I have the greenlight from him I’ll take the opening or I’ll give one if he seems like he might be receiptive but other than that, it’s not my style running up on a dude. She’en have to worry about that at all from me. I was just merely admiring his nicely chisled body…lol I wasn’t trying to go home or take him home with me. We were only in passing.

LOL at Ouch…guess that’s one way one can look at it :)

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
1:17 pm

Slim – I wanna say sometimes, cool off there tanto. Nobody is calling to get witcho man.

Exactly…it’s sooo not that deep. Even though according to Robert, there’s a severe shortage in men…lol

Ut oh, I though OUCH was talking about touching your yummy..

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
1:18 pm

Me too czBrat, never gotta worry about me. I’ll run the other way on my own.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:21 pm

@Celisea ~ but she didn’t know any of that about you. All she saw was another attractive woman scoping out her man (lolol).

Exiled!

January 3rd, 2012
1:22 pm

BAM……………….EXILED, BREAKING THE GLASS DOOR!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On topic:

A year without sex is like saying a year without breathing,sweating or taking a dump!

Sex is a natural oocurrence and if u dont do it,u balls start hurting and u still have to nutt, woman or no woman.

Why self inflict urself with ALL that and suffer the humiliation of masturbation when u can easily unload that rich and oozing goodness on a female? :lol:

Help me Understand Jesus!!!

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
1:25 pm

Yep Leggs, she was saying “move over” lol

SlimNu

January 3rd, 2012
1:27 pm

:shock: Here we go…

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
1:33 pm

@Leggs

One, someone that is comfortable enough with their sexual desires to explore them need not be a “heifer” or any other derogatory term;

Two, in my experience, there are plenty of women that explore those desires and fantasies when they understand that they’re not being judged – at least by me;

Lastly, while I am aware that there are people who portend to sit in judgement of others decisions, I know (and am attracted to) people that choose to live this life developing and refining their own personal philosophies about religion, sex, culture, etc.

czBrat

January 3rd, 2012
1:33 pm

being secure in oneself and one’s relationship is a beautiful thing. remembering not to take it for granted, though, that’s the kicker.

s/o had the biggest grin on his face one day as we were riding down the highway. i asked him whassup? he said “we just passed ‘your type’ guy driving a nice car and you didn’t even notice”. yeah. that is whassup! :)

perfect weather for wendy’s chilli and baked potato. oh how i wish they delivered.
later!

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:46 pm

@Dan ~ I was joking using that word. I realize we are grown and can do what we please. However, anyone who repeatedly satisfies their urges with people they don’t know and don’t care to get to know better definitely has issues. To seek the satisfaction of an urge without ever wanting/desiring the connection of another is a hurt person.

Any person who lacks self-control is a very dangerous person.

Exiled!

January 3rd, 2012
1:50 pm

what if its two people who mutually desire to satisfy the urge but nothing more after that, and nothing less?

there are a 1,000 + ways to skin a cat…..

dont fight the feeling…

gone,to watch a mouth watering english soccer tie

have a nice day folks

Purple

January 3rd, 2012
1:51 pm

Clairty comes by thinking before you act and not trying to hump everything moving.

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
1:53 pm

Serious question for ladies, how would you keep your man if you didn’t have a vagina?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
1:55 pm

@Purple

A query: have you learned more lessons in life via success or failure?

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:57 pm

That’s my point Purple! Even with two consenting adults.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:57 pm

How would you keep your woman if you didn’t have a big slong???

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
1:58 pm

Those two parts are not what’s keeping a relationship together.

Dude

January 3rd, 2012
1:58 pm

Mission, what the hell kinda question is that, that is kinda like saying how would you eat if you didn’t have a mouth. I am just coming back, and wow, is all I can say for a question like that.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
1:59 pm

@Purple

And I ask becuase for me, clarity has come (usually) as a result of making a miscalculation about a potential outcome – a mistaken judgement – and learning from those mistakes.

I take your point about ‘clarity’, but you’re speaking of clarity of purpose, even the most rational decision may not turn out like you plan.

#NBF, just offering an opinion

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
2:00 pm

@Leggs

Though, how would you know that you don’t like fried chicken – if you’ve never tried it? Isallimsayin

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:04 pm

Dude

January 3rd, 2012
1:58 pm

Mission, what the hell kinda question is that, that is kinda like saying how would you eat if you didn’t have a mouth. I am just coming back, and wow, is all I can say for a question like that.

A serious one.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:06 pm

Again, Dan. I’m talking about doing it ALL THE TIME. Not once in a while throwing caution to the wind. But to do it all the time just to satisfy an urge is irreponsible, no matter how you slice it.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:06 pm

irresponsible…

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm

Missionary Person – If I may, what’s the point in asking your question? What are your thoughts on how a man should be pleased by a woman without a vagina?

I’m just wondering where you’re going or trying to go with this one. I would think though since we all have one (I’m assuming we all do), we really can’t seriously answer that question. Just trying to see if it’s afternoon banter or what.

disco

January 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm

Mission – have you ever seen misery? I kid, I kid.

Kym

January 3rd, 2012
2:12 pm

Uhh I know I am late again to the convo..but uhh are there men out there who date women(real) without vaginas? I mean is there a market for this?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:12 pm

Dan – I know you’re having dialog with Leggs but in all seriousness (and I might sound naive), I really really really don’t want to be with a man that’s had tons and tons and tons of women. Just sexing everywhere and anything. I just don’t. No matter how many condums and protectin I just don’t. I think that’s reckless behavior.

kimmie

January 3rd, 2012
2:13 pm

I’ve learned a lot from mistakes, but I’m not discounting what I’ve learned by success by any stretch of the imagination! It’s very rewarding and less stressful to reach a goal thru good decision-making and patience versus having to learn the hard way.

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:13 pm

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm

Missionary Person – If I may, what’s the point in asking your question? What are your thoughts on how a man should be pleased by a woman without a vagina?

I’m just wondering where you’re going or trying to go with this one. I would think though since we all have one (I’m assuming we all do), we really can’t seriously answer that question. Just trying to see if it’s afternoon banter or what.

No, I really want to know how you’d keep your man around if you woke up tomorrow and didn’t have one. What would be your strategy?

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:14 pm

disco

January 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm

Mission – have you ever seen misery? I kid, I kid.

I’ll admit I laughed a little

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:20 pm

@Celisea ~ again, my point…makes no sense to me to be sexing all willy nilly because you can. There’s a lot in life we can do just because we can, but who we give our bodies to should be top on the list. We’re grown men and women, not young horndogs anymore who don’t know what the hell they’re doing and the repercussions that our actions may yield. If you don’t think a person should mull over their actions, I understand….

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
2:20 pm

post hoc ergo propter hoc

Effect (irresponsible) is not the same as causality (satisfying the urge repeatedly and/or with multiple partners).

That something turns out to be irresponsible (again, by who’s definition), does not make the act itself responsible. Thus, someone could satisfy those urges and not be irresponsible.

Again, NBF, just pointing out the flaw in the logic.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

January 3rd, 2012
2:21 pm

pardon, should have been “cum hoc ergo…”

Celisea

January 3rd, 2012
2:22 pm

Missionary – If I woke up tomorrow without one (from where I’m sitting now…cause I know I’ll have one tomorrow)…ummm here’s what I think. Understanding sexual organs were intially given for a man and woman to procreate…and that’s all, I would keep rolling with the relationship void of the onus being on me to “keep” him. God just gives that little extra of the “feel good” to keep us coming back. So I’d say I’m good with that and can live with mental stimulating to “keep” him but he would have to want to be kept I would suppose.

I do know though in addition to procreating I realize it’s also a means for man and woman to connect and become one. So again I dunno. It would depend on him and where he was mentally within our relationship.

Never though would he get the green light to have at it with another. If we’re married, the vows for better or for worse took care of that before my vagina disappeared overnight. Just like if he was terminally ill and his sickness prevented him mentally and physically from performing, I wouldn’t run out and get another. I’d hang in there and try to get by and stay mentally stimulated.

kimmie

January 3rd, 2012
2:22 pm

Mission – I think I know where you might be headed with your question and it’s actually a good one.

If all a woman has going for herself and all she brings to the relationship is her body(sex), then to wake up one day and not have that would likely be the end of the relationship. One needs to offer more than their body to sustain a successful relationship.

As for the answer, everything else that I had to attract him is what I continue to provide to keep him.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:22 pm

@Dan ~ the same way I know I don’t like chitterlings and I’ve never tried those. There are certain sensors in life that should stir a person away…my is sense of smell and often times, the way it looks.

How would you know you wouldn’t like a bucktooth, scab on smelly vagina if you’ve never had one. Going by someone elses criteria isn’t fair if you’re not trying it for yourself…..

Missionary position in silence

January 3rd, 2012
2:24 pm

The point I’m making is your vagina is your essence, your only essence.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2012
2:25 pm

@Dan, most arguments have a flaw if the person doesn’t agree.

“Thus, someone could satisfy those urges and not be irresponsible. ” – yep but to satisfy those urges all the time makes one irresponsible.