Tis the season to stress over gifts! The trickiest part of gift selection when you are dating comes down to this: should you get a big gift, little gift, or medium one?

I don’t believe spending a lot of money on someone you have just started dating is a great idea. I would even skip gift exchange altogether. I wonder though, when you have been in a committed relationship, do you think that giving an expensive gift is important?

If money is tight this year, what can you give the person you are dating that still makes a great impact?

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If you ever want to get great insight into the person you are dating, you have to see them in their “natural habitat” – and no I’m not referring to in the wilderness. I’m mean in their most relaxed environment, surrounded by friends and family. People who have known them the longest.

A friend of mine accompanied his girlfriend of 3 months to a holiday function this weekend. The young lady he is dating was surrounded by her sorority sisters. He was “horrified by the vapidness” that was her inner circle. I think he was a little too critical, but he feels that the whole “birds of a feather flock together” thing is valid.

When I asked him if his girlfriend was “vapid and shallow” before he met her friends, he said no. However, he noticed a personality shift. According to him, she was acting like a different person and now he wonders which personality is she actually closest to – the one when they are together. Or the one he saw this weekend.

Do you behave differently when you …

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Alright, listen up. I know it can be tough and slightly boring to be single during the holidays. It’s the season to be boo’d up and cuddled somewhere by a fire. It’s normal to want to spend cold nights with a warm body next to you! That’s no excuse to go on a heat seeking mission of finding some random person whose only appeal is body heat and a pulse.

I’m not saying not to date during the holidays. In fact, it’s the ideal time to go out: go to holiday parties, maximize those days off, ask someone out who sparks a real interest. But please, for the love of Baby Jesus, don’t get caught up in a fake relationship.

If you feel that you are getting fast tracked into meeting family members, exchanging pricey gifts, or accompanying someone you just met to the office party – keep in mind this may be temporary.

There are some people who want to avoid feeling lonely so they end up using people to fill a void. Try to keep things light and fun and if you aren’t sure about starting …

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Late office hours. Frequent business trips. Cancelled or postponed dates. If you are dating someone who is already “married to the job” then you are intimately familiar with all these. At some point you have to ask yourself: Is it worth it?

Dating someone who is ambitious, driven, and successful can be a great thing, but it comes with a price. Would you be willing to date someone with an extremely busy schedule? Do you think things will get better after you become exclusive or marry?

Have you ever dated someone who had a painfully small amount of time to spend with you? How did things progress to the next level with so little quality time?

If you are dating a workaholic – or have dated one before – how do you make it work?

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Out of all the “preferences” that we have, I believe the one about height is used by both genders the most. When we imagine our mates, we picture a certain image. So we use this image when choosing people to approach and date. Is height really a big deal though?

Why do we get hung up on how we look standing next to someone? If there is an attraction and chemistry, should height really come in to play at all?

I know a lot of men who say they are stereotyped by their height. What is it about height preference that matters so much?

Guys, would you date someone much taller than you are?

Ladies, do you have a problem dating someone who is shorter?

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There are certain things you have consider at the end of a relationship, fling, or situationship. How do I approach the topic of breaking up? Do I owe the person some explanation? Sometimes you even do all that you can to avoid the awkward conversations.

Of course, it’s not fun being a “bad guy” but you can’t always take the easy way out. Breaking up can be done in a way that both parties can accept and move on. It helps when it is done face to face though!

I have been dumped on the phone and I have been dumped in person. Guess which one stung the most?

Do you think the way you end a relationship makes a difference? What is the “right thing” to do in a break up? What is the wrong thing?

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Every time I think of my college days I remember that dating was not a big priority for me. Believe it or not, I was a raging nerd who was either in the chemistry lab or working! I often wonder if my dating options were most plentiful back then. Was it easier dating as a college student and I didn’t know it?

Well according to writer Brian Jenkins, women in Georgia colleges face some daunting challenges. Makes you wonder if college is the best shot at finding a mate. Or maybe it is simply the time to play it single?

Check out Brian’s guest blog about dating in college and weigh in!

W. Keith Campbell, psychology professor at the University of Georgia, believes women on gender-unbalanced campuses are paying a social price for success, precisely because they have outperformed men. Katie Deray, a senior at the school, stated, “If a guy is not getting what he wants, he can quickly and abruptly go to the next one, because there are so many of us.” She claims it’s common to see …

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Sometimes the quest for knowledge and information can backfire on you. That’s a nice way of saying being nosy can be detrimental to your relationships! Looking through phones or digging through personal property to find out something you feel entitled to know means you have a snooping problem.

I think snooping on the person you are dating is a symptom of trust issues. When you feel compelled to snoop instead of asking for information and accepting it as truth, you probably should ask yourself some honest questions. Why don’t you believe them? What have they done to make you think they are not telling the truth?

I am not a fan of snooping. Perhaps I am too lazy to do all that work just to find out something I probably already know. I don’t know how I would handle a snooping problem. What would you do if you were sabotaging your relationships?

Have you ever dated someone who violated your personal space and went through your things? What did you do?

What do you think is an …

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I don’t mean to be the bearer of bad news, but it seems as if Atlanta is a hotbed of infidelity. I can’t tell you the number of married men that proposition me or go way beyond simple flirting.

I know that love and commitment is hard at times, it’s natural to get tempted. I have not really heard of ways to deal with temptations though. How do you handle it when you are in a committed dating relationship?

What do you do if you meet someone really great while you are already exclusively dating someone else? How do you handle being tempted to cheat on them?

This could be a supremely naive question but is there a way to “cheat-proof” your relationship?

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