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Relationship growing pains

Most relationships undergo growing pains. This is the phase when a couple argues a lot and realizes how well they handle conflict. If you are in a relationship long enough, situations will come up to test you both. Some people wait this period out – waiting for things to get better. Others bail, cut their losses, and go seek out another mate thinking things will be different. They are never different.

Every dating relationship you have will require effort, work, and a lot of patience if it is going to last. A lot of us singles aren’t good at playing the waiting game though. The moment things get messy, challenging, or slightly imperfect – we check out!

I have been guilty of this before but I finally learned that you have to be willing to wait out the tough periods. Especially when the person is wait-worthy.

Do you have a hard time getting past the growing pains of a relationship? Do you have any advice for people who are just reaching that stage of bickering and arguing?

Instead of running for the hills, how do we improve our chances in the relationship waiting game?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

173 comments Add your comment

Kym

December 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm

I would like for Christmas..

1. New PJs(for relaxing)
2. Peace of mind
3. Health for me and the boy
4. Peace, Health and Safety for all my fam and friends
5..And a man with alot of money!!!(I kid..I kid..)

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm

Oh…and one more word to the topic – TheDude and I don’t argue or bicker “A LOT.” Yes, we have conflict and differences of opinion. He has p*ssed me off to the highest levels of p*sstivity. Bbut we don’t argue. We discuss. We may not be able to discuss right away. We may need some cooling off time. But the fussin’ and whoopin’ and hollerin and cussin’ and carryin’ on…We don’t do that.

disco

December 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm

nice to see I’m not the only one still here. that there is gift enough (sike – who am I kidding?)

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
3:35 pm

@SexyC ~ sounds like you’re in a budding, promising relationship that has led to an engagement. If you can’t discuss right at the moment, thank goodness you two know to go to neutral corners, NEVER throwing respect out the window.

Kym

December 22nd, 2011
3:41 pm

Has anyone read the Robin Thicke article in Essence about his music and marriage to Paula Patton? I am reading a little snippet..good article.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
3:43 pm

LOL at disco…misery loves company.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm

Is this a new article? I read one a while back where he spoke on how Paula was ashamed to be dating a white man in the very beginning, but she came around. She felt bad how she acted in the beginning. He spoke on how he pursued her and wasn’t hearing NO.

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm

A winning lottery ticket for a big jackpot….

disco

December 22nd, 2011
3:47 pm

leggs – I know a lot of the black women that I know personally who date/married white said they dated a white guy when they were finally at the end of their rope with black ones. in a few instances, that white guy just so happened to be the one.

Kym

December 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm

Ohh k..will looks like I can’t post it..

Kym

December 22nd, 2011
3:59 pm

One more try..robin Thicke Says Black Women arent better off with white men..

To sum it up is that there are good black men out there..he knows them, most of his guy friends are black..and that white men are the ones with the problems..

czBrat

December 22nd, 2011
4:00 pm

hola all,

kym, i haven’t read essence in forever. but i heard him interviewed on the radio not too long ago. it’s cool the way he talks about his relationship. and they seem to really enjoy each other in his video. perhaps it’s all for the cameras (and mics), but it’s heartwarming just the same.

leggs, who are you calling for the x-factor win tonight? i know you were heartbroken when chunkers had her meltdown. lol.
my money has been on melanie since the auditions and it still is. i’m realy impressed with how chris rene has hung in there tho.

Kym

December 22nd, 2011
4:00 pm

Now on that note I bid ya’ll good night..be safe and have a happy holiday(whichever one you celebrate)

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm

But seriously…I have so many things that I want but nothing I *need*. I could always use a phone upgrade. Having just bought a house, we can always find places to spend money there. I’m always good for a trip or three. Spa gift certificates. DSW gift cards. Anything running related.

And I could go on.

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
4:04 pm

czB – as SOON as I subscribed Essence and O, I haven’t read a single issue. #What’sUpWithThat

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
4:10 pm

Oh…and have I mentioned the hills at Peachtree Corners today? Methinks I’m still traumatized….(lol)

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
4:15 pm

@czB ~ stop calling my portly firecracker “chunkers” (lol). Last night show was horrible and I don’t understand the pairing….Josh is going to take it all the way. BUT, Melanie sang her freaking out with her last number.

czBrat

December 22nd, 2011
4:29 pm

are we sharing wish lists? to the extreme, i’d love a trip to cabo. on the real, i’d like a runner’s watch. in a pinch, gift certificates to vicky’s are always welcome. :)

leggs, i realize josh could be the upset of the century but i WILL NOT give creed to that possibilty.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
4:42 pm

Since everyone seems to be gone, Chris Renee is good but his style is one dimensional. He’s tight in writing his own lyrics, but a concert I dunno….

Josh is more versatile than Chris. Melanie has mad vocals but she’s somewhat boring.

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2011
4:44 pm

Yeah…I’ve been thinking about that Garmin…(just thinking though…for now, I will use my trusty (and free) MapMyRun app on my two year old BB for distance. And my MIO watch that I won to count calories.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL OF MY FELLOW BLOGGERS.

MY GIFT TO YOU IS LOVE AND RESPECT ALWAYS!!!!

czBrat

December 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm

quittin time and it seems the heavens just opened up a fresh downpour. :(

be safe, ladies.

ciao!

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