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Non-negotiable: Men pay for first date

I was getting a little insight about men from a married couple. They shared a lot of interesting things but the one they both agreed on was that men should always, always, always pay the bill on the first date.

Apparently, I should not take a man seriously, if he does not feel happy and eager to pay for an evening date. I can be traditional, so I can appreciate the sentiment behind this idea.

Dating – in a lot of ways – sets the tone of the relationship. Maybe that is not the case for everyone, but generally people who seek a relationship, look at dating behaviors when seeking potential mates.

When a man allows a woman to pay her own way on a first date, does it prove anything about his character? Does it say something about what he thinks of her?

What happens when a woman decides to spring for the first meal? Would it be a sign she is rich, pushy, or overbearing?

Have you ever gone dutch on a first date? If so, was there a second date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

lee

December 21st, 2011
6:34 am

Yes he should until you are in a commented relationship. also open up the door for her as well, and lady’s don’t forget to say Thank you. I heard on the radio that us women no longer want a man to open up doors , “it takes away our power” well they didn’t ask me or any of my girl friends , we do and it doesn’t take away power (that is just plain crazy) i want my man to be a man !

USMC

December 21st, 2011
6:45 am

“When a man allows a woman to pay her own way on a first date, does it prove anything about his character? Does it say something about what he thinks of her?”

It says that the man respects the woman as an equal.

Women(not all) don’t REALLY want equal rights, they want SPECIAL rights.

Grow up Ladies; you’re not a little girl anymore. :-)

GreatALTGuy

December 21st, 2011
6:45 am

@lee – what is a “commented” relationship – brainless gold digger… go back to school to learn how to write a sentence

Joe

December 21st, 2011
6:53 am

A great man once said, “people are nothing but hookers and johns”. How true. Men not paying for things just upsets the natural balance.

Enemas for Easter

December 21st, 2011
6:55 am

If I have to pay, then you ladies are not getting lucky.

First date is always dutch. If you want to be treated as equal, then act like it. Otherwise, stay home to cook and clean.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
7:05 am

Play it by ear, if I am going after a rich cougar, she pays, if I am going after a chick that is out of work, I pay, situation decides what happens. Just 2 examples

Dude

December 21st, 2011
7:22 am

Frankly though, if a girl doesn’t work, I generally speaking won’t touch that, she is bound to become clingy and dependent, big warning sign, if she can’t get a job, keep a job, etc etc. She is going to the curb really quick.

ken

December 21st, 2011
7:37 am

When you invite someone to an event, the one who initiated the invatation should be responsible for the cost, be it a couple of buds to a ballgame, or a date…. and since the one initiating the date is generaly male, he should pay, but in this “progressive”age in which we live, if she should be the one asking… then….

You pegged it

December 21st, 2011
7:48 am

And Diva………that’s why those men are married.

I’m just about sick to death of men stepping out of the natural balance of things. I just wish women would wise up. For all the men complaining I can bet my life you all are the biggest horn dogs wanting to f@ck and no doubt on the regular. I bet you are the ones seeking easy. Ass is not for sell per se but d@mmit what else the hell yall want? Made by God to d@am pursue and too lazy to do that. Every one of you lazy mofos need a warning signal to sound if ya’ll just stand ya ass anywhere near a woman so she can run her ass the other way. Lazy bastids. I’m sick of reading this mentality every morning. Quick f@cking if you can’t spring a d@mn burger!

Foxy

December 21st, 2011
7:56 am

GM Kids:

If Foxy invites, Foxy pays. But thats some grown azz woman isht. lol

You pegged it

December 21st, 2011
7:57 am

If you’re taking your ass after anybody, my guess is you’re meaning sex and not a relationship, if you can’t spring for a date you are all out trifling. I can bet every one of you represent that man that wants it the first night. What the hell is your part, the man part in all this? Like I said women need to wise up and starve lazy bastids out of the game. Those men well deserving should be fed and have it served up.

Foxy

December 21st, 2011
8:03 am

Dude

December 21st, 2011
8:13 am

Pegged-
You sound angry, and you seem like you are acustomed to to being waited on hand and foot. You may not be, but that is how it is coming off.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
8:22 am

Ok- Good guys pay for the check, nice guys would if they could get a date, bad guys don’t pay for jack, of the 3 of these categories, which one do you think gets the most dates?

RJ's WIFE aka QC

December 21st, 2011
8:24 am

Morning All- When I was dating and invited a guy out for dinner, movie etc. I always paid and didn’t have a problem with it. I mean really it’s time for a change it’s not 1940 spend a little something on your date. HELL PAY FOR IT ALL & LEAVE A TIP…GEESH!!! Have a great day everyone
p.s. DEMI – it you’re lurking HAPPY HOLIDAYS :)

You pegged it

December 21st, 2011
8:26 am

@Foxy I’m in a thriving relationship for about 6 months now. It’s all good :)

You pegged it

December 21st, 2011
8:32 am

We’ve also looked at rings!

EJ

December 21st, 2011
8:34 am

Of course the man should pay. After you are in a relationship then the woman can pay sometimes. I would not go out with a guy that could not pay. At least wait until you have been dating a while to expect a woman to pay. If you want to go Dutch you can go out with your girlfriends. That’s why these guys are some weak now. Some of them need a real man to train them.

MoneyTrain

December 21st, 2011
8:34 am

My goal–find a rich cougar type who wants to pamper me with her money—I’ll pay on the first date and let her spoil me later with pricey stuff.

Jeff

December 21st, 2011
8:38 am

I do it. BUT!!!!!!!!!!!! I chose very wisely who to go on a date with.

The days of blanket non-negotiables are over. As a group, women can’t demand equality in the professional world and with equal pay and also demand inequality when it comes to dating finances. Sorry, you made your bed as a group, now you have to deal with the fallout.

You pegged it

December 21st, 2011
8:38 am

And that brings me back to Diva’s post. Those men Diva mentioned knew without hesitation how to make things happen. That’s what a real relationship is all about. Maybe we should differentiate when discussing real relationships as opposed to those that are just out scamming and scrapping. Real expectations. Willing to give to get. I’m more than wiling to give because the love of my life gives to me unconditionally.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
8:43 am

Conversation I had at my building with someone I go outside to smoke cigarettes with

Me- So you go out to bars all the time
Her- Yeah
Me- That must cost you a fortune, I see the type of places you got to
Her- No, I buy my first drink and I let guys buy the rest of my drinks all night
Me- So you must be getting calls from these guys all the time
Her- Every once in a while I call them, just to keep them on the hook, so I can get drinks the next time I go to the bar.
Me- What ever works for you
Her- That is a perk of being a woman
Me- That is a hellava perk
Her- I love being a girl

Simply wow!

December 21st, 2011
8:46 am

@USMC “Women(not all) don’t REALLY want equal rights, they want SPECIAL rights.”

This so true. Men were required to pay during a time when women didn’t have equal means to earn a similar income. It was reasonable to assume the man should pay if women weren’t permitted to get the same type of job (or, even vote). Things are very different in 2011. For the most part, the glass ceiling has been broken. I find it amazing that women have managed to keep this tradition alive while ignoring all the oppression that was associated with it in the past. The fact that we fall for it and even defend it is just another example of how women are apparently smarter than men.

CoolShadow

December 21st, 2011
8:46 am

What happens when a woman decides to spring for the first meal?

I’d be flattered by the gesture, but I’d still pay. The fact that she offered is noble on her part, plus I’m of the mindset that I’ll always spring for the first date. I view it as one of the unwritten rules of dating. I also assume that she might be testing me, i.e., she makes the offer and I allow her to pay, then there won’t be a second date. Since I’ve always paid for first dates, this really isn’t an issue for me.

Would it be a sign she is rich, pushy, or overbearing?

Measuring wealth by who springs for the first date? …okay. How about that she’s assertive and very interested in the guy, why does she have to be pushy and overbearing?

Mike

December 21st, 2011
8:47 am

It’s a joke that women continue to cling to these expectations. If a guy chooses to pay the tab you should be thankful for the small gift. It’s the double talk about expectations that make things so complicated. Women EXPECT to be treated as equals but also EXPECT special treatment. Do you think that meal was more delicious for the man because you were there? It wasn’t. To quote an earlier post, “people are nothing but hookers and johns.”

AJ

December 21st, 2011
9:21 am

Women expect to be treated like women. Nothing more nothing less. When two people are really feeling one another I think this is a non issue. IMO those that are so worried about doing “too much” or making sure the scales stay balanced are the ones keeping score. Really loving a person removes all the dribble or who’s doing too much. It just gets done.

Cool Shadow, nice post

Harder...please.

December 21st, 2011
9:23 am

If I ask, I pay. If she asks, she pays. This isn’t rocket science, people. Seems to me back in the day I don’t remember dating being this complicated.

Audra

December 21st, 2011
9:33 am

I have to agree with the men who say that women who are into equality should also be willing to pay. I usually play it by ear. Often on a first date I split things – he buys dinner, I buy drinks, or I buy dinner, he buys the movie, etc. It’s a nice gesture for a man to pay for things, and of course, I would NOT date some lazy dude who wouldn’t pay at all. That’s just poor character. But women do need to realize that with equality comes responsibility.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
9:37 am

BRAVO!!! Audra!!!

Mike P

December 21st, 2011
9:39 am

the problem is that the “bad boys” are playing the good girls and the “bad girls” are gaming the good guys.

all the bad people should move to the left side of the room and play themselves while the good people move over to the right side of the room so they can date amongst themselves without fear or concern of being played.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
10:00 am

OK trying to play this as evenly and as fairly as I can, what “entitlements” should a person get purely based on gender, not race, not job, not worth, purely on gender.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
10:04 am

U answered ur own question..you are a Traditionalist so u expect a man to pay!

A man does not have to pay on the first date. It just depends on whether he is a new wave kinda guy or a Traditionalist,like the expectant woman. If they both are not Old school,there should be no expectation on anybody’s part about the other’s money!
No man wants to be a sponsor,paying just to conversate(lol,I know) with some stranger.

It would be nice if a chic genuinely reached for her wallet when the check comes.

Most tho,are just fake,broke and not even classy like that!

I would offer to pay personally…no,I mean,I would pay.

Because I am a Traditionalist!

Good morning!

Jeff

December 21st, 2011
10:04 am

Where are the women who like to label certain men knuckle-dragging neanderthals and who like to say “this ain’t the 50’s anymore”?

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
10:07 am

Good muggy morning!

The man has always paid for every 1st date I’ve been on. However, thereafter, I have no problem treating every now & then as well. I never want a person to feel I’m trying to take advantage of them or don’t appreciate their generosity. Even after the relationship has gotten well on its way, I still take time to thank them for dinner, picking me up a sandwich, scrambling some eggs, making me hot tea, washing my car, or just for passing me the grey poupon lol. It’s a matter of appreciation & respect.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
10:11 am

Morning, all.

So, maybe I’m too much of a “brass tacks” kinda girl, but here’s the thing – if either of us is worried about who is picking up the check at the end of the night, we’re not “present” during dinner/drinks, when we could be taking the time to get to know each other and find out if there’s chemistry. I’ll agree with the blogger who said that people who worry about such things are the kind who keep score.

Bottom line: I don’t care who pays, or if we do something free. If I’m enjoying your company, the rest is just bookkeeping.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
10:14 am

ITL- I like that

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
10:17 am

Thanks, Dude. :)

Morning, Slim! When will you hear something about your exams? Are you feeling better today?

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
10:25 am

Good morning.

On my way to the thrift store. Called my friend to see what she wanted me to pick up for her and she informed me today is not the last Wednesday of the month. So glad I called her, and feeling good that I was still in my subdivision.

Here’s the bottom line. If he asked me out on the first date, I definitely would think he would pay. If I asked him out, I will pay. However, this isn’t set in stone since I was asked out on a date a few months back, met at the place and when check came he asked me for my half. Then, he stayed seated at the table when it was time to go because he was waiting on his ride…Mommy, please come get me now…..

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
10:27 am

somebody has to do the bookkeeping still..ITL

its not like paying for a dinner date is an insignificant expenditure…

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
10:30 am

And, while he pays the check, I leave the tip. Sometimes he lets me, sometimes not.

The guy who took me for my bday massage paid for everything that day. Spoke with him this morning and asked him out for dinner which I will pay for. It really isn’t brain surgery….

Dude

December 21st, 2011
10:33 am

AT Ex- There are some women that want 3 appetizers, plus desert, plus the most expensive entree, plus demand a good tip be left, and not willing to pay a dime of it, and not even eat everything that she ordered, after that date, I watch myself very carefully on if I am going to pay or not.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
10:35 am

Leggs!

maybe u can pay for the date and let him do the massage on u this time! :lol:

:lol:

NY eve day maybe looking really promising Leggs. :lol:

Imagine! (locked in an embrace11:56pm, ,eye to eye..and connected by the umbilical down there!) :lol:

LeeH1

December 21st, 2011
10:36 am

I agree that men should always pay. Women belong to the rich men, after all. Poor guys without money shoudn’t go on dates, since they can’t sqire the women around. Men who can’t/won’t work are scum, and should be denied the company of women if they can’t pay for themselves and the woman, too.

Survival of the fittest, dude! “Da rich gets da b!tch!”

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
10:38 am

Exactly Dude!

some of them are just not classy nor appreciative At All..dating,for a guy,is (can be) expensive.

U gotta weed them out carefully..

CoolShadow

December 21st, 2011
10:43 am

@Dude’s 10:33- If that scenario happens, there’s no need for a 2nd date. Chalk up the cost of dinner to a life lesson.

disco

December 21st, 2011
10:45 am

leggs – you should hit the spot anyway. there might just be something there for you. if you wait until next Wednesday it might be gone.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

December 21st, 2011
10:46 am

since I was asked out on a date a few months back, met at the place and when check came he asked me for my half. Then, he stayed seated at the table when it was time to go because he was waiting on his ride…

:shock: damn…really?!

As previously stated…dating is not rocket science and it’s all about choices. If yoU ask someone out etiquette dictates that yoU pay and vice versa. Some of you fellas sound a lil jaded b/c you’ve dated the selfish entitled woman who expects everything…and that didn’t rub you the right way..well sorry but isht happens, just don’t do it again m’kay. Just see it as a learning experience and move on…and that sentiment goes for both sexes. That being said, please keep in mind that even though a woman is independent and self sufficient she STILL likes to be treated like a LADY.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
10:48 am

You got a point there, disco. Thought about it, but now making breakfast.

@Ex ~ paying for the date, but no full body massage. This will only be my 2nd time out with him. No body contact, and definitely no umbilical cord entanglement!!

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
10:49 am

What’s for breakfast, Leggs, and what time should we be there? :)

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
10:49 am

ITL – I’m not sure when I’ll know. Guess I’ll just keep checking online…I feel like this bug is just in my throat and nose area. Hopefully it’s not sinus cold. :(

Robert

December 21st, 2011
10:49 am

“What happens when a woman decides to spring for the first meal? Would it be a sign she is rich, pushy, or overbearing?”

From my experience it depends on her “strategy”. Women always have a plan and will execute their plan if they have a sincere interest in a Man. For example confident women are not afraid to “put their money where their mouth is” if they feel the benefits outweigh the risks. In today’s dating world trying to find a match requires different tactics and investing in technology (internet, facebook, etc.). Women who are savvy enough will take advantage of any opportunity to catch “Mr. Right” and will – spring for the first meal – as part of her overall “strategy” for success.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
10:51 am

Slim: did you try the cayenne capsules? They really do work. You can also dissolve some cayenne in warm water and gargle with it for your throat. Feel better! :)

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
10:56 am

Breakfast is maple sausage patties, grits, scrambled eggs w/cheese and biscuits, and a nice, cold glass of milk.

disco

December 21st, 2011
10:58 am

leggs – shut up.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
11:02 am

@Leggs: You forgot to say what time I should be there. LOL J/K, we’re taking off for the Flying Biscuit in less than an hour..

Dude

December 21st, 2011
11:04 am

Leggs- did I hear you right that you went out with a guy that wanted to split the bill and had to be picked up by his mom. You also had said that you picked up some clothes the other day from the 70’s are you robbing the cradle or something or giving guys that should be on their own a chance they truely don’t deserve

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

December 21st, 2011
11:08 am

did I hear you right that you went out with a guy that wanted to split the bill and had to be picked up by his mom.

I had to re-read that myself to make sure I seent what I seent…I just hope it wasnt’ really his mama that was picking him up.

cba

December 21st, 2011
11:09 am

Leggs~ glad to see you have added grits back on your menu :-)
Maple sausage??

BlackMagicWoman

December 21st, 2011
11:10 am

Hey hey folks….chiming in from a dreary but unseasonably warm NYC…considering that Sunday jack frost was nippin’ at my @$$!

When a guy asks me out, I feel he should pay. But do I expect it? NO! My mom always taught me to not order what I can not pay for. And when the check comes, I genuinely ask what my half is because I do intend on paying for myself. Now if he covers the check, I ask can I at least cover the tip. No of course the one who pays the bill gets more of my consideration for a second date or even if there will be another conversation after the date. Like LEGGS, I believe that if I ask a guy to the movies or dinner, I will pay. Some guys feel weird and just won’t let that happen. I will insist. But if he is adament about it, then I will let him pay.

Hmmmm...

December 21st, 2011
11:11 am

@Dude why do you assume Leggs is robbing the cradle? I don’t recall her mentioning her age?

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
11:11 am

@Dude ~ not robbing the cradle. The mommy reference was a joke. Yes, he asked me for my half which I gave w/o blinking an eye because nothing is guaranteed in life. I found out while there that he was dropped off and had to wait for his ride to come back and pick him up. Haven’t seen him since, he called once but I have DNA by his name (thank you bloggers) and have since deleted his number. I left his number in my phone just to see if he had the nerve to call, and he did. I’m not the one to leech off.

Dude, I’m still walking solo because I’m not giving someone a chance who doesn’t deserve it.

Hmmmm...

December 21st, 2011
11:12 am

Neither did she mention the man’s age. How did that question come into play at all? Hmmmmmm

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
11:12 am

ITL – I only made 2 stops after work: the gym, then home….I may pick some up today though. Thanks for asking ;)

DreamsMaterialize

December 21st, 2011
11:15 am

When a man allows a woman to pay her own way on a first date, does it prove anything about his character? Does it say something about what he thinks of her?
No. The only thing it proves is what she ASSUMES about his character and what she ASSUMES he thinks about her. I dated a woman who wouldn’t let me pay until we were more serious. She said she just wanted us to hang out and have fun without any expectations or pretenses. As we got more serious, she eventually felt comfortable with me paying. It was a bit of a different approach than many women take, but I respected it and was ok with it. Paying or not paying is no big deal to me. We overthink dating too much. Just go with the flow. If you see there is no flow, then stop going.

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
11:20 am

Morning All,

On topic – If I ask her out then I pay. This is not really that hard. I’ll side with the ladies on this one just for GP. Seems like we have plenty of dudes out here that are either jilted/jaded or looking for a loophole in the game. If this is really a big deal to you dudes then find a better way to play. Get creative and find some activities for your date that are less stressful to your wallet. If you are keeping score by your wallet then you are already a sponsor. Embrace It.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
11:21 am

Hmmm
In a different topic, Leggs had mentioned that she picked up some blouses in the 70’s, which would make me think that she is an older woman or time traveler, which one do you think is more likely. And in reference to the guy, if he has no vehicle, he is asking to split the check after he asked her out, and from what I gathered, missed the joke, he had his mom picking him up. Which led to my conclusion that he is either someone that can’t make it on his own or he is very young. Does that aproprietly answer your question.

disco

December 21st, 2011
11:24 am

leggs – another alternative to DNA is to assign the “no ring” ringtone. I love that one.

re guy needing a ride after the date. I had a friend hook me up with a friend of hers. he always suggested I drive and I always insisted that I’d meet him wherever. turns out he had a DUI conviction and a breathalyzer installed in his car. in my mind the solution to that was “dude don’t drink”. in his mind I was supposed to be his designated driver. I think I mentioned on here that my friends SUCK when it comes to matchmaking.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

December 21st, 2011
11:28 am

LIke that 11:20 Willie D…

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
11:30 am

@cba ~ I’ve missed my grits. Today is the first day I’ve had some since the beginning of the year. I figured my exercise regime is in tact that I can eat them in moderation.

Too funny. @Hmmm most here know my age, but would love to be a time traveler.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
11:50 am

Did everyone check out already???

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
11:51 am

@Dude ~ For the record, I didn’t buy clothes from the 70’s. That day I had on a blouse I bought back in the late 70’s.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
11:54 am

That is what I meant, that was where the whole time traveler comment came in, sorry I wasn’t more specific

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
11:54 am

11:24@disco!

Yea,real funny..

a drink habit??

proly sick but an adult with no car because they’re broke…?..broke to be incapable of owning a car?

Yea,chics are in trouble really!

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
11:56 am

Leggs – I’m mobile today but I’m still lurking…it’ll probably be low attendance for the next couple of weeks. I hate it because it makes the time go by even slower

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:01 pm

Since it’s noon, I have a question. Was watching a show last night where this statement was made. “He used you to get to your friend.” Have any of you dated someone just to get close to the friend?

If so, were you successful? Or, well you ousted when your game blew up?

Of course this is a scenario from our younger days, but going down memory lane is sometimes fun.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
12:02 pm

Negative, I don’t wanna be down stream from my friends

Dude

December 21st, 2011
12:03 pm

Meaning I wouldn’t want to get with one of my friends girls, nor would I want to try and get between twon girlfriends

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
12:10 pm

“Have any of you dated someone just to get close to the friend?”

That’s tacky as sht. (lol)

That being said, I have been “tried” by someone who met a friend of mine first, then after meeting me, tried to get at me with the “I wish I would have met you first.” line. My response, “I’m glad you didn’t.”

Dude

December 21st, 2011
12:19 pm

I was only doing you to get to Mary GREAT!!!!

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
12:22 pm

Heyyy Sassy

Leggs – To answer your ? No I have never went after a Friends girl or used a girl to go after her friend. However I have been on the other side.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

I have beeen with a chicks that were friends with each other, but I never went in with that intention.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:26 pm

@SexyC ~ that has happened to me. One of my friends came over with her then bf for dinner. He was a very nice man and treated her well (at least in public). During the evening he cornered me in the kitchen and told me he wished he had met me before he got in deep with her. My response was “apparently you aren’t deep into her if you’re wishing for something else. Go sit down!” That time, I didn’t say anything to her.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:29 pm

Hey WillieD.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
12:31 pm

No Leggs! but I met two chics once in a club when younger.

I wanted the other one..made an approach to talk to them as they were sitting/standing on the side.

The one I really wanted didn’t bite…at least not as enthusiastically as the other one…

I went with the flow and said….fish is fish…

Caught her…we had fun for many months.

A few years later,maybe 2/3,I met the one I really wanted then at her job and confessed what was on my mind back then when we met…

Both myself and her had really moved on and grown!

Funny titbit…I was visiting her(the one I caught) in another city one time and they were rooming together. We went to a club that nite.(3 of us)..and some local dude came to join our table and wanted the friend.

I tried my very best to cork block…coz I still had the ugh for the friend..to No avail!

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! :lol:

czBrat

December 21st, 2011
12:33 pm

i am extremely late and no time to catch up but, Mike P, LUV your 9:49!

brb

HiYas!

disco

December 21st, 2011
12:33 pm

leggs – I personally never used someone to get close to their friend but back in the day I had plenty of fake friends trying to use me to get at some of my cousins. heck, truth be told some chicks still try to cozy up so they can be around the family gatherings to get around the cousins. I don’t know what the cousins are doing but they must be doing it well. and some of these particular cousins aren’t worth the spit it would take to cuss them but chicks love them.

disco

December 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

exiled – please share your blocking methods. low key blocking or in your face blocking?

LL411

December 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

I recenlty started dating again after long time guy and I ended. A friend of mine always wanted me to meet someone she thought would be a good match, she passed on his phone number and I called him (no problem). Becaused she’d probably told him the same thing over a period of time… ten minutes into the intro he asked to meet a few days later with a plan (activity) in mind WOW! great. He paid, lovely. I’d been thinking about him the following week so…. I invited him out, I paid for dinner and drink, after awhile not ready for the nigth to end suggested we move somewhere else… easy breezy we did, he ordered us another driink and paid.

With the above said, I think we are off to a nice start. I expressed my desire to see him this week and he accepted…

Thank you to all my blog therapist.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

I didn’t say anything to my friend either. (I just didn’t want that between her and me – if that makes any sense.)
Their assocation turned out to be short lived as it were.

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
12:36 pm

Leggs -Hey Ms.lady how are you?

Ex – you just greedy Man.

disco

December 21st, 2011
12:38 pm

willie d – for ex, that was the “one that got away”.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
12:39 pm

@disco..I was in her face(the friend) telling her how No good dude was,and just saying negative stuff about him when he left to go to bathroom etc..she had no known boyfriend that I knew of.

But to really rub it on my face and make me sore..dude convinced her to go with her..(slick Willy!)

They broke bread that nite!

Well,I did too but I had a lump on my throat still ! :lol:

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:41 pm

Thanks to those who answered. I thought it happened much.

The questioned resonated with me because I remember Eric asking me out only to find out he really wanted my cousin. He got with her, married her, had children, loved each other dearly then someone shot and killed him.

disco

December 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

ex – now that was funny. you were really throwing salt in dude’s game. my first thought was you caught the vapors. remember biz markie’s song? still – that is a sucky feeling to watch the object of your affection all up in somebody else’s face. I learned early to travel with chicks that were either not as attractive as I was or reasonably close to being on the same playing field. I’ll be darned if I’m ever going to be the ugly duckling in the group.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

It makes perfect sense, SexyC. Not all things have to be said to the friend. Sometimes you can nip it in the bud yourself without friction. Now, if friction should arise, then we all know what to do.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

Oh SlimNu?!
forgot to tell you..

U deserve what u got with that Sore throat! :lol:

get better tho!

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
12:46 pm

12;44 Classic Meelo

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:46 pm

Dayyuumnmm, Ex. You’re doing the tango with your woman that evening, but a lump is in your throat over her friend and that dude. You are a hot mess (lol).

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
12:51 pm

Exiled – I’m not in the mood for your assumptions…who deserves a sore throat. BAH HUMBUG! Plus the beau is not even in the country right now so surely you could not be implying what I think you’re trying to imply.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
12:52 pm

Lol Willi!

guys,it’s amazing the Diplomatic negotiations that go on, on a nite club dance floor,when dude and chic meet and dance a couple of times.

@Leggs..I really liked that chic(friend) ..the one I caught had a nice body but facially,she didn’t compare.

Vane I know!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
12:56 pm

@Ex ~ facially, she didn’t compare. No, that’s not vane, that’s shallow and greedy!

Dude

December 21st, 2011
12:58 pm

Giving a girl a facial is shallow and greedy….oops ready that wrong lol

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
1:01 pm

Aaaaand yall really wanna know why they complain about paying for the first date.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
1:03 pm

LOL Willy, a joke every once in a while, shovenistic as it may be can still be funny

Dude

December 21st, 2011
1:03 pm

Sorry I appologize ladies

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:05 pm

If Ex doesn’t apologize for half the stuff he posts, you don’t need to (lol). That post wasn’t offensive, Dude.

Willie Dynamite

December 21st, 2011
1:08 pm

Dude- agreed, you and Ex are both very consistent. No apologies needed.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:08 pm

Lawdy mercy. I come back from the Biscuit and y’all have moved on to users and facials. smh (but still LOL).

(waving) Hey Willie D! Long time, no see. Ready for the bowl games?

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:10 pm

Still catching up, but this summarizes perfectly what I was trying to convey this morning:

Paying or not paying is no big deal to me. We overthink dating too much. Just go with the flow. If you see there is no flow, then stop going.

Well said, Dreams!

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
1:11 pm

U got a sense of humor Dude..at least by me. Lol

why suddenly I think of the word Swallow?

Lunch time maybe.. :lol:

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm

what can I use to treat a self induced bite wound on the tip of my tongue?

I bite myself accidentally when I chew gum sometimes (lots of times)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm

I read a few then had to skip over the whining, if she’s out for a free meal pay it and don’t take her out anymore it’s that easy. Keeping tabs on dates wont get anywhere, if I could I wouldn’t take back any of the money I’ve spent on dates. It’s a price I pay to learn what to and not to do with the next lady.

Alternative BM

December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm

A man always pays on any dats I go on!

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:27 pm

Ex: First, don’t stick out your tongue while chewing. Second, a little ice would probably make it feel much better.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:28 pm

(waving and ringing the jingle bells): Hey BF!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:29 pm

Oh yeah, I invited BF out Friday for a bday drink and we had wings and margarita. I offered to pay, but he picked up the tab…I offered to leave tip but he told he got it covered…thanks again!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:30 pm

Hey Light:

It’s Christmas time in the city. I see your silver bells.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:31 pm

Here’s a novice idea, Ex….stop chewing gum.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm

I love Silver Bells. It’s one of my favorite Christmas songs. Some people call Hershey’s Kisses silver bells…I like those, too.

Ooooh, Leggs! Sounds like a fun night. Deets….. :)

Kym

December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm

Good Afternoon Rice Krispy Treats!

I think it can go either way..Dutch the first time or guy pays..whateva the two agree on..I think most first dates should be coffee anyway..or some light refreshment..no need to go big if all you are trying to do is play the get to know you game.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm

LOL@Leggs’ 1:31 :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm

(waving and doing the reindeer prance): Hey cuz Kym!!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm

O/T ~ My daughter has had a friend over since Sunday eve. We all went to the hairdresser yesterday. I was getting my hair washed when I looked over to see her friend sitting in the waiting section waiting for us to finished. She had a wool skull cap on and I got an idea. I gave her an early Christmas present and asked my stylist to go get her and do her hair as well…she came running over to me almost knocking me out the chair (lol)…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm

Leggs thank you for the invite, no biggie as it’s what a man is built for to have his family and friends covered at his expense. No problem here defining what it takes to be a man and show it.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
1:37 pm

thank God Leggs,it is Not my fav weapon of choice…unlike someof y’all!

:lol:

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

Oh ITL,I don’t do the stick out tongue thing

that’s girly..

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

Leggs – dang, I should’ve been there for the complimentary hair appointment. I could use some pampering…lol. That was very thoughtful of you!

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

And I bet she will never forget your kindness, Leggs! So nice to see folks who still remember and display the holiday spirit. Proud to know you, ma’am. :)

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
1:40 pm

ITL – Silver Bells is one of my fave’s too…especially this version…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_IQAnGQCG4

Dude

December 21st, 2011
1:41 pm

You know off topic, I remember growing up and people would be saying merry xmas all month at places of business, I haven’t heard it once this season.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
1:41 pm

Blessed to be a blessing…

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm

Speaking of which, Hanukkah began last night.

Happy Hanukkah!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm

What cha talking about, Willis/Ex???

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm

Light:

A friend gave me a cd with Christmas music on it, 25 songs by various artist. Every song you can imagine is on it, I had stop playing it for a while cause I might get too attached to it and play it through next year……..LOL

Dude

December 21st, 2011
1:43 pm

Also off topic, if anyone here owns their own house, call your bank and ask to streamline your mortgage, I am saving about 90K on the 30 year loan which equates to about 300 bucks off my payment every month, it is worth looking into.

cba

December 21st, 2011
1:46 pm

Leggs~ you’re always doing kind gestures……really nice lady.
Oh, yesterday’s topic, my best “date” for this year was because of
your generosity, thanks again from me and wifey.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
1:48 pm

Tell your friend Veronica….to have a Happy Hanukkah! :) (Sorry, it’s the only Hanukkah song I know!)

BF, there are worse things than being in the Christmas spirit all year! :)

Dude, I’ve had the opposite. It seems like almost everywhere I’ve gone lately, people have been considerate and pleasant. :)

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:50 pm

I’m going to whet your appetite ladies…I’m chillaxing here watching Jerry Springer, laughing at the other side of America while drinking Mimosas…lol

YUMMY!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:51 pm

Leggs that’s what the holiday spirit is all about. When I give to someone it’s one because I’m able and then I get to treat someone special. I paid an eldery lady precription when I was at the pharmacy getting my grandma meds. It was only 12 bucks and the lady was so grateful she hugged and kissed me on the jaw.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
1:54 pm

Leggs – the wonderful laides I work with made me a Christmas stocking. One choice item happened to be a mini bottle of goose. I wonder if I could sneak a sippy sip of that at work and chunk it up to holiday cheer w/o getting in trouble lol

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
1:54 pm

Dear Universe:
Today would be a good day to win a lottery jackpot….or two.
Thanks in Advance.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
1:58 pm

Awwww, that’s so sweet, cba. I was glad you two had a fabulous time. Good music, good laughing, good loving couple attentive to each other!

I truly, truly believe kindness is missing from a lot of folk. I love being kind to others. It’s a character attribute I’m thankful and yes, blessed to have. Yes indeed!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
1:59 pm

SexyC calling out the Secret.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:03 pm

@BF ~ that’s what I’m talking about. That was very, very nice of you. I’ve paid for an older woman’s groceries once. She was shocked! I had it to spare at that time so I did.

disco

December 21st, 2011
2:09 pm

kym – how come I just saw an empty wild irish rose bottle in the parking lot when I was returning from lunch.

Kym

December 21st, 2011
2:09 pm

Hey Cuz ITL are you still on the words with friends? Also does anyone else follow the twitter?/ Seriously I have tech overload going right now..

Kym

December 21st, 2011
2:12 pm

@disco..the Wild irish making a comeback!! LMAO!! Hard times booze…winning!!!

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:13 pm

@disco: ’cause me and Kym were hanging out, waiting on you to get back, but the Rose kicked in and we had to skedaddle. :)

@Kym: You know I am! I love that game. Email me at intothelight25@yahoo.com and I’ll give you my user ID if you want to play.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:16 pm

Guess the Mimosas didn’t whet anyone’s appetite (lol).

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:19 pm

I was trying to ignore ir, Leggs, because I have a little over 3 hours until I can get indulge. But believe me, the girls are ready to roll right after work. :)

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:20 pm

A friend of mine has a daughter who is 16. Since she and the father split and he re-married, she has always been included in his family’s holidays. Well, the father is now again divorced and has a new boo. New boo, who has only met my friend once at the daughter’s Sweet 16 – that she invited her to, has now decided that she would be uncomfortable with my friend being at the family Christmas dinner.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
2:20 pm

LOL……@Leggs I’m waiting for 3 so I can get home to the Vodka.

disco

December 21st, 2011
2:23 pm

BF – next time I’m down that way I’ll invite you to treat me to wings and margaritas. wait – does that make that greedy, gold digging chick that all the fellas on here are desperately trying to avoid? okay. fine. nevermind.

SCool – I dreamed numbers last night. not powerball or anything but 730 and 4860. I woke up in the middle of the night and put the numbers in my phone. I don’t play but my mother says she’s going to box them for the rest of the week.

Fion

December 21st, 2011
2:24 pm

Ho! Ho! Ho! Meeerrryyy Christmas.

Aye man, as others have said on topic. It’s how the flow is going and what you two decide to do. Whatever you are comfortable with is the order of the day.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:26 pm

SCool: And what do Daddy and the rest of his family have to say? More importantly, what does the daughter know about all this??? Seems to me that at some point, either Daddy or Grandma or someone needs to tell New Boo that if she’s uncomfortable, they understand and she’ll be missed at dinner but they respect her right to stay home and not be uncomfortable. :)

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:26 pm

Fion, what’d you call me????? :lol: :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
2:27 pm

disco:

Bring it, and no it doesn’t make you anything except a special lady in my presence.

Fion

December 21st, 2011
2:28 pm

@whatz up Suga (ITL) .

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:29 pm

You said it, ITL. New boos always think they have more clout than they really do.

Kym

December 21st, 2011
2:31 pm

@Disco..I found a app that interprets dreams..I dreamed last night I was watching Bernie Mac at a live show..now he is dead..and I didn’t watch anything with him before going to sleep so I wonder what that means.

@ITL email has been sent.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:32 pm

Heeeeeey, Fion! ;)

I know, Leggs, right? That’s why I said if it were me, New Boo would be the one staying home.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
2:36 pm

The kid can go SexxyCool but the mother has to stay,if new government says No!

I don’t see none wrong with that!

Beyonce says,’We run the world!’ and she’s right, as far as relationships go.

If that man don’t obey the order,he ain’t getting none.
Period! :lol:

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:36 pm

O/T ~ for those of you that love Jamaican food, I went to Golden Krust yesterday for the first time. Food was DELICIOUS!

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:37 pm

The father is the one that relayed this information. Like I told her, it was his indirect (cowardly) way of asking her not to come.

My opinion is that the new boo’s issues are hers (and his, by default.) That I would not let her issues keep me away. That she/he/they will need to find a way to deal with it.

That if she allows her to keep her away this time, it won’t be the last time. And that if the new boo is that uncomfortable, she is more than welcome to stay her ass home or make other plans.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:38 pm

I wouldn’t go, but my child could go. Not out of respect for New Boo saying something so stupid, but making sure my child is comfortable and won’t have to watch me sending daggers to the ..itche’s heart.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:40 pm

She wasn’t too uncomfortable to come to the daughter’s birthday party.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:41 pm

@SexyC ~ the New Boo has already dug her grave…she won’t be in the picture much longer.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

December 21st, 2011
2:41 pm

LOL……@Leggs

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:42 pm

@SexyC ~ that was her first time meeting the ex. Probably prettier and sexier than her and that may be why she’s now uncomfortable.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:45 pm

Yeah…she does look a’ight….(lol)

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:45 pm

Plus, if your friend looks like she can kick a$$ may be another reason to be uncomfortable (lol).

disco

December 21st, 2011
2:46 pm

exiled – sho’ you right. frankly though if I was the ex I’d likely roll through anyway just to be funny, if I felt so inclined. new chick is obviously insecure and I would get an early start on intimidating her. she’s tripping trying to regulate my whereabouts. AND if I was the new chick I’d see how old boy played it. if ex showed up I’d be done with him no ifs, ands or buts. sometimes you can’t win for losing.

leggs – golden krust is a chain??? I ask because I just hit up our golden krust last week. go figure.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:46 pm

This is CRAZINESS – FedEx dude throws a flat screen he is delivering over a fence…wow!

http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c2#/video/us/2011/12/20/pkg-moos-deliveries-gone-wild.cnn

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:46 pm

She should ask the father if his new friend is uncomfortable or INTIMIDATED!!!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:49 pm

Yes, it’s a chain. We went to our regular place for Jamaican food, but they had closed down. Went down So. Hairston looking for another restaurant we used to go to but couldn’t find. It was 5:15 and we hadn’t eaten anything yet. Saw Golden Krust and said F…it, we are stopping here and eat. Wasn’t too spicy for my palate…loved it. About to have the rest for lunch.

Fion

December 21st, 2011
2:50 pm

Got a story for ya. Wanna hear it, here it.

Little Johnny(4th grade) comes home from school with a befuddled look on his face. His dad asks what’s wrong and he says “Dad I have a problem”.
“Well Johnny what’s the problem”? “Dad, I’m confused and I don’t know the difference between Lust and Love”. Ahhh Johnny, I thought you had a problem. Let me help you son. I’ll help you see the difference between Lust and Love.
Go in there and ask your sister would she sleep with T. I.? Johnny goes asks her and comes back.
Well son what did she say, “she said all he’d have to do is call”. Alright. Now go in there and ask your Mom would she leave me for Jay-Z ?
Johnny goes and asks her and comes back. Well son what did she say. “Dad she said you wouldn’t stand a chance”.
Well son, now do you see the difference between Lust and Love. “No Dad, not at all. I’m as confused as ever, but I did find out one thing”.
Oh yeah, really son? What was that? “Man we living with 2-Musclefussin’ Whoes”!

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
2:50 pm

Kym – regarding your dream, maybe you were craving some Milk & cookies lol

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:51 pm

I’d probably go, too, unless I was getting some kinda vibe from his family. It’s not fair to the daughter to not have both parents there just because New Boo is insecure. Like I said, if I were grandma, I would tell New Boo that I don’t want her to be uncomfortable, so I completely understand why she needs to stay home. We’ll send her a plate.

disco

December 21st, 2011
2:53 pm

slim – hot dang. that was funny. milk and cookies. good one.

ITL – you’se a good grandma. old trick wouldn’t get a plate up out of my kitchen. trying to bring drama to what was drama free before her. I’d send that heffa a rock in a box with a post it saying “kick me”

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

disco – stop. you have me in tears!!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

@disco ~ I now see your post saying you may ride through for the hell of it just to start in on the intimidation…I feel ya!!! Who is this chick to feel she can control my coming and goings. I feel ya.

@SexyC ~ you do have a point on New Boo trying to stronghold the Mama at a distance. Might be time to call on slap-a-ho tribe with disco at the helm. :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
2:59 pm

“if your friend looks like she can kick a$$ ” –
“or INTIMIDATED”

Well, she is excellent physical condition and is an attorney on top of all that. (lol)

And speaking of looking like you can kick some ass – when we were in Key West the other week, I was walking around shopping one of the souvenir stores and TheDude had already gone to the counter to pay for our purchases. When we left, he told me that the clerk said to him, “Your wife looks like a police officer. I bet she is not to be phckd with.”

That made me laugh out loud – especially since I’m usually the tallest of all my friends when we are out somewhere and we jokingly refer to me as “security.”

disco

December 21st, 2011
2:59 pm

don’t get me wrong. I’m all for a chick trying to test a brother to see what she can get away with and what she can’t get away with but it’s way too early in the game for her to be playing with kids and parents. at this stage she should be trying to get him to not watch the game with his boys or something. how she trying to regulate a holiday dinner? somebody oughtta hit her in the head with a drumstick or something.

Kym

December 21st, 2011
3:00 pm

@Slim>LMAO!!! Good one..it was just so weird…

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:02 pm

@SexyC ~ I saw that on the news yesterday re: FedX delivery. That was unbelievable. He looked mad he had to work that day delivering a tv he wanted for himself (lol).

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:04 pm

Yep – dude straight disrespected that package. Treated a flat screen like that should have gotten him ten lashes for violation of ManLaw – Code 3, Paragraph 2 – Thou shalt respect and protect the flat screen at all times. (lol)

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:07 pm

I saw that earlier today. That is just CRAZY! Who does that???

@disco: Hit her with a drumstick. Girl, you kill me.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:09 pm

Hope it’s a turkey drumstick…

Lord Velonese

December 21st, 2011
3:09 pm

Total derail of topic, why can’t people who work the DOT signs call it like it is instead accident at such a such, like today. It should read: Jackass playing NASCAR driver/impatient lane jumper in the pouring down rain got creamed and has screwed traffic up for all of us. Let’s give them around of applause as we drive by that idiot.

On topic: Common sense?

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:13 pm

Or…the DOT sign could read

“Did you really expect there NOT to be traffic at this time of day?”

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:13 pm

Or an ostrich….

Dude

December 21st, 2011
3:13 pm

Common Sense and Government don’t mix

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:15 pm

Oh, Dude – almost forgot

shovenistic = chauvanistic – but ya’ made me laugh when I read it.

DreamsMaterialize

December 21st, 2011
3:16 pm

All that women drama is for the birds. I say f%ck ‘em both (ex and new boo)…me and my babygirl catch a flight and bring in the new year in Hawaii. Everyone else can just be mad. They’ll get over it.

i'm swiss™

December 21st, 2011
3:16 pm

“I’m all for a chick trying to test a brother to see what she can get away with and what she can’t get away with … at this stage she should be trying to get him to not watch the game with his boys or something.”

Well, d@mn. At least you’re honest… :lol:

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:16 pm

oh..and dammit – chauvinistic…look at me…fkn wit you and I’ve got a typo.

Too damn funny….

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:18 pm

Dreams – that crossed my mind as well. She can take her daughter and they can go do something else altogether.

But I think it’s jacked up that the successful, drama free co-parenting relationship that they have had is threatened by another chick’s insecurities. When really, buddy should not have even brought that mess to her. He needed to handle his chick with out getting her involved. Because now, there has been a seed planted.

Dude

December 21st, 2011
3:20 pm

Too lazi fo spelchick

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:21 pm

@SexyC ~ I intentionally let that word slide, but laughed at the spelling.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:22 pm

I’d love to be in Hawaii right now. Highs in the low 80s, lows in the low-mid 70s right now…. *sigh*

Dude

December 21st, 2011
3:23 pm

I ma giong ta intintanally misword/spel evary thin untal u stip corecting ma

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:24 pm

@Dude ~ if DOT put messages up like that (accurate nonetheless), they would only have more accidents from all the laughing and blindly ramming into vehicles in front of them.

But, thank you for reminder. I need to call DOT and/or start a petition for them to paint the yellow and white lines all up and down the road. Driving last night in the rain was a pain, and I couldn’t see the lines in the road to help me better navigate. I cussed all the way home.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:25 pm

Dude – it’s okay. Besides, I’m convinced that because of textspeak and tweeting, standard english as we know is going to morph into a hybrid phonetically spelled/ebonically influenced hodgepodge of nothing that is going to further resemble foreign languages where one word/symbol can have different meanings depending upon how the word is spoken and accented.

i'm swiss™

December 21st, 2011
3:30 pm

SexyCool — Since we’re grading grammar, that 3:25 was a run-on sentence. (My Eng. 101 prof. would have docked you 25 points for that) ;-) :lol: Good thing for all of us it’s only a blog. :lol:

Dude

December 21st, 2011
3:30 pm

Actually takes me longer to concentrate enough to not spell things right.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
3:30 pm

It does not matter whether this New boo is insecure or not..matter of fact,that is the ex’s interpretation,looking from outside.

They are not together anymore and there is a new government.

In any case,trying to play games by going anyway,like Disco says is putting the kid in harm’s way,potentially.

Don’t fight ur wars by using the kid. You are an Ex!

Know how to navigate relationships ladies!

(there was a Case on NBC where the new wife hated the ex so much she killed the ex’s child(boy) when he came over for his routinely court scheduled visit during the weekend. Threw body in the nearby river where he was found 2 weeks later. Case wasn’t solved until 15 years later)

Dude

December 21st, 2011
3:32 pm

Thanks for that “pick me up Ex” my day seems so much better with that information

Fion

December 21st, 2011
3:33 pm

……and to all a goodnight.

~Arrivederci~

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
3:34 pm

Did someone say something about a food fight? I don’t fight, I don’t argue. I just hit dat bytch wit a turkey neck! :lol;

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:35 pm

Using your logic, Meelow, he should have just had the balls enough to insist that she not to come.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:35 pm

LOL@Slim. And I’d be standing in the corner yelling, “Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!”

DreamsMaterialize

December 21st, 2011
3:37 pm

He needed to handle his chick with out getting her involved.
Sexy Yeah he should have handled that. I gotta say though, I don’t want to have anything to do with the ex or her family. Maybe she has the best family in the world, but I’m cool. Ya’ll do your thing without me. You stay on your side, and I’ll stay on mine, no mixing whatsoever. What once was is no longer, and I’m perfectly ok with that.

Kym

December 21st, 2011
3:37 pm

@ITL..the book(Dragon Tattoo) is dark..really dark..crazy serial killer, incest, ..I like it.

disco

December 21st, 2011
3:39 pm

swiss – I’m quite honest and every relationship has its “testing” point. some folks wait for the situation to present itself others create the situation. I don’t mind admitting I like to know what my boundaries are and what/how much I can get away with. give me an inch….

ex – the new chick brought the drama. don’t start none, won’t be none. others here said mom and her daughter could make other plans. sure they can but is new chick worth all that. heck, she’s just a girlfriend. hasn’t even been upgraded yet. the man in this situation needed to man up from the giddyup. this situation was between him and his woman but he made it between him, his woman, his old woman, his daughter and his momma. chump.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:40 pm

@DreamsM ~ I’m with you on that one. My ex tried to invite me to go with him and his mother to his brother’s for Christmas dinner. Told him he could take his daughter, but I ain’t breaking bread with you guys!

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:41 pm

@Kym: I can’t wait to read more. I’m just at the part where Mikael is on the island and Vanger is trying to convince him to solve Harriet’s murder (if she was murdered).

Kym

December 21st, 2011
3:41 pm

LMAO @ Disco..I agree..dude is letting new booty mess up his family situation, I am willing to bet the daughter is not going to get along with Ms. New Booty at all. She is a insecure heifer.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

ITL- I used to watch Jerry when the fights were real. Now it’s just a circus show…I even dug the Rickki Lake show when it was on.

I might have to get the Dragon Tattoo…need a good book to read.
Kym- did you try to finish Getting Back to Happy??

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:44 pm

Kym – why did I just have a Color Purple flashback? (lol)

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
3:46 pm

I thought that “Getting Back to Happy” was just a screenplay in book form. It even has a scenariot to deal with Gregory Hines’ death. Wasn’t a great book. Should be an okay movie.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
3:46 pm

Sexxy…he don’t have balls like that coz u say ur friend is phine(er) and he still has vapors for her proly..so he won’t communicate as strongly but at the same time,he cannot ignore his new boo either or else he sleeps on the couch.

Why does ur friend really care…she needs to move on as well I think…

@disco…true all that u post…she is a girlfriend but guess what…he is paying attention to her…it could be u in that situation with a man.

Uall chics play the same game on us guys..

Different chic..same MO

All of u :lol:

U rule,I know that!

If we don’t follow thru on your orders we sleep on the couch. :lol:

Kym

December 21st, 2011
3:47 pm

@SlimNu..Naww..I decided to give into my darkside for awhile..So how did Ms.Terry McMillian do..she not still in Bitter Betty mode? She knew that man was gay..

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:50 pm

How in the name of all that’s good and holy is it not even 4:00 yet??? Sheesh…. 1 hour, 40 minutes until happy hour…..

Kym

December 21st, 2011
3:52 pm

@SexyC..the Color Purple..fits just about any situation…LOL

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:53 pm

I was thinking about going out this evening for a few drinks and wings, but this rain has me thinking otherwise.

disco

December 21st, 2011
3:54 pm

ex – I already posted how I would respond if it were me in that situation. on either side of the situation. like I already said, I’m not mad at new chick for testing her skills she just picked the wrong battle.

getting back to happy was a raggedy A book.

DreamsMaterialize

December 21st, 2011
3:54 pm

Yeah, I’m not having it. Thing is this…I’m not having my daughter in an awkward situation for anybody. If the new boo starts acting strange, she can get the f*&ck on. Ex starts acting funny, she can get the f%&ck on. Family starts getting wierd, they can get the f*$ck on too. They can all fight it out in the ring of death while me and babygirl are watch firewalkers and take helicopter rides over the volcanoes.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:54 pm

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
3:56 pm

I’m reading a Day Late and a Dollar Short by MsMcMillian. Had the book about 6 months but couldn’t get into it. Really got into it at the hairdresser yesterday, so there’s hope that I will actually finish it.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
3:56 pm

Kym – I don’t know if she’s still bitter but I think she should have found Her happy before writing that book. Otherwise, she should have written a book called Payback. It just may have made for a better, more exciting read.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
3:58 pm

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
3:59 pm

Leggs – the salon is the best place to read a book you’re trying to get into because you’re basically stuck there w/nothing else to do lol

disco

December 21st, 2011
4:00 pm

day late and dollar short actually wasn’t too bad. slim – payback? naw. she needs to chalk that one up to the game. if her gaydar doesn’t work she needs to bounce brothers off of someone whose gaydar does work.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:00 pm

disco – that -> “getting back to happy was a raggedy A book.”

I was trying to be nice. But I did read the entire book visualizing it as a movie and not being able to enjoy it as a book.

And speaking of Waiting to Exhale, last week, I tried (I really, REALLY, tried) to watch a full episode of Tyler Perry’s For Better or Worse, when I was assaulted with a copy cat scene from the WTE. The one where Angela pulled all of buddy’s clothes out of the house in a red wagon. Well, Angela’s character (that is so watered down from the movie version she is almost unrecognizable as Angela) pulled out the little red wagon, drug it up the stairs and started throwing clothes into it. When it cut to commercial, I had to turn. I didn’t even stick around to see if she ended up playing out the whole WTE scene by setting the car on fire. FBOFW, su-hucks!

Kym

December 21st, 2011
4:01 pm

Catch Ya’ll in the am..Have a good night folks..drive safe so we don’t see any of you on the news.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
4:01 pm

the salon is the best place to read a book you’re trying to get into because you’re basically stuck there w/nothing else to do lol

Why do people mangle the magazines at a salon? I was all into this article on Saturday, flipped to page 157 for the continuation and SURPRISE! Someone had torn out pages 157-165. Hmph! Magazine Maulers.

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
4:03 pm

@Disco..and u know when a chic can make a dude’s head turn this way and that way and forsake everybody…

she’s working him guuuud!

guuud causes Lameness in Men!
:lol:

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:03 pm

She even sent Wesley Snipes’ character to jail. (How uncreative is THAT?!?!?)

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
4:03 pm

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:07 pm

SC – to be honest, I have a hard time watching any of Tylers tv shows. There is a difference in stage acting and tv acting. On stage you overact for the audience and be a bit more silly. That same approach does not go over well on the screen to me.

disco

December 21st, 2011
4:12 pm

slim – I can tolerate house of payne (probably because I loves me some allen payne. he’s been my light skin crush since way back). can’t stand meet the browns. for better or worse still too new to tell. I’m about sick of any movie with muh’deah in it but was pleasantly surprised with for colored girls.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:13 pm

Slim – tell me about it. But I was really surprised to see o’girl downplaying the best parts about the outrageous Angela character to such an extreme.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:18 pm

Yeah SlimNu, I feel the same way. Speaking of Tyler, yesterday almost everyone ran from the salon because they thought Madea walked by. I too left to see what the ruckus was about and saw this tall dude dressed in a woman’s Santa outfit. Close to looking like Madea, but he was a bit darker and he didn’t have that pronounced upper lip like Tyler so I went back to the dryer (lol).

disco

December 21st, 2011
4:21 pm

well my pick 4 dream number was one off on the midday drawing (not that I played). 0642 came out. I dreamed 4860. I’ll have to check my mother’s state. see if she lucked up.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:27 pm

I like Tyler but to me the overacting comes off as an insult to my intelligence. It’s like, “hey you’re supposed to laugh Now”…the Cosby show was just as funny but didn’t have the element of Overly dramatic. Hopefully, it will get better.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:29 pm

Anyone see that new game show with host from Cash Cab?

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:30 pm

Thanks disco, I haven’t played cash 4 today.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:30 pm

I watched Reed Between the Lines for the first time last night…not bad.

disco

December 21st, 2011
4:32 pm

I’m looking forward to the return of let’s stay together on bet. I enjoyed that show. it was especially refreshing considering that the return of the game last season was so disappointing.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
4:36 pm

Slim: I have a little crush on that guy. I didn’t see the show, but it’s the one where if you miss the question, they drop you through the floor, right?

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:38 pm

I haven’t been able to get into Reed Between the Lines. Let’s Stay Together, I like. The Game – straight foolishness – decent story lines – just too extreme in where they took it.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:39 pm

I think the show is Last Man Standing.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:39 pm

ITL – Yeah….I like it because I can actually answer some of the questions. I caught it in the middle so i’m not quite sure of all the particulars of the game.

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
4:41 pm

I’ve got to check it out. I was reading last night when I got home, and once I start reading I tend to be pretty oblivious to other stuff.

OAN, Prep and Landing is on again tonight! :)

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:46 pm

Leggs – Yeah that’s the name of it.

SC – I don’t know what happened on the Game this past season. They must’ve gotten new writers or something because it kind of became ri di cu lous. I heard that Kelly(white chick) is not coming back…not sure how true that is.

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:49 pm

Not sure when Single Ladies come back on, the person replacing Stacey Dash is also gorgeous.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:49 pm

And the new Brittany didn’t even looked mixed.

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
4:50 pm

I did think Terence J played his role very well.

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
4:55 pm

Sc – I did not like seeing him and Tasha Mack kiss…it just felt wrong. :shock: lol

Exiled!

December 21st, 2011
4:57 pm

Uall watch some ghetto shizzle shows!

Leggs

December 21st, 2011
4:58 pm

Get home safe everyone!

PEACE!

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
5:01 pm

How do you know they are ghetto if you haven’t watched them as well?

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
5:01 pm

Peace out peeps…off to the house I go…It’s an xnay on the gym-ay lol

SlimNu

December 21st, 2011
5:01 pm

Peace out peeps…off to the house I go…It’s an xnay on the gym-ay lol

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
5:02 pm

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
5:02 pm

Night, Slim.

ITL pouting bc she’s here for another half hour….

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
5:05 pm

And of course, En La Luz, I could point out how we spent most of the time stating how we didn’t watch those shows. (shrugs…)

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
5:13 pm

You could, SC, but that would probably be skimmed over as well. :)

SexyCool

December 21st, 2011
5:15 pm

Now, I’m out too.
Toodles…

Into the Light

December 21st, 2011
5:16 pm

Well, pooh. Night, SC!

Hmmmmmm

December 21st, 2011
5:39 pm

Albert

December 21st, 2011
9:47 pm

What is so horrible about the guy paying for the first date, or the second, or the third? After all, the man is the one who asks for the date. If the woman says yes, that’s no reason to expect her to pay. When I dated my first serious girlfriend (back in the 1970’s), it was unusual to go Dutch. She offered to once, and we did, but I would never have dreamed of asking her to do so. Nor would I have thought it unfair if we hadn’t.