Non-negotiable: Men pay for first date
I was getting a little insight about men from a married couple. They shared a lot of interesting things but the one they both agreed on was that men should always, always, always pay the bill on the first date.
Apparently, I should not take a man seriously, if he does not feel happy and eager to pay for an evening date. I can be traditional, so I can appreciate the sentiment behind this idea.
Dating – in a lot of ways – sets the tone of the relationship. Maybe that is not the case for everyone, but generally people who seek a relationship, look at dating behaviors when seeking potential mates.
When a man allows a woman to pay her own way on a first date, does it prove anything about his character? Does it say something about what he thinks of her?
What happens when a woman decides to spring for the first meal? Would it be a sign she is rich, pushy, or overbearing?
Have you ever gone dutch on a first date? If so, was there a second date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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272 comments Add your comment
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
12:56 pm
@Ex ~ facially, she didn’t compare. No, that’s not vane, that’s shallow and greedy!
Dude
December 21st, 2011
12:58 pm
Giving a girl a facial is shallow and greedy….oops ready that wrong lol
Willie Dynamite
December 21st, 2011
1:01 pm
Aaaaand yall really wanna know why they complain about paying for the first date.
Dude
December 21st, 2011
1:03 pm
LOL Willy, a joke every once in a while, shovenistic as it may be can still be funny
Dude
December 21st, 2011
1:03 pm
Sorry I appologize ladies
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:05 pm
If Ex doesn’t apologize for half the stuff he posts, you don’t need to (lol). That post wasn’t offensive, Dude.
Willie Dynamite
December 21st, 2011
1:08 pm
Dude- agreed, you and Ex are both very consistent. No apologies needed.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:08 pm
Lawdy mercy. I come back from the Biscuit and y’all have moved on to users and facials. smh (but still LOL).
(waving) Hey Willie D! Long time, no see. Ready for the bowl games?
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:10 pm
Still catching up, but this summarizes perfectly what I was trying to convey this morning:
Paying or not paying is no big deal to me. We overthink dating too much. Just go with the flow. If you see there is no flow, then stop going.
Well said, Dreams!
Exiled!
December 21st, 2011
1:11 pm
U got a sense of humor Dude..at least by me. Lol
why suddenly I think of the word Swallow?
Lunch time maybe..
Exiled!
December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm
what can I use to treat a self induced bite wound on the tip of my tongue?
I bite myself accidentally when I chew gum sometimes (lots of times)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm
I read a few then had to skip over the whining, if she’s out for a free meal pay it and don’t take her out anymore it’s that easy. Keeping tabs on dates wont get anywhere, if I could I wouldn’t take back any of the money I’ve spent on dates. It’s a price I pay to learn what to and not to do with the next lady.
Alternative BM
December 21st, 2011
1:25 pm
A man always pays on any dats I go on!
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:27 pm
Ex: First, don’t stick out your tongue while chewing. Second, a little ice would probably make it feel much better.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:28 pm
(waving and ringing the jingle bells): Hey BF!
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:29 pm
Oh yeah, I invited BF out Friday for a bday drink and we had wings and margarita. I offered to pay, but he picked up the tab…I offered to leave tip but he told he got it covered…thanks again!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:30 pm
Hey Light:
It’s Christmas time in the city. I see your silver bells.
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:31 pm
Here’s a novice idea, Ex….stop chewing gum.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm
I love Silver Bells. It’s one of my favorite Christmas songs. Some people call Hershey’s Kisses silver bells…I like those, too.
Ooooh, Leggs! Sounds like a fun night. Deets…..
Kym
December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm
Good Afternoon Rice Krispy Treats!
I think it can go either way..Dutch the first time or guy pays..whateva the two agree on..I think most first dates should be coffee anyway..or some light refreshment..no need to go big if all you are trying to do is play the get to know you game.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:34 pm
LOL@Leggs’ 1:31
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm
(waving and doing the reindeer prance): Hey cuz Kym!!
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm
O/T ~ My daughter has had a friend over since Sunday eve. We all went to the hairdresser yesterday. I was getting my hair washed when I looked over to see her friend sitting in the waiting section waiting for us to finished. She had a wool skull cap on and I got an idea. I gave her an early Christmas present and asked my stylist to go get her and do her hair as well…she came running over to me almost knocking me out the chair (lol)…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:36 pm
Leggs thank you for the invite, no biggie as it’s what a man is built for to have his family and friends covered at his expense. No problem here defining what it takes to be a man and show it.
Exiled!
December 21st, 2011
1:37 pm
thank God Leggs,it is Not my fav weapon of choice…unlike someof y’all!
Exiled!
December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm
Oh ITL,I don’t do the stick out tongue thing
that’s girly..
SlimNu
December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm
Leggs – dang, I should’ve been there for the complimentary hair appointment. I could use some pampering…lol. That was very thoughtful of you!
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:39 pm
And I bet she will never forget your kindness, Leggs! So nice to see folks who still remember and display the holiday spirit. Proud to know you, ma’am.
SexyCool
December 21st, 2011
1:40 pm
ITL – Silver Bells is one of my fave’s too…especially this version…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_IQAnGQCG4
Dude
December 21st, 2011
1:41 pm
You know off topic, I remember growing up and people would be saying merry xmas all month at places of business, I haven’t heard it once this season.
SexyCool
December 21st, 2011
1:41 pm
Blessed to be a blessing…
SexyCool
December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm
Speaking of which, Hanukkah began last night.
Happy Hanukkah!
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm
What cha talking about, Willis/Ex???
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:42 pm
Light:
A friend gave me a cd with Christmas music on it, 25 songs by various artist. Every song you can imagine is on it, I had stop playing it for a while cause I might get too attached to it and play it through next year……..LOL
Dude
December 21st, 2011
1:43 pm
Also off topic, if anyone here owns their own house, call your bank and ask to streamline your mortgage, I am saving about 90K on the 30 year loan which equates to about 300 bucks off my payment every month, it is worth looking into.
cba
December 21st, 2011
1:46 pm
Leggs~ you’re always doing kind gestures……really nice lady.
Oh, yesterday’s topic, my best “date” for this year was because of
your generosity, thanks again from me and wifey.
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
1:48 pm
Tell your friend Veronica….to have a Happy Hanukkah!
(Sorry, it’s the only Hanukkah song I know!)
BF, there are worse things than being in the Christmas spirit all year!
Dude, I’ve had the opposite. It seems like almost everywhere I’ve gone lately, people have been considerate and pleasant.
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:50 pm
I’m going to whet your appetite ladies…I’m chillaxing here watching Jerry Springer, laughing at the other side of America while drinking Mimosas…lol
YUMMY!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:51 pm
Leggs that’s what the holiday spirit is all about. When I give to someone it’s one because I’m able and then I get to treat someone special. I paid an eldery lady precription when I was at the pharmacy getting my grandma meds. It was only 12 bucks and the lady was so grateful she hugged and kissed me on the jaw.
SlimNu
December 21st, 2011
1:54 pm
Leggs – the wonderful laides I work with made me a Christmas stocking. One choice item happened to be a mini bottle of goose. I wonder if I could sneak a sippy sip of that at work and chunk it up to holiday cheer w/o getting in trouble lol
SexyCool
December 21st, 2011
1:54 pm
Dear Universe:
Today would be a good day to win a lottery jackpot….or two.
Thanks in Advance.
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
1:58 pm
Awwww, that’s so sweet, cba. I was glad you two had a fabulous time. Good music, good laughing, good loving couple attentive to each other!
I truly, truly believe kindness is missing from a lot of folk. I love being kind to others. It’s a character attribute I’m thankful and yes, blessed to have. Yes indeed!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 21st, 2011
1:59 pm
SexyC calling out the Secret.
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
2:03 pm
@BF ~ that’s what I’m talking about. That was very, very nice of you. I’ve paid for an older woman’s groceries once. She was shocked! I had it to spare at that time so I did.
disco
December 21st, 2011
2:09 pm
kym – how come I just saw an empty wild irish rose bottle in the parking lot when I was returning from lunch.
Kym
December 21st, 2011
2:09 pm
Hey Cuz ITL are you still on the words with friends? Also does anyone else follow the twitter?/ Seriously I have tech overload going right now..
Kym
December 21st, 2011
2:12 pm
@disco..the Wild irish making a comeback!! LMAO!! Hard times booze…winning!!!
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
2:13 pm
@disco: ’cause me and Kym were hanging out, waiting on you to get back, but the Rose kicked in and we had to skedaddle.
@Kym: You know I am! I love that game. Email me at intothelight25@yahoo.com and I’ll give you my user ID if you want to play.
Leggs
December 21st, 2011
2:16 pm
Guess the Mimosas didn’t whet anyone’s appetite (lol).
Into the Light
December 21st, 2011
2:19 pm
I was trying to ignore ir, Leggs, because I have a little over 3 hours until I can get indulge. But believe me, the girls are ready to roll right after work.