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Change your dating strategy?

If you have not been successful in your dating this year, maybe it is time to change your strategy. There is no reason to keep doing the same things and going to the same places, if they don’t produce the results you want.

So what can you do differently to get different results? It is so easy to get stuck in a rut but exploring a new thing can be exciting and fun. Try a different part of town to mingle in. Pick up a new organization to volunteer with – you can contribute time while expanding your circle of associates. That’s win – win.

A lot of relationships begin after two people were “referred” to one another through mutual friends. I got a Facebook message from a friend in another city inquiring about single men that I know. Some people may not know you are available and open to meeting someone new. Why not casually mention that you are open to meeting new people to your close friends!

When you finally land a potential match, I think it is helpful to remember your past mistakes and do what you can to avoid the same pitfalls: Hooking up too soon. Talking too much about the exes. Spending too much money to impress. ..I could go on!

Do you think you should change your strategy? Have you thought about what you want to do differently to improve your dating successes?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

Let' see............

December 19th, 2011
5:30 am

It’s not us most times, it’s them. If we can get the men to change their perspective and outlook that would make a world of difference. Let’s see now…..

1) Married men, get out of the pool altogether. You chose her, stay with her.
2) Men, you were made to pursue, stop asking and expecting women to do it….it messes with balance.
3) Men stop feeling slated because there’s some effort behind not only getting but keeping.
4) If you must go, how about a bit of honesty? It would nice hearing it from you rather than you getting caught.
5) In case you haven’t learned by now FWB equates to having the lazies. All the benefits with none to little efforts in benefiting.
6) Please don’t look with wonder and amazement at the small number in the pool of “good ones” when theres not many left once you’re ready to settle down. You and all your buds killed half the population through having fun while ho-ing.
7) Don’t expect quality when you opted for easy.
8) Married men, stay out of the pool, you’re muddying the waters.

nelsonh

December 19th, 2011
7:02 am

That is a great question. I really like it. First of all women like to be where the money is. Get yourself a medical dictionary and start learning those medical terms. Then watch a few operations on satellite tv. Pretty soon, they will be panting at your heels. they will be calling you Dr. You say call me steve, Dr. sounds so proper.
Do the same with lawyer
learn those terms, .

Peter

December 19th, 2011
7:07 am

I gave up dating years ago. Women just are not worth it. No matter what you do, it’s never good. Who they really want to date is God…because he’s perfect. The rest of us lowly men are not perfect enough.

Peter

December 19th, 2011
7:08 am

I gave up dating years ago. Women just are not worth it. No matter what you do, it’s never good enough. Who they really want to date is God…because he’s perfect. The rest of us lowly men are not perfect enough.

Darla

December 19th, 2011
7:13 am

Dear Santa:

I want him and I’ve been very good this year! :)

Lost My Mojo

December 19th, 2011
7:55 am

I’ve drastically changed my dating. I looked at it as a recreational past-time. I enjoy meeting new men – as long as they met basic criteria – not married/living with someone, employed, sane, non-smoker/druggie, honest… Looks have never been a major point for me, as long as they were relatively content with their body and healthy. But I’ve not been one to fool around casually, and I want that connection that grows deeper. Last year had 2 guys I was semi- serious with, but they both lied to me significantly. I don’t lie in a relationship and found that I was becoming incredibly jaded. I took a 4month dating hiatus for 100 days startng Jan 1. Afterward, I am not sure if I just lost my mojo, but I have gone on maybe 4 dates this year. (I would do twice that in a month before)

I’ve taken up a new hobby – backpacking – which is a rather male dominated activity… but the guys I’ve met on the trails were married, retired (too old), too young (in college), or full of drama.

I’m seriously considering just making the dating hiatus permanent.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
8:03 am

Two part answer

1) WD’s comments
2) Let’s Sees comments

Re WD: several on there hit home..

Hooking up too fast (always fun, always a bad idea…for two reasons…changes the dynamics from ‘getting to know someone’ to ‘getting it on’ and in addition, it causes unreasonable expectations).

Talking too much about exes, (ssoner or later the conversation will turn to the sexual aspect and it is one of those things that is best left unsaid because most of the time there will be an element of jealousy introduced…just not a good idea ever).

@ Lets Sees…I would suggest that even though many of your comments may have been justified with your experiences, it says something about who YOU have been attracted to. Women are really bad about looking past the good guys, because of their freqquent fatal attraction to the bad boys. Maybe the answer is not to expect men to change, but change the men you are attracted too. Most men, at least not this one and most I know, are not guilty of any of the things you noted. Sorry.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
8:09 am

Sounds like we got a lot of single during the holidays type of people here today, all of you stop generalizing, not all men are jackazzes, and not all women are overly complicated. I am single and happy to be that way. Strategy should always be, “be yourself”, be it geek, like me, not afraid to admit it, be it freak, let your freak flag fly or what ever, it doesn’t matter. A change in scenery is always a good thing, if you know too many people in one area things can go stale, especially if you have burned some bridges.
@let’s see……- Anyone married should be out of the dating pool, and just because they are successful at dating, doesn’t mean they should be preaching to everyone else about it, everyone is different.
@nelson- Not all women are gold diggers, so knock it off.
@peter-though many women are tough to please, some are worth it, finding them is a different story.
@Mojo- Stop overthinking things and enjoy yourself in what ever you do regardless of the though “I am doing this to meet someone” Things will eventually go your way.

LivingLIfe

December 19th, 2011
8:20 am

Good Morning All!!
@Mojo – I fell ya! I too was talking to some friends and was thinking I need to take a break altogether on dating b/c the ones that choose me are still about games and I have no tolerance for it. Dating is getting tiring. I still believe there are some good men out here, but until he comes I’ll continue to be happy and do me.
@dude- I agree.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
8:21 am

@ Dude…I agree across the board. If one is having trouble in the dating arena (myself included) then usually the problem lies with the person in the mirror. One can almost never change others, but one can change oneself.

Harder...please.

December 19th, 2011
8:21 am

I’ve put a lot of thought into this and believe I’ve come up with a strategy that’s fool-proof: Just be yourself.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
8:23 am

Randy and Harder :) Agree

Dude

December 19th, 2011
8:24 am

I agree with you is what I mean lol

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
8:27 am

and one other thing…if you can’t change yourself, then quit biotching and just play the cards you are dealt.

(Sorry, my tolerance for people blaming others for their situation is on a low ebb this morning).

CoolShadow

December 19th, 2011
8:38 am

Completely agree with the ones that suggested being yourself; changing to being consistent about being yourself may be the best move.

Be careful about whom you get referrals from regarding people available for dating, especially when the referring party he/she is entitled to a play-by-play development of your relationship rather than getting occasional updates like everyone else.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
8:39 am

Randy is 100% on that.
Though the actions of other people may make it difficult for you, every new bar, every new hang out, every new place to meet people can be an entirely new persona of who you want to be. If you think that the people in one place aren’t worth your time. Go somewhere else, if you think you have screwed things up so bad in one place, go somewhere else. You will meet lots of different people with all type of new and exciting stories and personalities, some good, some bad, but you will never find anything if you sit at home, feel sorry for yourself and think that the whole world is bad, trust me on that, I know a lot about it.

KaiserSoze

December 19th, 2011
8:40 am

It’s easy really, but people over think it or out of some level of desperation tend to make it harder than it should be. Find someone that you don’t have to impress, that is happy with you as the person you are, the way you are and vice versa. Never continue seeing someone that makes you feel the need to walk on eggshells, bite your tongue, or censor your opinion. Once you find someone that you can truly relax and be yourself around (and they with you), the other pieces will easily fall into place. Of course there needs to be an initial level of physical attraction, but only dating people that you find “smokin hot” etc only limits your ability and opportunity to find someone with whom you will make a much deeper and more fulfilling emotional and intellectual connection.

Sometimes you have to search long and hard for this person, and sometimes the fall into your lap. But when it’s right you’ll know it. Settling for less is damaging to both parties.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
8:42 am

Good Morning Tastycakes!

Well everything I wanted to say has already been expressed so I guess I will say..I agree it all starts with the man in the mirror. Only person any of us can work on is ourselves.

Lost My Mojo

December 19th, 2011
9:10 am

Everyone over 20 has “baggage” – it is a matter of learning from those experiences. Some of my epic heartbreaks have been blessings offering incredible insight and growth.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:12 am

Good morning.

Very interesting question because I was talking to myself about this last night. Wondering what I need to be doing differently. The hard part for me is that I haven’t been able to get a relationship out the starting gate because of lack of patience on the man’s part. The ocean has so many fish that the men seems to feel they don’t need to work at anything. When a small hiccup occurs, they’re quick to end the communication. E.g., “well I sensed you were pissed, so I rather not speak with you anymore…HUH? Or, I called you twice and you didn’t pick up so I figured you were out on a date…HUH? All I can say is I’m comfortable that I’m doing things differently all the while working on myself. When it flows, it will flow because I’m not going to navigate the ebbs of the water with one oar. The one with the other oar WILL surface and we will navigate the choppy waters together. Until then, keep smiling and stay true to myself.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:14 am

Wish I could give bigger examples, but I’m only faced with these lame ones.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
9:15 am

@ The Usual Suspects…excellent post.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
9:21 am

Leggs- I will quote “cool hand luke on this one”

What we have here is a failure to communicate

Leggs- Did you call back after the two calls or did you wait for him to make a third attempt
If you waited for him to make a third attempt, then you shot yourself in the foot rigtht there, if you see a missed call and you are still interested in the person it is only common curtesy to at least text back and say I am busy at the moment I will call you later.

Every guy I know is so afraid of being taken advatage of that they will move on very quickly if he feels like she is wasting his time. So if she seems really upset, overly emotional, etc etc. We are quick to move on, especially if it is early in and we can get out, before she gets comfortable and this becomes the norm.

MsMarriedUp

December 19th, 2011
9:21 am

I can’t stress it enough…and it soooooo easy. Friends people friends!!!

***Just be open to being a friend, without looking with the googly eyes that this my one and only forever.*** Nothing spoils a moment like expecting *this one* to be the one and whoops, a mishap, and you think it’s the end of the relationship. It’s not! No one let the water out the pool. That’s what being friends is all about. Going through things…breaking up…making up…why it’s important not to keep throwing your friends into the shallow end for their shortcomings. We all have them. Make friends!

People who learn how to be a friend have many to select from. The pool really is not as shallow as you think.

Merry Christmas Everyone!!! Enjoy your holidays…

Kym

December 19th, 2011
9:23 am

Is everyone on vacation? :-( I am wishing I had taken more time off for the holidays..I know one change I am making..I am working on expanding my career.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:26 am

@Dude ~ I’m not the type to sit back and wonder and hypothesize why something isn’t happening. When I realized I missed the call, I called back. He said he was surprised to hear from me since I didn’t answer the phone. Damn, I don’t sit by phone staring at it waiting for it to ring, nor do I carry my phone everywhere I go when home. That was an insecurity on his part that I wasn’t going to carry on my shoulders.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
9:28 am

Amen Leggs..Amen

Dude

December 19th, 2011
9:29 am

If it was an insecurity on his part you are lucky to find out quick and you should be glad he’s gone :)

Robert

December 19th, 2011
9:29 am

“Do you think you should change your strategy?”

My strategy is simple. Treat people the way you want to be treated. For example I respect a women who can tell me the truth and be honest with me (married, kids, job, etc.) so I can make-up my own mind if I want to have a relationship with her. I think most people (men & women) feel the same way.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:34 am

@Dude ~ no doubt, no doubt. What I’m truly amazed at, and I told another blogger this, is that I’m not even given a chance to mess up a relationship (if I should) because it’t not even getting off the ground. However, in hindsight, I suppose this is a good thing because obviously I dodged a bullet. Unnecessary drama during the first two weeks is a red flag.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
9:36 am

Another good quote from “usual suspects”

“One cannot be betrayed if one has no people”

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
9:37 am

Morning
I don’t think the strategy is the problem. I think the problem is that many people haven’t adequately defined the objective. What is it you’re after? If you haven’t nailed this down, then all the strategies in the world will be useless.

And to all the people considering taking a permanent hiatus from dating: please hurry, don’t delay, not pass GO. You can’t leave the scene fast enough for me. I’m not trivializing your experiences, and it’s unfortunate that you’ve had negative interactions, but your negative perceptions (consequently also producing negative behaviors) are polluting the dating scene. Please, get out of the game, take the necessary time to heal yourself, and then jump back in and give it all you’ve got.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:37 am

But one can go bat isht crazy with no people. :lol: :lol:

Kym

December 19th, 2011
9:38 am

The usual suspects is one great movie….

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
9:40 am

@DreamsM ~ I have to agree with you. I am thankful that I haven’t had “negative” experiences, just quick dumb ones that leave me scratching my head then a smile on my face thankful that it was so quick.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
9:40 am

@Leggs..I don’t know..I think the movie was all about manipulation and power..and Kaser did have a person the old guy who picked him up and drove him away on the street in the end.

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:42 am

Morning lovelies,

I don’t that I will change as it relates to strategy. IMO that’s too calculating. I will be myself and stay true to myself. I won’t apologize for being who I am nor the woman I have become. I will say though when I find men that quick to make a bunch of promises off the bat and can’t follow through, quickly move. What I’ve found in the past that they become a waste if time and emotions. So if I had to speak to strateguzing, don’t waste time on things that apparently won’t go anywhere.

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:46 am

Sorry for the typos….on my phone, on,the run….vacay!

disco

December 19th, 2011
9:47 am

Hey y’all. good morning. I am NOT on vacation this week or next. lack of planning, foresight on my part. oh well. my 2012 dating strategy is cliché but I’m taking it back to dating myself. my resolution for the year is to attempt to take one weekend getaway each and every month of 2012. even as for NYE plans – I generally attend watchnight or stay home. this year I wanted to hit a party. said party is $75 admission. several friends expressed they’d like to go but that’s not in their budget. I’m still on the fence but I might get dolled up and hit the spot solo because one thing I know is you’ll miss out on a lot waiting on other folks.

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:47 am

I’m headed shopping!

Dude

December 19th, 2011
9:51 am

Women- Guys, as opposed to women have to jockey to get women, so obviously telling a woman all of these claims and plans of exciting new things and experiences is a way to stand out above the rest, at least until they can get what they want. If you want a guy to say, I am gonna go home and do laundry go after the guy that is saying I am gonna go home and do laundry. If what the dude is saying sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:51 am

Another of vacay added 2012

Nice post Dreams….I agree

Leggs – Don’t sweat….do you and look ahead :)

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:54 am

WEEK….okay I’m out. I was waiting on my kid to finish her dentist appt….can’t blog and drive

Celisea

December 19th, 2011
9:58 am

Saying things that not true makes one a liar.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
9:59 am

I may go back and rewatch The Usual Suspects this week. That is a movie that no matter how many times you watch it, you catch something you hadn’t noticed before. Best acting job of Kevin Spacey’s career IMHO.

Adam Lambert

December 19th, 2011
10:00 am

somebody, on another blog, called this group, you all here, the “same old whining folks” on that always wrote on that dating blog. I laughed so hard!

Dude

December 19th, 2011
10:01 am

I liked American Beauty, I sometimes think of myself in the same way of Lester, minus the drug use and going after his daughter’s virgin friend.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:02 am

Reading some of the blogs reminds me how often the parties fall into the “I have to sell myself…or, you are trying out and can be cut in a moment” mindset sometimes prevails. Honestly, all parties need to get away from this and just relax…if it works, it works, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. No harm, no foul.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
10:03 am

I am thankful that I haven’t had “negative” experiences, just quick dumb ones that leave me scratching my head then a smile on my face thankful that it was so quick.
Leggs Yeah I know. And I’m not knocking negative experiences, we’ve all had them. I know I have. But if you’re still hurting from those experiences or they have you lashing out at everyone, then you need to take a break…for your sake and everyone else’s.

Nice post Dreams….I agree
Celly Cel What’s good? There’s lots of hurt people out there still trying to date, and they get involved with decent people and end up hurting them. It’s just a cycle. So, what are you getting me when you go shopping? ;-)

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
10:08 am

“I liked American Beauty, I sometimes think of myself in the same way of Lester, minus the drug use and going after his daughter’s virgin friend.”

Um… no disrespect, Dude, but without the drug use & the daughter’s friend, wasn’t Lester pretty much a hen-pecked schmuck whose spirit was broken?

Kym

December 19th, 2011
10:08 am

@Leggs..I sent you a email but please disregard..my trigger finger is itchy and I hit send by accident.

Mike P

December 19th, 2011
10:08 am

Good Morning
Here’s my response to “Let’ see…………’s” 5:30am post:
It’s not us most times, it’s them. If we can get women to change their perspective and outlook that would make a world of difference. Let’s see now…..
1) Married women, get out of the pool altogether. You chose him, stay with him.
2) Women, you were made to be pursued, stop acting all hard and independent and be soft, feminine and submissive….it messes with the natural balance of things, Men don’t pursue independent women.
3) Women stop feeling slated because there’s some effort behind not only getting but keeping.
4) If you must go, how about a bit of honesty? It would nice hearing it from you rather than you getting caught.
5) In case you haven’t learned by now FWB equates to having the lazies. All the benefits with none to little efforts in benefiting.
6) Please don’t look with wonder and amazement at the small number in the pool of “good ones” when there’s not many left once you’re ready to settle down. You and all your girlfriends killed half the population through having fun while slut-ing and ho-ing.
7) Don’t expect quality when you opted for easy.
Married women or women who just want to have fun, stay out of the pool, you’re muddying the waters.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
10:09 am

Actually, a hen-pecked cuckold, at that…

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:10 am

@DreamsM ~ nope, I’m not hurting. Nothing has occurred for me to “hurt.” You have to have a thick skin when dating. All this little crap I’ve been witnessing is not enough for me to fall in the realm of “hurt.” :lol: :lol: at lashing out. Not me. One thing I do know is I know my worth, and I know I’m not settling nor running behind someone explaining something I haven’t done. Like there are plenty of female fish in the sea, there are plenty of male ones as well. Seriously, it’s all in the relationship tango. Some you’ll connect with right out the gate, some will take work, and some will fall after the first 5 mins of meeting each other. Just stay at the batting cage and you will learn to hit a home run.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:11 am

@Kym ~ no problem. I took the week off.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
10:12 am

@Leggs..oh great..so my lovely 2nd email is for naught…LOLOL

czBrat

December 19th, 2011
10:13 am

HiYas!

i don’t even know where to begin with the topic. i don’t want to over-stress the “just be yourself” point and make it seem so duh! but it is the best plan if you want a relationship based on true compatibility and not just need.

unless i find myself unexpectedly dating anew next year (:shock:), i certainly can’t speak to doing anything different in that area. i have been, and will continue to be, the woman i have painstakingly become through years of strife and triumph. and i will continue to practice that ever so delicate balance between compromise and concession.

kinda wish i was off a couple days this week or next, but the truth is i get lots of free time in this office, so it hardly seems necessary to waste precious vacay days. and i LUV that the roads are wide open!! that almost makes coming to work a pleasure.

hey Kym …. UPS guy has been loading up the QVC boxes at my door again. i tried to stay away, i really, really did. but oh well :oops:

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:13 am

@ swiss…don’t hold back, tell us what you really think ;-) (ouch)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:13 am

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
10:14 am

Morning All!

I am so careful to not be one of those smug marrieds that think they have it all figured out cause I got married. It was a long time coming and I had more than my share of misteps, missed opportunities, dodged bullets, frogs, etc.

What did work for me was being willing to change things, shake things up, do things a little different, be open. I’ve always been open to the non-traditional. I didn’t do clubs or picking up men in church. The biggest change I made was cutting out from my life those men that I just had hanging around, that I wasn’t building anything with, sort of FWB’s, and getting mad at because we weren’t going anywhere! Duh!!

I had a “if it happens, cool, if it doesn’t, cool” attitude and just took it easy and lived. I’m myself and a decent person. Either a dude could get with that or not. Plus, I was taking care of a sick parent for a number of years. I was into family and friends and just living. Get in where you fit it.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
10:15 am

Randy — I’m not suggesting Dude is any of those things… that’s just what I remember from the movie, so I was a bit surprised at the comparison, that’s all.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:16 am

I agree, Usual Suspects is great acting of Spacey’s part! Excellent movie.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:16 am

I know…just playin wit ya.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
10:17 am

Swiss- I mean getting back in shape after he just stopped caring what anyone thought, telling off his boss, buying the car he always wanted, looking at everything in the world in a positive way, finding that even after all the crappy stuff that happened he can still surprise himself. I am not into pedophilia, nor drug use, but I did stop caring completely about what people thought of me and started having fun, even if it meant upsetting the people that upset me first.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:19 am

What was so good about Spacey’s role in “The usual Suspects” is that everyone expects people to act bigger, better, smarter, than they really are. No one sees the smart one “acting dumb” coming. I always did that when playing poker.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
10:21 am

Pocket 3’s my favorite hand of all, when they trip up, no one sees it coming, and I have won thousands on that hand over the years!!!!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
10:22 am

Dude — Ah, okay, gotcha. So, still giving the middle fanga to those that would f#ck you over, but without weed or underage cooter. I’m with you there (Well, except maybe for the no weed part. And depending on your definition of “underage” cooter. But I digress). :lol: You just had me worried for a minute, bro. ;-) :lol:

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
10:23 am

Any of you watch Dexter and see the finale last night?? I was screaming at the end!!!! :shock:

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:25 am

@ kimmie…That ending was awesome. I didn’t see that one coming. almost as strong as the ending of season 4. That is a great show.

KaiserSoze

December 19th, 2011
10:27 am

Ramdy – that’s why I chose the KS handle on most forums I frequent. I like to be the smart guy playing dumb. Not that I’m all that smart, but you can hide in the shadows and learn a lot without being the big shot in any situation.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:30 am

@KS

Makes perfect sense. I agree completely. Good call. in the business world, I’ve found that it is better to be the power behnd the throne for a similar reason….as well as in poker. ;-)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:30 am

Watching Usual Suspects, I told my then husband that Spacey was the culprit…he didn’t believe me. Sometimes, you have to watch the undergo in the background and not the one who’s always in your face.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:35 am

underdog in the background…..

Dude

December 19th, 2011
10:36 am

Like the colts lmao!!!

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:39 am

@ Leggs….I didn’t figure how deep he was in the movie, but I did notice inconsistency early. There were times when I thought, “wait a minute, if he is a retard, how did he figure out that”. I knew he wasn’t what he portrayed, but I had no idea how much. ;-)

Dude

December 19th, 2011
10:42 am

I don’t think he was a retard, I thought he was portrayed as a cripple, that wasn’t entirely too bright, but not stupid.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:42 am

Exactly, Randyt. It was evident he wasn’t what he portrayed. If you remember, he was mostly in the middle of the pact whenever they were together and he stayed quiet a lot piping in every so often. His quietness and short answers made me pay attention to him. He acted too unaware of things because of his handicap, and that made me pay attention to him more than others.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
10:42 am

@Leggs..I sent the email..

Regarding the Usual Suspects..heck I was starting to suspect it was the po-po..and then bam..Kevin Spacey..I loved him in the Negotiator too.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:47 am

@ Dude , yours is a better description, not a retard, but not bright either (he fooled them all). It has been a long time since I watched it and I forgot. My mistake.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
10:47 am

Hey Leggs I didn’t mean to imply that YOU were hurting or lashing out. I was saying that in a general way.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
10:52 am

@DreamsM ~ ok. I thought you were talking to me (lol).

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
10:52 am

Quoting kimmie – word for word.
#ThatIsAll

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
10:57 am

Great wikipedia article about Kaiser Soze. 48th “villain” in AFI’s top 100 Villains and heroes.

One of the most famous lines from the movie, spoken by Kint, is: “The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.”

Like KS said, hiding in the shadows.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
10:58 am

SCool – :)

What’s up?

Dude

December 19th, 2011
11:01 am

Hiding in the shadows like a bad dude in the friend zone lmao

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:06 am

TheDude and I had an opportunity to celebrate a friend earning her doctorate this Saturday. We met her and some of her friends at a local nightspot. One of her friends ended up spending a lot of time talking with us. After finding out that TheDude and I had just got engaged, she asked him where his single friends were. Her logic – that “they usually fall like dominoes. When one is ready, the rest of them tend to be more ready to settle down.” (Um, yeah…okay….)

I actually found her to be a really nice young lady. I encouraged her to stay optimistic, to not settle and to continue to work on herself to make sure that when she encountered someone worthy and ready that she, herself, would in fact be ready as well.

During the course of the evening, I ended up asking her to point out anyone in the room that she found attractive. She responded that the only men that caught her eye were already there with someone else. (Um, yeah…okay…)

So, I pointed out a young man to her and told her that while he was not the flashiest, most attractive guy in the room, he did *look* like he was a solid guy. (Don’t ask me what a solid guy looks like.) Since he was sitting almost directly behind her and she didn’t want to look back, she asked me, “What do his shoes look like?” (Um, yeah…okay…) My response, “Girl, you are not going to date his shoes.”

As TheDude and I left, she and I promised to connect on FB. I got her friend request on Sunday and accepted. Shortly after, she posted to me that she did spend some time conversing with the guy. She then says that when he asked for her number, she told him that she would take his instead. (Um, yeah…okay…)

I told her that she had immediately sent him the message that she really wasn’t all that interested in him and that she had undercut his ability to pursue her, to lead the “chase.” Like I told her, men are born to lead naturally.

Sorry for the novel…I just wanted to give a real life example of what a lot of chicks do wrong without even realizing it.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:10 am

I am cracking up. My first question would not be what his shes look like. Hell, it wouldn’t be a question at all. I would look at that myself. Shoes may say something about a man, but it doesn’t dictate who and what he is. Hell, even I have had on a bad pair of shoes a time or two. Only a time or two (lololol).

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:11 am

What I did not say to her, that I really wanted to, was that she could probably stand to lose about 30 – 50 pounds. Not saying that there is not someone out there for her at her current size or to be discriminatory against BBWs, but the truth is, your dating pool opens up a bit more when your body weight is within healthy ranges and your body shape proportionate.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
11:14 am

Great post SexyC, and I agree.

Dude

December 19th, 2011
11:16 am

That brings up an interesting topic, what is harder to do, build muscle or lose weight?

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:17 am

Lose weight. I believe muscle is easy to build up. Inches drop, then the weight.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
11:17 am

@SexyC..well as the resident BBW..I am gonna have to say that size is not what keeps folks from getting dates. Not gonna to open a discussion on looks just making a statement.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:18 am

@SexyC ~ when she said the guys she found attractive are already taken, did you feel she was alluding to TheDude???

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:19 am

kimmie – ran a 10K on Saturday – official finish time – 1:15:46. Oh the hills, were murder…

http://atlantasportsphotography.zenfolio.com/p729669772/hf6bd537#hf6bd537

Dude

December 19th, 2011
11:19 am

I have always had trouble gaining any weight, I have an insane metabolism, and even when I was in the best shape of my life lifting twice as much as I do now, I still weighed the exact same weight. I was very toned, but not a big and intimidating person what so ever.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:22 am

@SexyC ~ sorry, dumb question because she didn’t know the other guys in the room so how would she know they were taken. Just thought about that as I fry me some bacon and eggs.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:23 am

One more to show how horrible I really looked…

http://atlantasportsphotography.zenfolio.com/p729669772/h16457fc7#h16457fc7

I told my running group that I have never taken so many pictures without makeup and sweaty before becoming a part of this group.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:23 am

@ SC..re: “your dating pool opens up a bit more when your body weight is within healthy ranges and your body shape proportionate.”

No kidding. I’ve noticed that female opportunities are inversely proportional to belt size. It is what it is. Men are cut a little more slack than women, but not a hell of a lot. That is why the theme comes up in the blog sometimes about being reasonable about who you can attract. The answer lies in a critically objective glance in the morror…and an honest self-evaluation. The potential partner is going to analyze the entire package before buying and not just renting for the evening.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:26 am

For some reason, this go around, it’s harder for me to lose weight. I have been fairly consistent in my eating and workouts but in the last three months, I have only lost three pounds. However, this morning, I have on a pair of jeans that I could not button three months ago. Go figure.

And Kym, I agree, to a point, and I understand not debating the issue.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:27 am

@ Leggs, i have been working with a personal trainer since before and have initially gained weight (pizzes me off). I’m hoping that as muscle mass is added, then fat/weight comes off. I’m not fat, but if i want to step up a notch in the ladies I go out with, I have to be competitive…because partners expect as much or more from me as they do from themselves.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:29 am

meant before Thanksgiving, not just before. speaking of typos, Leggs did you ever find your “g”. ;-)

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
11:29 am

When one is ready, the rest of them tend to be more ready to settle down.”

SCool – While they might not necessarily “follow suit”, I do find that like-minded tend to travel in packs. Most of my husbands friends tend to be the family-oriented type – most are married with kids. Or those that are single are divorced and seriously dating someone.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:29 am

LOL – Leggs, no, that didn’t occur to me. Otherwise, I would have hit her over the head with a bottle. (Blame the inner ghetto girl….TEAS—ING!)

As I looked over the room, I didn’t find the guys who were at tables with a woman/women to be any more attractive that the guys that obviously by themselves. I felt like it spoke to the school of thought that a person *seems* more attractive when you know that you’re not the only one that wants ‘em. (shrugs….)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:31 am

@SexyC ~ I’m proud of you…you do not look horrible at all. Girl, you look good for running in a race.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:35 am

I think I saw Jesus on a couple of those hills. (lol)

Thank God the half mary in New Orleans is flat running.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
11:35 am

I think it really all goes back to the statement relaxing and doing you. When you are being your genuine self..that is when you are at your best and I think that is when he/she will notice..love is more a happy accident than a planned event.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:36 am

@Randyt ~ I started gaining weight and it felt weird. I couldn’t gain weight if you paid me a million bucks. Never thought I had to even maintain. I got a rude wake up call. As long as you maintain you will be fine. Muscle will develop first making you feel like you’ve gain weight. Your body is shifting, accommodating the newly defined muscles. The inches will fall off and, inches are by far much better than losing the weight right away.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:38 am

@Randyt ~ haa haa haa, it wasn’t lost, just sleeping. I’m working on bring it to the surface….ummm, hell, pun intended (lolol).

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:39 am

kym – I agree. It is very attractive to be at home and comfortable in your own skin. It projects an air of confidence that is sexy.

disco

December 19th, 2011
11:41 am

leggs – yeah she did do a lot of things wrong but I’m not going to pass too much judgment on her. it sounds like other than the phone number part she was just being a little bit shallow re physical/appearance type things. is it right? not necessarily. is she entitled? yep. dude may have looked “solid” but he could have had a tree trunk growing out of his forehead or something.
re: the part about her being a big girl. I’m not going to front. a lot of those big girls be getting theirs.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:44 am

@SexyC ~ I have a way you can get some more money for your wedding…you interested in hearing about it?

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:45 am

Actually, when you wanna get technical about it, I am considered a “big girl.”

I am 5′10″ and I weigh 187 pounds.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:45 am

Is water wet?

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:46 am

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:48 am

@ Leggs. I have to ask, have you seen boytoy since I made that comment about how he would be walking home with a towel over his crotch if you started talking about your catsuit?

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:49 am

…and sweating profusely.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
11:50 am

There are some crazy folks in this world..last week a dude killed a woman in a elevator by setting her on fire..he turned himself in..reason for the murder..The woman refused to pay him for a job after she caught him stealing from her. Hell I say..this is bloody hell we are living in right now.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
11:51 am

a lot of those big girls be getting theirs.

disco – You better believe it! Shoot, most of the ones I know have no trouble at all. I think it has to do with their confidence. Two I know in particular come to mind. They dress flattering and their hair and makeup,etc are flawless. They are confident and sure of themselves and men flock to them! In contrast, the women I see that don’t get as much attention, of ANY size, are not comfortable in their skin and don’t present themselves as well – drab, sloppy, no spunk or life, negative.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:55 am

@ Kym, there are some “people” in this world that lack the fundemental quality that makes someone a human being, have no soul or conscience.. Maybe it is because I have just lived too dayum long and seen a lot of things I wish I hadn’t, but that is why I personally am for capital punishment.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
11:55 am

@SexyC ~ too funny.

If you have gold at home you’re haven’t worn in the past few years, and you won’t miss it, sell it. I have been saving gold for quite some time. I pick up broken gold in the streets (if it looks real), save my one earring, necklaces with kinks in them, even the little gold clasps that fall off. I’ve melt some down and made a nugget (which was stolen from me), etc. I turned some of my gold in yesterday at So.Dekalb Mall yesterday and got $1,471 for it. I was surprised.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
11:57 am

@ Kimmie, what did you think of Dexter?

Speaking of Dexter, re the dude in the elevator, where is Dexter Morgan?, we need him now.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:58 am

Leggs – you about to make me start snatching folks’ chains. (So TOTALLY teasing…)

Unfortunately, I have not worn or bought anything gold since high school, I’m a silver chick. So, I can’t take advantage of that one. (sighs…)

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
11:59 am

But that $1500 was a good haul and a great surprise, I’m sure.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
12:02 pm

That’s because gold is selling at about $1300 per ounce. That’s why you’re seeing all these “We Buy Gold” places popping up. Nice chunk of change though Leggs.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
12:03 pm

Randyt – I thought it was fantastic! Yes, that ending was very unexpected.

One thing I am hoping the ending will bring and that is this path they seemed to be going with Debby being in love with Dexter! Maybe what she saw will put a stop to that! That is one story line I want nixed NOW!! Just too weird!!!

The Doomsday Killer story line was exciting though!!

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:04 pm

@Randyt ~ you already asked that when you asked if I found my g (lololol). Yes, I’ve seen him, but not in that way (lol). I told him what you said and he laughed saying “man, I would love to have seen that.”

Kym

December 19th, 2011
12:05 pm

@Leggs…I need you to teach me how to play the Cash 3..I was talking about you yesterday to my sister..I said I know this woman who has the Cash 3 down to a science.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:06 pm

They buy silver too….gather some up and get it weighed. You may be pleasantly surprised.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
12:07 pm

@Kimmie, That story line was weird, I agree. It is even wierder to me because the divorce was finalized between Jennifer Carpenter and Michael C. Hall about a month ago so this whole thing has seemed weird…apart from the brother/sister thing. I kind of would like them to bring Lumen back through some time…maybe it is time for her to get her kill game on again.

[...] Online dating sites are without a doubt a huge boon to meeting people in the modern world. They take some of the uncertainty, expense and annoyance out of the struggle to find our match, preventing us from spending time in smelly and unpleasant singles bars or other meat market situations. However there are many steps to successfully achieving an adult dating relationship via one of these sites, and some of the more difficult ones happen at the beginning. [...]

disco

December 19th, 2011
12:08 pm

SCool – 5’10”? dang (said the little 5’3” girl).

kimmie – my son cracked jokes about the day when the big girls are gonna have the skinny chicks feeling insecure.

O/T – I’m trying to find someplace to get some chicken and waffles (a harlem spot was on man v. food over the weekend and now I’m on a mission). not trying to wait until the weekend brunches either.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
12:10 pm

Re the chicken and waffles, Doesn’t that place on Peachtree near the Fox still sell that? I think that is the name of the restaurant actually.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
12:10 pm

LOL – yeah…I’ve got a little bit of height on me.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:11 pm

Too bad I had tall lil leggs with me. She immediately wanted to go shopping, which I didn’t do. On our way to the car she asked if I had more gold at home for a rainy day…rainy day means when she needs something and I don’t have the funds for it (lol). She stood beside me in amazement at my gold pieces. Ssshh, I even threw in my ex’s wedding ring. Hell, he threw it at me many years ago, I caught it and kept it!!!!

The thing with Cash 3 is to emotionally attached to a number and keep playing it. You may remember that I always play 129 (my bday). I caught it 2 weeks ago, but it fell 921. So, I only got $40.

Randyt (aka Time for reflection, time for direction)

December 19th, 2011
12:14 pm

HAHA at Leggs, I was wondering about the wedding ring I threw at my ex too (as well as the rings I bought her, but small price to pay for, as Braveheart put it, FREEDOM!!!).

Kym

December 19th, 2011
12:19 pm

@Leggs..my bday is 710 and 409 is special for me too..I may have to give them a try this week..my problem is remembering to check to see if I win the money.

disco

December 19th, 2011
12:22 pm

randy – thanks but I’m not in that neck of the woods. I’m on a mission though. biggest problem is restaurants are serving chicken tenders as opposed to pieces of actual fried chicken.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:22 pm

I have played 9431long enough (2 months) that it’s only a matter of time. Every other number is falling but that…9432 fell, 9434 has fallen, 9132 has fallen,etc. I’m so caught up now that if I don’t play it will definitely fall…I take some days off hoping it doesn’t fall. Just throwing money away….

Audra

December 19th, 2011
12:24 pm

I like what “MsMarriedUp” had to say – that it’s about Friends. She’s right – I think we need to work on being a friend to someone first, instead of thinking about what THEY have to do for US. That’s good advice, period, not just with love and dating.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
12:27 pm

See that’s the cash 4 that’s too many numbers..it will mess me up..I got to stay in my lane. Cash will be just fine. So if I do a dollar a day 50 cent box..that gets me how much?

LOL about 20 years ago talking like this would have had us all locked up. Numbers racket aka illegal lotto.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
12:28 pm

Audra – The friends thing is nice, but a lot of folks don’t know how to be friends. They will still try to push it further and expect to sleep with their friend. If you’re going to be truly friends, keep it at just that, until the 2 of you decide you’d like to take it further.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
12:31 pm

The dry heat in my house is about to cause me to commit hari-kari.

I have never had a problem with dry heat before. Do any of you have any recommendations for a humidifier or a vaporizer?

My sinuses will thank you.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:32 pm

@Kym ~ 904 means something to me (September 4th). I’ve played it but always miss when it actually falls.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:42 pm

Cash 4 is a tricky pony. Those numbers (well my numbers) usually fall in Georgia5 or some other game. The problem is there are too may lottery games. But, my number is going to fall. I might be 60 when it falls, but it’s going to fall (lol, but really boo hoo boo hoo).

Back to dating and doing things differently. What I’m finding difficult is not many want to take the time to be friends first and simply enjoy finding out about each other. Patience is lacking.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
12:48 pm

What I’m finding difficult is not many want to take the time to be friends first and simply enjoy finding out about each other. Patience is lacking.

Leggs – Bingo. Everyone is just in a rush to get to the drawers.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
12:57 pm

@kimmie ~ and, when they realize the drawers aren’t falling as quickly as they want them to, they move on without a moment’s notice. People tend to use dating like a fast food drive thru. So much on the menu that they don’t feel it’s necessary to savor the treat right in front of them.

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
1:17 pm

Good afternoon all…

PLEASE send out all the prayers of miracles that I passed my fitness test this morning. I NEED this.

Leggs – The beau has been playing $20 a week on lotto. He’ll do 5 Decades of Dollars, 5 Megamillion and 5 Power Ball. This last week he won his $20 back and threw it on for this week. I’m never really that lucky though.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:24 pm

On Mega, I’m good at getting the Megaball ($2.00). I think it should be much more than that (lol).

@Kym ~ I forgot to answer you. I don’t know what .50 pays out when playing box. I was playing 1.00 straight on Cash 4, but since play .50 twice (2500 each ticket instead of 5000 on one ticket (for tax purposes).

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:26 pm

@SlimNu ~ how do you think you did on the push ups, or was it sit ups you were concerned about, or was it crunches???

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
1:32 pm

I was concerned mainly with the push-ups part of it…I did better than I though I would on those but still low. So as my mom told me this morning, “You did you best now only God can do the rest”

Kym

December 19th, 2011
1:32 pm

Okay I am back..Thanks Leggs..I will give it a whirl on Cash 3 who knows I might win! I am not sure what I would do if I won Mega Millions I would be too stunned.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:43 pm

@Kym ~ you can’t play for just one week and give up. You have to keep on playing for a while..then give up if your number doesn’t fall. On Cash 3, numbers come back often. 921 a few weeks ago, 129 is going to fall again. Cash 4 is a joke (only because I haven’t won). I won $100 with one of my pin numbers a few months back, just can’t hit it big.

Guys, think about the last 4 digits of your social or even your phone number…play with those numbers. Get one combo you like and play that straight (.50) then scramble the number around until you get another combo you like and play $1.00 straight/box for a good month.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
1:52 pm

Is Dreams here? You’re a mathematician, right? ‘Cos I am aching to give a little refresher course on probability here, but I know you’d do a better job of explaining it than I would.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:53 pm

How many are willing by doing something different in their dating strategy that they will attempt a LDR? I don’t think I could do it. I need to start out as friends in the same state I’m in if anything to build trust. Don’t know how people build up trust starting out in different states.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
1:55 pm

@SwissCheese..are you about to rain on our dreams of hitting it big..with some ole boogie math logic stuff??

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
1:56 pm

:lol: Kym — I would never do that. That’s why I’m trying to recruit Dreams to do it for me. :lol:

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:57 pm

Go for it, swiss…apparently probability isn’t in my favor.

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
2:01 pm

The mere thought of attempting a LDR makes me mentally tired. There is just soooo much more you have to deal with trying to make it work over the miles.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:01 pm

Just like “the man” trying to dash a sista’s hopes and dreams..(first politically incorrect coment of the day)

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:02 pm

Okay, Leggs, but remember, I’m only the messenger. ;-)

Basically, you could play the same combination of numbers every day of your life and the odds of winning are absolutely identical to your odds of winning by playing different, completely random numbers every day of your life. That’s because each drawing is completely independent of any others. The fact that numbers 1 2 & 3 fell yesterday has absolutely zero effect on the odds of 1 2 & 3 falling again tomorrow. The odds are always exactly identical, no matter what numbers you play.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
2:02 pm

What up folks, hey my lotto folks….play responsibly….sounds like an oxymoron to me.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:04 pm

Damn swiss, and here I thought you were going to school me on something.

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:05 pm

the odds of winning the lotto is 50/50. either you win or you don’t.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:06 pm

It is an oxymoron, Jake. One of the many ways to simply throw money away. I believe we all realize this. There are many worse off like those who stand there playing $100+ on Cash 3/Cash 4 in one fell swoop.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:06 pm

:lol: I’m just saying that sticking with the same numbers over a period of time does not increase the likelihood of winning at all. It might make you feel better, but it doesn’t improve your chances one bit.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:07 pm

Leggs – I’ve been in 3 LDR’s. If I were on the dating scene, I would never do it again.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:07 pm

Somebody is winning, why can’t I believe it could be me (lol)?

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:10 pm

@swiss, no, it doesn’t increase your chances of winning, it increases the number of times some form of that number will fall whether it jumps to another game or not.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:12 pm

@kimmie ~ I wouldn’t even consider it. I had one guy tell me nothing wrong with jumping on a plane once a month if I wanted to get to know him. I asked if he thought I was foolish and let me counteract with are you willing to pay for my air every month….crickets.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

Oh, you can believe it, Leggs. Heck, if I have any spare change on me I always buy either a powerball or mega millions ticket whenever I fill up with gas. (Hey, the biggest statistical improvement to my odds of winning that I could possibly make are going from not playing to buying 1 ticket, so what the heck?) :lol:

Mostly, this discussion just caught my eye because I’ve had this argument with a buddy of mine in the past. He firmly believes that your odds improve by playing the same numbers over and over, and I firmly believe he needs to take a statistics class. ;-) :lol:

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

just at lunch time today I stood behind a woman who was playing about 2-3 weeks’ worth of lotto numbers. I heard her say to play the numbers through January 15. when the woman grabbed another form and started filling in numbers I knew I wasn’t going to wait my turn. I signaled that I was leaving the money for my chips on the counter.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:14 pm

I’m with disco. Either you win or you don’t.. And it only takes one ticket to win. So, I usually only buy one quick pick.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

“it increases the number of times some form of that number will fall whether it jumps to another game or not.”

Actually, no, it doesn’t. The odds of a particular number falling is always exactly identical with each drawing. Doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or the day before that or 2 weeks ago. Every drawing is completely random and completely independent of all previous and future drawings. There is no weighting of numbers based on previous results. The numbers are always selected totally at random from the same set of possible numbers. If 1 2 & 3 fall today, the odds of 1 2 & 3 falling tomorrow are exactly identical to what they where today — no more or less likely.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

I have a few numbers that I like to play once in awhile that have meaning to me, but they happen to be good numbers to play too, because I see them fall alot. Like my birthday January 17. 1 and 17 fall often. My mom and kid’s birthdays, wedding dates, etc. If I was faithful, I probably would have won something by now, but I’m not.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

I hated statistics, but it was a required course. :(

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:20 pm

@SexyC ~ I buy a quick pick mega tix then go one up one down on two more tix. A few weeks ago I went one up, but not one down because I only had $2.00 on me…every number was one down from my one up tix. Every freaking number!!!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:21 pm

oops… “what they *were today” not “where”

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:23 pm

“Every drawing is completely random and completely independent of all previous and future drawings.”

Don’t even believe that. I have nothing factual to back this feeling up with, but it’s what I feel.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
2:23 pm

No Kimmie, they don’t fall often, you recognize them when they do fall, thus increasing your perception that they fall commonly.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

Leggs – Many people have told me about the up & down thing. It does happen. I’m just too impatient and cheap to do it every time I play. I just want to get the “drawers”(the money)!!LOL!!!

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

I am aching to give a little refresher course on probability here, but I know you’d do a better job of explaining it than I would
swiss Man that’s a setup. I am 100% in support of the lotto. If one of you happens to win (1 in 300,000,000 chance) then I want you to remember me as the kind supportive one. ;-)

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

Jake – See that’s why I hated stats!! LOL!! But I’m sure you’re right!!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:27 pm

“I have nothing factual to back this feeling up with, but it’s what I feel.”

Oh LAWD, Leggs, say it ain’t so! You sound like Herman Cain! :lol: ;-)

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:28 pm

dang – if I had a dollar I’d buy a ticket and I NEVER buy lottery tickets. I tend to think of the other things I can do with that dollar.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:29 pm

@Jake ~ I definitely feel you on the “perception” aspect. I always pay attention to Cash 4 and Cash 3. Not once have I seen 9431. I would remember because that number means something very very dear to me. Now, since I’ve been playing it, I see it all the time in all combos on license plates all the time.

I sometimes pay the year lil leggs was born, it has come many ways always the last digit not coming through.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

Well random or not.. I am in the pool for the Mega Millions and Powerball this week.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: That was funny, swiss. Hey I just play the numbers, not trying to develop a playbook. If I did, then I will have some stats…9 9 9 is not one of my winning numbers.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:35 pm

Oh…and can I just say that nine times out of ten, I forget to play when I say I am. With that being said, I have probably missed out on winning millions plenty of times. (lol)

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:39 pm

Show Me The Money!!!

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

I always feel like the money winds up with the right people..you know the single mama who had lost her job, or the factory workers who were just laid off..everybody accept that guy who won a million on the scratch off twice..him..he needs to stop playing and give the rest of us a chance.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

But seriously, I am a firm believer in “Everything that is suppose happens does. And it happens when it’s supposed to happen.”

So, if I am destined to be a lottery millionaire, it will happen whether I play $20 a week, with chosen numbers or not, or if I play one Friday afternoon with the dollar I found in the elevator at the MARTA station.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:43 pm

I just can’t stand it when I see folks win something, not just the lotto, anything, and not get excited about it. Like yeah, I just won a brand new car, whatever!

Shoot, let me win the $10 Starbucks card door prize at the church social and I’m jumping up and down!! :lol:

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:43 pm

I still remember back when my grandmother used to play her number with the numbers runner. little dude with a notepad in his breastpocket sitting in a folding chair out on the sidewalk. she’s been gone for several years now but I still notice when her numbers fall. her regulars were 729, 725, 503, 201 and 396. she didn’t do anything other than pick 3.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:44 pm

Not once have I seen 9431.
Leggs Based on the number of combinations of a 4 digit number, you could play 9431 for almost 20 years without seeing it.

swiss what you say about independent events is true. The only thing that increases your odds is playing more than one ticket for the same drawing. Of course you’re also increasing your expense.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:45 pm

I’ve been trying, kimmie (LOLOL).

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:53 pm

Like yeah, I just won a brand new car, whatever!
kimmie That’s me. lol When I was like 11 I won about $100 by calling in to the radio station. When they told me I had won, I was like “ok.” The dj said, “you don’t sound excited.”, and the co-host followed up with “the shock of winning must have him speechless.” I wasn’t shocked; I’ve just always been that way. lol

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:54 pm

@disco ~ 729 is one of my numbers. It’s connected with my 904!

@DreamsM ~ this is true, but I like the stats I see around me and not those on paper. My neighbor played 1122 for 6 months and won $10,000.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

Dreams – See I would probably embarass you then, because if I knew you and were around you when you won something I would do enough jumping and screaming for the both of us!LOL!!!

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

dreams – I’m not very excitable either. not that I win anything often (gotta play to win) but just in general. I take it but I don’t do flips or cartwheels over it. no jumping up and down and high pitched squeals for me.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

I’m excited every time I went something. When I hear people on the radio winning sounding like a drip faucet I want to punch the dashboard.

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
2:58 pm

When they told me I had won, I was like “ok.”

DM – You’re just like someone else I know. Are you that way as well when opening a gift given to you?…sort of like, Thanks…no bells & whistles?

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:58 pm

win something….

I don’t squeal, but I’m always tickled.

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:59 pm

kimmie – yesterday my best friend’s wedding was on and I remember thinking that Cameron diaz got on my nerves in the church when she got all excited when she thought Julia Roberts was engaged. I was thinking bubbly chicks like that irk the heck out of me. it’s not that real.

cba

December 19th, 2011
3:00 pm

The only way I will believe the numbers are totally random is if they were all put in a big brown paper sack. LOL Then you have C Blackmon reach in and pull them out.
With all the technology they have in place, they can choose the convient store at the corner of hog head road and chicken liver blvd, in Jesup GA and not the Shell station on Scenic Hwy ( the one I use) :lol:

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
3:00 pm

I get excited cause the sun came up. I feel like I just won a new day, another opportunity. (lol)

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:02 pm

While I may not jump …I might just shout out a “Hot D@@M or two or three….oh and for those who were at the friday chat..I wound up giving Wild Irish Rose($1.40) as my gag gift of cheap booze..it brought back memories..apparently Boone Farms was the cheap booze for the uppity people.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:03 pm

Leggs, how much do you need to put on a number to win 10G’s

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:04 pm

kym – not that you found some wild irish rose. I don’t think that came up. I do remember that my father used to drink tiger rose and that it came in a big gallon sized green glass jar.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:05 pm

Afternoon, all!

Ahhh, the lottery. I play Mega Millions and PowerBall every week, and have played the same numbers since the lottery started in GA. Haven’t won big yet, but…. (fingers crossed)

Somebody please tell me why we can’t just coast into the new year….they have poor ITL working HARD today! :lol:

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
3:05 pm

@Jake ~ $2.00 straight! That’s all.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
3:05 pm

That’s why hitting straight is difficult.

I’m in agreement with you, cba!

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:06 pm

disco – Now let me clarify – I’m not what you would call the “bubbly, goofy, giggly, blond” type. I just like to clown and act goofy at times. Winning something gives me that opportunity to do so in public! LOL!!

My kids love it when I’m in the kitchen and I will just break out with a goofy dance or song. They can’t help but crack up, since I really can’t dance!!

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:06 pm

apparently Boone Farms was the cheap booze for the uppity people.

Mmmm-hmmmm. I resemble that remark. LOL

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
3:06 pm

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
3:09 pm

this is true, but I like the stats I see around me and not those on paper. My neighbor played 1122 for 6 months and won $10,000.
Leggs For every person who won in six months, there are a million who played and never won at all. My great great grandmother lived to be 98, and she played every week until she died. Never won more than $500 dollars. Most people’s situations are like that. But if your luck has been different, then keep doing what you do. Someone has to win, why not you. If you play, your odds of winning might be low. If you don’t play, your odds of winning are ZERO.

I would do enough jumping and screaming for the both of us!LOL!!! I wouldn’t be embarassed. Everyone expresses joy in a different way. If you want to do cartwheels and break out in the Running Man, I’m good with that. lol

no jumping up and down and high pitched squeals for me.
disco yeah that’s me. just gimme my money. lol

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:10 pm

Neighbor prolly broke even….6th months worth of playing multiple numbers, midday and night…the rate of return just isnt high enough.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:12 pm

@disco..I couldn’t remember what all was mention..but MD20/20 was 2.99 and cisco..was around the same price..I wanted to get some hard times booze and Wild Irish fit the bill. It was on the bottom shelf in the fridge..according to the cashier that is how the folks like it..served cold..I told my buddies..sip that slow..got to make it last…hard times booze.

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:13 pm

I don’t ever remember being overly excitable (except for angry outbursts – now in that regard I get very excited). I’m going to have to call my mother and ask if I got excited when I was really little. I doubt it though since I was such a serious child. I’ve annoyed a boyfriend or two by not showing enough enthusiasm for a gift or surprise. I’m like I said thanks what else do you want.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
3:14 pm

@DreamsM ~ of course…of course. When I’m playing my number I always talk to people and most have the same story…always one number off. Everyone talks about the one up, one down. When I don’t remember to do that, the number falls that way. Playing one up, one down all the time is too expensive.

BUT, I’m going to beat the odds and when one of these days. Hopefully before I have to walk around with a cane. Even then, I’m alive so I can enjoy it even if I give some of it away. That’s joyful to me as well.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:15 pm

Leggs, I will happily share your winnings. I would NEVER want to steal your joy. :lol:

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:16 pm

kym – did y’all crack that bottle open and have at it? if someone gifted me some wild irish rose I’d pull out a deck of cards and we’d be playing black or red / high or low.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
3:16 pm

Why do I keep typing when for win?????

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:17 pm

Leggs – It may sound like a cliche’, but I do find great joy in giving. When I am able to give something to someone I care about that they really want or need, I am very happy.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:18 pm

@disco..naw we were in a bar..we had a gift trade of booze..but someone did gets some maker’s mark and a few bottles of tequila were gifted..it’s lucky we didn’t kicked out all the booze at our table.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:19 pm

Life is serious enough. I like to SHOUT every now and then!

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
3:19 pm

Yes indeed, kimmie. Yes indeed.

Ok, have to go to likka store and get my likka and play my number.

@disco ~ I’m going to put $2 on 729 straight…yes ma’am!

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:20 pm

@Leggs..speak those things as if they are so..say..”When I hit the big money..

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:20 pm

All joking aside, I co-sign Kimmie’s 3:17. I do love the feeling of knowing you brought joy to someone.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:21 pm

Kym: I started The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo today. :)

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
3:21 pm

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
3:22 pm

Are you that way as well when opening a gift given to you?
slim I used to be a long time ago, but I changed because I realized the perception that people would have. I don’t want anyone to feel that I’m not thankful or appreciative. Still not doing cartwheels though (hey kimmie). ;-)

I’m going to have to call my mother and ask if I got excited when I was really little.
disco I don’t even have to call my moms for this one because I remember. Whenever I would get into trouble, my moms would let me know I was about to get a whooping or punishment, or both. I would just be like “ok.” This used to infuriate her, and she would always say, “you don’t even care do you?” Thing is, I did care, I just didn’t express it by crying or begging or getting animated.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
3:22 pm

I’m going to raid the piggy bank on my desk and go buy a Fantasy Five and a Georgia Five before I leave the airport. (lol)

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:23 pm

Random Thought…I do believe that if I had made the “really wrong turns in my life” I would be some female version of Stringer Bell.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:27 pm

Hey Dreams! :lol:

But you know, while I get excited when I win something, I’m not fake with it either. It’s a fine balance. I’m very warm and appreciative when someone gives me anything. But everything does not warrant a scream!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
3:27 pm

In all seriousness, though… If I ever did win the lottery, Mrs. Swiss & I would disappear, never to be heard from again, at least not in our current circles. :lol:

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:28 pm

@ITL..it starts slow but picks up as you go along..I am excited to see if the movie keeps to the book..I am on like hour 10 of the audiobook..I am listen now..

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:28 pm

dreams – as far back as I can remember I’ve been relatively non-chalant. still, I’m wondering if perhaps I was excitable in my early years. say before my brother was born (when I was around 3) and robbed me of my only-child-ness. maybe I started off excited and then they traumatized me with such a life shattering event that I never recovered my ability to express excitement. yeah. that sounds right. I’m going to call my mother and start something.

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
3:30 pm

DM – Thats how my beau is…I tell him all the time he’d be a great poker player because you just never know what that joker is thinking or feeling if he doesn’t verbalize it.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:30 pm

@Disco..you are blaming you lack of excitement on your brother and your mama? LOL..you better be glad shoes don’t travel via phone..she gonna get you.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
3:31 pm

On second thought, I’m going to buy a Win For Life ticket instead. I just recalled dreaming that I won that one night recently.

Have you even done that? Had something come up and it reminded you of a dream?

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:31 pm

@Kym: I saw the trailer yesterday, and decided I better get busy reading. I have a personal rule that I won’t see a movie until after I’ve read the book. Started way back when I used to read a lot of Stephen King and the movies, although good, always fell a little short of the books.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:33 pm

Hubs is not excitable like me. He is very even-keeled and calm. But he manages to be that way and not hurt feelings or come off unappreciative.

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:34 pm

kym – it’s an inside joke that I was supposed to be an only child but my parents didn’t get the memo. my mother knows I’m off and naturally she won’t pay me a lick of attention. naturally I’ll say that’s because of the other siblings as well. (my mother swears that my brothers and I are all jealous of one another and compete for her affections. mostly it’s jokes but I think it makes her feel good).

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:35 pm

SCool – The other night I dreamed I went to pay for a cup of coffee and realized I had been passed some counterfeit 100 dollar bills!

Wonder what that dream means?

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:35 pm

@ITL yep that’s me..I read all the Harry Potter’s book before seeing the movies. That way I can yell and say hey that is not how that happen. Now I can’t read or watch Stephen King..only movie I ever saw was misery. His mind is one scary place.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:38 pm

@disco. I was the only kid for seven years. So I have all the only kid traits, right along with the oldest child traits. I believe the clinical term would be spoiled, high achiever, co-dependence syndrome.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:38 pm

Kimmie- just wait, somebody got a Red Devil Dreambook, they give you a number for your dream and all…lol.

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:38 pm

kimmie – dreammoods.com has a dream interpretation dictionary. I looked up counterfeit:

To see counterfeit money in your dream indicates that you are feeling unworthy or that someone is devaluing your talents or efforts. Perhaps something is not what it appears to be. Alternatively, this dream symbol suggests that you are pretending to be something you are not.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
3:40 pm

It is indeed, Kym. He is the master of suspended disbelief. I tend to be a fairly pragmatic and logical girl, but reading his books….even if it was something you KNOW could never happen, I’d be like, “Well, maybe……” :) A friend of mine is in his play. Can’t WAIT to go see it.

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:41 pm

jake – now I haven’t seen a dream book with numbers in a minute – probably more than 30 years. I’ve got a few different dream books at home because I dream some crazy stuff each and every night so I’m always flipping through my dream book.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:41 pm

kimmie- see what it says about dreaming about coffee….the actual subject of the dream…

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:42 pm

someone is devaluing your talents or efforts

disco – On a professional level, this would be true for me.

Thanks!

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:44 pm

I dreamed I saw someone trying to steal my purse while I was trying to push a grocery buggie up a hill. I wonder what that means. I better there is a lotto number in there somewhere.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:44 pm

disco – Can you look up dreaming about coffee, like Jake said?

Jake – I am a coffee-holic, so I am not surprised it came up in a dream!LOL!!

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

Hey is there a dreamsmood app?

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

Disco- they still around, just go to a hood number spot, somewhere that they have a sit down table in the station, i bet they sell dream books.

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:45 pm

To dream that you are drinking or need your coffee suggests that you need to gain some insight and knowledge before making a decision or tackling some project/relationship. You may be acting too hasty and need to slow down. Alternatively, it may imply a need for you to change your routine.

To dream that you are drinking coffee with someone indicates that you might have feelings for that person. Alternatively, having coffee with someone denotes your hospitality and sociability.

To see a coffee pot in your dream signifies hospitality and sharing of knowledge, hopes, concerns and/or ideas. It may also represent neighborliness, comfort, and companionship.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
3:48 pm

There you go Kimmie, there is a practical reason for most of what shows up in your dreams…did you see any reports or shows that spoke about counterfeiting?

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:50 pm

Thanks for this website disco..I am going to share it with my yin/yang twin..we are always calling each other and sharing dreams. I found info on purse and thief..said someone might be stealing my time..that right there is soooo true.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
3:54 pm

Thanks disco! I can buy the needing to gain insight before making a decision. Also the sociability thing too, with the holiday socializing I’ve been doing.

Jake – The only thing suggesting conterfeiting I can remember is that recently I was paying for something in like Target or Walmart, and the cashier really examined the bills I gave her a little “extra” if you ask me. So maybe that was still on my mind, I don’t know!

disco

December 19th, 2011
3:56 pm

y’all are welcome. I hit that site up almost everyday. first thing in the morning I jot down the key words from my dreams.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
3:57 pm

Have a good evening folks..!

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
4:08 pm

Okay, I’m outta here!

Be easy!!

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:09 pm

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
4:13 pm

ITL — I did. One of my bro’s at work is a big tennis buff & absolutely HATES anything ITP. I showed him this & his head nearly exploded. :lol:

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:17 pm

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:20 pm

The next picture is something the APS should consider…

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:23 pm

I showed him this & his head nearly exploded

Did you give him an after dinner mint? They’re wah-fah thin…. LOL

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
4:28 pm

Quik trip is CROWDED. Gas at $2.99 has caused a traffic jam.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:33 pm

Sorry, Swiss, just seemed like a Monty Python moment.

You know I’ll have to go see DGD Isner.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
4:34 pm

Flicking lights looking around in the dark…was the light bill paid? Did everyone go home, it’s dark in here…

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:34 pm

I’m here, Leggs…..

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:39 pm

I’m still here but ready to go…come on 20 minutes

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
4:39 pm

Anytime is Monty Python time, ITL. D@mn… you’re a DAWG, you follow tennis (well, at least enough to know who Isner is), you like Monty Python & from what I remember, you haver pretty good taste in music. It’s too bad I’m married & you’re white, otherwise I’d totally date you. ;-) :lol:

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
4:42 pm

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
4:43 pm

You think everyone here knew she was white??

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
4:47 pm

Oh, well, actually, I’m not 100% certain, but I always thought so. I mean I’ve heard some of the bands she likes & now she’s quoting Monty Python, so I figure that’s 2 strikes. :lol:

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:52 pm

swiss – that sounds like a good idea for a game show. They’ll be people behind a screen. The contestants will have to ask the hidden peeps different questions and the first to figure out their race with the least amount of questions asked wins. :lol:

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
4:54 pm

That does sound like an interesting show, especially if someone like Carlton (from Fresh Prince) was behind the screen (lol).

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:54 pm

Need to come up with a catchy name though…hmmmm….The Stereotype Me Show? Tight Cast?

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
4:55 pm

Slim — That would be hilarious. Um… uh… would it make me racist if I was really good at that game? :? :lol:

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
4:56 pm

“Who You Calling a Honkey??”

No? Too much?

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:57 pm

LOL!! Step away for a moment and come back to hilarity! Y’all are cracking me up. :)

Po’ little ITL…obvious in her whiteness. LOL

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
4:58 pm

How about Name That Race???

“I can name that race in two clues, Bob”
“Jim, name that race!!”

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
4:59 pm

swiss – that just may be a weee bit too over the top :lol: Good try though. I think I’d want Dave Chappell to be the host.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
5:00 pm

“Cracker, Please!”

No?

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:01 pm

How about “Don’t Let the Dialect Fool You”

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:02 pm

I’d take Dave Chappell over Suge Knight (lololol).

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:06 pm

Dave Chappell would be great!

“So, Don, you’ve heard the clues….she can’t dance, she thinks rain requires an umbrella, and she thinks Kool-Aid is a charity….NAME THAT RACE!”

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:08 pm

Too funny “she thinks rain requires an umbrella” = Good One!

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:10 pm

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
5:13 pm

By the way, ITL, it’s okay to be obvious in your white-dom. I’m white & I’m proud, but I just don’t believe in INTRAracial relationships… :lol:

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:18 pm

LOL@Swiss. I’ve dated dated interracially and intraracially. Great men come in all colors. :)

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:24 pm

Having said that, there are certain races that I have NEVER found myself attracted to. Probably perfectly lovely men, but they just don’t crank my tractor. ;)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:26 pm

“…they just don’t crank my tractor.” Only a white person would say that. I am in stitches over here.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:30 pm

PS – I can also drive a tractor, Leggs. ;)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:34 pm

@ITL ~ the only person I know with a tractor is PR (lol).

Harder please

December 19th, 2011
5:35 pm

Just wow. Too funny.

Into the Light

December 19th, 2011
5:43 pm

I think BF said one time that he used to have one. My uncle had one that was air conditioned and had a pretty decent radio. :)

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
5:47 pm

Oh my, a pimped up tractor (lol). This is when the city girl in me comes out…I know nada about farming equipment, let alone sitting on one.

American Woman-Stay Away from me

December 19th, 2011
5:53 pm

Just one man’s observation…most men, of marrying age, were raised by women in the 60’s and 70’s….women back then were examples of selflessness, morality, and family oriented….contrast them with today’s modern women who are selfish, immoral, and want someone to take care of them AND you’ll see why there are so many American men marrying foreign brides….