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Change your dating strategy?

If you have not been successful in your dating this year, maybe it is time to change your strategy. There is no reason to keep doing the same things and going to the same places, if they don’t produce the results you want.

So what can you do differently to get different results? It is so easy to get stuck in a rut but exploring a new thing can be exciting and fun. Try a different part of town to mingle in. Pick up a new organization to volunteer with – you can contribute time while expanding your circle of associates. That’s win – win.

A lot of relationships begin after two people were “referred” to one another through mutual friends. I got a Facebook message from a friend in another city inquiring about single men that I know. Some people may not know you are available and open to meeting someone new. Why not casually mention that you are open to meeting new people to your close friends!

When you finally land a potential match, I think it is helpful to remember your past mistakes and do what you can to avoid the same pitfalls: Hooking up too soon. Talking too much about the exes. Spending too much money to impress. ..I could go on!

Do you think you should change your strategy? Have you thought about what you want to do differently to improve your dating successes?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

301 comments Add your comment

Kym

December 19th, 2011
1:32 pm

Okay I am back..Thanks Leggs..I will give it a whirl on Cash 3 who knows I might win! I am not sure what I would do if I won Mega Millions I would be too stunned.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:43 pm

@Kym ~ you can’t play for just one week and give up. You have to keep on playing for a while..then give up if your number doesn’t fall. On Cash 3, numbers come back often. 921 a few weeks ago, 129 is going to fall again. Cash 4 is a joke (only because I haven’t won). I won $100 with one of my pin numbers a few months back, just can’t hit it big.

Guys, think about the last 4 digits of your social or even your phone number…play with those numbers. Get one combo you like and play that straight (.50) then scramble the number around until you get another combo you like and play $1.00 straight/box for a good month.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
1:52 pm

Is Dreams here? You’re a mathematician, right? ‘Cos I am aching to give a little refresher course on probability here, but I know you’d do a better job of explaining it than I would.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:53 pm

How many are willing by doing something different in their dating strategy that they will attempt a LDR? I don’t think I could do it. I need to start out as friends in the same state I’m in if anything to build trust. Don’t know how people build up trust starting out in different states.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
1:55 pm

@SwissCheese..are you about to rain on our dreams of hitting it big..with some ole boogie math logic stuff??

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
1:56 pm

:lol: Kym — I would never do that. That’s why I’m trying to recruit Dreams to do it for me. :lol:

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
1:57 pm

Go for it, swiss…apparently probability isn’t in my favor.

SlimNu

December 19th, 2011
2:01 pm

The mere thought of attempting a LDR makes me mentally tired. There is just soooo much more you have to deal with trying to make it work over the miles.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:01 pm

Just like “the man” trying to dash a sista’s hopes and dreams..(first politically incorrect coment of the day)

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:02 pm

Okay, Leggs, but remember, I’m only the messenger. ;-)

Basically, you could play the same combination of numbers every day of your life and the odds of winning are absolutely identical to your odds of winning by playing different, completely random numbers every day of your life. That’s because each drawing is completely independent of any others. The fact that numbers 1 2 & 3 fell yesterday has absolutely zero effect on the odds of 1 2 & 3 falling again tomorrow. The odds are always exactly identical, no matter what numbers you play.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
2:02 pm

What up folks, hey my lotto folks….play responsibly….sounds like an oxymoron to me.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:04 pm

Damn swiss, and here I thought you were going to school me on something.

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:05 pm

the odds of winning the lotto is 50/50. either you win or you don’t.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:06 pm

It is an oxymoron, Jake. One of the many ways to simply throw money away. I believe we all realize this. There are many worse off like those who stand there playing $100+ on Cash 3/Cash 4 in one fell swoop.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:06 pm

:lol: I’m just saying that sticking with the same numbers over a period of time does not increase the likelihood of winning at all. It might make you feel better, but it doesn’t improve your chances one bit.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:07 pm

Leggs – I’ve been in 3 LDR’s. If I were on the dating scene, I would never do it again.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:07 pm

Somebody is winning, why can’t I believe it could be me (lol)?

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:10 pm

@swiss, no, it doesn’t increase your chances of winning, it increases the number of times some form of that number will fall whether it jumps to another game or not.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:12 pm

@kimmie ~ I wouldn’t even consider it. I had one guy tell me nothing wrong with jumping on a plane once a month if I wanted to get to know him. I asked if he thought I was foolish and let me counteract with are you willing to pay for my air every month….crickets.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

Oh, you can believe it, Leggs. Heck, if I have any spare change on me I always buy either a powerball or mega millions ticket whenever I fill up with gas. (Hey, the biggest statistical improvement to my odds of winning that I could possibly make are going from not playing to buying 1 ticket, so what the heck?) :lol:

Mostly, this discussion just caught my eye because I’ve had this argument with a buddy of mine in the past. He firmly believes that your odds improve by playing the same numbers over and over, and I firmly believe he needs to take a statistics class. ;-) :lol:

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:13 pm

just at lunch time today I stood behind a woman who was playing about 2-3 weeks’ worth of lotto numbers. I heard her say to play the numbers through January 15. when the woman grabbed another form and started filling in numbers I knew I wasn’t going to wait my turn. I signaled that I was leaving the money for my chips on the counter.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:14 pm

I’m with disco. Either you win or you don’t.. And it only takes one ticket to win. So, I usually only buy one quick pick.

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

“it increases the number of times some form of that number will fall whether it jumps to another game or not.”

Actually, no, it doesn’t. The odds of a particular number falling is always exactly identical with each drawing. Doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or the day before that or 2 weeks ago. Every drawing is completely random and completely independent of all previous and future drawings. There is no weighting of numbers based on previous results. The numbers are always selected totally at random from the same set of possible numbers. If 1 2 & 3 fall today, the odds of 1 2 & 3 falling tomorrow are exactly identical to what they where today — no more or less likely.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

I have a few numbers that I like to play once in awhile that have meaning to me, but they happen to be good numbers to play too, because I see them fall alot. Like my birthday January 17. 1 and 17 fall often. My mom and kid’s birthdays, wedding dates, etc. If I was faithful, I probably would have won something by now, but I’m not.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:19 pm

I hated statistics, but it was a required course. :(

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:20 pm

@SexyC ~ I buy a quick pick mega tix then go one up one down on two more tix. A few weeks ago I went one up, but not one down because I only had $2.00 on me…every number was one down from my one up tix. Every freaking number!!!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:21 pm

oops… “what they *were today” not “where”

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:23 pm

“Every drawing is completely random and completely independent of all previous and future drawings.”

Don’t even believe that. I have nothing factual to back this feeling up with, but it’s what I feel.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 19th, 2011
2:23 pm

No Kimmie, they don’t fall often, you recognize them when they do fall, thus increasing your perception that they fall commonly.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

Leggs – Many people have told me about the up & down thing. It does happen. I’m just too impatient and cheap to do it every time I play. I just want to get the “drawers”(the money)!!LOL!!!

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

I am aching to give a little refresher course on probability here, but I know you’d do a better job of explaining it than I would
swiss Man that’s a setup. I am 100% in support of the lotto. If one of you happens to win (1 in 300,000,000 chance) then I want you to remember me as the kind supportive one. ;-)

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:25 pm

Jake – See that’s why I hated stats!! LOL!! But I’m sure you’re right!!

i'm swiss™

December 19th, 2011
2:27 pm

“I have nothing factual to back this feeling up with, but it’s what I feel.”

Oh LAWD, Leggs, say it ain’t so! You sound like Herman Cain! :lol: ;-)

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:28 pm

dang – if I had a dollar I’d buy a ticket and I NEVER buy lottery tickets. I tend to think of the other things I can do with that dollar.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:29 pm

@Jake ~ I definitely feel you on the “perception” aspect. I always pay attention to Cash 4 and Cash 3. Not once have I seen 9431. I would remember because that number means something very very dear to me. Now, since I’ve been playing it, I see it all the time in all combos on license plates all the time.

I sometimes pay the year lil leggs was born, it has come many ways always the last digit not coming through.

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

Well random or not.. I am in the pool for the Mega Millions and Powerball this week.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:31 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: That was funny, swiss. Hey I just play the numbers, not trying to develop a playbook. If I did, then I will have some stats…9 9 9 is not one of my winning numbers.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:35 pm

Oh…and can I just say that nine times out of ten, I forget to play when I say I am. With that being said, I have probably missed out on winning millions plenty of times. (lol)

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:39 pm

Show Me The Money!!!

Kym

December 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

I always feel like the money winds up with the right people..you know the single mama who had lost her job, or the factory workers who were just laid off..everybody accept that guy who won a million on the scratch off twice..him..he needs to stop playing and give the rest of us a chance.

SexyCool

December 19th, 2011
2:40 pm

But seriously, I am a firm believer in “Everything that is suppose happens does. And it happens when it’s supposed to happen.”

So, if I am destined to be a lottery millionaire, it will happen whether I play $20 a week, with chosen numbers or not, or if I play one Friday afternoon with the dollar I found in the elevator at the MARTA station.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:43 pm

I just can’t stand it when I see folks win something, not just the lotto, anything, and not get excited about it. Like yeah, I just won a brand new car, whatever!

Shoot, let me win the $10 Starbucks card door prize at the church social and I’m jumping up and down!! :lol:

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:43 pm

I still remember back when my grandmother used to play her number with the numbers runner. little dude with a notepad in his breastpocket sitting in a folding chair out on the sidewalk. she’s been gone for several years now but I still notice when her numbers fall. her regulars were 729, 725, 503, 201 and 396. she didn’t do anything other than pick 3.

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:44 pm

Not once have I seen 9431.
Leggs Based on the number of combinations of a 4 digit number, you could play 9431 for almost 20 years without seeing it.

swiss what you say about independent events is true. The only thing that increases your odds is playing more than one ticket for the same drawing. Of course you’re also increasing your expense.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:45 pm

I’ve been trying, kimmie (LOLOL).

DreamsMaterialize

December 19th, 2011
2:53 pm

Like yeah, I just won a brand new car, whatever!
kimmie That’s me. lol When I was like 11 I won about $100 by calling in to the radio station. When they told me I had won, I was like “ok.” The dj said, “you don’t sound excited.”, and the co-host followed up with “the shock of winning must have him speechless.” I wasn’t shocked; I’ve just always been that way. lol

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:54 pm

@disco ~ 729 is one of my numbers. It’s connected with my 904!

@DreamsM ~ this is true, but I like the stats I see around me and not those on paper. My neighbor played 1122 for 6 months and won $10,000.

kimmie

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

Dreams – See I would probably embarass you then, because if I knew you and were around you when you won something I would do enough jumping and screaming for the both of us!LOL!!!

disco

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

dreams – I’m not very excitable either. not that I win anything often (gotta play to win) but just in general. I take it but I don’t do flips or cartwheels over it. no jumping up and down and high pitched squeals for me.

Leggs

December 19th, 2011
2:56 pm

I’m excited every time I went something. When I hear people on the radio winning sounding like a drip faucet I want to punch the dashboard.