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Single? You have the right to be jolly!

Hello single people out there! I know this is official couples season. It’s the time of year when people are getting engaged, taking vacations together, and behaving like lovesick teens. It’s sweet! It’s endearing. It’s also …absolutely annoying to see at times.

Don’t get me wrong, I love romance and watching people fall in love. What I don’t like is getting the pity looks, sympathetic stares, and “your time will come” spiels from the smug and coupled up. Just because it is couples season doesn’t mean I have to be depressed about not being in a relationship! I have the right to be jolly!

If you are determined to make it through the next couple of weeks, you are going to need a game plan. Where will you go? What will you do? Where can you go to avoid the holiday madness?

Do you ever feel down about being single this time of year?

If you are single right now, how do you maintain your holiday cheer?

What is the best part of being unattached during the holidays?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

277 comments Add your comment

Dude

December 15th, 2011
7:07 am

How do I feel about this time of year- indifferent
How do I maintain holiday cheer- not really something I care too much about
Best part of being unattached during the holidays- More money and obviously being unattached
Where can I go to avoid the holiday madness- NFL channel
What will I do- Have a beer and watch the game

Randyt(aka. T-shirtless December for a change)

December 15th, 2011
7:36 am

I will be seeing my adult children and they will be visitng me also. Family is a constant, women ae the variables. Somewhat like Dude, I am okay being alone and need some Randyt time anyway.

New Year’s can be painful…or maybe a better word is “reflective”, because that is when one tends to reflect on hits, misses, and “near misses” …and maybe wonder if the ones that showed so much promise this year are doing the do with some other lucky gent. I am invited to several single’s type NY parties with long time friends and will probably hit a few of those. Pretty good chance that I might run into some old “flameouts” at those and that is always interesting.

Dude

December 15th, 2011
7:55 am

I agree with you Randy on the new years thing, but I seldom think about women with other gents, there really is no time in my life to reflect on others from the past, I wish most of them the best. I do hate not having someone to kiss on new years, been that way a few years and it sucks.

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:02 am

Good Morning!!! Friday is tomorrow! ;)

Do you ever feel down about being single this time of year? After my divorce I did but over time I adjusted well and rock and roll with the ups and downs of the holiday season. Being single isn’t a major pain around these times. I find value in my child, close family members, some good friends, and sorors.

If you are single right now, how do you maintain your holiday cheer? I look @ the bright side. Things could be worse. I have come to appreciate my “me time” more and whenever I want to mix n mingle with holiday cheer i do and it is not forced or fake.

What is the best part of being unattached during the holidays? Not being accountable for another person or a schedule per se…….Free as a bird!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:10 am

Dude I am with you on the games too! I have many different circle of friends and the sports makes things all the better around these times! I truly love sports so again this isn’t a forced area with me and December sports are fun between college rivals and anticipating the Super Bowl. Like tonight I am pondering hitting the Dome for game or hitting Dugans and hang out with my crew. So with being single I love my options I create……….

Dude

December 15th, 2011
8:12 am

GO FALCONS!!!!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:16 am

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FALCONS All DAY DUDE! ;) Loved Sunday past game @ the end! I was on FB commentating like Stephen A Smith as one of my friends noted! lol

Dude

December 15th, 2011
8:25 am

Great 2nd half!!! Our receivers BITE though!!!! They didn’t start catching the ball until Mike Smith called for starting to throw the wide out balls to the running backs, (Rogers)

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:32 am

& how would you describe the first two quarters?

Dude

December 15th, 2011
8:40 am

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:41 am

one day we will get 4 quarters but I am still riding with the Falcons! ;)

Dude

December 15th, 2011
8:48 am

Jones and White need to step up big time, they are costing us games by all the drops, it’s embarassing, if Nate Washington can hold on to the ball with a hit like this, White and Jones should at least be able to catch it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdIM2LXoyV8

Herman Cain's WingMan - Quagmire

December 15th, 2011
8:50 am

Singles Ladies – don’t worry, the Cain Train is here……all aboard!!!!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:50 am

I silently agree Dude smdh! Especially White its like he finally woke up! digressing.

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
8:59 am

ummmm our offense is suspect too. I am not a Ryan basher but still he needs to step up too! IMHO he is a great 2nd string qb. that’s all. ;)

Dude

December 15th, 2011
9:04 am

Ryan is a great QB, but it is only in this year they have changed the offense style, we did have the style of pound it in with Mike the burner Turner, and then that will open the passing game, which was great when we did short passes. Now we are trying and trying for the explosive long plays and not making them, either because of an over throw by Ryan, a drop by a wide out, or for what ever reason. Not everyone has the hands of Tony, he is the man, and will always be the man!!!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:07 am

Dude

December 15th, 2011
9:09 am

Anyone remember what the topic was to begin with, I already forgot lmao

Leggs

December 15th, 2011
9:09 am

Good morning!

If you are single right now, how do you maintain your holiday cheer? It’s all about appreciation. I appreciate where I am in life and where I came from. My holiday cheer is relishing my family and my friends and just being thankful. I don’t get caught up in the commercialism of the holiday. Honoring Jesus Christ is what it’s all about.

What is the best part of being unattached during the holidays? I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I choose to do it with.

Dude

December 15th, 2011
9:13 am

NICE LEGGS!!! I said the same thing yesterday!!!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:14 am

Honoring Jesus Christ is what it’s all about. <Amen Leggs!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:22 am

I appreciate where I am in life and where I came from. <Leggs I love this! Although I am in a introspective and reflective state and it can come across as sad and lonely I love where I am. I love my process the growth the great times and terrible times. I process things differently! I am not quick to lose sight of the bigger picture.

I am a work in progress and what is for me will truly be effortlessly.

~When you stand in quiet confidence, without striving or chasing or seeking, all the good stuff comes to YOU.~ I am a believer and God has had my back faithfully even when I fall short! ;)

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
9:23 am

Gooooood morning all,

I don’t really have much to say about the topic but in other news, i’m exciting about starting my Gratitude Journal today. It’s easy to get distracted by what’s going wrong, what you don’t have, or just be negative in general…so i want to try to flip that around and be more thankful & appreciative of things I wouldn’t even see as a blessing :D

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:27 am

Amen Slim! I don’t like those days and they do come but I counter back with the little things! They are priceless!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:30 am

I just wasted a perfectly good blank cd…..lol yes I still burn cds I refuse to get an ipod and iphone just yet! #morningvent grrrr lol

For Real

December 15th, 2011
9:34 am

Slim: For Real I am sooooo excited about my Gratitude Journal.

For Real: Gratitude Journal?

Slim: Yes. I want to be more thankful & appreciative of things I wouldn’t even see as a blessing.

For Real: Zipppppppppppppppppppppppppp!

Slim: Thank you I appreciate that and yes you are blessed.

Leggs

December 15th, 2011
9:35 am

“When you stand in quiet confidence, without striving or chasing or seeking, all the good stuff comes to YOU.~ I am a believer and God has had my back faithfully even when I fall short!”

Worth repeating!

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
9:36 am

Lady – I wish someone would burn me Mary J’s new cd. lol

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:37 am

I am currently burning it NOW chic!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
9:37 am

LOVE IT SLIM! MARY J went HARD!

Thanks Ms. Leggs! ;)

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
9:43 am

For Real – :lol: Thank you sir, may I have another? :oops:

Leggs

December 15th, 2011
9:43 am

@Lady ~ can you please burn me a copy and mail it to me> I’ll email you my address (lol).

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
9:45 am

I am a believer and God has had my back faithfully even when I fall short! And the ChUch said Aaaaaaaamen!

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
9:46 am

Leggs – I see you beat me to asking for a mailed copy lol

Excuse me please

December 15th, 2011
9:48 am

Fom VSB Blog. Panama gets it. Glad a man gets can validate what women see and know. Check it out.

http://verysmartbrothas.com/

For 12/15/2012:

The Don’ts of Dating: How to Lose a Good Thing in 8 Days (Part 1 of 2)
1) Habitually “checking in” and then falling off
2) Doing the bare minimum
3) Acting like a “sweatbox”
4) Talking a good game but never following through

nelsonh

December 15th, 2011
9:57 am

The best part about being single at holiday time is when I wake up in the morning and caN plan the whole day to suit myself that is the best time. As far as getting those “pity looks” I have to admit when I see some of those married couples and think they are stuck with each other, how much worse can it get? I’ve been there and done thnat.
I hope I have not shown too hard an edge, I focus on the sewason in which I just might make someones day a little happier.

kimmie

December 15th, 2011
9:59 am

Morning All!!

Randyt – I hate New Years! It’s always sad to me, whatever state my life is in. It’s sad seeing the decorations go down and hearing Old Lang Syne. Coming down from all the hype of the holidays has always been hard for me! :(

I like what Leggs said about being thankful. I’ve never been one of the smug boo’d-ups around the holidays. When I was not boo’d and now even after, I center my holidays around connecting with family and friends, especially those I’ve fallen off of calling or seeing regularly thru out the year. That focus keeps me from becoming depressed and I’m able to truly enjoy the holidays.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 15th, 2011
9:59 am

Stop bootlegging Mary, on the Falcons particularly Roddy…his problem has been psychological, how would you feel if you caught over a 100 passes last year and they gave up the draft to get another WR, it took him some time to get over the ego trip. IMO

kimmie

December 15th, 2011
10:09 am

Leggs – I have a Heavy D greatest hits with your name on it! Email me your address again if you don’t already have it.

CKM

December 15th, 2011
10:16 am

What a boring blog. Completely off topic. Reading two/three people’s conversation about what? Next.

Dude

December 15th, 2011
10:18 am

I think Roddy is great, he needs to talk a lot less smack, but as a football player he is great, I don’t know why he can’t hold on to the ball. Jones is great as well, he also just needs to catch the ball. I love the Falcons, but our biggest problems are our secondary and our recievers catching the ball when it is thrown to them. Matt Ryan isn’t good at the big explosive plays, that isn’t his playing style, the offensive coordinators need to look at how we play and what works the best. Falcons last year controlled the ball and ran a lot, and we went 13-3, now we are trying the explosive plays, our QB isn’t getting the protection to get the receivers out there, when they are there, they drop the ball. White is a great player, but he still needs to step up, we aren’t throwing to him as much as last year and he still leads the entire NFL with dropped passes. That is embarassing.

Fion

December 15th, 2011
10:18 am

@Jake
Nah,nah Jake. It’s Ol Girl ’bout to hit Roddy with that baby momma drama that has his mind messed up.

Celisea

December 15th, 2011
10:19 am

Good morning,

Live happy…always. It shouldn’t be centered around having a man or woman. Really, whether you’re single, “booed up” (sorry ya’ll) or married live and be happy. The older I get, for those things or people that become draining and complicated…good riddance. And NO, that’s not for the guy giving the warm fuzzies :)

As far as folks giving you the pitiful look (on the outside looking in and assuming your situation is the worst), WHO CARES? Really? Only you know what it takes to make you happy, if you’re getting fed the happys and if it’s making your world rock, ROCK ON!! One thing about me, I could care less how anyone views my life or me for that matter. And I’m definitely not going to explain.

Diva…girl quit “watching folks fall in love” (again outside looking in), I believe more often that not what you’re seeing and what’s projected ain’t always what’s really going on. I only say that because you can be envious of situations and what not and they could very well be wishing to swap places with you.

Alright…got a luncheon today, work to finish cause I’m out on vacation next week… :) :) I’m excited!!

SlimNu

December 15th, 2011
10:22 am

O/T. Do yall remeber the days of chat rooms? That was the funnest thing ever…my have we come a long way lol

Celisea

December 15th, 2011
10:22 am

Team,
It is wonderful time of year to look back and say thank you. For me, I was watching Dr Oz on TV yesterday and he said that to reach inner peace, we should always finish things we start, and we all could use more calm in our lives. So, I looked around my house to find things I’d started and hadn’t finished, so I finished off a bottle of Merlot, a bottle of Chardonnay, a bodle of Baileys, a butle of wum, tha mainder of Valiuminun scriptins, an a box a chocletz. Yu haf no idr how fablus I feel rite now. Sned this to all who need inner piss. An telum u luvum. Wuv U gies!

A dude at work just sent me this…love it…lol He’s corny like this. It’s cute though.

Jake a.k.a. SPJ, TWB

December 15th, 2011
10:32 am

Fion…maybe its a bit of both, but I’m sure he see how its going with Bob Whitfield…He thinking bout them checks….lol.

DreamsMaterialize

December 15th, 2011
10:32 am

If you are determined to make it through the next couple of weeks, you are going to need a game plan.
Seriously??? A game plan for what? You’re putting WAY too much on this.

Do you ever feel down about being single this time of year?
No, because the holidays have nothing to do with being coupled up. The holidays are a time to appreciate your blessings and share those with important people in your life. If you allow your relationship to define your holidays, then you should do some serious self-reflecting.

Celisea

December 15th, 2011
10:36 am

Dreams – How are you?

I’m with you…it’s like the holdiays can’t be the holidays if you ain’t booed up. Diva you got it backwards girlie. I think a SO or potential can maybe enhance the good times but not having one definitely won’t take away from blessings, family, time together, reflection….the whole of it.

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
10:42 am

Jake I concur with your WH assessment I didn’t was to go there sadly!

Lady~Don't believe the hype

December 15th, 2011
10:43 am

meant “want to go there”

Sure leggs I will np