Introducing your date? Choose wisely
A reader is upset with her man because he decided to introduce her as a friend last weekend. They were at a restaurant and he ran into friends of his – all female. After months of dating, staying over, and acting a lot like “more than friends”, it bothered her that he doesn’t think they are at the stage of using the girlfriend-boyfriend label.
Is it important to name each other with a label? Should you have “the talk” of exclusivity so you know where you stand?
I don’t know the age of the woman who emailed me, but I suspect she is a little young and inexperienced with men. If things are going well, do you really need a guy to introduce you to other women as his woman?
Does it matter what they call you or how they treat you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:36 pm
See Slim as I said folks do know! lol wow
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:38 pm
NP Luther Vandross Wait for Love! #goodone
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:38 pm
Kym, hoping to start it in the next couple of days…maybe tonight, or tomorrow at the gym. Movie is coming out soon…at least the new American version i understand.
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:38 pm
I can remember when I allowed myself to be rotated.
#GotDamnedDummy
#LiveAndLearn
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:38 pm
Random: You know yo azz is greedy when they are sickly full from lunch but still proceeds to eat this moist guuuuuud chocolate cake.
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:38 pm
uh off topic but don’t condom go bad? I mean if dude had like a Y2K supply of them wouldn’t at some point they kind of dry out?
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:41 pm
@RandyT..yeah I saw that with the guy who played James Bond. I hope they keep it true to the book. But you know hollyweird
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:44 pm
They can dry out, or used to. When i was in junior high school we would carry them around in our wallets to make it look like we were doing something, then change them out when they got old looking, LOL. Coolest dude in the class carried two. took years to figure out he wasn’t doing anything either.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:46 pm
wow DCSC suspends all band activities! Whew lawd!
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:48 pm
2011 has been one for the books!
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:50 pm
No more band in Dekalb County wow..well I kind of knew that was coming. Too many folks doing too much..oh well.
i'm swiss™
December 14th, 2011
1:50 pm
“Coolest dude in the class carried two.”
Randy — That must meant he targeted the questionable booty, so he needed to go 2-ply on that cooter.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:51 pm
Where has ITL gone? Haven’t seenher on line since the LSU game.
i'm swiss™
December 14th, 2011
1:51 pm
*”just meant”, not “must meant”
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
1:51 pm
That must meant he targeted the questionable booty, so he needed to go 2-ply on that cooter.
I bet there are many many times, the “eye” going in wants to back up but since it ain’t driving ain’t got a say so. I bet if it could speak wonders would be told
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:51 pm
#GotDamnedDummy
SC, when I read that for whatever reason it was in the voice of Red Fox when he was on Sanford & Son
As far as drying out, i thought that was more of a case if they are in your wallet, car, purse or anywhere in a rather hot spot. I don’t see them drying out that easily sitting in a nightstand drawer. I would be more concerned with them breaking due to the breakdown of the chemical/material if you hold onto them for too long
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:53 pm
I get it ’swiss’ …it wasn’t that he wasn’t, it was that he was dipping in places he didn’t want known. In time, all is clear.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
1:53 pm
Hello:
Introduce folks as friends and that can’t go wrong. If it’s more than that people will know by your actions.
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:54 pm
Slim – that’s exactly how I said it to MYself…(lmao)
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:00 pm
@Slim?
ur coota is Bushy?!
Damn my Jesus!!!
Ideal image Hello
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
2:03 pm
@ Celisea…it would say, “PLEASE, NO, don’t make me go in there…it’s wet, and sticky, and dark, nnnooooo (as it fades away)”. Then a few minutes, later, “yyyuuuccccckkkk, get this wet sticky rubber off of me, you jerk…and thanks a lot!!”.
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
2:05 pm
LOL Randyt….I don’t doubt it…LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
2:05 pm
The ole comdom in the wallet, every young boy back then carried them for months and it was known nobody was using them. Another step towards manhood made all the guys want one.
disco
December 14th, 2011
2:06 pm
celisea/lady – in my defense, my closet full of mens’ clothing are remnants of my son. when he left for school he didn’t take everything. I don’t have general clothes though, mainly suits and coats.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
2:08 pm
yup Blackfoote…and God help you if your Mama found it…you’d be up the creek and not even have had anything to show for it.
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:08 pm
U wanna back up coz it’s what Cee?
it’s humongous?
but the chronic is saying get it down ???
it’s 2oclock
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
2:09 pm
Randyt – LOL…trying explain something to your mama and all for nothing…lol
Sort of like the scene in Crazy Stupid Love where the girl take nudie pics of herself and her mom finds them and her dad goes in for the kill…lol That was a cute movie
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
2:10 pm
Disco you know you and that is cool pay me no mind or my mindless chatter lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
2:12 pm
LOL…..@RandyT
After she finds it expect the body piercing stare, then she’ll say you better not be getting nobody pregnant I aint paying for no babies for you.
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:12 pm
Slim
are u adept at taking them from the night stand drawer at 3:00 am?
the coolest time to get some..sleepy baby..hmmmmmm…
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
2:13 pm
MMeello – U wanna back up coz it’s what Cee? it’s humongous? but the chronic is saying get it down ???
Okay I shouldn’t laugh and perpetuate but this was funny as heck when I read it… Tell me, as of today if you’re for real on some of the stuff you say or you just adding to the flow?
Dern it I wanted to listed to Ave Maria by Kelly Price on my phone but it won’t play on mobile and YouTube is blocked at work
Kym
December 14th, 2011
2:15 pm
@RandyT that has really changed over time..the whole dont let mama find the condom because most of the moms I know they are giving the son condoms. No one is trying to be a grandma..or deal with health issues
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
2:15 pm
I would state to her that’s what the condoms are for to prevent babies. She’ll hit back with, you’re too young to be having sex anyway.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
2:17 pm
@ blackfoote…for me another azz beating…to go with my already huge collection.
disco
December 14th, 2011
2:17 pm
lady – I think that needed clarifying. I figured some here know I have a 22 year old son and might have made that connection about the closet. still – if you all knew me you’d know that nothing of a grown man’s will be left up in my spot. there will be no marking YOUR territory in MY territory. forget something if you want to. I’ll be talking about “finders keepers, losers weepers”.
kym – re no one is trying to be a grandma. as the mother of a son I advised him to advise the little girls that his momma wasn’t claiming jack.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
2:19 pm
Kym:
In those day’s the emphasis was, you better not be having sex at all. Totally different today, they should be supplied to all boys for free.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
2:20 pm
cool beans disco! I want a son silently but digressing it ain’t happening lol so I could imagine the territory markings! lol
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
2:20 pm
yup, as Bob Dylan said, so long ago, “The times they are a changin…” It was different for sure in the country back then. The switch, the broom, the belt…yup they didn’t try to reason with you back then…just used the “Board of Education” to make you permanently remember the consequences of un-called for behavior…LOL.
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:21 pm
Cel?
‘the eye going in wants to back up but….’
that’s when my graphic imagination kicked in
Maybe a misinterpretation of ur intentention on my part but….
wasn’t sure u meant that or not
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 14th, 2011
2:23 pm
RandyT:
Yep after the glaring stare came the ass whooping. Sometimes just for saying the word sex.
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
2:23 pm
Exiled – Where in the world did you get that my cooter is bushy? I swear you often see things that are not there. Wipe the fog off your spectacles will ya
Oh, and there is never a time frame for condom use whether it be 3:00am or 3pm.
Kym
December 14th, 2011
2:26 pm
@Disco.. that’s exactly what I told my son..Put her, her daddy, her mama and all of them on notice..I am not helping with anything. Not a diaper, bottle, nothing. Matter of fact they better get use to seeing your face cause you won’t be bring no baby here.
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
2:26 pm
C – Did you fall for the Dirty Dancing BIG Move that Ryan Gosling did in that movie? I really enjoyed that flick.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
2:26 pm
LOL at Slim…you are in a no win situation now. you have to now decide whether to tell are you bushy, waxed, neatly trimmed or what. Exiled has $ucked you in.
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:26 pm
Cel?
I know Lady will laugh at this..
coz I have had tales of chics who,when they are ready,she laying on the bed waiting on him to finish up undressing,and he removes that thing from around his waist, they go:
Screammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Bail Out!
Exiled!
December 14th, 2011
2:29 pm
Slim?
coz u said u have to sweep coz ur hairs will be All over!
(I read)
U didn’t clarify where they coming from
Armpits?
Back?
Head?
Legs?
Cooter?
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
2:29 pm
SMH Exiled! #dead
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
2:33 pm
Mmeello – No that’s what I meant and I followed what you said…sometimes you’re so graphic and just “out with it” that I wonder if you’re just making statements for the blog
Yeah times are a changing…..Well I had the convo with my kid and her “friend” with them together, straight faced with no chaser. I’m not naieve AT ALL but I wanted to put it out there and get it said. Just because they’re fast and mannish (like the old folks use to say) don’t mean we can’t get it said still. Part of what I said to them was around feeling each other up, sex the whole nine yards. I told them what’s running through their minds is what’s going through any other (today’s) youth and “getting it” and being grown. I said play with it if you want to but I’m telling you right now if you create it, make it, come up with it, find it, go get it, invent it…..IT YOURS…period point blank. I said if I didn’t make it, come up with it, hump to get it…it ain’t mine so don’t look for me to lift a finger with it. I said to her you’re raised to be head and shoulders above the rest and all the crap you see on a daily, I expect you to do as you’re taught not what you see, that when you’re with him and no one else is around I don’t expect you to “ho”…..and I told him, she ain’t a wh@re, b@tch or any other name loosely tossed around these days. Don’t call her that and don’t treat her as such. And I ended with don’t you EVER put your hands on her. THEN I marched him through uncles, brothers and cousins for grilling. I told both them I ain’t under a rock, don’t live under a rock so I know what’s up but I ain’t about to run behind folks policing either.
Slim – Girrrrl, it was corny when he was explaining but I can see how he pulled it off. I LOVE that movie. It was so cute and yes ma’am he is a hawtie
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
2:37 pm
“Exiled has $ucked you in.”
Randy – Um…naw he hasn’t. He hardly $ucks his own Queen
Payback is a mutha ain’t it 
Exiled – The hair comes from the bottom of my feet if you must know
C – He’s my new caucasian crush
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
2:38 pm
Lawd C I ain’t ready! Good Job sis!