Introducing your date? Choose wisely
A reader is upset with her man because he decided to introduce her as a friend last weekend. They were at a restaurant and he ran into friends of his – all female. After months of dating, staying over, and acting a lot like “more than friends”, it bothered her that he doesn’t think they are at the stage of using the girlfriend-boyfriend label.
Is it important to name each other with a label? Should you have “the talk” of exclusivity so you know where you stand?
I don’t know the age of the woman who emailed me, but I suspect she is a little young and inexperienced with men. If things are going well, do you really need a guy to introduce you to other women as his woman?
Does it matter what they call you or how they treat you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Fion
December 14th, 2011
12:10 pm
@Lady
I’m playin’ 1208 box today because of that post.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:14 pm
save me a martini if you hit sir!
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:17 pm
ok got another joke. I am absolutely SOUP out! just finished vegetable soup and a turkey sammich with hot chocolate! over it! lol not even doing black eye peas for c’mas…….lol#dead
what another comfort food?!?
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:19 pm
Monday was bone cold and I made a huge pot and since its been 70 degrees!
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:20 pm
where are you all @?!? lol
Leggs
December 14th, 2011
12:22 pm
What is that one thing you’re getting her, Lady?
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:23 pm
a dammit Password Journal Leggs……everyday MOMMY I WANT A PASSWORD JOURNAL! errr’day!
Leggs
December 14th, 2011
12:23 pm
I made homemade chicken noodle soup last night since my child is sick. Now it’s 70 freaking degrees which means she’ll probably get sicker….
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:25 pm
hope she feels better Leggs! knock on wood lil mama hasn’t been sick yet and I am glad. 6 year old has been fun I can’t lie! we have come a long way!
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:27 pm
I just happened to price it Leggs and its affordable. I hate going shopping so thanks the Lord for the world wide web but I am done. LAst year I was an online shopping freak not this year. Her daddy got her the Leap Frog Ipad thingy. hell that is more than enough bc she already has a DS3.
Leggs
December 14th, 2011
12:32 pm
I haven’t purchased nare gift….yet.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:33 pm
don’t feel bad. bc I don’t at all!
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:34 pm
So what’s the afternoon topic?
Leggs
December 14th, 2011
12:36 pm
I thought we would be on a roll with “know when you’re a rotation,” but that died rather quickly.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:36 pm
QOTD via FB: People often say opposites attract, do you believe in this statement or do you feel people with similarities produce stronger relationships?
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:38 pm
Leggs cause this ish is cray and played out like an 8-track! lol
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
12:40 pm
here is one more and I am done this is also via FB and the person who posted it needs to sit down somewhere lol #bias
Today’s query: Does money or lack of it determines success or failure? Women could you date a broke man and men could you date a broke woman?
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
12:50 pm
Oh…we are JUST friends?!? LMAO! Make ‘em stop.
I haven’t read any of the posts, but really, why did he have to introduce her as anything? Why not, “Hi, this is Mallory.”?
kimmie
December 14th, 2011
12:55 pm
SCool – I thought the same thing. I also asked, well since we are just friends and I just rode to the party with you, does that mean I am free to mix & mingle? Can I hook up with someone else if they catch my eye? I mean, we’re just friends and all.
kimmie
December 14th, 2011
12:59 pm
I also still don’t see how having a bunch of extra, unused toothbrushes means you’ve got a big rotation.
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
1:01 pm
Kimmie – I also still don’t see how having a bunch of extra, unused toothbrushes means you’ve got a big rotation.
Just folks talking to hear themselves talk….and flexing all for nothing…lol
Leggs
December 14th, 2011
1:01 pm
And, don’t get mad when I open the drawerr and it’s full of condoms…be thankful…
I kid, I kid…I dont have such a draw. (lol).
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:03 pm
funny leggs funny!
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
1:04 pm
Hell, a bunch of toothbrushes, men suits/clothing, etc makes me wonder just how much traffic is rolling through…lol
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:06 pm
exactly C but anyway its neither here nor there…….folks know what they truly dealing with and so did I. no the toothbrush wasn’t the determine factor but it contributed lol smh lol
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:06 pm
Extra toothbrushes = big rotation, huh?
What about a big box of condoms?
(lol)
But seriously, (and I know that I’ve posted this before) back in the day, I did end up telling a guy, “Um, yeah, really dude, considering that you supposedly live by yourself and all, you really should have swept your bathroom. There is hair from the chick who is normally here all over it.”
kimmie
December 14th, 2011
1:07 pm
Celisea – Clothing is one thing, some common toiletry items that either gender can use bought in bulk is something different.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:08 pm
SC I was going to post a hair roller story but I didn’t but I get your post. Too funny!
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
1:08 pm
Exactly Kimmie….
I thought in skimming I saw someone with a stash of suits and stuff….shoot I can’t be “entertaining” on that level…lol
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:09 pm
My new addiction – Publix Diet Green Tea.
#CompletelyRandomIsh
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:12 pm
I’ve been told by gay male friends that they take care of that not so fresh feeling…
disco – Um…a little late but heyal nawwwww
Speaking of having a drawer full of condoms…I’ll never forget my ex and I had just got back in town from some vacation. He used to keep his safe in his closet…so I guess with getting ready for the trip, in a hurry he forgot to close it. So when we got back and unpacked you could clearly see a HUGGEEEE roll of condoms in the safe. I’m looking at him like, Is it that damn serious?? Are you doing that much f’kkin??!!! Talk about a buzz kill to the trip high.
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:15 pm
This is so cool – http://www.amazon.com/Koolatron-BC10-G-Coca-Cola-15-Can-Capacity-Bottle-Shaped/dp/B0022NGSS6
#CompletelyRandomIsh
#IshINeverKnewExisted
Celisea
December 14th, 2011
1:17 pm
You are in rotation or serving rotation if one enters via the cooter and exit via the ass….lol
let me stop
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:19 pm
interesting Slim……lol
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:20 pm
I just read RHOA Rodeny Ho’s blog its funny as always! smh lol
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:23 pm
Good Afternoon Turtledoves!
I am feeling Christmasy today.. I think we have discussed this topic a few times before soo since most of the time I agree with kimmie..my response is whateva she said. Now what is the new topic?
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:23 pm
@ SlimNu
Do you know what the pen!s said to the condom…”Cover me, I’m going in”..
Okay not that great, but is mercifully short.
kimmie
December 14th, 2011
1:25 pm
Kym –
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:25 pm
SC – Yeah dem herrrrs will get ya errrry time. lol I know my hair sheds a lot so I try to sweep and vacuum before I leave his house, especially if i’ve been over there a couple of days. I don’t do it to clear the trail for him when I’m not there, but just as a courtesy as far as respecting his house.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:25 pm
@ Sexycool…I had to explain a bottle of Vagisil in my night stand…frankly no good answer so the best I could do was say, “that’s been there for awhile, sorry”.
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:25 pm
Randy dry humor lol but short enough lol
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:25 pm
@Slim..I didn’t know they sold condoms on the roll. Wow!
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:28 pm
@ Lady, yeah, don’t ya just hate a bad joke that is really long…torture.
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:31 pm
Kym – I think he must’ve went to Sam’s….it was a long strand of Trojan’s Ultra Sensitive her pleasure or something like that.
Randy – I’ll let that one slide this time but don’t let it happen again. lol
SexyCool
December 14th, 2011
1:31 pm
Slim – I sweep/wipe the bathroom regularly, as well.
The weekend that we were in Miami, we spent it with TheDude’s aunt and uncle. Her house was so clean that I was able to walk all around her house in a new pair of white socks (we had to take our shoes off at the door.) and they didn’t get dirty AT ALL. AND…there was NO DUST anywhere in their house.
#SimplyFrickinAmazing
Since we’ve been home, I’ve been even more conscious about cleaning and really staying on top of my daily chores. (I had gotten a little lazy/complacent.)
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:33 pm
90 more minutes! yay!
Kym
December 14th, 2011
1:33 pm
@RandyT…okay the book(Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) has picked up..are you reading it now?
Lady~Back to life, Back to reality!
December 14th, 2011
1:34 pm
Its such a beautiful day and i am free as bird! I shouldn’t run straight home like I plan to………hmmmmmm
SlimNu
December 14th, 2011
1:34 pm
Speaking of the rotation topic, I know someone close to me that deals with a dude she can never find on the weekends. She even noticed that he had a ‘booty bag’ in his back seat once.
Randyt (I am so bored I'm thinking about conjugating the word "bore")
December 14th, 2011
1:36 pm
It is kind of odd though. men can get by with condoms in their houses…but if there is any sign that a lady has camped there some, i.e. toothbrushes and feminine items…and ‘the waste matter can hit the Westinghouse’.
Actually, most women are pretty dignified about it…at least I’ve been lucky. So far, no Fatal Attraction.